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Write down the 5 nicest things anyone has spoken about you before you read any further. It could be a compliment, an appreciation, a prediction, a hope expressed, a special reference to quality/ talent/ behavior and / or just congratulations on something achieved.  Now introspect about how often or frequently you have been bestowed these encouraging feedback.  If you have written down/ outlined all of what you were told to do above you are ready to read further for you have just displayed your ability to believe in yourself and leverage that ability to discover the ‘power of the individuality in you

Almost all of us have been subjected to warnings, cautions, threats, discouragement and also perhaps heaped insults, more often than the times we got praise, encouragement, appreciation and respect be it from well meaning parents, siblings, friends, teachers, peers or superiors. The most common negative feedback we get begins in childhood when we are regularly told NOT TO do this or that thereby retraining our natural child like curiosity and the ability to freely explore and discover. In school days we are constantly berated to study, score well, aim for the top spot and regularly exhorted to excel in every endeavor. If we did not have the natural ability to excel in academics as reflected in the formal examination results we dreaded the resulting tirade and learned to be deaf to the unrelenting criticism. At the same time, we didn’t dare pursue out other natural talents be it painting, singing, dancing, sports etc. for we were constantly reminded that our future lay in academic excellence.

Yet despite all these limitations, most of us learned to enjoy our pursuits, unconsciously discover our potential and indulged in our passions without seeking approval of parents or teachers or elders. This is a result of the flowering of our individuality.   Our uniqueness lies in us being able to chalk out a personalized roadmap for ourselves, our ability to shut out the negatives and foresee the success that awaits us. Often we have to grapple with our own self doubts, overcome our lack of confidence, deftly maneuver through occasional failures and regularly rediscovering ourselves. Yet many of us hesitate to completely surrender ourselves to our inner cravings and natural urge mainly because we cannot see ourselves fitting into the expectations of the world around us be it our family, friends or society.  As a result we take great pains to adapt, mould and fit into  what we believe the world expects us to become whilst we are being suffocated, hurt and subconsciously fighting to be set free.

Now look at the list you wrote down when you began reading this post. Ask yourself what you have done to justify the faith expressed in you and your potential. Have you been able to latch on to the encouragement, the faith and the abilities that others expressed in you? Do you still believe that the real you and your unique individuality can be showcased to the world? What is it that you can do, that you can ecstatically embrace, get passionately involved in and help you stand out and be noticed.  Isn’t it time now, that you stop living someone else’s dream and instead give expression to your individuality?

Action Points:

  1. Can you outline the various career choices that you thought about in your school days. Are any of those choices still something that excites you? Is it practical for you to still pursue it today? If the answer to the last question is YES, go on and start working on attempting that choice in the next couple of months.
  2. Find out more about people who have achieved something notable despite having these limitations
  • Being blind
  • Being physically handicapped
  • Being illiterate
  • Being orphaned
  • Being mentally challenged
  • Being a midget or dwarf

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Nature has been very kind to mankind and that is why it has put an auto program within us in the form of our senses to help us protect ourselves from danger. Ever realized how is it that when we inadvertently touch something hot we instantaneously draw away from it or how quickly we sense danger when we smell a burning odor or stale food is immediately sensed by the tongue. The senses are programmed by nature to be true to the duty of self preservation.

The problem arises when we have to depend on ourselves for progress, growth and happiness. To this end, we are largely dependent on our academics, intellect, behavior, attitude, skill sets and motivation for setting our goals and attaining them. The very stumbling block for many begins with the academics where we are prone to expect more marks than our effort and intellect, succumb to the temptation to use unfair means so as to boost our marks and / or happily make peace with the results and rationalize that you have done your best. In effect we are just not being true to our abilities, our potential or our conscience. If you get marks that you really do not deserve, does it mean that you are academically superior to the rest? Do you think you can continue your bluff in your professional life? The replies to these questions should be again answered honestly and you would have made an important step in the pursuit of being true to yourself.

It is said that a clear conscience is the best pillow; implying thereby that if one is true to one’s self you can always enjoy a blissful sleep. In having a clear conscience one is not merely troubled by deceit, lies or improprieties that one may have lapsed into but the bigger pricks of conscience are brought about by a feeling of inadequacy that one has not discharged one’s duties effectively, not stood up to protest injustice or when one has merely sat on the fence when having to take a decisive stand. Not keeping ones promise is just a simple example of negligence in discharging ones obligation but there could be larger issues like not helping out an accident victim or not exercising one’s franchise during the elections. It may be pertinent to emphasize here that  while not voting could be viewed as an insignificant event that does not prick one’s conscience it is this collective lack of conscience that ultimately give us poor political leadership. Perhaps if each of us was true to ourselves our environment would have been a much better place to live in.

