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Physical wealth, be it money and possessions are a good measure to judge how financially secure a person is. It is also a great asset to lead a reasonably good and comfortable life. It is also a good magnet to attract friends and widen one’s social circle. It is also a good inducement to garner support, influence opinion and climb ups the social ladder. However, physical wealth would be a poor indicator of a person’s true worth. This is because wealth can be created, acquired or inherited  but wealth can never buy reputation and good will which has to be earned, respect and recognition which comes from a deep appreciation of the individual in you, your sense of fair play and justice which comes from personal values and your emotional balance and empathy for others which comes from the heart.

We need to examine these a little more in detail to understand an individual’s true worth.

Reputation and goodwill : It take a life time to build a reputation and goodwill. It comes from doing the right things at the right time, avoiding the undesirable and being perceived as someone who is dependable, principled and balanced. It based on the general perception people have of an individual over a long period of time. It is often reflected in the simplicity, humility and achievements of an individual and society’s perception of these qualities.

Respect and Recognition: Respect and recognition comes with age and maturity. How a person has grown personally and professionally would have a large bearing on this. It could also come from the insightful contribution of the individual in his social and professional environment and the positive influence he/ she has had on those around them.

Fair play and justice: Displaying fair play and justice comes largely from being principled and this in turn is largely influenced by one’s upbringing, personal values and courage of conviction. The ability to hold a minority view point, the daring to express a dissenting note and tuning one’s moral compass in the direction of what is the truth.

Emotional balance and empathy: This is tougher to judge for individuals can display a different personality in private and be very different in public. However one cannot keep a quick temper, a giant size ego, a negative aura or a irrational outbursts only in the private space. How one deals with those at your mercy, with those who look up to you for support, those who differ from you in thought word and deed are primary pointers to an individual’s emotional balance and empathy.

When you attend a funeral where there is a large turnout, do you see some of the above points being reflected in that deceased persons life and it being a prominent reason for the large turnout?  Perhaps these are also critical considerations for others who will part with their last penny if ever you seek their help. Therein lies your real worth; what others value you for.

Try these:

  1. List out 5 qualities / values/ traits that you think others really value in you. Jot out a couple of qualities/ values / traits / habits that others criticize you for. What can you do improve upon those criticisms?
  2. What are the few social problems that really irritate and annoy you? What have you done about it? Is there anything more you can do about it?
  3. How will you deal with the following:
  • You answered 6 questions instead of 5 which was the norm. The teacher corrected all the answers and erroneously added the marks of the sixth question to the total as a result of which you passed the exam. Would you bring the error to the teachers notice or ignore it?
  • You are cleaning your cupboard and come across a book you had a borrowed from a college mate five years. When the college mate asked you return the book, since you could not find it, you lied to him/ her that you had returned it. The friend was upset with you since he/she did not recollect you returning the book.  A couple of years have gone by since that incident and you are not in touch with that college mate but you do know in which city he/ she is. Would you pick up courage to return the book and apologize to that friend? Alternatively what would you do?
  • You are on an outstation trip and while walking you stumble upon a wallet containing Rs.15,000. In that wallet you find some torn papers listing out a couple of names of individuals. It also has a dry cleaners bill of a certain city and a tailors bill of another city. The names on both these bills are different. Both the bills do not have any telephone numbers on it. What will you do?

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32-power-of-self-esteemMost of our problems can be attributed to either over confidence or lack of confidence. Our focus today would be on latter issue of lack of confidence, which essential has its roots in our poor self esteem. Self esteem is confidence in one’s own worth and abilities. Our poor self esteem could be an outcome of various negative influences, experiences and / or our own mindset. Constantly being criticized, facing a couple of failures, our inability to take risks, are some of the key influencers that dent self esteem. While we cannot completely erase the past, we certainly can take some proactive steps to ensure that we recognize our self esteem and build up on it to improve, contribute and prosper. The quick three step approach is as follows

Believing you can do it: The important thing here is to first have something to believe in. So it is better you have a clear goal and a plan to achieve it. When we attempt to set goals, the first hurdle we face is questioning ourselves if the goal is worthwhile, doubting our ability to attain it and constantly comparing the goal with other alternatives and / or with our perception of goals set by others. Setting goals that revolve around our passion, our talent, our flair and our motivation is a simple way to make a wish list. Once this wish list is outlined, translate them into goals with a clearly outlined strategy to attain it, being aware of your own efforts that would have to accompany your dreams to turn it into a reality and believing that you have it in you to make it come true. Your belief comes from your willingness to make the sacrifices that invariably precedes the reward, the confidence within you that you will take it to its logical conclusion and the drive and motivation within you to make it happen.

