Category: acceptance

6 Lessons from the fisher folk

20-09- 15 April 20- When fishermen cannot go to sea

The humble fisher folk set us an excellent example of what do when you have time on hand. They are used to compulsory lock down and lack of income during the heavy monsoons and or when there is extremely inclement weather predicted. What is interesting is they do not rue this time but spend that time very wisely. One reason is that they anticipate these lock down situations and the second reason is that, like a wood cutter who spends more time sharpening the axe so that he spends less time and energy chopping wood, the fisher folk  use the time to repair their nets.

For each of us, there is meaningful lesson to be learned from the humble woodcutter and the fisher folk. Use time wisely to ensure your life and your work are more productive, better managed and equally satisfying. As individuals what can each of us do to use the time give to us as bonus by nature, albeit as a reminder to respect nature to? It is important to keep in mind that our safety net in life is our blessings, the relationships, our goals, our values, our time and our own self worth. We need to repair those areas of our net that need mending.

Relook our priorities – One needs to look back at what one has achieved, look forward to what one aims to achieve and check if the price we have paid and the price we will pay are worth the end results. Check also if we are living in the present, living the moment and if we will ever have regrets of having misplaced priorities. Ask yourself if you taking care of our relationships, your health, your loved ones, are you being true to our values, do you take notice and do something about those around etc.

Respect the blessings given to us – In our pursuit of happiness which we often seek in the form of more money and power do we value the blessings that one has inherited, been gifted, been blessed with. Do we take what we have for granted? If you do not value the blessings you have, chances of you repairing the net you inherited are rather bleak because you see it as second hand, old and perhaps needing replacement.

Revive relationships – If we say that man is a social animal it simply means we need to have people around and ensure we engage with those around. Relationships need to be kept healthy if one has to have a positive, friendly, encouraging environment. Check if some relationships need more attention, if they require more effort to stabilize. Be open to nurturing healthier and happier relationships with existing circle and creating new circles of friends.  Patch up those parts of the relationship net that are frayed or require additional strengthening.

Remember the less privileged – You need to ensure that the net is spread wide if you have to get a good catch. Spreading the net wide is not a one man job. You will need the support of all types of comrades. Hence it is in your interest that the net given to those around is not torn or frayed lest your catch gets less. Even the most humble companion in your journey of life has the power to be useful to one another. Carry them along as a valued companion who is also helping you cast the net wide.

Reward ourselves – While mending the net the fishermen also swap stories, sing songs, have fun too. Having fun is an important part of the process of repairing the net else it will become a chore, a burden, a millstone around the neck. Find ways and means of enjoying the process of repairing the net although it has been forced/ trust upon you at this point in time.

Remember to be grateful – Be grateful you have a net to repair. There are many who have nothing to really care for; no possessions; no income; no meaningful life; no hope. Pause and think of all the blessings you have, most of which you never earned but inherited. When you value your blessings you will be motivated to take care of your possessions even more carefully. The net of life is now has a new meaning; a fresh perspective and above all becomes your most valued treasure.

Try these:           

  1. Draw a simple fishing net. On each intersection on the net, write down one valuable thing in your life that the intersection represents/ stands for. E.g. family / income / friends / education / good health etc.
  2. Can you list out a couple of songs that are typical of people who go fishing or which represents the fisher folks culture.
  3. List out one thing you will do to repair the following
  • Change your attitude for the better
  • Improve your knowledge and learn something new
  • Build on your strengths
  • Overcome your weakness
  • Enhance your social / professional circle
  • Spend even more quality time with your loved ones

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Life lessons during Lockdown

Life lessons during Lockdown

The past couple of months and the past few weeks in particular, have dramatically changed the world as we knew it. From free spirits who chased their dreams, demanded their rights, globe trotted without a care, suddenly life has come to a standstill or more correctly a lockdown. The irony of the lockdown was that it has spared no one, yet threatened everyone and forced the world to stop, pause, look inward and sacrifice freedom.

