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17- 14 May 17-Discover yourselfThe first step is to believe you are unique… different from your siblings, your twin and from every other human being ever created or to be created. Once you realize this, it should be a strong motivator for you to leverage your uniqueness and showcase your identity to the world. Far too often we associate academic or sporting brilliance at an early age as a sure sign of future success. The reality is that with few exceptions, most of those who showed early promise could not cope with the pressures of the world or did not have the nerve to move out of their comfort zone and make a unique mark. Of course the word successful is relative. As long as you use your talents, promise and abilities to become someone better than anyone hoped you would, it could be a fair indicator of talent. A better measure would be if you are happy with what you have achieved and do not have any regrets about not fulfilling your promise, that would be real success.

To become what you are capable of, focus on these:

Believe in yourself – Have the confidence that you have it in you to do something special. While academic excellence could boost your chances of doing well, it is actually the self belief, the discipline and the passion that one brings in, that opens the doors to achievement and success. Self belief also fortifies you against nay-sayers, the critics, those who discourage you and those who constantly belittle your progress. Self belief gives you the energy to carry on when progress seems slow or non-existent and when obstacles and failures occasionally threaten to derail your plans.

Be prepared to learn – Every type of formal learning as well the experiences of each passing day, gives invaluable practical learning. The challenge is to be open minded and willing to soak in the learning. Occasionally the learning can be tough and painful; other times it can be easy and simple. The key is to seek out the learning each day and put it into practice by adopting / adapting good practices and giving a wide berth / avoiding the bad practices.

Be prepared to fail – Failure is an essential requirement for success, for it is the true measure that explains life’s uncertainties and challenges.  It also prepares one to anticipate troubles, teaches one to think creatively, toughens one to face adversities and most of all it helps one to realize one’s own potential, passion and purpose. Failure is also a sure sign that one is trying and doing something and not merely day dreaming.

Be prepared to take risks –Although one is prepared to fail, there is always the psychological barrier that often limits us from daring, moving out of our comfort zone and taking the big leap. Many a time it is the outcome of ‘paralysis by analysis’. Other times it is simply because the going is good and so why test one’s potential attitude. Unless one thirsts for success, enhances one’s benchmark, craves to make a mark, the risk taking ability remains dormant. Visualizing the big picture, focusing on the ultimate goal and challenging yourself are the best ways to take risks and realize one’s latent potential.

Keep going – There could be setbacks, you could get tired and discouraged and occasionally the mind would waver and set in motion negative thoughts. Pause but do not stop. Catch your breath, reinforce your zeal, get inspired by your vision, be motivated by the challenge you have taken up and keep going.

You have a point to prove to yourself; to be somebody nobody thought you could be !

Try these:

  1. List out the 5 – 10 things you were keen on doing but which others discouraged you from doing or that which people said was beyond your capability. Now choose one which you are still passionate about and set yourself a deadline and a plan of action to achieve it. Begin now.
  2. If you have an audience, what is the one ability that you can showcase and grab their attention? It could be a magic/ card trick, an exquisite piece of musical talent, it could be mimicry, cartooning or painting or sketching, telling your favorite joke in your own unique style, creating your own limerick instantaneously etc.

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30 -The 5W's of LifeX Y and Z have always got their share of glory or infamy depending on how much you liked algebra and geometry but it is the alphabet W is that we focus on today. To begin with W has a rather awkward pronunciation but more importantly all progress is largely dependent on the answers to the 5W’s supported of course by the equally oddly pronounced H. Today we reflect on the critical role of the 5 W’s in shaping our life, our attitude and our successes.

Who am I! Your individuality is what makes you unique. Even identical twins would stand out from each other because of the differences that mark each one out. By being aware of our individual uniqueness, one can focus on strengthening ones attitude, skills, behavior and talents to contribute the world around us. Of course our uniqueness would also invite criticism, questioning, curiosity, suggestions and admiration from others who cannot possibly comprehend our individuality. Do not let that disturb you but do pay heed to it for there could be a lot of learning that emanates from such feedback. Most importantly be proud of who you are; faults, limitations, weakness notwithstanding.