Believing you deserve it: While you may have a clear goal, an inner urge to push yourself to attain the goal and a very strong desire and motivation, what can possibly play spoil sport is your reluctance to acknowledge that you deserve the success you are aiming for. It is the belief that you are just as deserving as the next person to dream big and reach for the stars that sets apart the winners from the also ran’s. Every start up is based on this one key principle that you are as capable of coming up with a winner as the existing or future competitor. Every employee who believes that he deserves better is the one who makes the upward move either laterally or within the same organization. A realistic personal SWOT analysis would be a good spring board to launch your future, for that is when you put your beliefs to the test.

Believing you’ll get it: The initial period when you dare is often fraught with risk and confusion. Every small set back would dent your confidence and you begin to doubt if you will get what you crave. Almost everyone rushes in with enthusiasm but the sheer effort that is required to keep the momentum going is herculean and that is when one begins to falter. It is only the belief that you will attain what you have planned no matter what the cost, no matter what price you have to pay, that will energize you to keep going. A blind belief would not me of much use, but belief backed by appropriate action is the key. The belief that you will get it must appropriate trigger action and soon the near impossible begins to happen to us. Your belief is like the recharge in your mobile phone; every recharge boosts its ability to deliver each day.

Believe that you can do it; believe that you deserve it; believe that you will get it !

I just used the same principle to get my blog posts going; I can vouch it works !

Try these:

  1. Click on the following link to get a comprehensive write up on Self Esteem:  http://tinyurl.com/jsnu97p 
  2. Make a list of the following and achieve it.
  • The amount of money you can raise for your favorite charity in the coming week.
  • A current topic about which you are passionate, about which you will write a letter to the editor of a local newspaper, within a fortnight.
  • A local historical site or tourist spot or museum which you have not visited but will do so in the next 1 month
  • Three life style changes that you are keen to bring about, which you will work on immediately and see the expected results within a year. E.g. Lose 10 kgs weight by year end

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18-11 July 15 It is who you become that mattersWith age comes wisdom, distilled from the years of experience. The realization then would be both unexpected and baffling initially and then it would be an awakening. In the flourish of youth we have lofty dreams, craving for the materialistic and a don’t care attitude, to ideas that do not meet our expectations. We are conscious about our appearance, seek to have the latest gadgets and accessories, are casual about our manners, are blissfully unaware of the risks we subject ourselves to and have a whole lot of idols to worship be they sports persons or actors. We are constantly chasing an elusive dream, through imitation and possibly trying to fit into the system around us.

Having tried and not really succeeded in what we imagined would bring us success, fame and popularity, we make the realization that we pursued were not goals and dreams but mere symbols of momentary applause and envy. As we evolve and gain experience we also mature and begin to rethink our priorities. Suddenly all our priorities of our youth look a tad foolish, maybe even naive and you wonder how you could be such a sucker for them. Unfortunately, we are often not very clear about the goals we want to purse but occasionally we do get more clarity on what we certainly don’t want to pursue. This itself is a good beginning, for by eliminating what we don’t want, we can see the more suitable options more clearly. What is common to all those who are successful, attain fame and recognition is that they have created and used the opportunities, have been hardworking and diligent in the pursuit of their goals and it is their qualities that are more recognized than their achievements and their possessions are always secondary to their passion and purpose.

To evolve as a person and to leave a mark in this world focus on

Your character – This is the personality that you would be always recognized and appreciated for. It is a mix of your values, your abilities, your performance and your dependability. The values help you define the boundaries of the ethics you follow, your abilities are testimony to your potential, your performance is proof of you utilizing your potential to the full and your dependability outlines the confidence a third party can have in you.

Your discipline – Discipline is the path that can be lonely, rough, difficult and frightening but it surely will lead you to any goal you set for yourself. Discipline is the test of your character put into action. Sacrifice is an essential element of discipline for whatever your do you are giving up a more pleasurable alternative purely to focus on you goal.

Your ideals – Small success give small results. It is therefore essential that we have large ideals, set the bar higher than what we can rationally imagine and make the goals worthwhile. Passing an exam is often the simplest goal a persona can have but outdoing one’s own performance of the past would be wonderful ideal to have.

Your sense of justice and fair play – Temptations often lead us astray; be it a tendency to cheat, be unethical in dealings, being unjust to those who cannot fight back or simply ignoring someone in difficulty because you don’t want to be party to the consequences. A sense of justice and fair play may come at a price but it is also an integral part of your character building process.

Your self belief – Not all our lofty ideals and plans will bear fruit all the time. Failure is common place but it is your self belief that will give you the energy and the will to get up and pursue your goals. Without self belief you would have too many doubts, constantly focus on the difficulties, turn into a pessimist and miss out on wonderful opportunities around.

Try these:

  • Write a poem or short story or draw a cartoon or record a song or take photographs on a theme of your choice and get a feedback from your close friends on it. Don’t worry about their cynicism or criticism nor be taken in too much by their praise and applause. Unless you try you won’t discover the potential you have within.
  • Identify 5 personalities you admire. List out the specific trait /s that you admire in them. Are there any traits you can adopt / adapt?
  • What is the most frequently heard criticism about yourself that you get from your family and friends? What have you done to minimize / eliminate this criticism?

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