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11- Being resourceful is the keyWhen confronted with a challenge, a problem, a dilemma, a threat, an obstacle or danger, chances are that we would furiously think of ways to mitigate the issue. This is normal human reaction for that is how we are psychologically conditioned to act.  The issue is actually what we do next. Many of us give up daring to execute our plans for fear of failure. Some would simply give up even trying to identify a solution rationalizing that the circumstance confronting us is far beyond our own ability to cope up with. There would be others who make half hearted attempts to at least postpone the inevitable, in the fond hope of the matter resolving itself over time. The circumstances confronting you are not your enemy. Being afraid to think and act is the real enemy.

Being resourceful is all about thinking quick and acting purposefully. In fact thinking quick is often a natural reaction. However, we tend to keep prejudging our thoughts, ideas, alternatives and opportunities thereby largely neutralizing the power of those immediate thoughts. Acting purposefully is a bigger challenge for we normally tend to react to circumstances rather than act with a clear plan in mind. So is resourcefulness just a matter of generating alternative solutions? Ideating and creativity are just one tool for being resourceful albeit a critical and important tool. Resourcefulness goes far beyond merely thinking up alternatives. It is setting up yourself to triumph over circumstances.

Here are some pointers to being resourceful and using them to overcome the obstacles that confront you.

Believe in yourself – The first thought that often comes to mind when confronted with a challenge is oh no. This is quickly followed by thoughts that revolve around Why me? Can I? This is terrible. I can’t cope with this. It is unfair. It is important to remember that every individual does face challenges at various times in varied degrees and the challenges cover a wide spectrum. One either copes with the challenge or gets overcome by the challenge. The first step to coping with a problem is to believe that you have the mental, physical and emotional strength to find a solution. Unless you believe in yourself you would not seek to find a solution.

Think/ ideate / be creative / visualize– Thinking holds the key to generating solutions. It could be logical or rational thinking, it could be creative thinking, it could be idea generation or it could be visualizing big and narrowing to specifics. There is a solution and I can find it must be the mantra. The solution could be completely off beat, it could be risky, it may require a tremendous leap of faith or it could be so very simple you start doubting its efficacy. Look at all the technological wonders around you and you would realize that each of them is a marvel in itself. More importantly each improvement is actually a solution to a problem that was worked out by someone who believed they could find a solution.

Create the right environment to act The toughest part of being resourceful is reassuring yourself constantly that you are capable, competent and clear about your resourcefulness paying off. Sometimes it would be the nagging doubts in your mind, other times it could be the nay sayers who discourage you, occasionally it would be those days when nothing seems to go right and mostly it would be the let me give up feeling that comes like waves of a nausea. To cope with this it is essential that you create the right environment. This includes simple things like ensuring you have the right tools to work with, the physical environment suits your temperament, you bounce ideas of people who will give you dispassionate and encouraging feedback, you brace yourself to dealing with failure, your tune your mind to find encouragement in the smallest success that you attain.

Act decisively to attain your objective – This the toughest part of being resourceful because this requires daring and is test of yourself belief. Just as one cannot cross a chasm in two steps, acting decisively means taking a giant leap of faith. The plans on the drawing board would remain just that, till they are translated into concrete action. There are no auspicious moments, no perfect time to begin. Making that commitment by beginning ensures that you will make those extra efforts to keep going. It is possible that you will be tempted to rethink, to reassess, to go back to the drawing board, to give up, to start differently but once you get the momentum it is a commitment that will linger and persist and draw you back to continue.

If at first you don’t succeed, start again. Very few have ever succeeded in their first attempt. However, it is those who didn’t give up their quest for success who ultimately triumph. Few plans pan out the way they are planned. There would be detours, there would be complications, there could be road blocks, there could be frustration and there will be discouragement. Keep your goal in mind. It must be sufficiently big enough to motivate but not so large that you are overawed by the challenge. Most importantly you must enjoy the journey. Be desperate, determined and driven; then you will be resourceful enough to see your dream come through no matter how long it takes or how many attempts it takes.