What lies ahead? If the future was predictable life would be terribly boring. The wonder of waking up each day lies in the abundant mysteries that each day will unravel. There would be surprises, there would be shocks, there would be laughter, there would be tears. We value each emotion because we are blessed with the gift of experiencing these varied emotions. When we dare to explore, experiment, engage differently we are setting ourselves up for surprises and opportunities that never existed before in our limited vision. There is risk but there is larger glory beyond our comfort zone.

When life is a challenge what do I do? Each one of us has his/ her own personal challenge to cope with daily. The scope and gravity of the challenge would vary but we cannot side step these challenges. At times we get overwhelmed, other times we feel weighed down, may a time we are frustrated and almost often we get irritated and annoyed when having to deal with niggles and issues that never seem to end. Most times we have to deal only with irritants but it is the big challenges like coping with life threatening illness, being suddenly handled a pink slip, coping with a way ward offspring, getting into a financial mess bordering on bankruptcy etc. that test our character, our will, our capacity to cope and our resolve to overcome. Self belief is critical but calm rational thinking is essential too. Seeking help would not be demeaning neither would taking tough decisions be embarrassing. What is essential is not to give up, give in or surrender but to take the tough road to redemption with firm resolve.

Where the choices are equally alluring how do I decide? Every moment of your life you are making choices. Even as you read this you have the choice to continue reading or do something that you believe is more beneficial, worthwhile or important. Your choice must be based on what you think is most relevant at that point of time. It could be based on facts, it could be based on urgency, it could be based on intuition but what is important is that whatever your choice and the outcome, you must have no regrets.

Why do I feel apprehensive about the future? Frankly there is nothing that you can do about the future except to anticipate and prepare to face it. Even then, the future always surprises with its unexpected bounties and occasionally jolts us with unexpected shocks. If one were to dispassionately assess the happenings in one’s life, for the overwhelming majority the future that overcame us had largely always aided and abetted our growth, prosperity and happiness. It is true that we would all have experienced unexpected sorrow, failure and disappointment along the way but they would be far, few and in-between. A better way to tackle the future would be to try to create it; trust your instincts, take chances, work hard, follow your dreams and you will find you have arrived at your destination.

Try these:

  1. If you came in the possession of Alladin’s Lamp and were granted 3 boons, what three boons would you ask for yourself?
  2. If you were select an animal that best represents you what would be the endearing qualities that the animal has that resembles those that you possess?
  3. Can you recollect 3 crazy things that you did in your life? Did you regret doing it? What learning did you get from those experiences?

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23-24Nov 14- Success seen differentlyIn life, as in cricket no one hits a six of every ball or gets a wicket of every ball. However a cricketer continues his quest with enthusiasm and hope. Yet the same person would often feel dejected, disheartened and disappointed when his/ her life is not smooth sailing. The difference lies in how one perceives his / her involvement in whatever one undertakes. When one is passionate and involved in one’s pursuits, we would be enthusiastic about it. Maintaining this enthusiasm holds the key to one being persistent, passionate and purposeful no matter what the situation, obstacles or failures we may have to surmount. Here are some ways to enthuse yourself at all times.

Acceptance – This is the first step to getting enthusiastic about what you are engaged in. Most of the time we find fault with the job we have on hand or we focus on what we do not like about the task on hand. As a result it becomes very difficult for us to appreciate the opportunities we have to make a good impression. Those who are successful make the effort to accept the opportunity presented to them and then make best use of that opportunity by enthusiastically doing their task.

Temperance – This refers to one’s ability to bring a sense of proportion or balance to whatever one has to do. Many people get over enthusiastic when they have a new task. While this does help them start enthusiastically, the moment they encounter a problem or a hiccup in their progress, they get quickly disheartened and dispirited. On the other hand there are many who approach a new task with great apprehension and trepidation. They are cautious and circumspect and would be slow to get going and constantly seek reassurance that they are on the right track. This would result on them in displaying lack of confidence, become touchy about criticism and they would find it hard to generate sustained enthusiasm. Having a healthy balance between wild enthusiasm and extreme caution would ensure that a person is confident, motivated and pragmatic about delivering the results.

Perseverance – When one is enthusiastic one would persevere till one succeeds. Ironically perseverance results in progress which in turn becomes the fuel that keeps the fire of enthusiasm burning. Perseverance is not a virtue many are gifted with, yet it is a virtue that the successful people have carefully cultivated. Perseverance is energy sapping because one has to have self belief even in the toughest times; it demands commitment to the cause; it often asks more questions than one can correctly answer and most of all it has to overcome criticism, negative self talk and pessimism. Yet, when one perseveres it produces outcomes, not necessarily successful ones but certainly helps us know where one is going wrong but more importantly it enthuses us as we know we are getting closer to our achieving our goals.

