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When did the future switch from being a promise to a threat? Chuck Palahniuk

The average person is always fearful of the future and unfortunately almost everyone who is reading this identifies with this. Part of our fear stems from a subconscious reality called death which we know will overtake us in the future and that is an extremely unsettling emotion. Part of the problem comes to fore because we tend to focus on the obstacles that we visualize will impede a smooth future. Some part of the threat we see in the future is due to our own lack of self belief, our inability to commit ourselves and the worst is an abject surrender to an uncontrollable variable labeled destiny. How ironic that in the process we fail to appreciate the glorious opportunity that the future places before us, we do not grasp the immense possibilities that are ours for the asking and miss out on the joy, delight and thrill of making new discoveries, harnessing our personal abilities and unleashing our full potential.

Now that you know that the future is really not so demonic or uncontrollable you need to reorient your mindset to embrace it with both arms. Here are three ways to create the future you want.

Vanquish the demons in the mind: The first step is to have a relook at all the negatives that stress you out when you attempt to peep into the future. This could begin with letting go the past ills / failures / hurt that touch a raw nerve and create that phantom pain when you have to traverse a similar path mentally into the future. Typically it could be things like changing jobs and landing in a bigger soup or experiencing failure in some ventures that you have attempted. The next is to snip of the negative thoughts that seep into the mind and rust away the iron will that you originally had. These could include self doubts about your own competence, worries about finances, fears about ill health and the tendency to surrender to fate or destiny.

Visualize the future you crave: Once you can vanquish the demons in the mind, your mind is at peace, your confidence is restored and there is a fresh energy that revitalizes you to think hard and deep about the future you want. Of prime importance is planning the future. This involves a great deal of effort in working out the blue prints, clarifying the goals, assembling the resources and then diving into the ocean called the future. Sometimes you may fantasize, occasionally you may think big, perhaps there are times when you can almost touch the future but the real test is when you cannot stop thinking about it. When the urge becomes irresistible that is when the future is within handshaking distance and we need to make the move to cajole the future into reality.

Venture into the future with confidence: For many of us identifying the moment when we can roll out our plans and get the momentum going is a tough challenge. This is because we try to connect all the dots and have the perfect future in place so that we do not experience failure. The reality though is that a large part of the future evolves only once we begin the journey. So the key to getting the future you want is in taking the plunge. There cannot be any half measures about it or else you would at the first signs of trouble turn tail and attempt to get back into your cozy nest. The future will then remain just a blueprint. On the other hand you must  when ready be like the eaglet that makes its first flight from the lofty perch with no parachute to rely on except its natural instincts and the craving to be a real eagle. If you want to kiss the skies bring out the eagle in you and stop twittering like the sparrows. A film director is a living example of how a person carves out the future that he/she visualizes. The success or failure thereafter of the movie or play is incidental.

Remember: Each man should frame life so that at some future hour fact and his dreaming meet. Victor Hugo

Try this:

  1. Jot down your most passionate social concern (corruption/ child labor/ environmental concerns/ clean energy/ etc .are some pointers for your ready reference). Now outline how you will get actively involved (candle light marches/ email forwarding/ plain discussions with friends etc. do not count as active involvement) in it and how much time you can spare for it each week. Can you begin to get involved by the first of next month?
  2. Write down 3 goals each for the following facets of your life. Make sure they are not wish lists but practical and time bound goals. Also outline 5 steps that you would have to take for at least one goal in each list.
  • Your professional life
  • Your family life
  • Your personal passion
  • Your spiritual/ social service aspect

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Nothing is really work unless you’d rather be doing something else. James Barrie. Peter Pan

This is a very unorthodox way of viewing work, but if one ponders long enough, the truth in the statement will liberate us from feeling like a bonded laborer.  The reality is that each one of us without exception would have experienced the pangs of having to do something that is unappealing, boring and perhaps unavoidable. No sooner that task is replaced with something that we are keen to do, appealing to us and exciting to our way of thinking, we enjoy the process. With rare exceptions, there is no task that is so engaging that one can happily embrace it for the rest of our lives. The trick in making our living worthwhile is in focusing fully on the task on hand as an opportunity to leverage our time, talent and our temperament. There is no better example than the cheerful way a mother goes about her chores despite the children making the most unreasonable demands on her.

Many times the work we enjoy doing best is ‘doing nothing’ because then there are no targets set, no deadlines to be met and the icing on the cake is the fact that it takes very little effort. However, sooner than later, we are racked with guilt that we have whiled away our time, the miserable feeling of productive time having being squandered away and our inherent sense of responsibility prick us. We then put our nose to the grind not willingly but more as an obligation to be discharged and the resultant effort becomes work that is unavoidable. Yet if can reorient our thought process to view the effort as harnessing our resources to do what is essential under the circumstances, the time spent would seem to fly and the entire process would seem to be enriching and rewarding. E.g. Very few of us enjoy the process of filing our income tax returns because we see it as ultimately ‘giving to Ceaser’ what belongs to us. However if we can see it as an opportunity to better plan our finances and taxes we would eagerly put our heart and soul into it and ensure we don’t have to worry about the taxman’s ‘Damocles Sword’.

