Tag: Commit

Decisions shape destiny…go on make up your mind

It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.  Tony Robbins

Of all the numerous faults that one can be accused of, being indecisive is one of the most serious faults for it makes a person fearful, confused, inept and paralyzed, thereby losing out on opportunities to progress, be productive and attain success. The sports arena illustrates this best when an indecisive player becomes a bane for the team and the game by poor coordination and shoddy performance. Ever noticed the mispasses on the field, wayward shooting at the goal and the back chatting between team members; many of these are symptomatic of the malaise of poor decision making. In real life, anyone who often echoes his/ her concern of being confused can be quickly identified as someone prone to avoid taking a decision. Sadly, very often many of these people become indecisive not because they lack inputs but because there are too many equally attractive options or equally scary consequences and deciding on any one is challenging.

Here are four pointers to help one become an effective decision maker.

Analyze extensively but don’t get paralyzed by it. Paralysis by analysis is the bane of those who believe in extensive study in order to minimize the chances of failure. Most people would profess to study threadbare the situation that needs a decision so as to be able to make the best decision, but subconsciously many of them are trying to find the best way to hedge their decision should it fail. As a result making it fail safe becomes the focus rather than maximizing success. When risk appears we tend to demonize it and consequently vacillate between alternatives until forced into a decision either by time constraints or other external pressures.

Accept the reality that not all decisions will be right. Human nature comprehends failure to indicate ineffectiveness, incompetence and ineptness, faults which in our myopic opinion grievously devalue us in the eyes of others. The reality is that failure is proof that someone dared, someone miscalculated and that there could be alternatives to the path taken. How many were actually ruined by the mistakes made? Barring some who were foolhardy or blinded by a false sense of invincibility, every other person who failed learnt from those failures and bounced back with better decisive strategies.

Be aware of the consequences of taking the decision and also of not taking the decision. By being indecisive and avoiding making a commitment, the chances are that we are risking not grasping opportunities, perhaps even missing out on minimizing / avoiding failure and certainly ensuring that the original issue remains unresolved. .  Ask anyone who has invested in shares and stocks and chances are you will get more stories of failures in stock picking but probe further and then they will accept that they rue being indecisive. Many others will blame their impulsiveness in taking decisions that led to poor stock selection.

Never forget that it is only when you can bite the bullet that you can lead the charge. Every leader has invariably reached the top by getting bruised and battered in the battle field of life. What has set them apart is not just their doggedness and ability but their ability to take crucial decisions at critical junctures. At times their decisions could have backfired and send them hurtling down the steep slope of success but with renewed vigor and enthusiasm they took the decision to battle their way up.

Remember : Some people, however long their experience or strong their intellect, are temperamentally incapable of reaching firm decisions. James Callaghan

Try this:

  1. Play a game of snakes and ladders but here is the twist to make you be aware of decision making. Every time you roll the dice you have a choice to accept the number that comes up or to pass the move except if the number that is thrown up moves your counter to a slot with a snake, in which case you go down to the tail of the snake. Check how and when you make the ‘decision’ to pass your turn .Are there times you felt you made a mistake because you made the decision ‘to pass your turn or not to pass your turn’?
  2. Take a look at the video by one of the more popular lecturers at Harvard, Prof. Michael Sandel who is taking a module on the Moral Side of Murder. Remember to pause the video after he asks the first set of questions and make it a point to make ‘your DECISION’ to the question he asks. Also ensure you are clear why you made that decision.  Then continue the video till he asks the second set of questions based on a scenario he describes. Again pause the video and make a decision based on the question.  Perhaps a different facet of ‘decision making’ will emerge and challenge you. Click here to view the video http://tinyurl.com/yey37oe

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Commit or perish

He who walks in the middle of the road gets hit from both sides. George P. Schultz

When asked a question that forces us into a corner, invariably we prefer to sidestep the issue and find refuge in a politically correct answer that leaves enough room to justify yourself later.  However this might work well sometime but invariably in the long run you have to live with your conscience and your honor. This poses a problem for somewhere along the way we are going to slip up and then we can get steamrolled by circumstances and fate.

Quite often what makes us indecisive and non committal is our focus on the cost of failure rather than the benefits and price of success. While the lure of rewards does tempt us, we tread cautiously and do a fine balancing act when walking the tight rope of commitment. We frequently use the yes-but strategy where we agree in principle but differ on execution or vice versa. This allows us the luxury of never seemingly being on any one side and yet we have the flexibility to distance ourselves from any finger pointing because we have never stated our position categorically. An ideal way to observe this phenomenon is to watch the politicians respond to any debate be it in print or TV. They will be articulate but would circumvent the key questions, they will point holes in another’s argument but never state their own position clearly and they will use their favorite ploy of digressing from the main issues and stirring the debate to frivolous and trivial matters.

Despite these maneuverings and balancing act when they lose their balance the consequences are deadly. History is resplendent with examples right from the Biblical Pilate who washed his hands of the sentencing of Jesus to the more recent IPL saga in India where a politician and the cricket honcho both sought to play a game of one upmanship albeit for high stakes. While both pretend to work in the best interest of the game but from opposing sides as of writing this one has lost his job and the other tottering on the brink of being toppled. The problem arises when we confuse our position on issues on a case to case basis and keep oscillating between our opposing beliefs.

Remember: If you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything

Try these:

  1. Ask yourself what is your position on the following issues and see how you go into the yes-but mode
  • Gay and lesbian rights
  • Abortion
  • Abolition of the Death penalty
  1. What are you views on rehabilitating the tribal’s? Do you need to protect them from modern development so that they can preserve and continue their culture and lifestyle? Do they need to be brought into the main stream and become part of the consumerist society at the cost of losing their own identity and habitat?

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