Try this:

  • Can you think of unique ways to celebrate your birthday or that of a close friend or family member?
  • During the coming week, check out the various cultural activities that will take place in your city and attend at least 2 such activities that you have never even been too. Identify 2 new things you learned in the process and find a way to implement it or utilize it.
  • From the various posts in your social media sites list out 5 posts that caught your imagination. Of these are there any that you think you can replicate or adapt to make the world around you a better place?
  • If you had the resources to start a social service initiative what would you start? How would your initiative be different from those existing? Even without the resources can you implement some of the unique ideas you have in mind?

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16-29 Jun 15- Is this your life's missionLife is a constant challenge but not an impossible one. In fact with a little imagination and a lot of self belief, life can be made truly interesting the challenges notwithstanding. Just look around and you will find so many people happy and smiling. Very many of them would possibly be not so fortunate as you in terms of education, knowledge, financial well being, personal health etc. and yet they all know how to laugh despite their many challenges. The real challenge though is not merely to exist but to live and thrive with aplomb. To make that happen ensure you have an abundance of

Passion – Passion comes from within you; the depth of your emotions is the measure of your passion. The more positive emotions you feel very strongly about, the larger the intensity of your positive passions. Some negative emotions like anger at injustice, deep hurt felt when one fails, the competitive urge to succeed at all costs etc. also trigger passion that has a positive shade to it because it becomes an incentive to go for success. Passion is both a tremendous motivator as well as a source of unflagging energy that spurs one to action until one succeeds.

Compassion – This is passion for the less fortunate, the weak, the poor and the marginalized. This is a quality that grounds us to reality, allows us to explore the softer side of our personality and transforms us to being better human beings. Without compassion, we would be egoistic, uncaring, dictatorial, emotionless and cruel. We would almost turn out to be slave owners who saw the slaves as mere tools to meeting a personal end which is fueled by personal passion. Compassion allows one to experience empathy, stretches and exercises the heart muscles through the emotional pressure put on it and allows us a good reality check about how blessed each one of us is, as compared to the less fortunate around. Compassion brings balance and purpose to life.

Humor – A sense of humor is a vital quality that makes the human race so unique and special as compared to any other living specie. Humor is a bond that is perfect antidote to any pain. While physical pain can be alleviated with appropriate medicine humor is the all purpose balm that gives the quickest relief to psychological pain, worries, anxieties and nervousness. Humor not only calms the nerves but also peps one up with a sense of control, confidence and care freeness allowing the mind to be cool, calm and collected even in the most tense situations like in the case of an interview or when going for an operation. The ability to laugh at one’s own self is the highest degree of humor one can cultivate and sarcasm, poking fun at others and finding humor in another’s pain would be not only crass but counterproductive humor. Humor provides laughter to the heart and soul and when the heart and soul are happy, life becomes a breeze.

Style – Style is personalized statement that gives one a sense of unique identity. Style is often encapsulated in the outer presentation of person like the dress sense, the accessories, the perfume one uses etc. However style goes much deeper than that and is reflected in the mannerisms, the tone and tenor of communication, the behavior displayed in social situations, the control exercised when an emergency occurs and in substance of one’s interactions. Style is the living embodiment of upbringing, education and identity of an individual. It is an excellent barometer of the personality of an individual.

Try these:

  1. Identify 3- 5 activities / causes / concerns that you are passionate about. Now pick one of these and outline how you can substantially contribute to the same and commit both time and effort to it in an orderly and disciplined manner.
  2. Can you think of at least 3 favorite jokes. Go an share it with a friend, a sibling and a new acquaintance. Did you feel they appreciated the joke or only politely laughed? If you slipped on a banana peel on a crowded street, how would you react to the embarrassment?
  3. Observe people around you and jot down the unique style statement they convey. What style appeals to you and what is the style that your detest. Can you identify the specific reason / s for your likes and dislikes of a particular style. What is the most unique style statement for which you have been complimented for.?
  4. You would certainly have a tremendous feeling of compassion but would possibly not really know how to express it except perhaps to give alms to the beggars or feed some strays. Can you attempt the following?
  • Visiting an old age home and spend time with the inmates
  • Visiting a prison and trying to understand them
  • Spending time at an orphanage and playing with the inmates
  • Visiting an animal shelter and understanding how they work and what they do
  • Do visit a hospice and give solace to those in pain and fear.

