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The past is a good reference

36-The past has its uses

As we come to the last week of the year, we normally tend to lapse into some nostalgia. While we do dwell on the good times of the past year, we also tend to linger longer on the ills that plagued us, the potential we could not fulfill, we rue the opportunities missed and often why fate was a wee bit cruel in general. The year end is a good time to reflect and dwell and commit to our learning the lessons of the past, but it is also the best time to wipe the slate clean and begin afresh.

So as we step into a New Year, it would help us look back to review the year gone by and make use of the learning from it as under:

Learn from our failures – Our immediate thoughts are often about the regrets we have for either having failed to accomplish what we set out to do or because we never got around to starting what we hoped we would or because we just did not visualize / size the opportunities around us. The good thing about failure is that we it grounds us to reality and reminds us of our mortality. The best thing about failure is that it allows us to steer clear of the mistakes we made and work out a better way to attain our goal.

Improve up on our successes – We do always cherish the sweet successes we tasted. Occasionally we tend to gloat over it and other times we feel smug that we managed what others couldn’t. Our successes should actually spur us to take on newer and bigger challenges, enthuse us to find better ways of attaining success in our predetermined tasks. Ideally we must focus on improving the yield, reducing the time, simplifying the task, automating where possible etc.

Update possibilities – Both success and failures offer us opportunities to discover new possibilities. It could be a technique, an improvement on the existing, leveraging the resources available to the full, discovering alternatives etc. Visualizing, being creative, being enterprising and risk taking are all means to the same end of creating possibilities.

Clean the slate and start anew – Whatever be your evaluation of the year gone by we can neither rest on our laurels nor can we wallow in our failures. The New Year is point in time when we can wipe our slate clean and begin anew. It is a good time to clear the cobwebs in our mind, reinforce positive thoughts for the coming year, get enthused to embark on a new venture or reinforce an existing one and translate thought into action.

Try these:

  1. Make a list of 5 pressing items / tasks that you are determined to complete in 2016 no matter what the impediments are.
  2. Make another list of 3 things that you will do to
  • Make sick and the lonely feel cheerful
  • Get involved in your favorite social service project
  • Increase your savings by 10 %
  • For protecting the environment or for animal welfare
  • Improve your health and fitness

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35 -Your dreams have no expiry dateIt is that time of the year when most of us subconsciously rewind the tape of our life with reference to the year gone by. We certainly do fondly recollect the good events and times, we may also painfully remember the hard times that passed us by. However, what we dwell on often are the numerous lost opportunities, the chances we did not take, the actions that we could have done differently and possibly got another outcome and the slow motion picture of the broken new year resolutions, the plans that never took off and the remorse of having wasted our time either because we didn’t get around to chasing our dream or because our dream didn’t materialize despite our best efforts.

It is easy to brood. Easier still is to give up on our dreams. So then we decide that making New Year Resolutions is a waste of time an exercise in futility or we rationalize that it is a silly custom or idea. If at all we get down to writing some resolutions we might resolutely decide not to add any of the previous year’s unfinished work since it brings back painful memories. That leaves us with broken dreams, unfulfilled hopes and a sense of regret and frustration. Fortunately time is a great healer. It is also a great leveler. Far more important is the fact that we are blessed with an imagination and can dream bigger and if we commit ourselves to realizing this dream you can do it. Dreams have no expiry date so no matter what age you are, no matter what the size of your dream, no matter what impediments you visualize along the way; if you write down your dream and commit it to it and start working on attaining it, you will wake up and live your dream.

Define and develop your dream – Having a wish or a hope is merely making castles in the air. To have a realistic dream one has to define it in terms of a tangible goal and develop it by outlining all the intermediate steps that one has to progress through before realizing the dream. The more vivid the dream the more purposeful and realistic it becomes for there is shape and structure that one can identify with. Doing well in an exam is too vague as compared to having an aim of scoring 80%. When the later is clearly defined, it is relatively more easy to outline the steps required to reach it.

Revise and reorganize your plans – While one must be largely rigid and hold fast to the dream one has, one must make allowances for changes around, unanticipated hiccups, a drastic change in the assumptions made and even revision forced by pragmatic considerations. While the goal is not to be diluted or changed the means to the goal could undergo a major metamorphosis. This is merely to ensure that one is realistic and in tune with the circumstances prevailing.

Expect and experience difficulties – Even the most well laid out plans may not go as expected. There will be delays, obstacles, confusion, differences of opinion, dilemmas to be resolved along the way. This is to be expected because life is never linear and we need to adapt to the flow. Experiences will prepare us better to meet bigger emergencies and also sometimes assist us in reframing our path or expanding our goal.

Act and attain progress – Paralysis by analysis is a common refrain. This happens because most times we try to ensure perfection in plans, little realizing that this is an oxymoron. The key to attaining anything in life is action. By initiating the action we begin our quest to glory. Action is painful, it requires effort, it needs sustainace and most of all it means commitment. As a couplet goes’ Sitting still and waiting makes no person great; the good lord sends the fishing, but you must dig the bait.

