Category: belief

The 3 C’s of life

22-3 C's of lifeThere are lot of youngsters ( and I suspect plenty of adults too) who are desperately trying to improve their future but find themselves aimlessly drifting and getting frustrated with every passing day. Almost all of them are intelligent, have a fair degree of clarity of thought and posses the energy and drive to succeed; yet they seem to be confused, helpless and defeated as if trapped in cage. The reality is that they build a cage around themselves by merely focusing on what has not gone right, blaming people and circumstances for their plight, blinding themselves from seeing difficult but possible options and wallowing in self pity. The real wonder of life is the new opportunities that each passing day brings, provided we seek it. The options won’t suddenly pop up but would tantalizing hover around, waiting to bestow the opportunity to those who are keenly looking out for it.

Success is actually a matter of knowing the 3 C’s (like the three R’s you learned in school) and putting that learning into practice. In fact you can put this into practice even as you read this post.

Choices abound- seek it, evaluate it, act on it.  First of all identify what you want. This means you must have some objective, an aim, a definite purpose. In short you must have a goal. Most unhappy and frustrated people remain that way because they have no clue about what they want. Using generic adjectives like happiness, rich, successful, well known, popular etc are not objectives or goals but merely pointers to what your inner urges are. Those urges can be met only when you pursue a tangible goal, upon attaining which, you will fulfill your urge of being rich or famous or popular. People are often seeking a ‘good’ job but cannot describe the attributes of the job that will make it a good job for them. As a result they cannot see the various ‘good’ jobs that exist but pick something that seems good. Take time to think out so that there is clarity in your mind. Ideally list out your thoughts so that your mind is not cluttered and more importantly you have something tangible to mull over. The list will give you both clarity and trigger your mind into seeing alternatives and choices that exist. This will enable you to explore and select the path to attaining your goal.

Chances are you will succeed- work for it, persist, don’t fear failure. Nothing ventured nothing gained is an old maxim. They also say that unless a turtle sticks it’s neck out, it cannot make progress. The message is clear; you have to dare, be bold, move out of your comfort zone and explore beyond, move into unknown territory, experiment, be different, break free. If you know what you want, the way to attain would also be clear. You may never have traversed that path but now you must. There are risks involved, there could be setbacks, you may have to trudge along alone and it could be a tiring, weary journey. Yet, the best part is you are moving, inching closer to what you want, your leaving the past trusting your abilities. At times you would hit a roadblock, you could be discouraged, you may even encounter failure. Persistence is the mantra that will embolden you, rejuvenate you and help you attain your goal.

Changes will happen – make it happen, don’t fight it, be the change. As you make your choice and take a chance you will face numerous changes that you have to cope with. Changes would impact your daily life, your emotional life, your psychological temperament, your relationships, your financial well being and even your status in society. You need to cope with the changes. Don’t let the negative changes dishearten you nor let the positive changes make you heady and arrogant. If there are times when you all your efforts don’t bring about the change you seek, you will have to double your efforts, redirect your efforts, get help from others to enhance your efforts till you force the change or become the change itself. Progress has always been made by people who dreamt of a change and got others to believe in their point of view and together forced the change. By the way, your life too will change dramatically !

So have you written down your goals? At least write down all the things you want to do to make your life better. Dream up more and add to the list of achievements you want to attain. Outline the immediate action you need to take for the most important items on your list. Start working on those action points now. It will help, if you also put a deadline by which you hope to attain each item on your goal list. Don’t make excuses for not preparing the list. Start..

Try these:

  1. Read the last para above and prepare the list and the action to be taken by you.
  2.  List out the following ( at least three )
  • Ways to increase your savings
  • Changes to yourself to become an even more engaging personality
  • Bad habits you will try to eliminate
  • Ways you will improve your relationship with family/ colleagues / business associates
  • Expand your productive working hours
  • Contribute your mite to social/ philanthropic activities.

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The good, better, best way…

19-  Be Good Better BestAre you one of those people who is frustrated that things are not going your way?  Are you getting impatient and desperate? Are you on the verge of giving up your dreams because life seems to be going nowhere? The good news is you are not alone. There are plenty of people, including highly successful people, who on the outside are an epitome of perfection but on the inside are bitter, broken and busted. However though misery loves company, that is no consolation. The reality is that you want to change your life around and do it soon. So here is how to go about visualizing, living and enjoying your future.