Perhaps now is the time to reflect on the following facts:

Life is short – For the very many, especially those who took ill suddenly and passed away due to the virus life ended rather unexpectedly. For the rest of us, the fear that life can be very short is the reason we are taking the self quarantine and lockdown seriously. For the migrants though it is not the same fear that is driving them back to their home towns. They fear shortages, lack of income and the need to be around loved ones during difficult times. Yes they too fear for their future and want to ensure their life is neither miserable nor short and hence the desperation to return back to their native land.

Time is fast – Ironic that in a lockdown, time moves slowly. Yet it is just the perfect reminder as to how busy a life we lead, with no time to stand and stare, as the poet would say. Perhaps now we realize how important it is to stop, pause, look around, appreciate what we have and respect what nature provided us.  Perhaps we also have a better appreciation of people at home, the need to act more responsibly and the truly value our time on this planet.

No replay – Hopefully we will overcome the current pandemic and lockdown and social distancing and never have a replay. For that matter, we rarely have a repeat day in our life; ever day is a new day with new hopes, challenges, successes, failures, pain and joy. How we would like to have a replay of our best moments in life; that is not going to happen. Fortunately that holds true for our worst moments too.

No rewind– We may rewind and watch a tape or a serial or a movie. Life is not going to give us that chance. So we must always put our best foot forward, grasp every opportunity, make amends for failures quickly and live life each moment. Life is boring when we do things as if rewinding and repeating our efforts with no commitment or love for what we do. Each day find a new motivation to do your job well. Enjoy the process, the company, the results. You will never want to rewind your life because you now know how to make tomorrow exciting.

So enjoy every moment as it comes – Lockdown is terrible; it is worse when you think of it that way. How about seeing lockdown time, as a very rare opportunity gifted to you, to spend more time at home, with people who matter most to you and for a cause that is in your best interest as well as that of the nation? You don’t have to sacrifice your life on the battle front or a medical frontline warrior or as a provider of essential services. You are simply called to remain home. Have you ever seen it as a privilege given to the very few during a very rare time? See it that way and now make the most of every moment that you are at home. Do things that you always wanted to do from home? Explore your talents. Make a list of things you appreciate about those around you. Make a list of things you would want to do once you are free from the lockdown. Utilize the time well and enjoy the process.

Try these:           

  • Call up a few people with whom you have not connected in a very long time but whose friendship/ relationship you value very much. E.g. a former colleague / classmate / a teacher / a distant relative
  • Make 5 goodie bags with whatever resources you currently have to give out free to an old age home / migrant workers / orphanage etc.
  • Pick out three of your most favorite things and decide whom you will gift it to. As soon as you can do take the effort to gift it away with a small note on why they deserve that gift.

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People are not difficult… they are different

People are not difficult… they are different

One big challenge in life is cultivating and maintaining relationships. On the face of it looks like an easy task but in reality it is challenging, largely because of our approach to others. There is not dispute about the fact that as social animals we cannot live in isolation. It therefore stands to reason that we will have to deal with people of all shapes, sizes and shades. The problem is that there could be any number of people who we dislike, find it hard to get along with, abhor some and embrace some with no qualms what so ever. A simple test is to see how your relationships with your school mates, office buddies and family members are.

We tend to see people as either friend or foe; difficult or amiable; ally or competitor; powerful or submissive; daring or cowardly etc. The result is that we tend to slot people into categories and pick and choose those who fall within those categories that best match our expectations. All those who do not meet our expectations are largely tuned out, separated from our relationship matrix and labeled mentally by us as difficult people best left alone. Unfortunately, in life we often do not have the luxury of alienating those who we find difficult to deal with because often they are influential, useful, unavoidable, powerful and important for us. Take the case of a neighbor who you do not like. The reality is you cannot change the neighbor nor can you easily change your neighborhood. So what is ones best option to deal with a person who you find difficult to relate to; connect with or maintain ties with?

