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Here is your assignement for the year

  1. You will receive a body. Quickly peek at yourself in the mirror. Better still admire your pictures preferably starting with the ones from your childhood, school days , college days, wedding time…. Have you noticed how you have grown? If you need to improve on you physical self, what is stopping you? Learn to love your body and you will take care of it better.
  1. You will learn lessons. Each day brings about new learning. It is a mixed bag; exciting, boring, painful, fun filled. How you learn from the lessons of life will make a qualitative difference to your daily living and your attitude and your circle of influence. Let the bitter lessons make you better and the exciting lessons motivate you.
  1. There are no Mistakes; only lessons.Mistakes are what we label those efforts that are not channelized right. In life no effort goes waste for it is the fount of all learning and so there are no mistakes only lessons from which we learn. If you stub your toe, is it a mistake? If you choose to attempt something dangerous and fail is that a mistake? If you decide to be a silent spectator instead of an active participant is that a mistake?
  1. A lesson is repeated until it is learned.This is the reason we keep repeating our mistakes for the lesson is not fully imbibed by us. If failure is a bitter lesson, success is a lesson in seeing hard work and effort pay off. Along the way there are lessons learnt from frustrations, irritation, patience, annoyance, disappointments and the like.
  1. Learning lessons does not end.Just when you think you have mastered something, you are faced with a new test. It could be handling people, coping with personal and professional challenges, sudden changes in social, professional or personal environment.
  1. ‘There’ is no better than ‘Here’An old adage that states that the ‘grass is greener on the other side’ sums it up all. No matter what we strive for or attain, when we look back each moment of our life has its own significance. While our riches and successes add luster to our life, we often lapse into the recess of our ‘good old days’ too. Don’t we all nostalgically look back to the days gone by?
  1. Others are merely mirrors of you.While your individuality is unique, the reality is that we have much more in common with each other than what we can imagine. Each one of us shares the same emotions and express ourselves in ways much like others. In liking or disliking others we are merely mirroring an image that we consciously or unconsciously have imbibed. The same is true of everyone else. Isn’t it time we made and effort to imbibe the best and thereby reflect the best in us and simultaneously learn to see the good in others?
  1. What you make of your life is up to you.People, circumstances and luck are labels we give to justify our success or failures in life. The truth is that it is up to us to gravitate towards the right people, chance upon the right circumstances and make the best of every opportunity that comes our way. As Longfellow says ‘We are the captain of our ship, the master of our fate’
  1. The answers lie inside you.Far too often we ask the wrong questions and alas we end up with frustrating answers.  We crave for what we do not have, pine for what we do not deserve and can conjure up a million excuses to justify ourselves. Ask yourself ‘what is it that I am seeking’ and presto you will see the way forward, grasp the truth and suddenly your life will light up too.
  1. Whether you think you can or can’t, in either case you will be right.To sum it all up, it is all in your mind. Think right, feel right, live right is the message.

So there is no better time than now to grasp the truth, face the reality and rework on your life and make it a journey of happiness and fulfillment.

Try this:

  • Have a relook at your New Year Resolution and if you don’t have one, get down to writing it down. For reference look up the immediate preceding post.
  • If not in one sentence, at least in 3- 5 sentences can you write down your personal ‘mission’ statement.
  • Out of the above 10 truths, pick the one truth that appeals the most to you and make it your ‘statement of purpose’ for the coming year.

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13-7-Oh this is me

First read the words above again and then proceed to read further with a smile on your face for you have discovered your true self now. Not just you but check with family and friends and you will find that each one of them will identify with the above reality. The pain, sufferings and mistakes are often the first thing that we recollect when we try to rationalize our journey thus far.  The successes we have enjoyed, the achievements and accolades received are often seen as insignificant compared to the effort, the hurdles and problems that we have battled. Yet, we would in rare moments of candidness, admit that the journey thus far has been worth it for it made us better, more resilient and definitely proud of ourselves.

The reality is that almost everyone feels that he/ she could have done a lot better if only…

  • We worked harder
  • We were a wee bit luckier
  • We had the daring to follow our heart
  • Were a wee bit more patient
  • Could control our emotions and manage relationships better etc.