Believe – To begin with there must be something clearly outlined in your mind that you believe you passionately want. This is the key to solving the majority of our problems regarding our future. Most of us have a very sketchy idea of what we want to do, achieve and appropriate to feel satisfied and happy. The problem is we use sweet and nice sounding words, most of which are intangible and difficulty to identify when describing what we want from life and our future. Using words like wanting to be happy, successful, appreciated, recognized, rich etc. are adjectives that merely describe but do not clearly point out the destination. On the other hand outline what you want to achieve and then you have a tangible goal, you can outline the way to achieve it, you can put milestones to measure your progress and most importantly you can start believing in a tangible future. Your actions will then always be aligned to moving forward towards the direction of your belief which is the tangible goal you have set for yourself. Every little progress made in that direction will motivate, inspire and reinforce your confidence. You will also see and be able to measure the progress and if you falter or stagnate you will find alternatives to re-chart your course without giving up on your goal. Even changing your goal is a way forward since you have accepted the reality and are willing to change. Good things happen when you believe and work towards your goal for you will always make progress, perhaps slowly but surely.

Be patient: Patience is a virtue that one must develop for we often tend to give up quickly in frustration. Yet patience must not be mistaken as an everlasting wait; nor must an individual mistake patience to mean doing nothing and hoping things fall in place. Patience is like the farmer tilling the land, sowing the seeds, watering it and then believing he will have a good crop if the conditions are right. As he waits the farmer inspects his crop adds fertilizers, sprays insecticides, continues to water it if required or works on draining the excess water  and also plans out the steps to take care of the bumper harvest he expects. While he/ she patiently waits for the effort to bear fruit they also work towards ensuring a conducive environment to ensure the harvest is good and the fruits of the harvest are efficiently and effectively utilized. Better things will definitely happen when one is patient and works towards facilitating the attainment of the goal.

Don’t give up: This is tough because there will be numerous occasions when we realize that progress is almost at a standstill, doubts creep up and we start questioning our judgment, when critics begin to needle us with their own gloomy predictions and when we are tethering on the brink of confusion. No doubt we have to be pragmatic but that must be tempered with rational thinking, sound logic and an inbuilt self confidence. Many times we give up because we are not clear headed and we tend to exaggerate our doubts and fears; other times we give up because we cannot see ways to overcome obstacles; occasionally we give up because we succumb to criticism and barbs from others whose opinion we respect but possible they do not have the same vision as us. Find motivation to persist, seek out companions who encourage, view criticism dispassionately, learn from mistakes, keep the goal in mind and the progress attained; most of all believe, be patient and then keep persisting.  Learn from couples who want a child but are unable to conceive one of their own; they don’t give up but adopt. They believe they can be a complete family, they believe in their ability to make it a loving family and they don’t give up because they cannot have their own child but adopt one to make their belief come true. The best things surely come to those who do not give up.

Try these:

  • Revisit your childhood dreams/ fantasies. List out 3-5 dreams that you haven’t realized yet but are keen to make it happen. Map out a plan to attain that within a reasonable time span.
  • Outline a plan to attain any two or more of the following
  1. To increase your income by 10 %
  2. To increase your savings by 10%
  3. To be engaged in a social service activity
  4. To improve your own health/ quality of your life
  5. To make family time more meaningful and fulfilling
  6. To learn a new skill or trade or expand on your hobby or change your life style.

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A New Year gift to myself

1 - 5 Jan 16 A new Year MessageSo you and I begin a New Year 2016 with a lot of hope, a bit of trepidation and tons of goodwill from many! What one needs to quickly realize though, is that it is MY life and only I can make it the best one I can. Ideally we hope this year will be a lot better than the one gone by. We ponder over our mistakes and regrets of the past, we mentally note down the yardstick of others that become our benchmark for success and we rush into life aiming to win; little realizing that we are competing only with ourselves and all we need to do is challenge ourselves to excel.

Let us pause and ponder over a few life lessons to enable us to journey with a purpose, with joy in the heart, exuding the fragrance of our unique personality and contributing to creating a better world around us.

Life is a journey not a destination – We subconsciously realize this because while we do have aspirations we rarely limit ourselves to merely realizing our aspirations. Once we attain what we aimed for we reset our aspirations higher. This is a good practice for it allows us to pace and realize our progress. Unfortunately, most times we are consciously chasing goals that are not pragmatically designed but developed with materialistic considerations in mind. We tend to believe that if we attain that destination happiness would be ours. Alas, in pursuit of those materialistic goals, we do not enjoy the joys of life, fail to appreciate the blessings we have and instead keep craving for more. The key to life is to make the most of what one has.

There are no mistakes just chances we have taken – You cannot cross a chasm in two steps; so when we come to the chasms in daily life we have to either jump or turn back. At times we misjudge the width of the chasm other times we mistimed our jump or we overestimate our ability or we were unprepared to take that leap; in all the above cases we would have failed to clear the chasm. We would also fail we did not believe in ourselves and turned away. The times we have cleared the chasm and the times we deliberately and consciously refused to take the chance only to realize later that it was the best decision you made, are the only times one succeeds. In daily life the chasms are invisible, the skills sets required opaque, the decision making has to be quick and continuous and the results may not always equal your expectations. You just have to keep taking those chances for some of them could be the giant leap that can propel you to a different level.

