Tag: Commitment

Today is special

How am I going to live today in order to create the tomorrow I’m committed to? Tony Robbins

As I write this post I am aware that today is special in more than one way…today will never come again and the 29th of  Feb won’t come again for at least another 4 years. So for me writing this post today is important for I won’t write another one on a 29th of Feb till possibly 2016. This simple realization propelled me to quickly shake of my lethargy, shun the numerous excuses that swirled around in my mind and plonk in front of the computer to begin writing my blog. Choosing the quote to write on was relatively easy since the awareness that today is so special was uppermost in the mind.

It is interesting to note that one has to have a commitment to tomorrow in order to ensure that today is spent fruitfully and meaningfully. For many of us visualizing that commitment is a near impossible task partly because we are blissfully ignorant of the opportunities that abound but largely because it involves a painful realization of reality. Here are 3 springboards to jump off from in order to draw up your commitment to tomorrow. You will have to go in the same order in order to be successful in identifying your commitments.

Dream big.  All of us have grandiose ideas, dreams, hopes, aspirations and secret desires. List them all out. Don’t let anything stop you from being imaginative,  lavish, ostentatious or extravagant in your imagination taking wings. Own the most luxurious yachts or the dream villa or the idyllic island in the pacific. Soar high in your mind, feel the exhilaration of your day dreams and luxuriate in the vividness of your imagination.

Be pragmatic. Having tasted the finest albeit imaginatively, at least you have set your standards pretty high. There is no plausible reason for you not to enjoy all your dreams but one cannot sidestep reality. So get down to rolling up your sleeves and chalking out the route map to reach each of your wildly imaginative destinations. Harsh reality may trip you into believing that you are on a hopelessly lost mission in life but by chalking out every step will reinforce your belief that while the passage is rocky there is still a pathway that leads somewhere.

Write down your goals. Once the pathway is inked out, put markers in the form of goals along the way that you have just discovered. This will ensure that you go surely and certainly in the direction of your dreams. You will be setting your own pace and progress is certain. If you pause to rest, to relax and chill you will still enjoy the journey but you may not necessarily reach the destination. The journey though would never be in vain.

Now that the commitment to tomorrow is made here are 3 steps to making the most of today.

Begin Now. If I didn’t believe in this you wouldn’t be reading this. You don’t need further proof. Do you?

Continue with faith. Each day brings new challenges, new obstacles and more tricky excuses to weigh you down. While it may not be possible to immediately overcome these impediments,  the commitment to tomorrow should motivate, inspire, empower and spur you on for as they say ‘faith can move mountains’. Bet you won’t have to wait too long for the next post.

Enjoy the progress. It is the joy in what one does that ensures a job well done. No matter what the task or whatever the circumstances, when one has a song on the lips and a prayer in the heart the progress will be enjoyable, fun and more importantly today would always be the best day before tomorrow.

Remember: The future starts today, not tomorrow.  Pope John Paul II

Try this:

  • For the next one week consciously avoid using the hand that you regularly use to write with. This means if you are a right handed person you will for the next week use only the left hand for all activities that you have to do. Now with this self imposed limitation also attempt the following
  1. Play a couple of games of caroms / table tennis / badminton with another friend
  2. Write one foolscap page everyday
  3. How tough was the initial attempt? Did you notice any progress? Was the progress made worth it? Did you learn anything new in the process?
  • Following the 3 spring boards and the 3 paths enumerated above write down your commitment to tomorrow and chalk out your path for today assuming
  1. You are the prime minister of the country
  2. You are the head of your current organization
  3. You are completely involved in your pet social service project

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The value of experience

“One of the most important lessons that experience teaches is that, on the whole, success depends more upon character than upon either intellect or fortune”  William Edward Hartpole Lecky

Many a time, we tend to focus more on those events that have left a scar on our psyche, have given us a bitter pill to swallow or that which has hurt us immensely. Often our immediate reaction to this is to be fearful, become risk averse and make efforts to avoid the path that lead to the unfortunate experience. While the protective mechanism that we have honed comes in handy and saves us from catastrophes, far too often we miss out on grasping opportunities for we let our bitter experiences overwhelm our pragmatism and passion. Our experiences should not deter us from pursuing a path that we have chalked out for ourselves merely because we stumbled and grazed ourselves or in extreme cases it badly scarred us.

Experiences both good and bad are the pivots around which the future is built. The good experiences reinforce our beliefs and light up our path, where as the bad experiences alert us to the pitfalls ahead, allowing us time to relook, reassess and reorganize ourselves. The important learning got from our experiences is that our attitude and reactions at every stage determine how we will traverse the journey and attain success. In effect experiences are a test of our character and our ability to deal with the situations as they unfold.

