Tag: belief

Worry

Every morning I spend fifteen minutes filling my mind full of God, and so there’s no room left for worry thoughts.   Howard Chandler Christy

Many people, particularly friends and well wishers have often asked me how I am able to keep up my New Year Resolution to write this blog every single day, in addition to my weekly blog (www.poweract.blogspot.com).  I don’t worry about how I will write if I am out of town and don’t have access to the net connection. In fact I have consciously refused to look at the topic for the next day (this is taken from a PPT that I received which is actually put up by someone not known to me at all, and which is available on (www.actspot.com) Well truth be told, I am surprised myself, but the one secret is that I have never worried about the topic for tomorrow and what my response would be. In fact for Indian readers who have seen the movie 3 Idiots, there are times when I actually tell myself ‘All is Well”

Does it mean I don’t worry?  Alas, worry will always be a constant devil that will chase you till your last breath; the antidote is ‘faith’.  When we begin every day with a prayer on your lips, faith in God and yourself and a positive frame of mind, worry will be banished for the day. However, it may make the odd appearance, when your spirits are low and a task looks daunting or a situation looks bleak and desperate.  Death for instance is a reality that everyone has to face; be it that of parents, siblings, friends, spouse or loved ones. Can we then in fear and hopelessness cower and slunk with worry? Sounds foolish but then if we are short sighted and seek escape in worry, we end up as nervous wrecks and not joyful beings.

The spate of suicides amongst us particularly the young, the youth and the students is ‘worrying’ to say the least and paradoxically is the culmination of their individual ‘worries’ seeking relief through desperate means.  If all those who have suicidal tendencies,  just pause to ask themselves one question ‘‘Will this last?’, they would have realized that most worries are by and large temporary, a few, more long term and a minuscule lot of our troubles are permanent and inescapable. Take the case of paraplegics, those suffering from terminal illness and those having mentally challenged children or siblings; they have worries of a long term and permanent nature. What is their response? They seek courage and hope in prayer and in themselves.  As Paul Brunton correctly put it “Worry is spiritual short sight. Its cure is intelligent faith.” Suicide is escape from worries not a solution or a remedy.

Remember: “Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.”Leo F. Buscaglia quotes

Try these:

  1. Most of us are scared to even think of our worries; so you have to take that special effort to outline your worries now. It could be fear of exams, apprehension about your relationships, career prospects, financial stability, a personal illness or that of a loved one etc. Once you list it down, ask yourself if the listing down makes you more anxious or more relieved that you have identified it? Now for each of the worries identify who can help you or who can you confide in and share with, your worries. Meet them at the earliest and try to get guidance and solace.
  2. Many of your worries are actually your lack of faith in yourself or your dogmatic refusal to address the concern under some garb or excuse. Be honest and review your list of worries and ask yourself if the problem is s gigantic or desperate as you make them out to be? Can many of them be partially addressed by you accepting that you have to do something about it? Are you ready to take that effort? Are you afraid, ashamed or defiant to seek help?
  3. Ask yourself the following questions and be proactive in your response! If you see that someone is in trouble and worrying, are you prepared to go that extra step and offer your help? Do you have the tendency to say that ‘ I don’t want to get involved’? Are you scared that getting involved would make me more caught up than what I really see myself wanting to? Do you realize that Listening is the best help that you can give to someone with a worry? Can you spare time to just LISTEN to another?

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Fear

Every day I wake up a little afraid.  Only a fool is never afraid. Ron Meyer 

Fear is an emotion provided by nature to rein in our bravado and foolhardiness. It is an inbuilt self preservation mechanism that cautions us, warns us and protects us from the perils of life. However, it is human nature to look at fear as an emotion that connotes weakness, belittles us in the eyes of others and devalues our self esteem. It s this misnomer about fear that often provokes us into displaying bravado at dangerous moments and rushing in where angles fear to tread.

Viewed from another angle, fear plays a positive part in shaping us as we grow. Fear of parents made us obedient, fear of authority made us disciplined, fear of biting of more than what we can chew made us pragmatic, fear of over reaching made us conservative, fear of divine retribution made us create a social structure and put in place social norms and practices. Fear has molded our thought process when we temper our ambitions with an infusion of realism; it helps us control our strong emotions so as to ensure our reactions are measured; makes us realized our own limitations and encourages us to think creatively.

Ironically one of the most common fears, world over, has very little to do with facing dangers or confronting an external enemy; rather the fear of ‘public speaking’ frightens legions of the best human talent for they find it harder to conquer the enemy within themselves – the lack of confidence and the fear of ‘exposing themselves to failure and consequent ridicule’. Surprisingly this is also one of the easiest fears to overcome for all it needs is encouragement, guidance, preparation, practice and a few sessions of practice. What a pity that a vast majority don’t take the small effort of confronting this fear by seeking expert guidance or help.

Many of our fears are mental blocks. They lock up our energy, stifle our enthusiasm and paralyses us psychologically and physically. When we attempt anything for the first time, there is always the fear of the unknown for there is no experience to back your instincts. The first attempt often helps us reduce our fears drastically, except where our experience has been terrible or exceptional scary or where it reconfirms our inability psychologically or physically. However, the self preservation nature of fear will never go for it is part of our personality that helps us prepare better, tones up our senses and makes us perform at our peak when it matters most. Like the string that restraints and guides the kite when it flies in the air, your fears restraint your from being stupidly brave and guides you in intelligent discernment.