Deliverance – They say nothing succeeds like success; which simply emphasizes the fact that one needs to deliver on ones promises. Deliverance does not refer only to the final result but also refers to successfully completing the intervening steps that leads to success. When one gets positive results, it peps one up and enthuses one to put in more positive energies so as to attain success. Occasionally one progresses well for a while before one comes across a huge challenge but the fact that one could deliver successfully and progress provides the enthusiasm to marshal all our resources to overcome the challenges faced.

Try this:

  • Are you enthusiastic enough to give your feedback about this post?
  • Assume you are given charge of organizing one minute games to be played at a party. Make a list of 10 one minute games that you are sure will keep participants enthused and eager to play
  • Choose anyone of the following activity that you have never attempted before and try to gain a level of expertise in it.
  1. Learning 2 new card tricks
  2. Learning a new sport like bowling / bridge/ snooker
  3. Learning a new style of dancing
  4. Writing a poem /limerick/ haiku
  5. Attempting a new art form like pottery / bonsai / origami

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19-30 Sept- 14 No matter how you feel

At some time or the other, especially on Monday mornings many of us are prone to feel lazy, lousy and lethargic. There are other times particularly when we have a tough task on hand or hard nut customer appointment or times when we have to convey bad news or fire people, when we are beset with the same feeling of despondency and inadequacy. Those are the times when we are challenged to bring to the fore our inner strength, push our core beliefs to the test and above all discover the leader within us.

Avoiding the task is merely postponing the problem. Ignoring the challenge would be lying to ourselves. Delegating the unpleasant to others would be an admission of inadequacy to take on responsibility. The solution lies in being brave, bold and brazen enough to banish your apprehensions and take the bull by the horns. This is best done in the following ways

Believe that you are duty bound– Everyone has a task to perform and you are duty bound to execute all that is entrusted to you. A forest ranger at great peril to his life will confront poachers just as a fireman or solider will put his / her life on the line in fulfilling his/her duties. Do you think your tasks / duties are more life threatening or dangerous? Perhaps laziness or complacency is an unwitting companion in your life which saps your motivation and zeal to hit work. Time to be aware, awake and act decisively; get up, dress up, show up for starters.

Be aware that this is testing time – Every exam time was full of stress, anxiety and apprehension for even the toppers. Most exams were planned events and we always had time to prepare. In daily life the tests are frequent, mainly unexpected and largely challenge our self belief, self discipline and resilience. Once you realize this, it is relatively easier to accept the challenges, act decisively and have a never give up attitude.

Act with prudence, passion and fairness – When we indulge in anything reluctantly, we are tempted to treat the act with contempt, seethe with anger and do the task haphazardly with the sole intent of completing it. The outcome of such hasty, tardy and reluctant effort will nearly always be slipshod and barren. Once the decision to take on the challenge is made, then doing a good job must be the only driving force. This demands we suppress our negative emotions, delve into our strengths and act with prudence, passion and fairness to achieve the b est results.

Have no regrets – There are times when despite our best efforts we do not attain success. Imagine the plight of the person standing second; it is not for lack of effort or ability but perhaps merely because of a mistake or an extra ordinary performance by the winner. However the person standing second will never regret the effort put in or the sacrifices made because the fruits of one’s labor will always be sweet for they are earned with daring, sweat and toil.

Try this:

Identify 3 aspects of your daily work life that you dislike but cannot avoid. Now for each of these, jot down 2 things that you think make this task meaningful. Next time you perform this task think of the 2 meaningful aspects of the task and see how it makes you do the task with less consternation.

You have been gifted 2 tickets for a very prized event. You are excited and all set to go for the event with your best friend. However on the previous evening of the event you are asked to urgently go to a work site in a different city on an urgent assignment lasting 2 days. How would you rationalize the complete change of plans to yourself so that you can still do meaningful and satisfying work despite the unfortunate change in plans?