Since the past cannot be undone, there is little to gain by ruing over it. Yet, by our very nature we tend to lapse into ruminations about the past, particularly those events/ situations that we wish could be undone. That is when, we need to be more pragmatic, be more optimistic and seek out the blessings that every experience has given us.  To begin with, you are alive and well enough to still influence the course of your life and destiny.  No matter what your age, what your social or economic background or what your education is, hope exits as long as there is life.

Here are 3 steps to lead a more fulfilling and rewarding life

Map your coordinates. Do a realistic assessment of your personal, financial, career related and social status. This could involve deep thinking, extensive note making and should ideally also include free and frank discussions with family and friends.  Do not shy away from noting the negatives, the concerns that need to be addressed and the occasional candid but unpleasant feedback you get.

Adjust your compass. If mapping the coordinates felt like a burden, adjusting the compass is sheer torture. This is because for once you have to purposefully look to the future with hope and fortitude but with the baggage of the coordinates grounding you to reality. So while we may have fanciful ideas, imagine pots of gold at the end of the illusionary rainbow we fancy, the path would we long winded, uphill and rocky. The secret lies in generating enough passion within yourself to sustain and motivate you to that goal.

Proceed purposefully. Once the goal is clear and the current coordinates established no matter how far the goal is we need to proceed with hope, determination and joy. While hope kindles the spirit, determination propels is in the journey and it is the joy in the journey that makes the effort easier and smoother.

Look in the mirror and do you see a more confident you?  If you have cone thus far, there is nothing that can stop you now from attaining your goals.  Keep striding , striving and succeeding !

Try this:

Go in front of the mirror and try to get the following expressions on your face

  • Happiness
  • Anger
  • Disgust
  • Frustration
  • Pain
  • Irritation
  • Coyness
  • Indifference

(How tough or easy was it for you to do it? Do you have a better appreciation of the job of an actor/ actress when they have to emote on screen? Do you think you can do a better job of emoting in front of the mirror if you had a situation or scene or script to give you an authentic setting for the emotions to be expressed? Do you think that script is equally to the Compass for an actor?)

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Living at risk is jumping off the cliff and building your wings on the way down. Ray Bradbury

The concept of risks and reward go hand in hand; the higher the risk the greater the reward. The trouble is that each one of us has a different perception of risk and obviously if we get it wrong then we are in real danger of paying a very heavy price. Many of us have flirted with this type of risk right from childhood; by banking on last minute studies to somehow cleat h exams and if lucky even do reasonably well too. Many of us despite getting into trouble by taking undue risks still thrive on skating on thin ice at great peril to ourselves. Speculators in general and gamblers in particular get a high by constantly wagering and taking chances.

Risk taking assumes that one has some safe guards put in place before we plunge into it. The more macho amongst us would have their ego tickled if told to ensure the mandatory safe guards and would probably rebel and perhaps heighten the risk factor to become a hero. They not only endanger themselves but put at risk others too by their irresponsible and often foolhardy behavior. What they fail to understand is that risk is quite different from a gamble or a lottery. A gamble or a bet is often impulsive, has a predominant financial angle to it and have far too many variables that have a major influence on the outcome. In the case of a lottery, the stakes are much lower, the rewards reasonable and luck plays the most important role in it.

Never put all your eggs in once basket is an old adage that succinctly captures a key element of risk viz. do not risk everything. Yet greed and power are two emotions that have a major bearing on how one perceives risks. When one is greedy our sense of reasoning is completely obscured by the lure of big returns and we ignore the risks involved or rationalize it conveniently. When drunk with power a person’s sense of control and influence takes on a falsely inflated proportion which when pricked can send things into a tail spin and a crash landing is the obvious ending. Often the arrogance of a person goads him/ her to take undue risks far beyond one’s own abilities and when things go wrong there is no safety net to cushion the free fall.

To take reasonable risks, one has to be pragmatic and at the same time have the courage to widen the scope of our comfort zone.  When one is pragmatic the chances of ensuring that we have studied the risks carefully is very high. More importantly the true natures of the risks are clearly understood and a fall back/ safety mechanism is put in place. A pragmatic person will only have reasonable expectations and therefore take on only a reasonable amount of risk. To ensure that we get a decent reward one also has to be a risk taker. That is where courage counts. There is always some danger lurking around but once we know the extent of that danger, and we have made arrangements to minimize that, then one needs to have the courage to take the risk. Without courage there will not be any risks taken and then we would be risking not latching on to some fine opportunities.