Accept the fact that each individual, even a sibling or a twin is an independent person with her/ his unique thoughts, mannerisms, behavior, likes, dislikes, dress sense, style and values. Once one realizes this, the urge to see people as needing to confirm to your individualistic style will be greatly reduced. More importantly, you will see the other person as a unique person who has the same rights and freedom as you have. Now, you will be in a better position to appreciate their oddities, peculiarities, their behavior and traits that otherwise you will see as an aberration and despise. You can now begin to value the individuality of the other and even if you do not approve of it or in the very extreme loath it, you will still allow them the liberty to be themselves. Except in very extreme cases where an individual crosses all boundaries of societal norms, conventions and prudence, one can still keep up a passing relationship more to remind you of your own individuality and upbringing.

APT is an excellent acronym that will help retain relations.

Attention for another person

Patience to appreciate the other person

Thoughtfulness in responding to another person

Try these:           

What types of people irritate/ annoy you? Can you mentally recall the names of such people? Can you honestly jot down at least two good qualities in them?

Can you make an effort to reach out to someone you do not normally like to get in touch with but as a measure of testing your own learning from this post reach out and spend time with that person.

What is the one quality or behavior or action in you, that will indicate to another that you would like to avoid the other person or minimize your interactions with that person? Can you make an attempt to modify that behavior/ style /quality so that you can have a better engagement with others.

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Reminders to succeed

Reminders to succeed

Waking up each morning is easy; your biological clock does it for you albeit at a time when you really don’t want to wake up. The real challenge is to make the day worthwhile. Perhaps focusing on the following daily reminders would help enhance self belief, stimulate daring and prod  one to act decisively to achieve a set goal.

I am amazing – The greatest blessing an individual has is that s/he is blessed with a mind that can imagine the best. Unfortunately, there is a tendency to focus on the worst possibilities, perhaps as a way to minimize expectations and then feel happy with the mediocre successes that come our way. On the other hand once you start looking at the amazing gifts you are blessed with you gain in confidence, you seek out new ways of leveraging your potential, you do not get perturbed by negative feedback and you go that extra mile to achieve your dream. Once you see yourself as an amazing person, you will never let yourself fail to attempt the challenging but enticing possibilities that exist all around you.

I can do anything – Doubt kills more dreams than actual failure. This is a telling statement because very often we do not attempt simply because we doubt our capabilities. Once you believe that you are capable of doing anything you set your mind to, you will begin the task. Keep in mind that you need to be passionate enough to be able to achieve the near impossible because you can do anything only when you are truly obsessed by what you want. Can do anything does not mean you attempt what you are not prepared to put in more than a 100%. It also does not mean that you can get away by having rash, ostentatious and outlandish goals that have no correlation to your abilities, your will power and your determination. Of course you can attempt the impossible; just ensure it is not the miraculous you are aiming for.

Positivity is a choice – Each day will be unique. There will be good days and bad days, great moments and disappointments. However, each of us has a choice to treat the moment with respect. The great moments must be cherished, the disappointments viewed as opportunities to learn from and grow. Out attitude towards every event that punctuates our moments is what determines the choice of a positive response that we have consciously and proactively taken. Positive thinking and response is a choice we have and it is best we train ourselves to take that choice no matter how disappointing, despondent or miserable we feel. Turning those troubles into lessons is the best way to make positive choices.

I celebrate my individuality – Since we live in the times of competition, comparison and connection, there would be a tendency to imitate, copy and fit in with those around. While choosing to take the best from others is a wonderful way to grow, we must never forget that our individuality is what makes us unique. To maintain your unique identity and to leave your mark on this world focus on your strengths and leverage it while at the same time you try to minimize your weakness. At times showcasing your individuality may look out of place, it could evoke criticism, it could make you stand out like a sore thumb but at the end of the day, that is what makes you outstanding.

I am prepared to succeed –Success is never an accident. It is the outcome of focused, persistent, determined effort. Once can prepare to succeed by having the self belief in what one is doing, getting ahead through a planned, organized and phased action plan and having the right attitude to stick to your beliefs no matter what the obstacles. All these obviously means that you must be prepared to pay a price in terms of sacrificing time, money and sweat to toil in faith and hope.

If  you are ready to lead the way start now! No excuses; no fears; just hit the road running.