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Cold prayers shall never have any warm answers. Thomas B. Brooks

The warmth with which we shake hands and greet a person often sets the tone for the further interactions and the ultimate outcome can also be fairly accurately predicted. When we exude warmth we reinforce our self belief in the other and invite the other to place trust in us. The same holds true about prayers too. If we go through the motions of prayers as often ‘Sunday Christians’ are criticized for, without the full involvement of our body, mind and soul, the piety, the fervency and the faith that characterize prayer are absent. Instead of prayer being a support for our spiritual needs it turns out to be a mere antidote for our spiritual fears.

In reality prayer is a communion with the almighty and this implies that the communication must free, frank and preferably spontaneous. Instead for ease of use, for standardizing the implementation and for mass scale availability prayer has been reduced to a predetermined set of words and phrases to be used as instructed. Prayer is nothing but a spiritual pill administered by the spiritual doctors the priests and religious instructors. The vast majority of us are happy with this arrangement because it is readily available, quickly administered and gives one a great sense of relief from the fears of divinely backlash. Unfortunately for us ,  when we look back there is still a gnawing emptiness within, a lurking fear around and a an uneasy truce with our conscience.

If prayer has to be effective, we must offer it with full faith and gratefulness. We must be active participants in the business of prayer and be fully involved in praise, worship and thanks for the many blessings that we get from the bounty of the almighty. We must be prepared to be humble in our thoughts word and deeds when we are in the presence of the almighty and with full faith and confidence seek divine intervention for our most pressing needs. When we are frustrated that our prayers are not answered, objectively notice that this happens what we lack patience, faith and trust. Some prayers take time to be answered, other prayers are answered in a different way from what we want and then are many prayers that apparently remain unanswered but in reality are answered with a resounding NO but we refuse to heed that voice.

The warmth of prayer is never in it is length or its perfection of rendition but is manifest in its genuineness and the abiding faith with which it is offered up. A sinners prayer is often more effective and well received when offered fervently and remorsefully when seeking pardon for sins than a person masquerading as a saints feeble attempts at looking pious and god fearing. Warmth revives the spirit, brings light into gloomy souls and caresses the hapless tenderly. Ask in faith, believe in earnest and receive with thanks is the maxim that succinctly describes the perfect prayer.

Remember:   There is a vast difference between saying prayers and praying

Try this:

  1. Check out the Lord’s prayer given below and analyze it phrase by phrase. What is the message it conveys to you?
  • Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come, your will be done,on earth as in heaven. Give us today our daily bread. Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us. Save us from the time of trial and deliver us from evil. [For the kingdom, the power, and the glory are yours now and forever.] Amen
  1. Make a prayer list as under
  • List of people whom you would like to pray for
  • List of things you want that you would like to pray for
  • List of special favors you seek that your would like to pray for
  • List of blessings you have received that you would like to say a thank you prayer for
  • List of sins for which you seek forgivness

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With us is the Lord our God, to help us and to fight our battles.2 Chr.

Desperation is when one has lost all hope; yet that is when we need to believe that there is still a chance for there is a superpower called’ GOD” who will never forsake us. The skeptic and the atheist will definitely counter this belief with a oft quoted argument asking ‘Where is this god when we are down and out?’ It is true that when we look around and search within ourselves there are events and incidents that make us seriously question the credibility of the existence of GOD. Why should a young person die suddenly? Why are some people given such debilitating diseases? Why am I so unlucky in love, career, and relationships? Why is there so much inequality?  If there is a GOD that exists then where is he  when we need him most?

Let us take a different approach and seek GOD in all the wonders that he has worked in our lives. The fact that you are able to read this means you are educated and have access to a computer and internet. Did you ask Why you are so blessed? Perhaps you are fairly well off and have a great relationship with family and friends. Did you stop to ask why am I so blessed? For everything that goes wrong there are a 100 things that are going perfectly right but things we simply take for granted. It is against this backdrop that one needs to realize that GOD is there in good times and in bad times but we seek his help in bad times but rarely pause to thank him for his help during the good times. Yet GOD never holds that against us and he is available for us at all times.

What we only need to do is seek GOD’s help. It is when we decide to go it all alone that we really get into deep waters. That is when we get maniacal, rebellious and suicidal. On the other hand when we seek GOD’s help our mind finds a peace denied before, our hearts search for answers and we attempt to renew our efforts. Without God we throw in the towel and surrender to the negativity and the cynicism that constantly bug us silently but forcefully. There are unfortunately far too many of us who believe that GOD will help us and wait for miracles to happen only to be deeply disappointed and anguished.  The fact is that GOD helps but we need to work for whatever we aim to achieve or seek. If you suffer from an illness we need to seek medical help, and God will perhaps direct you to the right doctor. If we want to do well in an exam we need to study and God may help us get questions to which we have prepared well. It is a 50 – 50 partnership.