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It is not so much our lack of knowledge, our inexperience or our personal limitations that stunt our growth as much as our lack of self confidence, our inability to be daring and our fear of failure. The cure to this malaise fortunately is with us; having faith in ourselves. Faith helps us believe in ourselves, gives us the courage to dream and dare and most of all provides us the inner strength to keep striving even when the seas are rough, the environment cloudy and the horizon invisible. In all probability you are right now reading this on your computer and what you read is possible because of the wi-fi connectivity that you have which you can’t see but can experience. Your faith must be of the same quality as your wi-fi signal, unseen but powerful.

Faith helps you discover & channelize your latent strengths. Key among them are the following :

Goal setting – For the vast majority of us our goals for life are opaque and hazy. It largely centers around a few buzz words like happy, successful, wealth and recognition. Faith will enable you to identify goals which are more tangible, help you define the life path to choose and provide you the impetus to march with confidence on your chosen path. Pinpoint a successful person and study him or her and you would notice that all their actions and choices were planned, executed and embraced with full faith in their ability to achieve the goals they set for themselves. Steve Jobs is a classic example of someone who believed in himself so completely that he could rewrite the history of technology and evolve it to become a new paradigm. Faith will be like that a TV antenna that helps us tune into exactly the right channels that we want to play out in our life.

Motivation – Being self motivated is the only way to remain competitive, alert and enthusiastic. Motivation is nurtured by faith which acts like water that nourishes the plant life. Without faith, your motivation would dry up and wither away. Just like a plant cannot survive without water even if we provide it ample fertilizers, sunshine and oxygen, without faith you cannot remain motivated. Even if we add tons of encouragement, provide you ample resources and provide you a conducive environment to succeed, without faith you will not be motivated to sustain your quest. Faith sustains your motivation by quietly whispering into your mind time and time again that you have it in you to attain what you set out to achieve. Faith is then like the wi-fi signals that sometimes weaken and slow our browsing but yet we keep refreshing the browser knowing that sooner or later we would get connected at the speed we desire.

Resourcefulness – No matter how much we prepare and plan, there would always be surprises and occasional twists and turns that challenge us to be resourceful enough to overcome. While the minor hiccups would only slow down our pace, the major challenges could be daunting. With faith in ourselves, we can delve into our untapped resources of imagination, creativity and problem solving ability. Faith will then be our personal google interface that pops up an array of possibilities to choose from.

Resilience – Along life’s way, we are bound to hit many speed bumps, perhaps an occasional diversion sign and at times we may even meet with an accident. We would then question our wisdom about continuing with our quest. We may even perhaps give in to the temptation of abandoning the trip altogether or even advertently changing our original destination without realizing how close we were to reaching it. With faith providing us the fuel for the journey we would never run out of patience, perhaps even enjoy the diversions and forced breaks and resolutely carry on till we reach our destination. Faith is then like the drones that use the wi-fi technology to reach the intended target.

FAITH then is WI-FI, because it simply means With In – Find Inspiration.

Try this

Identify 3 of your strengths. Now outline an action plan to utilize these strengths to enhance your personal performance at the work place, enhance your contribution on the home front and be actively engaged in your social circle. 

Is there an activity / passion/ dream that you have not yet attempted or realized? Now is the time for you to commit yourself to attain it. Begin right now by jotting down that dream. Over the course of this week read up on it, talk about it with others, visualize how you will go about fulfilling that desire of yours. You will be nurturing your faith  in that dream and taking the first steps to fulfilling it. 