Try these:          

List out three of your most off beat ideas/ thoughts / passions. Ask yourself why you have not yet made that a mission in life?

What is the one unique trait that you are often appreciated / praised/ noticed / noted for? How have you leveraged it to succeed in life?

What are your three often used excuses? Can you replace those words with a positive phrase that can rejuvenate you to focus on your goals.

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Making dreams come true

Making dreams come true

All of us at various times have a wide variety of dreams and fantasies. There are some dreams that seem to come back with regularity and at times they also become day dreams. They are largely connected with happiness, success, achievement, appreciation, recognition and similar positive images. The problem is that for most of us, these remain pipe dreams that we do not translate into concrete achievements that can embrace those positive emotions. The problem is not with the dreams but our inability to cross the chasm between dreams and reality. The steps are crystal clear, the difficulty is our inertia. Overcome that inertia and do the following:

Turn dreams to goals – Wake up and if you can visualize your dream then you are definitely getting somewhere. Grab a pen and paper and jot down the dream not in a fanciful way but in a concrete pragmatic way.  E.g. you dreamt that you stood first in class. Reality is that currently you have a backlog and are in the bottom half of the class. Now to make your dream a goal, be pragmatic. Jot down your goal as ‘clear my back log and get 20 % more marks in all subjects than my previous score.’ Notice that your goal is more tangible than merely imagining standing first.

Break down every goal into action plans – This is even more crucial then jotting down your goal. Now you are making your goal a SMART goal by being more Specific about the steps to be taken (how will you plan a study time table, what subjects would you pay more attention too etc.) , Using a Measure ( in this case score), ensuring that it is Attainable ( you should not try to achieve ridiculous things beyond your ability like saying scoring 80% in all subjects because current performance standards are way below that), be Realistic ( if you are currently studying  only on the previous day of the exam it would be foolhardy to imagine yourself studying for 8 hours every day ) and ensure your goal is clearly Time bound. Of course, the example given is for an average person but there could be people who have a much more steely resolve and the ability to cope with bigger challenges that they map out for themselves.

Take action – All the goals and action plans turn to successful results only when one takes the action required. Taking action means you need to find the right motivation ( ideally intrinsic motivation), develop the right attitude ( avoid all distractions, remain focused, do not give into temptations ) and remain enthusiastic ( reward yourself for the small success you encounter when you stick to your action plans) and then do what you have to do to achieve your goal ( in this case regular study, practice regularly, revise frequently, )

Try these:          

  1. List out three personal weaknesses you want to overcome. Now write down your smart goals to achieve it and see tangible results in the next 3 months.
  2. Write down your goals and action plan for the following:
  • To increase your savings
  • To improve your fitness
  • To minimize your social media addiction
  • To develop your social circle

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It’s your life…

It’s your life…

For many of us, the challenge is to truly understand the purpose of our life. During our academic life, our focus was on academic excellence in the hope of making those around proud of our achievements and also hoping that academic excellence will set a path for success. However, except for the toppers who were branded exceptional, followed by the excellent and good, the vast majority of us were merely above average, average and occasionally academic failures. Yet both the topper and the failure still grappled with the question of what next and what is the purpose of my life. What next was relatively easier to answer because each of us either gave in to our dreams or settled for what the rest did. A minuscule number opted for something different and off beat, largely due to compulsions. Yet for each one, the question of what is the purpose of my life remained an enigmatic question with an elusive answer. Throughout this process, we got good, bad, indifferent, useless, unsolicited advice from elders, teachers, family and those concerned with out welfare. Many of us succumbed to these apparent pearls of wisdom, only to realize much later that the path neither suited us nor were we able to cope with it happily and changing tracks was challenging.