Remember: “Thoughtless risks are destructive, of course, but perhaps even more wasteful is thoughtless caution which prompts inaction and promotes failure to seize opportunity.”Gary Ryan Blair

Try this:

  1. Evaluate your investments and outline your risk profile. Consult a good investment consultant to guide you about your risk profile and align it with your age profile. The younger you are the more risks one can take and as one gets older the mix changes.
  2. If you were forced to go with friends to a casino how much would you spend gambling? Will you get influenced by the high spending by some of your friends? Would you be under pressure to spend more by friends who chide you and suggest that you are stingy?

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I wept because I had no shoes, until I saw a man who had no feet. Ancient Persian saying

Look around and you will find a hundred things to be grateful for but most times we are bitterly complaining, comparing and cursing our fate simply because we do not get what we want. As human beings we have the yoke of the seven deadly sins of Lust, Anger, Pride, Sloth, Envy, Gluttony and Greed. Each of these sins provokes the human mind to visualize images of having the second best or noting at all and therein lies the bane of the human race; our envy of others, our feeling of dissatisfaction and our propensity to rave and rant about the unfairness of life.

On the other hand if we consciously look out for people who are contented with life, you will find that almost all of them sport a smile, they are simply happy to be blessed with whatever they have and they have no materialistic desires or cravings. Study them from close quarters and we also realize that their happiness stems from their contentment and joy they experience by whole heartedly embracing the bounty they are blessed with. The issue that often worries us is that many of them seem to be in far worse of position than our own and yet they seem to be in a perpetual state of bliss. We cannot comprehend how those who have far lesser than us who are always cribbing can find so much of riches in their own life. Ironically their happiness and contentment make us more frustrated that they are happy and we are not.

Instead one must seek out how and why those less fortunate than us can live in peace happiness and contentment. The secret lies in their mindset and their attitude. Anyone who is happy has first of all decided to be happy. No matter what the circumstances they make it a point to see something to cheer about, something to warm their cockles and keep their spirits up. The next thing they consciously do is be grateful for whatever they have. Even if they have an illness they are grateful that it is nothing more serious. If they have lost something, they would be grateful that the loss is limited. The one thing they don’t do is compare what others have with they own possessions. This enables them to avoid feelings of envy, jealously, frustration etc. It also enables them to understand their own requirements better and aspire only for what they really need and therefore limit their wants and desires and quite often attaining it and thereby managing to live in a perennial state of happiness.

We too can change our mindset and adopt these practices. The first step is to realize that those who are happy are stress free for they have nothing really to worry about. Being stress free automatically improves our health, self belief and attitude. This must be followed up with the practices of appreciating the many blessings we get each day. It could be the pleasure of a bright lovely morning, the aroma of a hearty breakfast, the boisterous and carefree shouts of children at play or the success of a venture or a personal agenda. Obviously the toughest test to pass is a conscious decision not to be envious or frustrated at another’s wealth, possessions or successes. We must when such temptations lure us, remember that if we succumb then it is essential that we also compare the burdens, trials and tribulations of the other person too. After all no one ever lives on a bed of roses perennially.  The happiest person too carries his own cross and personal burden and his happiness is despite these woes that he has to shoulder. Are our problems, troubles or woes as bad as what many others go through?

Remember: “Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.”

Try this:

  1. Can you make a list of 5 things that you desperately craved for in your growing up years but were denied it. Can you think of reasons why you were denied it? On hindsight did those denials affect your life in any major way?
  2. You are in the hot seat in the game ‘Who wants to be a millionaire’ / Kon Banega Crorepati. You have Rs,50 lakhs and have to attempt the question to get Rs. 1 crore with no lif lines left.  If you lose you go back with just Rs.3,20,000. However if you win, you get an additional life line for the Rs.5 crore prize which is a roll of the dice. Here for the Rs.5 crore prize, a dice with 4 numbers is rolled and the number appearing will be matched with the answer on the corresponding box. If it is the right answer you get the prize of Rs.5 crores straight away. However if it is wrong then that answer is eliminated and you have to choose from the reaming 3 answers only. Would you attempt the Rs.1 crore question with a great chance of winning the Rs.5 crore prize or take the Rs.50 lakh prize and quit the game ?