Read up on other posts on the same subject by clicking on these links

https://actspot.wordpress.com/tag/faith/

http://www.poweract.blogspot.in/2010/01/faith.html

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Before reading any further take a pen and paper and jot down the 3 materialistic things that you still don’t own but which you would love to posses.  It would help if you were as clear as possible about the details (e.g. Color, shape, form, brand etc) of those possessions you desire to own desperately.

Hopefully you have taken the suggestion above seriously and taken the effort to jot down the above. This is a precondition to getting the maximum benefit of the contents of this post. In case you haven’t yet jotted down, please take a moment to reflect and write down. Assuming that you have written down what you desperate wished to posses, here is one more opportunity for you to let your imagination run wild and replace that with something more exotic or expensive or rare. I am imploring you to dream big and do not let your fears or apprehensions stop you from giving wings to your imagination.

Look around and examine the lives of those who you know personally, who have in your view, achieved success that you never imagined they would. While a bit of fate and luck could surely have played a decisive part in their achievements, a dispassionate evaluation would reveal that they dreamt big, worked hard and never let their fears overpower their dreams. What have you to lose by dreaming big? In fact if you dare to dream big you will lose only your fear of poor self esteem and lack of self belief.

The tragedy of many who dream big is that they don’t actively pursue their dreams. Most end up day dreaming whilst the others make feeble efforts and give up when the going gets tough. One way to get going and be motivated is to share the broad outline of your dream and plan of action with close friends and well wishers. Having articulated it, you are immediately obliged to ensure you stick to your plans and proclamations. Your friends and well wishers would also follow up, pressurize you, offer support and encourage you when your spirits droop.

Ideally the big dreams must be broken up into achievable and coordinated sub activities. This requires deep reflection, pragmatic thinking and sustained commitment. Never lose sight of your dreams in the hurly burly of daily life. In fact it would be a good idea to also have a dream chart that could contain possible visuals of what you are aiming for and put this up at a prominent place in your home that ensure you see it every day. It would also help to allot a fixed time to review the progress of your dreams. While there is no shame in giving up on a dream that is just not achievable, watch out for the tendency to give in too soon or change dreams too often.

Now take a good look at the dreams that you have listed out before you began reading this post. Work out your plan of action. Also outline 10 people with whom you will share a broad outline of your dream and inform at least 3 of them immediately. Before the weekend all the 10 must get to know a fair bit about your dreams.

Try this:

  1. Make it a point to try and vividly recall and jot down your next dream that you see whilst asleep. Try and find positive implications/ meanings/ message/ interpretation of that dream.
  2. Apart from the above 3 dreams,  list out one or two more dreams for any of the following
  • Financial goals related Dream
  • A social objective related dream
  • An environment friendly dream
  • A dream related to education or sports

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Each and every one who reads this post can identify with the above quote. Each of us can easily recount the numerous new resolutions, birthday resolutions and wonderful intentions that have been listed out and pondered over but alas remain mere resolutions.  It is not that we do not want to execute and put into practice those numerous tasks, deeds and desires but we find it hard to be both the starter of the race and the participant in the race. For far too long we have been directed, led, coached, disciplined, motivated and cajoled by parents, teachers, family and well wishers that we have lost the zest to be self directed and self starters.

With the Olympics just a few days away, it is just the right time to share some tips on how to be a self starter and get set go…

Put it in writing.  It is said that if you can dream it you can achieve it. The same holds true for jotting down all what one wants to achieve. One has to take time out to think, reflect and then write down dreams, hopes, aspirations, passions, goals and personal challenges. On a day to day basis one also needs to jot down the repetitive, the mundane, the unavoidable and the inevitable tasks be it paying bills, discharging one’s social obligations or mere record keeping and filing.

