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Be fearless- make life limitless

Be fearless- make life limitless

Fear is an emotion that even the brave confront but for a minute more than the rest. You cannot escape fear for it stalks you in various ways and makes you vulnerable. Yet, fear also gives you the opportunity to confront it and the stakes are all yours if you overcome your fears. The trouble is overcoming fear is not a onetime challenge but a constant threat. The beauty of it is that every time you conquer the fear, your life begins to flower and bloom and you radiate success every step of the way.

The logical question therefore is how does one become fearless enough to make life limitless? Some pointers are given below:

Be aware of your strengths – Leverage it as much as you can – One key to becoming fearless is by being aware of your strengths. You are less vulnerable in the areas of your strength. One common strength that every one aspires for is ‘financial security’. If you are financial strong, you are in a much better position to become fearless and take risks. Similarly if you are an expert or have a specialization that very few can duplicate, you are in a commanding position at least in your field of expertise. For most of us our strengths are areas in which we have good experience, some abilities that we are applauded for or it could be simpler things like having the right attitude, the ability to remain calm in a crisis, the skill of maintaining excellent interpersonal relationships etc.

Know your limitations – minimize it in your life – Just as we have key strengths each of us could also have seriously limiting habits/ fears / weakness. Far too often we find it hard to accept these limitations within us. At times we are aware of our limitations but dogmatically refuse to take corrective action. Limitations leave us vulnerable to exploitation/ reduce our ability to be fearless / create in us doubts and we become risk averse.  To be fearless one needs to strengthen our area of weakness or compensate for it in some manner so that we are fortified enough to be daring and fear less.  E.g. if you have quick temper it is best that we learn to restrain it. If at times you fly off the handle compensate for it by learning the art of expressing an apology to those aggrieved.

Assess critical situations – face it with faith – Whenever one faces a crisis or one comes across a critical situation it is imperative that one remains calm. Panic of any sort would blur the thinking, distort our perception and tempt one to take hasty actions which could boomerang in the long run. Instead take a little time to collect ones thoughts view the situation dispassionately and then map out an action plan. Often you would have to get your creative juices flowing to come up with offbeat solutions. Thereafter believe in your abilities to execute it as planned. Your faith should make your fearless about your course of action.

Be prepared – Think, plan, respond to the moment – There is no substitute for meticulous preparation. It just helps one be well prepared and therefore fearless to take action. At times even the best of preparations cannot factor in the unexpected. That is when one has to respond not react to situations. Response is a well thought out strategy as opposed to a hasty patchwork that at best stems the rot temporarily. Responding is possible when you can bring into play your experience, your calm thinking and take some giant leap of faith. That giant leap of faith makes you fearless and you suddenly discover a power that you never knew existed within you.

Try these:

  • List out 3 experiences in which you benefited by taking a fearless stand/ action.
  • Can you recollect any situation where you did not respond because of hidden fear and which resulted in you missing out on a growth opportunity or having to bear a financial loss
  • How will you react / What will you do in the following cases:

You reach a new city and find out that your wallet/ purse is stolen and your mobile phone is not working. You have no money or friends in the city.

You are in a flight and there is an emergency declared by the crew. There is a real danger of a crash landing.

You have been intimated that you are part of delegation for an important meeting. At the last minute your boss asks you to cancel your trip and gives you some local assignment.

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Confidence

Confidence … is directness and courage in meeting the facts of life. John Dewey

Reality is often a very uncomfortable fact for us to confront. Partly because the reality often relates to things that we do not like, want or appreciate but mainly because it saps us of our confidence. E.g the sudden passing away of a parent/ spouse or sibling makes us suddenly feel very vulnerable. Reality even if is positive and favorable occasionally does make us uncomfortable simply because we lack the confidence to believe that we deserve the same and it also pressurizes us since the benchmark to judge us have been set a lot higher suddenly. E.g. Topping an exam when all along you never were in the top five. This situation forces us into believing in ourselves and mentally orient ourselves to be more self confident and pragmatic thereby instilling in us a healthy dose of confidence.

The trick to being confident is in enhancing one’s self esteem. This would involve being mentally tough to withstand criticism and failures, being positive about everything that happens good or bad, visualizing success in all endeavors and appreciating ones strength and potential. Unless one can believe in one’s own abilities it is difficult for anyone to appear confident. A healthy self esteem automatically triggers self belief and positive thinking. Even the most trying circumstances and challenging tasks will not faze or perturb you, instead it will provoke you into conquering it with panache and élan. Many a candidate has sailed through an interview because of the confidence that he/ she could display in an interview despite their own lack of experience or expertise. On the other hand there are many competent people who seem unable to get the interviewers nod simply because they could not project themselves confidently.