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A wise man will make more opportunities than he finds. Francis Bacon

Almost all of us are searching for that one big break that will change our life for the better forever. Very  few of us get that break because far too often we require a lucky break and not too many of us have that kind of luck. On the other hand if one were to actively go about creating opportunities, there would be an equal number of possibilities of success. The difference between searching for opportunities and creating them is simply that the former is a more passive activity where as the latter is a very proactive effort. E.g. Buying a lottery ticket is the equivalent of searching for an opportunity whereas someone who does his homework and decides to set up his own business is attempting to create opportunities.

Study the lives of any of the big entrepreneurs who have made their millions in software related activities be it the founders of Google or Facebook or closer home a Naukari .com or Redbus.com. The common thread that binds all of them is the fact that they business model was formulated because they attempted to solve a problem that was bugging them. Instead of searching for a solution that existed in the market place they preferred to solve the problem themselves and in the process created a massive opportunity for themselves. Most of when faced with a problem would try to avoid it, pass it on to others or make a weak attempt to solve it or in desperation just give up.

To create opportunities one need not be a very creative thinker or a person with extraordinary intelligence or someone who is really street smart. What is really needed is an inquisitive mind, a passion to do something different or do things differently, tremendous self belief and a steely resolve to pursue ones impulse no matter what the odds. It is also important that one can see the big picture of how the opportunity really will pan out on a large scale, have a strong heart and will to weather the storms that are very possible and probable and the insight to recognize a possible dead end and give up if the need arises. Giving up might sound ironical when making opportunities but many a time we need to give up some personal passions because the same would not fit into the overall roadmap chalked for success. Eg In a business venture one might have to give up a sizeable stake to ensure one gets the right financers at the right time or the overall venture might look wonderful on paper but might never really take off!

Look at prolific authors or inventors. They never sit back and simply gloss over their success and achievements. They are charged up to take on a new challenge and they then create a wonderful new opportunity to succeed again. This is the secret to making opportunities and scripting success. Making a new friend is an opportunity that can backfire if the friendship sours but perhaps it also opens up opportunities to make new friends who can comfort and perhaps become lifelong friends too. One must constantly attempt to make new opportunities no matter what the outcome. Some ventures will succeed some will fail, but opportunities remain constant.

Remember: “Most successful men have not achieved their distinction by having some new talent or opportunity presented to them. They have developed the opportunity that was at hand.”  Bruce Marton

Try this:

  1. Outline 3 pressing problems that irritate you or annoy you. Now list out various possibilities of solving them. Do you see an opportunity to effectively solve the problem?
  2. A small boy was trying hard to push a huge boulder. He was trying his best and pushing hard but the boulder wouldn’t budge. As he was panting and attempting again, his father came to the spot and observed the boys efforts. In a loud voice, his father asked ‘Son are you using all your strength?’ and the boy replied ‘Yes dad I am using all  my strength’ but the boulder didn’t move. Then the boy took a break to wipe the sweat of his brow and resumed his attempt at pushing the boulder. Again the father asked in a loud voice ‘ Son are you sure you are using all your strength ?” . This time in an irritated voice the son replied ‘ Dad cant you see I am doing my best and using all my strength. Why do you keep asking me that question again and again he retorted to his father”  What do you think was the fathers reply to his sons question?

 

( The Answer will be given in the post of Monday 18th Oct 2010)

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You don’t just luck into things … You build step by step, whether it’s friendships or opportunities. Barbara Bush

You prepare to be favored by luck. Just examine all the lucky breaks you got in life and you will realize that you did something effectively prior to you running into that luck. It could be simply doing the monotonous task diligently and you were noticed for promotion or doing your studies regularly and you were lucky to get some questions that most others left in option for lack of time. Many a time the luck you get is not so obvious and it is much later that you realize the break you got was due to the seeds you planted many years ago. A classic example is the friendships formed in school days. These were mostly on account of common interests, comfort level and compatibility. Sometimes, much later in life you come to value those friendships for they back you up when no one else will.