The purpose of life is to make the best of your talents and abilities, to make a positive difference to your life and to those around. When viewed from this lens, no matter what we do, if it gives us happiness and it does not violate human dignity and ethics that is the purpose of our life. Striving to change it for the better, aspiring to achieve something greater and taking chances to make a greater impact with your life, are all par for the course. In fact aiming to better ourselves should be the hall mark of one’s life. If what you do is meaningful to you, even just lazing around, you need not be apologetic. While the world is chasing an elusive financial dream a person who can sleep with a clear conscious is the one who is living his/ her life most meaningfully. Well meaning people may offer unsolicited advice, give subtle hints or occasionally berate a person because they view things from their own perspective. However, each individual must choose a path that best answers his/ her question ‘what is the purpose of my life?’

Try these:          

  1. List the names of three individuals who in your view, best amplified and lived their  life the way they wanted it. Can you identify three possible challenges that they faced in living their life on their terms?
  2. What are the three things in your life that you are keen on doing (but have not yet attempted). What is holding you back from doing that?
  3. What are the few suggestions made to you by well meaning people who have no idea of your own personal plans. ( e.g. I know a young CA who now wants to peruse studies in Economics and Statistics because her mind is set on working in the space of public policy making. Yet everyone around is keen to help her get a job as a Chartered Accountant and thinks she is barking up the wrong tree).

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We see the world as we are

We see the world as we are

Often we are blissfully ignorant of our own lopsided, one-dimensional and / or biased view of happenings around us. This is often the result of our inability to see things from a broader perspective or because we jump to conclusions quickly. Perhaps our inability to listen to others compounds the problem too. The net result however is that we end  up being ill informed, believe partial truths and arrive at erroneous conclusions that can have detrimental consequences for us.

The following suggestions can help each of us have a holistic view of the world around us.

Be aware of our personal bias. –  Our assumptions largely influenced by our personal biases often result in us seeing things from a very narrow perspective and erroneously believing that to be the only right thing. Our bias also influences us overlook red flags, ignore warning signs, makes us dogmatic and we are prone to seeing things the way we want it to be. Past personal experiences are a key reason why we are either overly risk averse or blissfully foolhardy rather than being pragmatic. E.g. Pushing kids to choose a stream of study that is time tested like engineering / commerce etc. whereas they have many off beats paths to tread on.

Accept the reality that there could be another point of view – As we are largely influenced by logical thinking, we get bogged down in our thinking and ignore views that do not fit into our frame of thinking. Negotiations often get impacted when parties to the negotiation are dogmatic that there is only way to see things and that is their personal viewpoint only. E.g. accepting that the world is round is tough initially because as far as our eye can see, the world is flat.

Be prepared to be corrected – Our ego gets hurt when someone points out our errors. Yet, mistakes happen all the time and it is in our interest to be aware of our mistakes and correct it.  However, very often we try to justify ourselves, defend our view point and pick on others faults instead of listening with an open mind. Our erroneous thinking when corrected actually gives us an advantage; for now we are on the right track. However, to get on to the right track we must be prepared to be corrected. E.g. during annual appraisal the superiors often share with us our areas for improvement. Our reaction to their observations holds the key to our progress thereafter.

See things from another’s perspective – Many times we are so obsessed with our own thoughts, ideas and views that we wade into a conversation or discussion wanting to inflict our opinions on all. At times we are so passionately convinced about our opinions that we neither pay attention to others nor do we respect a differing view point even if we grudgingly admit it has some merit. This also creates unpleasantness when differences crop up and we remain obstinate, unrelenting and dogmatic. E.g.  Our fanatical obsession with our personal food/ fashion/ political preferences etc.

Be ready to learn and change. – The speed of change often overtakes us and yet we are unwilling to adapt to the change. Technological changes are a classic case in point. Either because we technologically challenged or because we are old fashioned, we are often reluctant to adapt to the changes. At times we find it embarrassing to have to be taught by young people, while other times we find it tough to cope with the nuances of the learning. We rationalize that the good old days were better to continue the status quo. E.g. adapting to online banking and similar commercial transactions/ using varied apps

Try these:          

  1. Ask youngsters what are the latest apps and choose two apps that you think will be very useful for you. Use it regularly and decide if it is useful for you.
  2. Outline three changes around you, that you never anticipated/ imagined 5 years ago.
  3. What are your three cherished ideas/ views with which the following people differ completely?
  • Your children or friends or colleagues
  • Your siblings or cousins of a similar age group

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Be like melting snow…

Be like melting snow…

As we enter the last week of the year, Rumi gives us a very insightful sharing, that can help us transcend seamlessly into the New Year.  Like melting snow, so typical of the season of Christmas in the Northern Hemisphere, which simply lets go of its form, allows the impurities to be washed off and merrily adopts a new form and flows with the tide, each of us should embrace a similar attitude.