How does one cope with tasks that one despises, finds repulsive and would rather avoid given half a chance? The strategy to cope with such a situation is to first be fully aware that each and every individual does face this dilemma. The second is to accept the reality as it exists and not to make any pretence of ignoring its existence. The third is to avoid procrastination and take the bull by its horns so that we tackle the issue rather than spend futile hours speculating on how to bypass the unavoidable reality. By this three pronged strategy, we reconcile to the reality that there is nothing else that we must tackle than what is staring at us. Once we begin the task with earnestness and fortitude, we would relentlessly pour our energies into  completing the task. The euphoria that we experience soon after we tackle our demons is the ecstasy of life.

Remember:  It is your work in life that is the ultimate seduction.  Pablo Picasso

Try this:

  1. Assuming you are shifting to your new house, list out what excites you about it and what are those activities related to the shifting process that you dread most ? How would you cope with those tasks that you dread but cannot avoid or pass it on to anyone else?
  2. What are those demons in life you would ideally love to avoid? (Here are a few pointers to help you reflect on various possibilities.) How would you use the learning fro, today’s post to tackle the demons and actually enjoy the process??
  • Exercise to lose weight
  • Making  a list of resolutions and following it faithfully
  • Carrying work home
  • Having to sacrifice your favorite TV show (being shown live) to accompany your child to his/her best friends most (boring in your opinion) party

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Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice. William Jennings Bryant

If you are one of those who tend to lapse into bemoaning the ill luck that seems to constantly shadow you, now is the time to pause and have a relook at events that apparently seem to have spiraled out of control and derailed all your grandiose plans.  Here are a few  questions for you to objectively ask yourself and judge for yourself if your destiny could have been altered by you by being more proactive and responsive to events as they unfolded.

Could I have anticipated better? No matter what the event or consequence that seems to have unexpectedly altered your plans, chances are that barring extremely rare happenings like life threatening illness or life altering accidents, every other event could have been anticipated by you. Perhaps out of fear of the eventuality or due to callousness and indifference or because of our foolhardy bravado we chose to ignore the writing on the wall and when it became inescapable we have conveniently blamed our destiny for it. E.g. Failing in an exam because you didn’t study cannot be equated to missing an exam because of serious illness. The former cannot be even remotely connected with destiny whereas the latter can largely blamed on it.

Could I have planned, prepared and preempted the subsequent events that mauled me? By and large the consequence of actions can be visualized by us. Obviously this means that one can work on planning, preparing and preempting the negative consequences with a positive, proactive and purposeful approach. E.g. The dates of paying the mandatory dues be it property tax, income tax or insurance premium are known to us. We also know the consequences of not paying up on time. Destiny has not role to play if your IT return comes up in scrutiny or you meet with an accident and your dues are not paid making you liable to face the consequences.

Could I have coped with the events that took place in a better way? If events have overtaken us unexpectedly, the remedy is not to sit and rue it but to take stock of the situation and then work on minimizing the damage. Throwing in the towel, passing the buck and disowning responsibility are classic traits demonstrated by weaklings when the chips are down. Do we tend to do this? The remedy is in picking up the threads and working on salvaging the situation and possibly working on long term solutions to avoid facing such a situation. E.g. You have parked your car and gone shopping and when you return you discover that your laptop and briefcase have been stolen by someone. While raising and alarm, lodging police complaint and attempting to trace the culprits would be the short term logical steps, the real control over your destiny begins when you decide never to leave your belongings in the car in full visual range of potential thieves.

Can I still change, challenge and emerge a champion? The ultimate learning from the experiences that have been painful, frustrating and unexpected is in working on changing your destiny by challenging yourself to cope with the reality and relentlessly pursuing a loftier goal happily, eagerly and confidently. E.g. don’t follow traffic signals only because you are afraid of getting fined but obey them because you believe you are a conscientious citizen of this country.

You conquer destiny not when you win the lottery (which is a matter of chance)but when you buy the lottery ticket  ( which is a matter of choice) for without that prize winning ticket in hand no one can win that lottery.

Remember : My interest is in the future, because I’m going to spend the rest of my life there. Charles Kettering

Try this:

  1. Pick up 5 words from the above post that you had never heard of before and find the meanings, synonyms and anonyms of it. If possible make it a regular habit and your well set to improve your vocabulary, improve your language skills and definitely become a better communicator.
  2. Out of the following options choose a couple of those that you believe apply to you and which are destiny’s unfortunate bane on you. Outline 3 points for each option you choose whereby you will ensure that these banes are turned to boons in your life. E.g. If you have a physical handicap (bane) plan to focus on leveraging your mental faculties (education)/skill sets (e.g. Talents like painting/ music) / leadership skills etc.
  • Lack of adequate finances
  • Poor academic ability
  • Poor communication skills
  • Overwhelmed by negative thoughts
  • Ill health
  • A violent temper
  • Lack of parental understanding
  • Not finding a good job
  • Inability to pursue your own passion

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