Make and meet success – Dreams are not realized by accident; they are to be made by dint of good planning, hard work and complete commitment. You meet your dreams not when asleep but when you awaken to the reality that you have built it. Even as you read this post many thoughts are swirling in your mind. Some may find the post inspirational, others mere shrug it off as one amon many such proclamations, others may have more to say and many would want the learning from the post to work for them. The question is ‘What are you going to do after reading this?’

Try these:

  • Make a list of last year’s New Year Resolutions that you never attempted or didn’t progress in any worthy manner. If you haven’t even made any resolutions last year make a list now.
  • Commit yourself to one social service resolution. Now work out a plan to ensure that you spend at least 20 days in a year in pursuit of that goal. If possible also outline what you expect to achieve when pursuing this goal, by the year end Dec 2016.
  • Is there a change you plan to bring about in your habits / mannerisms / style of functioning / relationships that you hope will make you an even better person? Outline the steps you propose to bring about this change in you.

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34- Life is like playing tetris...Tetris is still a fun game even long years after it was created. Yet visualizing the subtle message in Tetris has been an eye opener and certainly thought provoking. Simply put, it brings to the fore the importance of being proud of one’s individuality and the realization that each of us needs to nurture and retain our individuality so as to leave our mark in this world. It also gives another message, not to follow the herd and instead opt to furrow our own path. No sooner we imitate others we are merely becoming clones and lose out on the opportunity to make a difference, to get noticed and to stand out in a crowd. There are of course risks attached to being different; from being treated as a misfit or being labeled a eccentric or having to remain lonely in a minority. The rewards though are much higher, more gratifying and perhaps most fulfilling; ask all those who successfully pioneered the various revolutions that changed the world we live in.

Now in the game of Tetris the challenge is to allow the pieces to fit in. In life the challenge is to stand out, be noticed, do something different and leave a mark in the world. While the goal of the game of Tetris and the game of life is the same to come out a winner, the means differ. So if you are keen to leave a mark on the world you will need to leave a stamp of your individuality. Here are few guidelines to help you achieve this and make your DREAM become a reality.

Dare to be different – Each of us has a secret dream, a wish, a desire, a goal very different from what our family and friends would approve of. Yet, almost all of us fall prey to the clutches of walking the beaten path. How many of us would dare to follow our hearts desire even if it means walking alone, being criticized, being ostracized, being picked upon and in some cases even having to face hostility and intimidation. Yet, if the heart is full of hope, the mind unwavering and the energy to traverse boundless, there is no stopping. Dare to dream and dare to make it come true.

Risks should be taken – In being different, there is always risk; the risk of being misunderstood, of being singled out as a lunatic, of being lonely and above all the risk of failure. This risk is much higher when one takes a path opposed to by most. This is because there will be very little encouragement, plenty of naysayers and the sub conscious apprehension challenges us every moment. Yet the dream you have should be far more stronger than the risks you perceive. It is this dream that you have to live, by taking the associated risks.

Explore opportunities – Many of us are too lazy to seek out and explore the wonderful opportunities around us. Far too often our laziness disguises itself in us rationalizing ‘why rock our steady boat?’ or dismissing potential opportunities as being ‘this is not my cup of tea’. Opportunities often come disguised in the form of hard work, stiff competition and requires taking a giant leap of faith. Yet they also show us a glimmer of their potential if we seek it out. If you can dream something then get ready to also wake up to the reality that dreams can be made a reality if you are willing to spend your time on exploring how to make it succeed.

Act with purpose – We largely tend to react to situations. If we can train ourselves to act and thereby be proactive we can channelize our energies more productively. Reactions are largely reflex action, a defensive approach and largely focused on protecting our interests. Action on the other hand is self generated, targeted with precision and triggers action that gathers momentum driving us to succeed. If the dream has to be realized you need to wake up and act with purpose.

Make a positive difference – It is not enough to be a dedicated and contentious person. One has to be a doer, a person who takes charge and someone who is not just dependable but a person who is inventive, a visionary and a go getter. These are some qualities that make you stand out from the rest and more importantly ensure that you are not simply following a crowd but actually leading it. You cannot just wake up and expect your dream to come true; you have to steer your every waking hour towards making it happen by forging a path where none exists so that you can help other traverse the same road.

Be that first Tetris block that makes the rules for every other block fit into.

Try these:

  1. Outline 3 behavioral changes that you can bring about that would pleasantly surprise others and at the same time help you realize your full potential.
  2. Attempt any or all of the following
  • Visit a basketball court and try shooting baskets for 15 minutes
  • Go to a bowling alley and play a full round of bowling with a friend and wager a bet to make the game more competitive
  • The next time you visit a lake, try to get a paddle boat and attempt to paddle around on your own in the lake.
  • Go on a bird watching trip / trek / jungle safari with a group which does not include a single person who you personally know.

This post is courtesy www.actspot.com

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