Make the most of the moment without wasting time on regrets – The worst mistake one can make is to go back in time and keep wallowing in the misery of the regrets we have, If only is a common enough refrain that suggests that things would have been different and life much better. We keep wondering about the possible outcome if the choices we made were different. A decision made a point in time can neither be reversed nor can the consequences be altered. Not doing anything is also a decision. The reality is that we cannot escape our responsibility nor stew in our regrets. What we can do and must do is make every moment count.

Life is not a competition but a mere challenge – Your life is a challenge for you to cope with and not a competition with the next person around you. Each of us is blessed with unique talents, abilities and capabilities. What we need to do is be aware of our strengths and ensure we utilize it to the full. We fail because we do not run our race but pace ourselves using the others around us as pacemakers. If you are a sprinter and follow a marathon runner, you are bound to fail. Similarly if you a middle distance runner and use a sprinter as the your benchmark failure is certain. Success come only when you get up and keep running no matter what. It helps to plan well, pace yourself as per your abilities and push yourself to your limits. The challenge in life is to run your own unique race well.

Make life fun as you get serious work done – Most people go through life as if on a life saving mission. Reality is that everyone has to earn his/ her living. So then why not make that living while enjoying it. True there are periods of stress and turbulence but they are far few and in between, Do we really make the best use of the rest of our time to ensure that we make our life fun, our living a joy and the world we live in a heaven on earth? Do we laugh enough, can we enjoy a relaxed environment, do we pause to smell the flowers, do we have time to stand and stare? Can I experience bliss every moment of my life?

Each new dawn gives us another opportunity – So what are you going to do with the opportunity? Would you size it or squander it? Begin today, begin now by jotting down your goals for the year. Jot down all the things that you believe will make you happy. Outline the action you would take to overcome your weakness. Commit yourself to some unique experiences that you hope to have during the course of the year. List out 3-5 friends who you would surprise this year with a unique gift. Gift yourself an expensive gift this year (write down what you really want). There is so much more that I can do each day.

Try this:

Fill in the following list for yourself

  • A unique musical program that you will attend this year
  • An animal / bird that you will sponsor this year at the local zoo
  • A new skill set that you would like to acquire
  • A place that you will visit from amongst the following ; a hospice / a prison / a mental asylum
  • Three changes you will bring in to your daily life to make your healthier/ wealthier/wiser
  • Five people with whom you have lost touch but would reconnect with this year
  • A fund raiser in which you would participate and the amount of funds you plan to raise.

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Faith is like Wi-Fi

It is not so much our lack of knowledge, our inexperience or our personal limitations that stunt our growth as much as our lack of self confidence, our inability to be daring and our fear of failure. The cure to this malaise fortunately is with us; having faith in ourselves. Faith helps us believe in ourselves, gives us the courage to dream and dare and most of all provides us the inner strength to keep striving even when the seas are rough, the environment cloudy and the horizon invisible. In all probability you are right now reading this on your computer and what you read is possible because of the wi-fi connectivity that you have which you can’t see but can experience. Your faith must be of the same quality as your wi-fi signal, unseen but powerful.

Faith helps you discover & channelize your latent strengths. Key among them are the following :

Goal setting – For the vast majority of us our goals for life are opaque and hazy. It largely centers around a few buzz words like happy, successful, wealth and recognition. Faith will enable you to identify goals which are more tangible, help you define the life path to choose and provide you the impetus to march with confidence on your chosen path. Pinpoint a successful person and study him or her and you would notice that all their actions and choices were planned, executed and embraced with full faith in their ability to achieve the goals they set for themselves. Steve Jobs is a classic example of someone who believed in himself so completely that he could rewrite the history of technology and evolve it to become a new paradigm. Faith will be like that a TV antenna that helps us tune into exactly the right channels that we want to play out in our life.

Motivation – Being self motivated is the only way to remain competitive, alert and enthusiastic. Motivation is nurtured by faith which acts like water that nourishes the plant life. Without faith, your motivation would dry up and wither away. Just like a plant cannot survive without water even if we provide it ample fertilizers, sunshine and oxygen, without faith you cannot remain motivated. Even if we add tons of encouragement, provide you ample resources and provide you a conducive environment to succeed, without faith you will not be motivated to sustain your quest. Faith sustains your motivation by quietly whispering into your mind time and time again that you have it in you to attain what you set out to achieve. Faith is then like the wi-fi signals that sometimes weaken and slow our browsing but yet we keep refreshing the browser knowing that sooner or later we would get connected at the speed we desire.

Resourcefulness – No matter how much we prepare and plan, there would always be surprises and occasional twists and turns that challenge us to be resourceful enough to overcome. While the minor hiccups would only slow down our pace, the major challenges could be daunting. With faith in ourselves, we can delve into our untapped resources of imagination, creativity and problem solving ability. Faith will then be our personal google interface that pops up an array of possibilities to choose from.

