Tag: Be happy

Being joyful always

30-Joys we experience

Many a time I have been posed the question as to what is the secret of happiness. While I have grappled with sharing a pragmatic answer, I have now realized that the secret lies in just finding joy in the moment. I can see the skeptics sharpening their knives and rebutting me saying you have never experienced what we have gone through so it is easy for you to liberally dish out such ‘pearls of wisdom’. Pause for a moment and focus on the ills and tribulations of someone else whom you know intimately and ask yourself if you would like to trade places with them. Chances are you are more comfortable with your own challenges rather than taking on another ills. Do you notice a sigh of relief that relatively speaking, you seem to be better off.

Finding joy in the moment is not as complicated as you think it is. You need to merely tweak you attitude, realign your thinking and focus on the positives and before long you will be spreading joy around.

Tweak your attitude – remove cynicism; avoid sarcasm; have faith; believe in yourself; like what you have to do; don’t be an escapist.

Realign your thinking – seek out opportunities; create chances; find solutions; concentrate on what you want; remove the knots that tie you up – the cannot, will not, do not etc.

Focus on positives – laugh at yourself; find something good in everything- people, situations, life; empower your being – your looks, your emotions, your thoughts and your deeds.

If you still find it hard to experience joy whilst reading this, let me give you a hint as to why you must be joyful this very moment. Be joyful that you are reading this because it that means you are alive, you are literate, you have access to a computer, you can see, you found this website, your thinking has been stimulated, you have an opportunity to learn, you have made a new realization, you have something new to share and the list goes on and on…

Try this:

  1. If you are given just 10 minutes to write 5 sentences to just loved one whom will you write it to and take a paper and write it NOW.
  2. You have 2 opportunities to win a handsome sum of money. The first is to do a parachute jump and you can get 1 million USD OR you have to give 1,000 USD and buy a lottery ticket which has a 20% chance of winning you 25,000 USD. Which opportunity will you grab?

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Life story

Ten out of ten people die, so don’t take life too seriously.

After diligently managing to write this blog almost daily during 2010, I made a momentous decision to write only from Sunday to Thursday thus giving myself a break on Friday and Saturday. It was a tough decision to make for I was quite certain that I was letting my readers down. However things got worse when last week a combination of lack of motivation, overwhelming laziness and some minor illness combined to distract me from writing the blog with the same sense of urgency of the previous year.  I was therefore rather distraught when a couple of followers checked out with me as to why I had not posted my blog for a couple of days.  I was however  jolted into reality that I should set my own pace and enjoy what I do rather than force myself to do it because life is to be lived and not become a mere existence for me or for that matter for anyone. Today’s quote simply reiterates the point.

A simple test to understand the point is to recollect the names of people whose company you enjoy and to simultaneously list those people who, given a choice, you would avoid at all costs.  There would be a common thread that binds the first set of people and a dramatically different tread that binds the second set of people.  The first set of people would invariably be gregarious, have a contagious laugher, be very positive, often are spontaneous and they never seem to carry or display their problems or worries. On the other hand the second set of people seem to be glum, morose, negative, brooding, perhaps offensive in interactions and definitely seem to be cross with themselves and the world at large and their own fate in particular.

So how does one ensure that life is not burden to be carried but a song to be sung? The obvious answer is to reorient our mental conditioning and to view life as a song and not a burden. The next step is to set aside all worries about being a competent singer but to sing with the gay abandon that we all display as bathroom singers. Yes the key is to enjoy the song in our heart and sing to the beat that stirs us passionately. This kind of an attitude is not as easy as it sounds for many of us are more concerned as to how to utilize the lottery winnings than in the probability of winning the lottery. Life becomes a burden when we try to meet other people’s expectations and then we are in the vice like grip of the seven deadly sins of pride, envy, glutton, lust, anger, greed and sloth.

To be more pragmatic, here is a little self test. How many of us know anything much about our own great grandfather/ grandmother? In 99% cases the answer will be that we know precious little about him/ her. Yet we would believe that they did in their time contribute significantly to the family tradition and sustenance and possibly took their roles very seriously. Yet a couple of generations down the line there is no remembrance about the contribution let alone recognition. If they lead their lives in all seriousness and in a dour and self sacrificing manner, they would be definitely regretting it now. On the other hand if they had fun while taking care of their responsibilities they would have happily, cheerfully and ardently welcome death; for as the philosopher said ‘in the long run we are all dead’.

Remember: “Laugh as much as you breathe and love as long as you live.”

Try this:

  1. Recollect 3 of the happiest moments of your life. Now identify the reasons for that happiness. One of the prime reasons could be that almost everyone around enjoyed that moment. Now look at yourself as an inexhaustible reservoir of good cheer and begin to live life with a smile.
  2. Make a list of the following
  • The 3 regrets you have in life
  • The 3 hurts you cannot forget
  • Your three most painful moments
  • The 3 people you haven’t thanked enough
  • The 3 ambitions yet to be fulfilled
  • Your three favorites jokes

Now thrash the first three lists and begin working on the next three lists.

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