Look at those who are involved in research. There is no guarantee that their efforts will bear the fruits they hope to get. Yet their self belief, dedication and unwavering focus often leads them to achieve success simply because they didn’t quit nor change tracks when the going got tough. Look at the numerous aspiring singers. Very few of them will get that big lucky break, but it is imperative that each of them continue their study of music and practice regularly to ensure that they are prepared to grasp the lucky break with both hands. Take people in the creative field be it movies, art, advertising etc. They have to constantly churn out ideas but not all of them will click. Yet they continue to pursue their art and are assured of the right breaks.

Many a time luck is all about taking the right chances at the right time. Look at the numerous success stories of people who gave up a high paying corporate life to pursue their own dreams. Not just their fortunes but event their own quality of life might have changed for the better because he/ she took that bold step of quitting their jobs and risking it for their own venture. There are others who never gave up when told they would never amount to anything. Walt Disney and the Beatles are prime examples of those who flirted with their self belief and ran into luck. Luck is always there around the corner but you have to walk that little bit and lo and behold you will encounter her there.

Remember: Chance favors the prepared man!

Try these:

  1. Think of the two most cherished things you desire the most. It could be getting a good job, settling abroad, making a million bucks in the next year etc. Now ask yourself if you have done enough on your own to entice luck to pay you a visit? If not start doing your bit in right earnest and you can be sure luck will come calling soon.
  2. Check out your own attitude when someone gets a lucky break. Do we get jealous? Do we envy them? Do we stop to think that they deserved the lucky break? Can you visualize the price that they pay for their luck? E.g. Successful movie actors have to compromise on their privacy because of their fan following or a Award winning author is under pressure to become equally successful next time too.

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The one who is intent on making the most of his opportunities is too busy to bother about luck. B.C. Forbes

It is common for us to make an observation that a successful person has been very lucky. While the fact may be partially true, we miss the big picture that any one who is successful has worked for it and by sheer dint of hard work, perseverance and acumen has achieved success. Quite often if you delve into the life of the successful person, you would discover that failure has been the stepping stone on which he / she has climbed the ladder of success.

As you would have observed in our post on “Opportunity” dated 9th Feb2010, every one of us is blessed with ample opportunities. Many of us fail recognize  it, most of us see it as an obstacle and the large majority of us are waiting for the lucky break in the form of a financial windfall, an inherited business, a sudden promotion at the work place, the abrupt departure of superior etc. The question we need to ask is, when the lucky break comes are you prepared to make the best of it?

Note a very insightful observation of the legendry golfer Gary Player, when he said “The harder I work, the luckier I get”. He simply stated the key to success; Hardwork. Hardwork is not simply ploding along; then a mule would be very successful, it isn’t just being faithful and diligient; then a dog would do a better job nor is it just blood, toil, tears and sweat; the Churchill mantra. Hardwork is all these and more; a focused approach to work, a thoughtful application of mind and physique to the tasks on hand, an insightful scanning of work environment  and adding value to all you do. The lucky breaks will pop up at the right moment, which is actually all the time; are you observant, opportunistic and dynamic enough to grab them, even when they often appear masquerading as problems to be solved, obstacles to be overcome and challenges that cannot be sidestepped. Go beyond the obvious- and for once you will find the elusive pot of gold at the end of the rainbow!

Remember: “Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.”

Try these:

  1. Name three personalities who you think are very lucky. Can you list out the luck they have had or was it just your intuition that they were lucky? When these people got their lucky breaks was it by accident or was it in the course of their daily work / profession that they were blessed with luck?
  2. Visit the following website http://www.lifewithoutlimbs.org/ and can you outline what were the lucky breaks the hero Nick Vujicic got in life? Do also visit the video links
to get more inspired and to realize how LUCKY YOU are!
  1. In what way do you want to get lucky? If it is money you want, have you purchased a lottery ticket? Objectively ask yourself if you are ready to take the lucky break when it comes; have you the confidence, the expertise, the knowledge, the skills, the leadership qualities, the decision making ability, the man management skills, etc

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