Resilience – Along life’s way, we are bound to hit many speed bumps, perhaps an occasional diversion sign and at times we may even meet with an accident. We would then question our wisdom about continuing with our quest. We may even perhaps give in to the temptation of abandoning the trip altogether or even advertently changing our original destination without realizing how close we were to reaching it. With faith providing us the fuel for the journey we would never run out of patience, perhaps even enjoy the diversions and forced breaks and resolutely carry on till we reach our destination. Faith is then like the drones that use the wi-fi technology to reach the intended target.

FAITH then is WI-FI, because it simply means With In – Find Inspiration.

Try this

Identify 3 of your strengths. Now outline an action plan to utilize these strengths to enhance your personal performance at the work place, enhance your contribution on the home front and be actively engaged in your social circle. 

Is there an activity / passion/ dream that you have not yet attempted or realized? Now is the time for you to commit yourself to attain it. Begin right now by jotting down that dream. Over the course of this week read up on it, talk about it with others, visualize how you will go about fulfilling that desire of yours. You will be nurturing your faith  in that dream and taking the first steps to fulfilling it. 

Read up on other posts on the same subject by clicking on these links

https://actspot.wordpress.com/tag/faith/

http://www.poweract.blogspot.in/2010/01/faith.html

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In the midst of chaos find peace…

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The universal truth is that life will always have up’s and downs. It is our ability to be grounded when we experience highs and cope with the frustrations of the lows in our life that plays a significant part in the success we achieve and more importantly the happiness we experience. Managing to be grounded when lady luck and success embrace us is relatively much more easier than battling the frustrations, the self doubts and the anger that follows failures, ill luck and negativity. The post today gives you insights into coping with those terrible moments that shake our belief in our own self, makes us feel victimized and sometimes push us to the brink of a chasm called depression, with suicidal thoughts not too far behind.

Be objective. Perhaps the most important cause of our frustrations is our inability to be objective about events/ happenings/ situations which we perceive to be detrimental to our interest or one that is a failure or something that we would desperately want to avoid. Objectivity comes out of being balanced, not being impulsive, avoiding panic and accepting the reality. E.g. You have carefully planned a holiday and everything is in place but alas on the day of travel the flight is cancelled. It is only objectivity that can bring sanity and some realistic solution.

See Positives When things don’t go as per our plans our disgust, annoyance and frustration see only the consequences never the possible positives. It is essential to be objective if one has to see the positives for often our judgment is clouded by our negative emotions. It is also possible that you have to think beyond the normal to connect the dots and see the positives. E.g. recently my flight was cancelled and while it did upset and annoy me, I knew I was short of time to take control of the situation. After prolonged discussions with the airline staff, they agreed to fly to me to an alternate destination and give me a connecting flight next morning. I did lose a day in the process but soon realized that the overnight stop over at the alternate destination gave me an opportunity to visit a friend and his family and offer my condolences in person on the loss of their son in a tragic accident.

Seek help. When flustered and irritated it often helps if one can vent it out or better still share it with a close friend or family. In the first place they help us let out steam and their words of comfort have a calming effect on us. Often they are much more objective in their responses and they would be able to suggest alternatives that would often escape us. E.g. When my flight was cancelled the airlines did not offer an accommodation and it was up to me to make my own arrangements. While I did try to evaluate options, I also rang up a close friend who often traveled to that city. In a jiffy he gave me the contact details of an excellent place close to the airport which was known only to a select few.

Don’t freeze. While meditation and slow breathing are the most popular ways to calm one’s self, the process particularly the former requires some skill set/ technique whilst the latter demands a fair bit of patience. Both techniques are effective but when pushed to the edge, the most effective technique in my view is action. Movement and activity will ensure your mind is distracted from the problem, if done with a purpose the activity will be focused on positive outcomes and for sure you will get an alternative solution. In some corporate offices there are punch me bags kept specifically to allow employees vent their frustrations by punching the bags. Even a walk in the park can be exceedingly helpful to calm nerves and maintain equilibrium. Ideally though diverting the mind to finding solutions and acting on the responses would give one a sense of purpose and bring one a step closer to finding a solution thus liberating the mind and body from the tensions they were subject to. E.g. When my flight was cancelled the airlines offered a full refund but by being calm I realized that it was perhaps the worst option for my objective was to reach the destination. Last minute tickets would cost me an arm and a leg and so I continued to engage the airlines to offer alternatives. Persistence and conscious engagement helped find a more acceptable solution as opposed to taking up their initial offer of full refund, which would neither solve my problem nor let me have peace of mind for quite a while.

I have deliberately used the same situation of  a missed flight  in each of the examples given above, so that readers can be sure that by and large the technique works in all crisis and chaotic situations.

Try this:

Apply the above 4 points to the following situations and find your own responses

  1. Your exam results have been announced and you are shocked to note that you have been declared  failed.
  2. You are all set to travel with your family and just 2 days before you are diagnosed with typhoid and strictly prohibited from travelling by your doctor.
  3. You are on a holiday and suddenly discover that your wallet is lost.
  4. You have had a serious showdown with your best friend and he/she has stopped all communication with you despite your best efforts to have a reconciliation.