Being forthright without being brazen is a skill that one needs to hone in order to project a confident personality. There are many people who try to cover up their shallowness under the garb of a brazen and boorish behavior which they believe is projecting their confidence. Names dropping, arrogance, a tacky sense of dressing and a loud demeanor are clear indications of an outlandish personality masquerading as a confident person. There are other signs of such behavior that one can observe in people attempting to project confidence. Being overly critical, extremely sarcastic and use of intemperate language are pointers to a mouse pretending to be a cat. True confidence never needs to be displayed aloud but should silent capture the moment, the environment and the onlooker.

Confidence must be supported by competence and results. There are times when a confident effort ends up disastrously with boos and catcalls. Other times people will be indifferent. At these times reassess your effort and remember that confidence alone does not take you too far. One needs to work on ensuring that the confidence is genuine, the situation right and the performance outstanding.

Remember: “Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.” Peter T. Mcintyre

Try this:

  1. Click on the following link and LISTEN to Randy Pausch Last Lecture: Achieving Your Childhood Dreams. Remember that the Prof.Randy Pausch is already diagnosed with a grave life threatening illness and is actually dying but see his CONFIDENCE when he confronts death in this last lecture http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5_MqicxSo
  2. List out 10 of your worst fears. Now prepare a plan to confront at least 3 of them. Eg. You are afraid of snakes. How about going to local zoo and just looking at the cobras and pythons in the zoo. Slowly gain confidence and approach the zoo in charge to let you get closer to a non poison snake. Meanwhile you must make an attempt to see National Geographic or Animal Planet series on snakes. The ultimate test is if you can actually hold a snake and let it glide round from your neck into your arms.

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Identifying opportunity

I was seldom able to see an opportunity until it had ceased to be one. Mark Twain

There is a PJ (Poor Joke) that goes as follows. Knock Knock and a voice from inside asks ‘ Who is that?’ ‘Opportunity ‘, comes the reply. The voice from inside responds ‘ Can’t be, for opportunity knocks only once’ ! While it is commonly believed that opportunity knocks only once, reality is that opportunity comes in various shades and sizes and each time it knocks we are unable to recognize it. Part of the reason is that we are not prepared for it and hence don’t look out for it and most times we fail to take that extra step that will reveal the real opportunity that is inconspicuously standing around.

We don’t have to look far to see our own folly. Every time anyone asks for volunteers it is an opportunity that is dangling in front of us to be grabbed but rarely do we make a lunge for it for fear of the responsibility that comes with the opportunity. In fact many a time we spurn such opportunity under the pretext that we are not suitable for the same or that there could be more talented people who can volunteer. No sooner someone volunteers we will be the first to criticize the volunteers contribution and find fault and almost convince ourselves that we could do a better job. Alas it is too late and the opportunity has passed by.

Many a time opportunity comes disguised as hard work, patiently having to wait, quick decision making, guts to invest in it or it could be failure first and success later. How can one discover opportunity if it is disguised in so many different garbs? The difference between a successful person and a not so successful person is in the fine art of being able to uncover the disguise in which opportunity roams around every moment. Opportunity gives us a chance to participate in the success process and so most times we need to think big, see far ahead and be always prepared to accept challenges and work very hard. Once our mental makeup has undergone this metamorphosis, finding opportunity is child’s play because we are deluged with them. Every change, each problem and all events are opportunities for us to learn from, grow with and or turn into a success story.

Perhaps the biggest single factor that blinds us to the wonderful opportunity staring us in the face is our risk averse nature. Just as there are no free lunches in the is world, there is never opportunity without an accompanying risk. What we fail to do is evaluate the risk, minimize it and yet have the guts to take chances when they come. We prefer to spurn the chance and be comfortable that our life is smooth sailing. Sometime missing out on opportunities is akin to us not taking an escalator for  we worry that the escalator will malfunction or the electric supply will be cut off or that we may feel nauseated in the escalator etc. and so we laboriously begin our physically ascend huffing and puffing and occasionally stopping to rest. If the escalator was taking us to a terminal to catch a flight and we spurn the offer and get late, the ramifications would be rather serious for we would have missed the flight. When we spurn opportunity we miss the chance to fly high and are left wondering why fate has been unkind to us. Now you know the answer; we have been unfair to fate who provides the opportunities that we have failed to grasp!

Remember: “We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as impossible situations.” Charles R. Swindoll

Try this:

  1. For 3 months every week take one lottery ticket and check the winnings. Have you at least recovered the initial investment? In any case unless you invest in the ticket you cannot hope to win the lottery.
  2. When you get a series of problems facing you approach each one as an opportunity to grow. Does this approach make it easier for you to tackle the problem?  Did the problem itself change or was it your attitude to the problem that helped you solve it without getting into a crisis? By successfully solving the problems did you get any form of reward?

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