Our character evolves through our formative years and continues to transform, albeit slowly, with every passing year. It is made of a combination of factors including our hereditary traits, the childhood scripting, the experiences and interactions that have percolated deep into our psyche and our own independent thinking and attitude. A happy and disciplined upbringing often has a deep and lasting influence on character building. The role of parents, teachers, classmates and neighbors is very critical in influencing the character that a person develops.  Motivation, encouragement, appreciation, acceptance, laugher, kindness, positive reinforcements are inputs that ensure a fragrance that remains always in a person’s character. On the other hand a gentle rebuke when needed, reasonable punishment if required, firm ground rules to enforce discipline  and impeccable grooming and manners ,   ensure that there is a sparkling diamond like luster in a person’s character.

Apart from analyzing our experiences ourselves, it also helps if we find the right mentor to guide, have a healthy dose of self confidence, develop our ability to be hardworking, look forward with optimism, hone our analytical and creative skills, work around our core competence and develop the art of learning something new and invaluable from every experience. We should also be able to develop the fine art of discernment to appreciate the learning from our experiences. Then every experience will become a successful test of character that becomes a new step in the ladder of success.

Remember: “There are no failures – just experiences and your reactions to them.” Tom Krause

Try this

  1. Read the well-known poem IF by Rudyard Kipling by clicking on this link http://tinyurl.com/ne7rbv.  This poem in many ways tells us how to manage our good and bad experiences and become a success.
  2. Try to list out at least one personal experience each under each of the following categories. If possible also elaborate the learning got from that experience.
  • Happy experience
  • Painful experience
  • Hurtful experience
  • Surprising experience
  • Emotional experience
  • Disgusting experience
  • Exhilarating experience
  • Embarrassing experience

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Being disciplined pays

“We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.”  Jim Rohn

Discipline holds the key to both our progress and our self esteem. This is because unless we are disciplined we can rarely harness our full potential. Subsequently when we look back if we experience more regret than the pleasure of achievement we find it hard to forgive ourselves for it. In effect we botch up the possibility of pulling up our socks and salvaging the rest of our potential because we are brooding over what is lost and cannot be retrieved. Similarly self esteem flowers when the mind and body can savor the fruits of discipline in terms of success and achievements .

The challenge of being disciplined is managing to be clear, committed and conscientious. A simple illustration about the comparison between disciplined people (like those in the armed forces who are in excellent physical shape) and the average citizen (who is often overweight and sloppy) would bring home the point about the criticality of discipline in a person’s life. With this example in mind lets us analyze why each of those 3 C’s have such a major bearing on our life and our happiness. Clarity of purpose is often the first stumbling block. Part of the problem stems from the fact that we have ample choices and our natural inclination is to take the most convenient option. As a result we spend time in rationalizing our wrong choices rather than in discerning the right option. Even more dangerous is the tendency to be uncommitted to our choice because we are still not really convinced that we got that right. Most students if quizzed on their career choice are unclear about it for their heart might be in something that the head says will not meet societal and parental approval. E.g. A brilliant student opting  to choose fine arts or dramatics or music as a chosen field of study is certain to find a lot of well meaning friends, relatives and teachers gently but firmly persuading him/her to reconsider the decision. The net result is a very confused person ultimately pursuing what is essentially forced upon. Without clarity, self doubt keeps the person confused and leads to indisciplined effort / work ethics.

Irrespective of the fact that a choice exercised was done whole heartedly or thrust upon a person, once he/she begins to traverse that path, there is no option but to be commitment whole heartedly. The difficulty here is that many a time the heart will rebel, the mind will waver and the spirit will droop, particularly when way seems long, winding and dark. The challenge in commitment comes from inside ourselves when we are tempted far too often to throw in the towel. Team sports offers us the vivid example of how, many an aspiring player toiled in hope, faith and pluck before they made the cut. Of course there would be many more who would have been left along the wayside but succeeded in using the learning to carve a niche elsewhere.  Commitment is the glue that marries the clarity of purpose with the conscientious approach that would ensure that success is a real possibility.  To be conscientious involves toil, sacrifice and pain. It forces one to repeatedly hone ones skills, if possible keep improving and at the very best achieve perfection by regular repetitive rigor. This can be summed up by the phrase’ Trifles make perfection, but perfection is no trifle’.

 Remember:“Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, or an hour, or a day, or a year, but eventually it will subside and something else will take its place. If I quit, however, it lasts forever.”    Lance Armstrong

 Try this:

  1. Outline the 3 most important New Year resolutions that you really want to achieve. Alternatively make a list of 3 important things that you want to achieve.  Work out a plan of action and put it down on paper. Starting now go on implement it. (eg. If I plan to lose weight and want to start walking at 6 am from tomorrow, right now I will set the alarm for 5.30 am)
  2. Attempt the following
  • Threading a needle (try to improve your timing also)
  • Put 5 consecutive 3 pointer basket ball shots. (later  try this from different angles)
  • Attempt to burn a piece of paper using a magnifying glass and natural sunlight.