How will you respond to the following crisis in your life.

  • You are to meet a very important client and the meeting has been scheduled after a lot of persistent effort on your part. Whilst on your way, you receive and urgent call from your close friend who requests you to rush to the hospital where your friends nephew has been admitted following an accident. Your friend is out of town and hence the request.
  • You have done excellent work during the year and each quarter you have been commended by the management during the quarterly reviews. You are sure you are in line for a promotion and a handsome increase in salary. You are shocked and confused when the management offers you a more than expected increment but declines you a justly deserved promotion. More shockingly you find out that a colleague has been give a promotion and you are convinced that you deserved the promotion more than the other person who was promoted.

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Take time out to do nothing

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Do nothing is often equated with wasting time and consequentially being labeled a lazy, good for nothing, wastrel. Yet today’s post exhorts the reader to make a conscious effort to do nothing and reap rich dividends in ways least thought of or expected. The objective of doing nothing is equivalent to sleeping after a hard day’s work; to be rejuvenated, relaxed and refreshed. The difference is that doing nothing must not be a daily ritual like sleeping but a self motivated break availed of perhaps a couple of times a year. While one can afford the luxury of doing nothing whilst on a holiday it is essential that our mind is calm, the locale is idyllic and there is no pressure of any sort.

Skeptics must already be wondering if this is some sort of crude joke on unsuspecting victims for our culture, our upbringing and societal norms do not allow for the luxury of doing nothing. However if you were to see yourself as a sponge that has soaked itself fully with all the knowledge, the experiences and the pressures of daily life, it is apparent that you need to let out the intake and become dry. Weekends and holidays are designed to allow you the luxury of drying out systematically. Doing nothing however is not in the mould of being squeezed or spin dried but is the equivalent of hanging in the sun to luxuriate and take in the sunlight whilst drying at one’s own pace. Take a look at the forced dried clothes (often crumbled) or barely dried clothes during the monsoons ( still a wee bit moist and smelly)to know the difference.

So how does doing nothing benefit us?

  • It has a calming effect since it is self induced and a conscious choice made to allow the mind to idle ( like a car engine) without any movement or activity.
  • It gives one a myriad of possibilities none of them of serious enough to be fretted over but sufficient to trigger possibilities for the future (ever tried making objects with Lego pieces)
  • Doing nothing will let you avoid the guilt of feeling that you are wasting your time and yet it will give a balance and anchor to your otherwise tempest life. ( if you accept the reality  that following traffic signals regulate your travel experience better, then waiting for a signal change will never stress you)
  • In doing nothing you allow your subconscious to freely roam around and they will form patterns that you never knew existed. Suddenly you see that your life has a new meaning and fresh perspective and suddenly you realize your own worth and importance in the schema called life.

Try this:

Take a blank sheet of paper and randomly sprinkle some drops of paint or ink. Now visualize a work of art / pencil sketch in which all those dots will be connected. Using a pencil or pen outline your sketch.

Those who would like to explore the concept further are welcome to attend a Vipassana Course.

Read this very interesting article by Mr. Arthur GordonTurn of the tide. The article originally appeared in Reader’s Digest and is being shared in 3 parts. Click the following links to read each of the three parts

Part – I – http://tinyurl.com/q62hpo4

Part – II – http://tinyurl.com/ps7t6tc

Part – III – http://tinyurl.com/puo3pn6

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Learning is self driven…

13-17- The perfect teacher

It is possible that many of those reading these posts and particularly those subscribing to the blog occasionally wonder how best they can benefit from what they read. At times they may find the post enlightening but not applicable to them. Sometimes the post maybe a tad too difficult to absorb and digest, whilst there are times, when the sheer weight of the underlying philosophy completely swamps the readers mind. The focus of these posts is to share with readers my perspective, occasionally give pointers for the reader to explore and in this process inspire, motivate and enthuse readers to find their own perspectives that they can leverage to lead a more fruitful and happy life.

Here are four pointers to get the most of these posts

Keep an open mind – There is ample truth in almost every form of communication one is exposed to  provided one does not have a prejudiced mind or a pre conceived notion. We could be biased for many reasons but the worst bias is because we find the truth inconvenient. This could happen because we don’t want to change or because we are given a painful reminder of our wayward ways or because it thrashes our most cherished beliefs. By keeping an open mind, we would benefit from getting a variety of different and possible revealing insights, it is possible that we are woken up from a self induced slumber and it could at times be the key that unlocks our hidden potential.

Discern judiciously – For some people, every new learning seems just perfect to make their life blissful. They passionately believe that the new inputs would be the panacea for all their trials and tribulations. Their enthusiasm is soon tempered by the realization that the new learning may not necessarily suit their style, temperament or situation. It is therefore essential that one uses a judicious mix of common sense, pragmaticism, creativity and reality in discerning and choosing the learning best suited to us.