Prioritize When having a multitude of tasks listed out, the biggest obstacle to overcome is deciding priorities. Fixing routines for the frequent and regular activity would help prune the list of tasks dramatically. What is left is often the challenging, the daunting and the inevitable tasks on the postponement agenda. Putting start dates and milestone achievements dates would make the tasks look less daunting, more achievable and certainly more tempting to begin.

Begin with faith and continue with hope. Whether challenging or routine, tasks will be well begun only when we start it. The trick is to begin earnestly, movie decisively and continue relentlessly. Your achievement will never be measured with that of another individual; it will merely be a series of progress at varying pace perhaps, but nevertheless progress that gives rise to the hope of ending in success.

Resolve with unwavering intent by finding motivators. If one can visualize the motivators even as one is writing down the tasks, getting of the blocks would be very spontaneous and simple. It is equally important that one continues to seek and find motivators to keep going for many a time, things get disheartening, one gets dispirited and disenchantment would tempt one to give up. The antidote to this is find the right motivators. Some motivators that are easy to identify with are progress made, positive feedback got, applause and support. The best motivators though are more subtle and very personal e.g. the feeling of having done a good job; the satisfaction of seeing the efforts translate into outstanding performance; the great high that we get when we can see our talent being fully utilized; the knowledge that we have influenced others positively etc.

Take in the aroma of achievement and share the joy. While a winner will always experience elation that none of the others can, in harnessing our potential, we are in competition only with ourselves. We can therefore experience a new high and elation every single time we meet our expectations. It could be simply attempting something for the first time or discovering a new facet/ talent/ ability in yourself. It is equally important that one shares ones big and small successes with others, for the energy that they will inject back in you through their acknowledgement, appreciation, suggestions and encouragement  will inspire and motivate you to become a self starter and quickly move on to other tasks listed.

Remember that you should see yourself as an athlete participating in the decathlon or triathlon and not merely the sprints or the marathon, for you will always have a variety of challenges all the way; in some you will excel, some would be exasperating but in the end you have achieved most if not all of what you set out to do if you Get Set Go… and begin.

Action Points:

  1. Read the post on FAITH (Finding Answers In The Heart) by clicking on the following link http://www.poweract.blogspot.in/2010/01/faith.html
  2. Quickly jot down the following
  • A dance form you would like to learn
  • A musical instrument you would like to learn
  • A passion that you would like to indulge in
  • A social service initiative you would love to be involved in
  • A fear you would love to overcome
  • A bad habit you desperately want to eliminate
  • An April fools prank that you would attempt on your best friend

You now have a big list of things to do… get set go… Best Wishes

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Decision making, perhaps ranks first in the list of toughest skills to master and when the issue on hand is subjective one needs nerves of steel to be decisive. The process of decision making can be broadly categorized into two – objective decision making or impulsive decision making. Objective decision making can again follow two different approaches – deciding by eliminating the untenable or choosing the most favored option. Even impulsive decision making can be an outcome of gut feeling, irrational exuberance, illogical elimination or a random pick which is an outcome of a systematic process of elimination using an external aid be it tossing the coin, drawing straws or picking up a chit or lottery. Despite having such a wide variety of methods to make a decision, there are times when the logical thinking clashes with one’s sixth sense or the situation demands that a fair method be adopted to give a fair chance to two opposing sides to make a choice (e.g. choosing which team would bat first in a cricket match) . A way out of such predicaments then would be to flip a coin and…

… as the coin is suspended in the air on its trajectory upward and on its spiral downward one has to quickly choose between heads or tails and assign a decision to the choice. The outcome then is completely random. However in exercising your choice, you have given in to the choice that has an edge in the deepest recess of your heart. The outcome of the flip of the coin then is purely a matter of chance and yet there is a sense of contentment in that decision. E.g.  The captain of a team has to decide what course of action he/ she will take on winning a toss. If the toss is lost, the decision on what to do is forced by the coin.