Remember: Courage is not the lack of fear but the ability to face it.”  – Lt. John B. Putnam Jr. (1921-1944)

 Try these

  1. List out your dream activities that you have still not attempted. Ask yourself if you have ignore attempting it because you feared that they were too ambitious or your lacked financial resources or you were apprehensive of  the reactions of close family and friends or you feared the commitment an effort that you would have to put in. Do you think that it is possible for you to revive those dream activities now?
  2. What are the situations or who are the people you fear the most? What is it that you fear in these – is it because of your lack of self belief, fear of failure, the task looks too daunting that you even fear to begin planning, the person is too intimidating because of temperament, knowledge, authority or position. If given an opportunity now, would you gather courage to face these situations or persons and make an attempt to indulge in realizing your goals / dreams?

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Purity

The one thing worth living for is to keep one’s soul pure. Marcus Aurelius

An oft quoted line is ‘To err is human, to forgive divine’. How true and how applicable to me will be the immediate thought that comes to mind. As human beings, we have been given the gift of discernment that is the power to choose. Unfortunately, this power comes with choices that are tough to accept, challenging and apparently not too rewarding, while the alternatives are tempting, alluring and quite devilishly pleasurable. This leads us to a quandary and the decision making is then based on immediate gratification; but fraught with risks of illegality, moral turpitude and guilt.

 Very often our choices in life are dictated by compulsions of weak morals, peer pressure, our personal failings, lust for power, money and material wealth. While we all have ideals, quite often we mould our ideals to suit our selfishness and justify our choices in life and pacify our conscience. The niggling feeling that all is not well, keeps nagging us; but thick skinned as we are, we ignore it and resort to bargaining with the almighty. The techniques of bargaining are bizarre and insane but by making ridiculous offerings (monetarily a pittance of the gigantic ill gotten wealth), participating in rituals with a fervor the gods would be envious of or by going on pilgrimages to the holy shrines (all in 5 star comfort), these devotees hope to make their conduct pure and buy back their peace of mind.

 On the other extreme, are the genuinely devout; they who seem to radiate love, peace and happiness. Some are rich beyond compare, yet soft spoken, well mannered and modest. Others are poor in material wealth but rich in faith, hope and strong in their belief in a just eternal reward. Yet the vast majority of us fall somewhere in between. Does this mean that we have no hope of salvation or that our earthly life is in vain? Fortunately for us, we are also blessed with the option of seeking forgiveness and we can begin with a clean slate. While the Catholics have the sacrament of confession, the Hindus believe that a bath in the sacred Ganges will suffice and the Muslims perform the Haj with a similar hope and a new beginning.  If you are prepared to trust yourself and err less, you will never need divine intervention for a pure soul has but one goal – peace of mind! What more does anyone want?

Remember: The sick do not ask if the hand that smoothes their pillow is pure, nor the dying care if the lips that touch their brow have known the kiss of sin.  Oscar Wilde

 Try these:

  1.  Outline the actions/ thoughts/ expressions of the last month, which make you embarrassed, guilty and /or apologetic. Could you have handled matters differently then? What prevented you from doing so then? Do you still worry about some of these deeds even now?
  2.  Are there people whom you have hurt and feel the need to apologize? What has prevented you from apologizing; is it your ego, fear of the other person’s reactions, embarrassment to you or your belief that the other person deserved it?

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Faith and Belief

Sorrow looks back, worry looks around, faith looks up.
•Guideposts

Problems are challenges sent  to make you stronger. Yet we often despair that we are overburdened with problems and develop a negative mind set. This negativity pervades within us and soon we are wallowing in self pity. Half our life then goes in looking back at the ‘good old days gone by’ and instead of reminiscing them, the predominant image in our minds is those sorrowful moments when failure, tragedy, death etc. have paid us a visit.

The next half of our lives, when we have a negative mindset is looking around anticipating the next set of problems and consequentially  living our lives in constant worry that the good times won’t last. The sorrow and worry are rationalized by us to set up a belief that we are paying for our past sins and that we are condemned to a life of pain, unhappiness and misery. This thought process clouds the true meaning of life given to us viz to enjoy the wonders of god’s creation and to be grateful for the blessings we have in abundance.

Faith is that beacon that lights up our life, shows the path ahead and cheers the heart. Faith is not just belief in the supreme being – GOD but is even more personal; belief in our self. Faith  instills in us confidence, courage and conviction that if we seek happiness it will be ours – as much as we are promised the sun every morning.

Remember : If you keep our face to sun, you will never see your shadow.

Try these

  • Visit a home for the physically challenged / mentally challenged /  the blind etc. Ask your self,  if your troubles are anywhere close to theirs?
  • Can you fix up a routine to ensure that you can spend some time with any of these people and helping them with your talents.
  • Start your morning with a prayer and a song and smile and reverse the process when you go to bed.

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God

When we lose God, it is not God who is lost.
•Anon

When in deep anguish or pain a common refrain for us humans is a pitiable cry ‘ God where are You?’ In that instant, fractionally we lose our belief in God. However, it is when we cannot overcome our grief and pain and reconcile to accepting that God is  myth, that we truly lose God. At that point some of us turn agnostic, a few peripheral believers and most atheists.

The irony of the situation is that our new belief that God is a myth only dulls our ache like a someone addicted to a pain killer, but true joy eludes us always. The reality tho is that GOD is still as caring and loving as always, unceasingly keeping a faithful watch over you.

Remember : Even when our faith in God is shattered, God never loses his faith in us !

Try these:

  • Make prayer a dialogue with God – not a ritual. Don’t forget to Listen to him, for only then can you have a dialogue.
  • First be thankful for the joys in your life, the gifts of good health, family, wealth, status, education, friends etc.  Then request for the wants that you seek, remembering always that not getting them, might be God’s way of telling you that he has better gifts for you!

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