Attempt to adopt/ adapt the learning While we do understand, appreciate and accept the numerous interesting points that we come across in our everyday life, we are often clueless as to how to make it relevant to our daily life. The secret lies in quickly assimilating the learning and adopting it to fit into our daily life. Many times we would have to adapt the learning to suit our unique individuality.  What holds the key is implementation of the learning, believing in it enough to practice the learning till we master it and in a large number of instances working doubly harder to unlearn the bad practices that are ingrained in us.

Find new meanings As human beings we are expected to go beyond the obvious; to explore, to discover, to create, to realize, to assemble, to reinvent, to stretch the boundaries of our imagination. One can and must do the same with the new inputs that one gets. The challenge lies in innovating, risking and imaginatively utilizing the learning to transcend beyond our comfort and possibly pain zone too. Like a caterpillar that has to struggle through its cocoon to become a butterfly, we too have to find new cocoons to struggle through before we can revel in the beauty of our success, achievements and self discovery.

Try this:

  • Make a greeting card (birthday/ wedding anniversary / congratulatory etc.) out of chart paper and other craft material and give it out on the next relevant occasion.
  • On your next gastronomical outing choose a dining place that serves either Mexican/ Lebanese / French/ Greek cuisine.
  • Gentlemen reading this post are encouraged to go to the kitchen and prepare one dish for a serving for 2 out of the available ingredients and surprise the rest of the family with their super dish.
  • Ladies reading this post are encouraged to go to the parking lot and wash their vehicles ( car/ two wheeler) and discover the joy of tidying beyond the confines of their house.
  •  All of you reading this post and attempting the above are strongly urged to sent in their comments about their experience by clicking on the comment button under this post. Your feedback would be a strong testimony both for me and other blog followers as to how effective these blog posts are.

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Advice from the ocean

 

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Off and on life gives us some pleasant surprises and one such surprise came to me when I chanced upon the above piece of advice from the ocean. What made it special was the exceptional interplay of words related to the ocean that sound so similar to the words relevant to make sense of the advice when read aloud. Equally important and interesting is the fact that each sentence by itself is a piece of advice and when understood in its entirety makes us aware of the symbiotic relationship of the set of advices.

 

To appreciate the advice given by the ocean let us examine each of them at length.

 

Be sure of yourself – Confidence is a quality that all leaders and successful people have had in ample measure. Confidence comes from being sure of one’s self; ones knowledge, understanding, ability to confront challenges and the certainty that every step has a definite purpose and goal. Ironically it is those who are overconfident who invariably go well beyond the shoreline and end up as drowning victims. So there is a very thin line between being sure and being overconfident and success is all about seeing that the lines don’t blurr. Click on this link to get an idea of how confident mountain goats are and how tough it is for us to mimic them http://tinyurl.com/ky53cwn

 

Come out of your shell – A tortoise, they say makes progress only when it sticks its neck out of its shell. The same holds true for each of us. Confidence gets translated into momentum only when we are prepared to move out of our comforts zone and attempt what we have ever done before. Of course there is a risk of failure, but with proper planning, strategy and determination one can always mitigate the chances of failure. Have you any of you ever learned cycling without ever having a fall? Click on this link to see how a tortoise has to stick his neck to make good progress http://tinyurl.com/l9cc67t

 

Take time to coast – In chasing our dreams, we often forget to enjoy the wonders that life has freely given us. The gift of friends requires us to spare time for them, the love of family necessitates us spending family time together, the beauty of nature requires that we take a break, spend time and soak in its wonders. Instead of taking a motor boat, how about taking a paddle boat and meandering around the sea shore enjoying the sea gulls, the setting sun, the wind on our face and occasionally tasting the salty sea water that drenches us when the waves crash against the boat. Click on this link to enjoy seeing a clipping from a short film Paddle to the sea  http://tinyurl.com/n6vh2mr . To see the entire 28min movie click on this link  http://tinyurl.com/mt3w56v

 

Avoid peer pressure – Remember the times in school / college when we were threatened with dire consequences by our class mates if we snitched about an errant / mischievous class mate who anonymously created havoc. That was our first experience with peer pressure. At the work place and in social circles, many a time we would crave to live up to the expectations of others. Stress is a natural outcome of intense peer pressure. Similar peer pressure from family, friends and colleagues would later on be more self inflicted, especially if we kept comparing ourselves to them. The craze for more power, money, prestige, recognition are symptomatic of the subtle peer pressure that we occasionally succumb to.  Live life on your terms and don’t let others dictate terms to you.

 

See life’s beauty – The wonders of nature, the unpretentious ways of wild life, the cry of a new born, the pitter patter of raindrops, the howling of the winds, the lit sky during a lightening, the care free love of a puppy, the clucking of hens but above all the smile on the face of fellow being are moments of exhilarating beauty. The essence of beauty lies in its captivating power to enthrall the heart, mind and flesh, astounding and mesmerizing us completely.