Does God answer all our prayers? Yes he does! This does not mean he gives you the answers you want desperately. Instead we get the answers that are most appropriate and suitable under the circumstances. This is a little difficult to understand but if one were to see an analogy perhaps the answer will be more clear. Assume one has to choose a winner in a race we might all have our personal favorites but there is no guarantee that the said person will win. In fact there is no guarantee that the world and Olympic record holder will win every race. It depends on the performance on the day of the race. Similarly if one is born with a serious impediment one can be sure that GOD sends us many other riches to compensate for that loss. It could be a wonderfully supporting family, sharper faculties or extraordinary talent to cope with the world. What one must believe is that GOD is there to help you fight your battles provided you take up your cross and believe in him.

Remember: “Though our feelings come and go, God’s love for us does not. C.S. Lewis

Try this:

  1. Watch this video link about the Superman Hero Christopher Reeve who was paralyzed after an accident and notice his spirit. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OzHvVoUGTOM You would also love to see the video on Stuart Mangan http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=maz8UHHa9PA
  2. Try to prepare a Balance Sheet of your life. Put all the things that you would love to thank GOD for on the Asset Side and all the problems where you seek GOD’s help on the Liability Side. You may perhaps notice that the Asset side is filled with jottings and that the liability side is far too empty. The balance sheet doesn’t tally. So what are you cribbing about????

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As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.  Johann von Goethe

While we are aware that we have some special gifts and talents that others do not posses, we tend to underplay it or distrust our own abilities. In fact our one major weakness is to look up to our heroes or idols and fondly wish that we can emulate them.  It is good to have a role model to look up to but it is better if we start utilizing the gifts we are blessed with instead of taking a ‘ grass is greener on the other side’ approach. One of the reasons we do not clearly recognize our own strengths is the fact that we are not given the encouragement by those who matter most. Many a time we are also actively discouraged by others with good intent but poor acumen about your real abilities. Even you reading this post and I writing this post is guilty of such crimes; we look down on people who would want to purse the fine arts because we feel that it cannot be made a career or we discourage someone who would like to be naturalist because no one in the family ever had such an inclination and we are clueless about the future in it.

On the other hand we envy those who have the courage of conviction to pursue their dreams even in completely off beat areas and succeeded despite lack of support. We see only the final success they achieve but rarely are privy to their personal dilemmas, struggles and frustrations. A common thread that binds all these people who dared to be different is the sheer self belief and trust in their abilities. In addition, you will notice that each one of them enjoys their pursuits and life is a breeze for them. Once you can get to trust yourself, the path ahead is clear and so with single minded devotion you can traverse that path at a pace that you are free to set for yourself. Critics, skeptics and backbiters will find it difficult to discourage you and failure on the way is never an obstacle but a challenge to be overcome. In fact you enjoy each day and look forward to the challenge because you are driven by your implicit faith in your abilities and by the sheer joy of surmounting the challenges and scaling new peaks in the process.

Someone rightly observed that Life is a journey not a destination. To ensure that the journey is endless and enjoyable, we must first believe that we are capable of defining the route that gives us immense joy, happiness and success. This is possible only if we dare to believe in our abilities, trust our instincts, dare to be different and are self motivated. Suddenly LIFE takes on a whole new meaning; it is the journey that enlightens, invigorates and translates dreams into realities.

Remember: “The outer conditions of a person’s life will always be found to reflect their inner beliefs” James Allen

Try these:

  1. Can you write down the numbers from 1 to 9 in numerals so that the angles formed while writing the number equals the number written. E.g. 0 has no angles and if 1 is written without the horizontal line it will have just one angle. Attempt it on a paper with a pen or pencil . Start now ! The solution will be posted on 1st June 10.
  2. Name your 3 best friends. Now list out 2 strengths that you have which your 1st friend does not have. Repeat the same for friend 2 and 3. Also list out 3 strengths for each of your friends. Now you have to go and tell each friend that you appreciate those strengths in them and would like them to utilize it better.

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