Action Points:

  1. On what basis would you choose 4 cards at random from a deck of shuffled cards?
  2. What other alternatives can you think of to replace flipping a coin?
  3. Your mother wants to watch the final episode of a TV serial. Unfortunately at the same time there is the finals of your favorite sport. To compound matters, a close elderly relative is unexpectedly coming over and he/ she does not have any interest in TV and is more likely to spend time in meditation which requires peace and quite. How will you attempt to tackle this situation?

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It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.  Tony Robbins

Of all the numerous faults that one can be accused of, being indecisive is one of the most serious faults for it makes a person fearful, confused, inept and paralyzed, thereby losing out on opportunities to progress, be productive and attain success. The sports arena illustrates this best when an indecisive player becomes a bane for the team and the game by poor coordination and shoddy performance. Ever noticed the mispasses on the field, wayward shooting at the goal and the back chatting between team members; many of these are symptomatic of the malaise of poor decision making. In real life, anyone who often echoes his/ her concern of being confused can be quickly identified as someone prone to avoid taking a decision. Sadly, very often many of these people become indecisive not because they lack inputs but because there are too many equally attractive options or equally scary consequences and deciding on any one is challenging.

Here are four pointers to help one become an effective decision maker.

Analyze extensively but don’t get paralyzed by it. Paralysis by analysis is the bane of those who believe in extensive study in order to minimize the chances of failure. Most people would profess to study threadbare the situation that needs a decision so as to be able to make the best decision, but subconsciously many of them are trying to find the best way to hedge their decision should it fail. As a result making it fail safe becomes the focus rather than maximizing success. When risk appears we tend to demonize it and consequently vacillate between alternatives until forced into a decision either by time constraints or other external pressures.

Accept the reality that not all decisions will be right. Human nature comprehends failure to indicate ineffectiveness, incompetence and ineptness, faults which in our myopic opinion grievously devalue us in the eyes of others. The reality is that failure is proof that someone dared, someone miscalculated and that there could be alternatives to the path taken. How many were actually ruined by the mistakes made? Barring some who were foolhardy or blinded by a false sense of invincibility, every other person who failed learnt from those failures and bounced back with better decisive strategies.

Be aware of the consequences of taking the decision and also of not taking the decision. By being indecisive and avoiding making a commitment, the chances are that we are risking not grasping opportunities, perhaps even missing out on minimizing / avoiding failure and certainly ensuring that the original issue remains unresolved. .  Ask anyone who has invested in shares and stocks and chances are you will get more stories of failures in stock picking but probe further and then they will accept that they rue being indecisive. Many others will blame their impulsiveness in taking decisions that led to poor stock selection.

Never forget that it is only when you can bite the bullet that you can lead the charge. Every leader has invariably reached the top by getting bruised and battered in the battle field of life. What has set them apart is not just their doggedness and ability but their ability to take crucial decisions at critical junctures. At times their decisions could have backfired and send them hurtling down the steep slope of success but with renewed vigor and enthusiasm they took the decision to battle their way up.

Remember : Some people, however long their experience or strong their intellect, are temperamentally incapable of reaching firm decisions. James Callaghan

Try this:

  1. Play a game of snakes and ladders but here is the twist to make you be aware of decision making. Every time you roll the dice you have a choice to accept the number that comes up or to pass the move except if the number that is thrown up moves your counter to a slot with a snake, in which case you go down to the tail of the snake. Check how and when you make the ‘decision’ to pass your turn .Are there times you felt you made a mistake because you made the decision ‘to pass your turn or not to pass your turn’?
  2. Take a look at the video by one of the more popular lecturers at Harvard, Prof. Michael Sandel who is taking a module on the Moral Side of Murder. Remember to pause the video after he asks the first set of questions and make it a point to make ‘your DECISION’ to the question he asks. Also ensure you are clear why you made that decision.  Then continue the video till he asks the second set of questions based on a scenario he describes. Again pause the video and make a decision based on the question.  Perhaps a different facet of ‘decision making’ will emerge and challenge you. Click here to view the video http://tinyurl.com/yey37oe

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