 

Don’t get tied down – We grow not merely because we think or because we are intelligent, but because we soak in experiences, learn from our mistakes and discover life beyond our imagination.  Just as stagnant water does not help marine life, our own growth will flourish if we are willing to untie ourselves from the bondage of family ties, move away from the comfort of the familiar, embrace the challenge of change and risk being adrift, alone and isolated. However, by setting sail there is a real possibility of you discovering new horizons, rediscovering yourself and realizing your true worth.

 

Make Waves = Yes you can by doing what you never dreamt of doing, surprising the world around and by making a huge difference to the environment around you. Your attitude is the wind that will give the momentum and zip to the efforts you take. Strangely enough you will be able to ride the wave of success that you create provided you don’t get unbalanced by getting drunk on success. You are the water, the wind, the surfboard and surfer – discover all that when you make waves.

 

Try this:

 

  1. Click on this link and make a kaleidoscope as demonstrated in the video clip. http://tinyurl.com/4ypfgzm When you succeed you will realize the truth of the oceans wisdom.
  2. Set a target for yourself to collect a certain amount of funds in the coming week, for your favorite charity. The key is to collect funds from strangers whom you have never ever met or interacted with.  If you exceed your set target, double the target and try the exercise once again after a month. If you did not meet your set target, analyze how you can do better and attempt it once again after a month with the same target in mind.
  3. Check out the meanings of the words in the original picture which are written in bold in the write up above. e.g. shore and sure

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Reboot your life

13-14-Reboot your life with a new software

As we meander through life, there are many times when we question ourselves about the path we are traversing, the goal we are aspiring for and the means we adopt to arrive at our destination. For many others life is not a walk in the park but a race against time and even they would be occasionally haunted by similar thoughts. We struggle to find a proper answer not because we ask the wrong question but because we dismiss the answers that stare at us as illogical or improbable. Far too often life simply tells us to reboot our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual self with a rider that we need to upgrade our system before the reboot.

Since childhood, by and large, the family, our educational and our social environment have had a major influence on our thoughts and decisions. Our personal system is therefore loaded with version 1, with occasional patches that selectively upgrade bits and pieces of our self, mainly academic, professional and personal. However in a fast paced, evolving world, keeping up with the changes around calls for constant upgrades in our personal operating system. At times our hardware would seem inadequate but with some creative tweeking we can even ensure that our hardware to is adequate to meet the system requirements.

To ensure your personal hardware and software is kept up to date here are some areas to focus upon.

Urge to learn

Overcoming inhibitions is the first step to learning.  Be it a new skill or coping with the demands of evolving technology one must shed our inhibitions and plunge ahead. Many a time we do succumb to believing in the old adage of ‘ an old dog cannot learn new tricks’; instead focus on learning new things to feel and remain young.

Being open to possibilities and ideas is a natural byproduct of the urge to learn. Reading opens windows to numerous possibilities. Similarly thinking and reflecting stimulates ideas. Interaction with others, experimenting, attempting something offbeat, seeking alternatives are ways and means of expanding the possibilities and ideas that we can leverage.

Being proactive

Seek opportunities could involve moving out of our comfort zone and taking risks. Instead of waiting for things to happen, we must make things happen. Every problem no matter what the gravity of it is, offers each of us a chance to use all our faculties to come up with solutions.

Connect with the changing environment and embrace the new dynamics. Don’t wait for changes to take you by surprise but go out an meet them. Dinosaurs they say became extinct because they did not or could not adapt to change; don’t let that be your fate.

Dare to be different

Listen to the heart for it can give you the confidence and the gumption to do things which could challenge your confidence, stretch you to the limits and yet free your spirit and allow you to soar. Ever thought of being a Santa Claus at a mall and entertain the kids? So what is stopping you from attempting it?

Don’t be intimidated by the enormity of the challenges or your own lack of experience. Remember there is always a first time for everything. More importantly remember that failure is only a blip not the end; for almost everything in life we don’t get it right the first time. Ever seen a baby taking its first steps; tentative, unsure but never inhibited.

Enjoy the moments

Find lessons in failures and disappointments for it will give you a reason to rework, retry and redeem yourself and realize that success can be relished when we can confront our failures and disappointments.

Create happiness as often as you can and a smile is just the simplest way to traversing that path. Letting the child in you come to the fore, listening to the woes of others, offering encouragement, being large hearted be it in forgiving or in sharing time, talent and money are some other avenues that we need to explore. Learning to appreciate comes a close second to smiling when it comes to creating happiness.

Try this:

Urge to learn – learn a new language, a new game, explore a new place / hobby, gentlemen should attempt a role reversal and do the normal chores done by the lady in the house.