Look around and be aware of your critics. Perhaps some of those critics are people who have some differences or dislike towards you and many of their criticisms could be frivolous. There could be other critics who fail to appreciate your point of view or the reasons or intent behind your actions/ responses that they criticize. Then there are a few who are very very close to you and it this proximity to you that gives them the liberty to be more judgmental and honest in their critical feedback. What is important for you is to realize that there is always an element of truth in most of the criticisms and it is an excellent feedback to help one improve. The more important lesson though is that your friends, fans and supporters will always far outnumber your critics and most of them will never be true to you when it comes to telling you your faults, your limitations, your weaknesses or the area of improvementYou improve and progress only by being honest and true to yourself, for you and only you know yourself; only you know your fears, your ambitions, your apprehensions, your limitations, your abilities, your insecurities, your frustrations, your desires, your cravings, your hopes, your expectations, your values.

Try this:

  1. Write down your strengths and weakness and also your fears and aspirations. Make as elaborate a list as possible. Now try and honestly rate each point in each of the 4 grids and number it from 1 onwards, 1 being the most important priority. Now candidly visualize how each of the fort points in each grid impacts your decisions / your approach/ your progress.
  2. Identify 3 of the following characters and jot down one honest negative feedback you would give each of them. Think of how you will package that feedback to make it more acceptable to the recipient without your relationship being affected.

–          Friends

–          Colleagues

–          Relatives

–          School/ college mates

–          Subordinate/ junior / employee

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Before reading any further take a pen and paper and jot down the 3 materialistic things that you still don’t own but which you would love to posses.  It would help if you were as clear as possible about the details (e.g. Color, shape, form, brand etc) of those possessions you desire to own desperately.

Hopefully you have taken the suggestion above seriously and taken the effort to jot down the above. This is a precondition to getting the maximum benefit of the contents of this post. In case you haven’t yet jotted down, please take a moment to reflect and write down. Assuming that you have written down what you desperate wished to posses, here is one more opportunity for you to let your imagination run wild and replace that with something more exotic or expensive or rare. I am imploring you to dream big and do not let your fears or apprehensions stop you from giving wings to your imagination.

Look around and examine the lives of those who you know personally, who have in your view, achieved success that you never imagined they would. While a bit of fate and luck could surely have played a decisive part in their achievements, a dispassionate evaluation would reveal that they dreamt big, worked hard and never let their fears overpower their dreams. What have you to lose by dreaming big? In fact if you dare to dream big you will lose only your fear of poor self esteem and lack of self belief.

The tragedy of many who dream big is that they don’t actively pursue their dreams. Most end up day dreaming whilst the others make feeble efforts and give up when the going gets tough. One way to get going and be motivated is to share the broad outline of your dream and plan of action with close friends and well wishers. Having articulated it, you are immediately obliged to ensure you stick to your plans and proclamations. Your friends and well wishers would also follow up, pressurize you, offer support and encourage you when your spirits droop.

Ideally the big dreams must be broken up into achievable and coordinated sub activities. This requires deep reflection, pragmatic thinking and sustained commitment. Never lose sight of your dreams in the hurly burly of daily life. In fact it would be a good idea to also have a dream chart that could contain possible visuals of what you are aiming for and put this up at a prominent place in your home that ensure you see it every day. It would also help to allot a fixed time to review the progress of your dreams. While there is no shame in giving up on a dream that is just not achievable, watch out for the tendency to give in too soon or change dreams too often.

Now take a good look at the dreams that you have listed out before you began reading this post. Work out your plan of action. Also outline 10 people with whom you will share a broad outline of your dream and inform at least 3 of them immediately. Before the weekend all the 10 must get to know a fair bit about your dreams.

Try this:

  1. Make it a point to try and vividly recall and jot down your next dream that you see whilst asleep. Try and find positive implications/ meanings/ message/ interpretation of that dream.
  2. Apart from the above 3 dreams,  list out one or two more dreams for any of the following
  • Financial goals related Dream
  • A social objective related dream
  • An environment friendly dream
  • A dream related to education or sports

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