We need to begin afresh in the New Year. The emotional baggage of the past can be best got rid off by being like the melting snow. Wash it off the memory, clear if from our heart, just carry the purity, fun, joys which like sugar and salt will add flavor. Resolve to begin anew; scrub yourself clean of the dirt that rankled and tortured your mind and body; soap and shampoo yourself with the aroma of beautiful memories, of hopes and aspirations and walk towards the sun; all shadows behind you and a bright spot ahead.

In washing ourselves of ourselves we are merely discovering our true identity. The real self which was born in all purity and innocence and who grew up ensconced with love and impervious of any danger or fear.  The snow is nothing but water that changed due to the environment around and then it rediscovers itself as water when it washes itself of itself.

Each of us is like a snowflake; each one can be born anew in the New Year if we simply wash ourselves of ourselves.

Try these:           

  • What are the most memorable moments of your childhood, teenage years and currently?
  • What are your hopes / dreams / goals for the coming year?
  • What are three positive changes you propose to bring into your life?
  • What is the one way you will ensure that your loved ones begin to notice a marked positive change in you?

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First things first

First things first

In life there are times when we know what must be done to rectify a situation but either our ego or the fear of retribution or the anxiety of embarrassment hold us back. Yet, on hindsight, we do realize that the benefits of being first to rectify the situation far outweigh the short term concerns that prevent us from doing what is right. Three of the most classic cases of us suffering more for our procrastination in not taking the right step are as under:

Apologizing – The first to apologize is the bravest –  Our fear of retribution or occasionally our ego  will often over ride our sense of justice and we would often delay offering an apology for a mistake we have made or an injustice (albeit mistakenly ) committed. Yet the moment you decide that an apology is warranted and that too quickly, if you can gather the courage to apologize by  stifling the fear and/ or ego, you will realize that it is the bravest decision that you would have taken. Often it is also a very emotionally fulfilling decision because you would otherwise have to carry the guilt around. Mistakes happen to the best of us; however it is the bravest who can quickly apologize and seek forgiveness for the mistake.

Forgiving – The first to forgive is the strongest. – Our petty mindedness would trigger our ego and forgiving a mistake and accepting an apology would become a very difficult proposition. Unnecessarily we believe that by forgiving we are lowering our prestige or letting another go scot-free. The truth is that it takes a lot of courage to pardon someone who has knowingly or unknowingly hurt or troubled us. If we take an eye for an eye approach we would be carrying a burden of acting differently from what we really are. Instead by forgiving one who seeks forgiveness we would have displayed our moral courage and large heart. Forgiveness is a display of good character, sound values and the courage to do the right thing.

Forgetting – The first to forget is the happiest – If one nurtures a grudge, holds a past hurt to fuel fire to take revenge or allow ourselves to be consumed by rage and anger, it takes a toll on our mental peace, physical health and destroys our personal tranquility. For the hurt you feel, the disappointments you face because of others, the bad times that have overwhelmed you and the nagging need to get even with others, only results in you carrying an unseen burden within. Let go of that burden by forgetting the torments, the tormentors and the past and your heart, mind and body would feel lighter, less burdensome and certainly more relaxed. You will be a man with no worries; the person who is happiest.

Try these:           

  • Think of the time when you apologized for a mistake and you were not forgiven. What could be the reason for the other person not willing to forgive you?
  • What is the hurt/ anger/ guilt that you are still carrying around? Why is it that you are not able to forget the incident or forgive the person who hurt you?
  • If at all you have any painful memories of the past, how have you coped with it? Have you tried forgiving and / or forgetting it or the perpetrators if any ?