Be proactive – write a letter to the editor of a local newspaper on local issues until at least 2 letters are published. Go visit a prison / mental asylum.

Dare to be different- Ladies should try and learn a percussion instrument for at least a month. Gentlemen are encouraged to learn some form of classical dancing for a month.

Enjoy the moments – Write down 3 positives you got from your biggest failure you have experienced. Think of the best compliments you ever received from a non family member or friend.

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It is not the load but how you carry it that matters…

13-12-it is not the load

When interacting with people, some people give you an immediate connect and you can actually feel their vibrancy, positivity and joy touching you in many ways and elating you. Unfortunately there are also many others who you would keep at arms distance, if not completely avoid given half a chance, simply because they are constantly grumbling, telling their woes, keep blaming others and exude bad vibes, spread demoralizing thoughts and drain us of our enthusiasm. If you were to spent a little time and understand the background, the daily routine and psychology of both sets of people you might make a startling discovery that in almost all cases the people are just like us, share the same sets of troubles, pleasures, hope, fears perhaps in varying degrees but it is their response to the situation that is the key difference that makes them likeable or disagreeable.

Now turn the mirror to yourself and ask honestly how others perceive you. Do I have many friends? Are my neighbors and colleagues happy to see me? Do I feel welcome when joining a group? Closer home, other than your pet dog are the rest of the family members thrilled to have me around? Do people freely interact with me, trust me, share their thoughts, concerns, hopes etc and seek my counsel or views? If you can honestly say yes to all the above, then you are one of the fortunate few who has mastered the art of embracing life with a song on your lips and hope in your heart. On the other hand if you are one who cannot spontaneously say yes to the above questions, there is no need to feel despondent for by and large you share your misery with a large number of people. Though it is said misery loves company, as an individual each of us would love to live life happily minus that miserable company.

The best way to cope with life is as under:

First accept the reality that there is a yin and yang that together forms life. While everyone wishes to embrace the good things life has to offer, when there is difficulty, pain, fear, frustration and the like, the inevitable reaction is to wonder why me. The quicker we learn to appreciate the quirks of life the easier it would be to welcome each new day with a happy heart.

The next is to cope with the yin with equanimity and the yang with alacrity. Having accepted the reality of the yin and yang of life, the challenge is how does one deal with them. In fact, in managing our response to the extremes that life throws up we would realize the inevitable truth that neither happiness nor sorrows last forever (although the latter might seem to be never ending). Therefore when things are going one’s way, when life is kind to us and when we are euphoric we must soak in those moments but never let them overexcite us. At the same time when faced with challenges, problems and troubles we must not be overwhelmed by them but be hopeful that this too shall pass.

Third is to attempt a balance between the two. This is a tricky step for while we cannot actually change the reality we can telescope our joys and miniaturize our troubles by some deft psychological ploys. Learn to savor every triumph, relish every joy and spread joy and sub consciously lengthen the ecstasy, deepen the thrill and enrichen our life. Similarly when fate deals us a poor hand, when the shadows seem to be lengthening and joy looks elusive look out for the light at the end of the proverbial tunnel. The change in fortunes seems just a step away, the gloom will seem to be disappearing and the hard knocks of life will be less bruising and painful. The balance you have maintained is in keeping a pragmatic proportion between the long periods of ecstasy and the brief unavoidable reality of despair.

Finally embrace each moment as the best moment for it shall never come again. The first three rules are to be practiced diligently and allowed to gently be ingrained subconsciously. That is the point of inflection when you will actually begin to embrace life warts and all. From then on you will look eagerly for the break of dawn, appreciate the joys of everyday life, value the joys of relationships, find surprises in the chirping of the birds and the blooming of the flowers and there will be a spring in every step you take. Hurdles that would invariably appear most unexpectedly would not frighten you nor would they then seem insurmountable and you would find the will, the means and the way to side step every hurdle. You will then kiss each moment for it will never give you another chance again.

The secret to coping with the surprises, shocks, joys and jolts of life is in accepting reality of constant change, maintaining harmony no matter what the challenge or surprise and making best use of the gift of life by living it and not merely surviving it.

Try this:

For a week try to live life by making the following adjustment each day. This will give you a better appreciation of how those who have to live with the limitation have adjusted to their permanent problem and yet live their life to the full.

Day 1 – Do not use your regularly used hand ( if your right handed do not use the right hand for the whole day)

Day 2 – Tie a splint around any one of your knees so that you cannot bend your knees. Now go about your daily chores with this handicap.

Day 3 – Avoid the use of any means of electrical /electronic devise – no telephone/ mobile/internet/ TV / Dish washers / credit cards/ etc.

Day 5 – Attempt not to talk to anyone / minimize your oral communication but go about your daily tasks.

Day 6 – Spend an entire day at an orphanage/ old age home/ prison /hospital or on any social service that you have never ever been to or attempted before.

Day 7 – Set your own challenging goal and try to live it out.

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