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Be a rainbow in someone’s cloud

Be a rainbow in someone’s cloud

Look around and you will find lots of people looking for support, encouragement, help and empathy. It need not be strangers; it could be close family members, neighbors, colleagues, acquaintances; the common thread is each of them is suffering in various degrees. While some may merely need reassurance, there could be a few others who need a hand of comfort and others just need someone to lend them their ears. On the extreme end of the spectrum, there could be others on the edge of a nervous breakdown, contemplating hurting themselves or on the verge of committing suicide. There are a lot of people around us alone, afraid, lonely and seeking acknowledgement of their existence. Each of us can play a vital role in making the world around us a more lively, engaging and happier place by just being a rainbow in the life of those around us living under the shadow of a dark cloud threatening to rain and drown them.

Like the seven colors of the rainbow VIBGYOR here are seven ways you can be a rainbow for others.

Acknowledge – Begin by wishing your family members each morning. Similarly by wishing or saying a hello to neighbors, acquaintances, friends whenever we bump into them would be the very basic courtesy one can extend to another. As social animals, every individual needs the company of others to live a meaningful life. By simply wishing and acknowledging them we are offering them our warmth which is always reciprocated and warms us too. Incidentally, using basic etiquette’s like saying please, sorry, thank you, excuse me etc. also largely do the same thing; respecting their individuality while also being courteous.

Smile – No one wants to see a grumpy, grouchy, cry booby. A smile, laughter, joy  is always welcome. Nothing can be more invigorating than a smile. A smile not only evokes a pleasant response, it actually energizes the self too. (SMILE is nothing but an acronym for See My Instant Life Energizer – click to read more about it here – http://poweract.blogspot.com/2010/01/smile.html )

Talk – Communication is the thread that binds human beings. While non verbal communication is both powerful and perhaps more widely used, it is talk that is consciously acknowledged as the principal medium of communication. An acknowledgement by way of a nod or a smile are powerful non verbal tools of communication, talking with another helps strengthen relationships. It also opens doors to better understanding and is a quick way to connect more intensely with people.

Help – Action, they say speaks louder than words. So while talk as a means of communication is powerful, it is any action that is offered in terms of helping another is the icing on the cake of relationships.  Simple acts like picking up something that some has dropped or helping someone with a heavy luggage or just spending time with the elderly or sick,  is help that would be much valued. Helping someone in trouble, be it rescuing someone or taking someone to a hospital or babysitting, putting in word to someone influential to get a problem sorted, donating blood when required  etc. are opportunities that  are relatively much more valued than monetary help. At times monetary help too is required but that is subject to our own ability to help out.

Encourage – Encouragement takes many forms. The most obvious is when a person is down an out, giving them some motivational inputs and allying their worries and fears. Encouragement could also take the form of heartily congratulating success and nudging the person to up the bar. Encouragement could also be subtle hints with appealing logic on how to do even better, suggesting course corrections and in extreme cases discouraging individual from taking a path of failure or self destruction. Appreciation is a fantastic form of encouragement. Achievements, good deeds, extraordinary performance all need to be appreciated, for that encourages individuals aim for higher glory. Since man does not live on bread alone, he needs encouragement to nourish his/ her spirit too.

Surprise them – A phone call to a long lost friend or a letter to a former teacher, a visit to an elderly friend or relative can be varied forms of surprises. Similarly sending a surprise gift on a significant occasion that you are privy to would be warmly appreciated and make a big difference to people. Volunteering help, finding solutions to problems of people who least expect it from you would always be much valued.

Share their sorrows – Happiness shared is doubled and sorrows shared are halved so the saying goes. The brightest rainbows are those that appear after a heavy shower. Be that rainbow in the life of people who are going through tough times, serious difficulties and those battling personal tragedies.

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Try volunteering your services using any of your abilities/ talents to orphanages, hospice, prisons, old age homes, homes for the differently abled / mentally challenged.

Think back and make a list of people and events in which you were the recipient of any or all of the above support that lit up your life when you were in gloom.

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