(If you only read the TRY THIS and do not attempt it, ask yourself why you lack the discipline to effectively use the learning from the blogs; is it lack of clarity about the purpose of the exercises/  you don’t want to take on the commitment / you find it hard to be repeatedly attempt and fail)

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Walk the talk…

“I must do something” always solves more problems than “Something must be done.”  Author Unknown

How often do we find ourselves wringing our hands in frustration and loudly proclaiming that something must be done. It could be some trivial issue at work or home or it could be something that evokes nationalistic pride but far too often we end up wistfully thinking that if someone else did something the problem could be solved and we would all live happily ever after. Invariably we make the painfully realization that almost everyone seems to be thinking on the same lines and as a result nothing gets done except maybe for the reality that we get more and more frustrated. The irony of the whole situation is that each one of us has noble intent, a fair degree of ability to tackle the problem and a whole range of fanciful ideas on how to tackle the issue on hand, yet we are overwhelmed by inertia, skepticism and a lackadaisical attitude.

Here are three essentials to ensure we Walk the Talk.

A sense of ownership is essential if we as individuals are ever intending to tackle issues and solve a problem. Most times while we are keen to benefit from the solution of a problem, we pretend that the problem does not impact us majority and so someone else has to bell the cat. Social problems invariably remain a matter of concern for a long time because all the concerned people are side stepping the issue and hoping that in time a good Samaritan would do the needful. The squalor and garbage around our colonies for example are regular topics for running down the administration but do we as responsible citizens make a concrete effort to take some proactive steps. It could be simple things like writing to the newspapers, sharing the telephone numbers of the concerned departments with neighboring society members and requesting them to call up and put pressure or perhaps visiting the concerned officials and lodging a complaint.  All these are possible provided we believe that the matter on hand is MY problem too.

Self belief  that every individual including ME can make a difference. The most frivolous argument given for inaction is that ‘poor me is an insignificant person’ and so my role is very limited in influencing matters. Assume for a moment that the power supply to your house has failed and worse still all the neighbors seem to have regular power. Would you sit back and hope the power comes back on its own or would you take some proactive steps? Now assume that the power in your locality keeps going of intermittently and the entire neighborhood is inconvenienced.   Would you take some initiative to find out the problem and initiate some corrective action? In the latter case a distancing of a sense of ownership steers you to believe that you cannot do much and that there are others who are better equipped to tackle the situation.

Achievement orientation is one of the earliest drivers of human progress. Irrespective of how good or bad a student you were, there was a sense of achievement in scoring more than your expectations, even more joy in scoring more than a close competitor and maximum joy if miraculously you passed despite your wayward approach to academics or your topped due to your sincere and dedicated efforts. The reality is that a sense of achievement is a great motivator. If we can orient our thinking into making all challenges and problems faced b y us as an opportunity to achieve success, our mindset to tacking the issues on hand would be very progressive and result oriented. When we can visualize ourselves as orchestrating change, achieving our goals and making a big positive difference around us we would be taking on the responsibility of Walking the Talk.

Remember: Action springs not from thought, but from a readiness for responsibility.  ~Dietrich Bonhoeffer

Try this:

  1. Identify a social cause that is close to your heart. Now work out an action plan to be involved in it and spending at least 2 hours a week on it on the field ( that is actively being engaged in it)
  2. As a responsible citizen how will you proactively get involved in the following situations?
  • A cat is trapped in the 10th floor of an apartment sill and is mewing piteously for help
  • The street lights have not been switched off even at 8 am in the morning when it is bright and sunny
  • An acquaintance calls you up to help him/ her urgently source blood for an operation. The bigger problem is that fresh blood is needed and the blood group type is rather rare.
  • You notice that the lift in your apartment block has been making some rather odd and unusual noise when it is in motion. You have already complained to the society office but no concrete action seems to have been taken because the noise continues. The second time you complaint you are treated with indifference and told that you are making a mountain of a mole hill. What will you do next?

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The Winners Way

Winning takes talent, to repeat takes character.  John Wooden

The euphoria of the Indian Crickets teams World Cup victory, has ignited a debate as to whether this is one of the greatest Indian Cricket teams and if it can be considered truly exceptional. To win the world cup is no mean feat and to do it beating some pretty good sides speaks volumes about the sheer talent and ability of the team members. However to be considered exceptional it is imperative that the team display consistency, commitment and above all character.

Consistency is all about repeatedly performing to full potential. This is challenging because the conditions could constantly change be it with respect to the conditions of playing arena, or the strength of the opponent or it could be due to unexpected changes that are suddenly thrust upon the participants. For outdoor sports, a huge shower could drastically alter the playing conditions. In sports, injuries to key players are perhaps one of the most dreaded challenges that a coach has to battle to balance the side at the last moment. What is challenging is to mange a consistent performance despite these numerous hurdles that keep cropping up off and on.

Commitment is giving a 100% no matter what the circumstance. The challenge of being fully committed is that there are times when one is dispirited, disheartened and desperate and it is hard to resist the temptation to throw in the towel. Injury worries, lack of form, constantly losing close games are desperate times when being committed poses a big psychological challenge. Often commitment is driven by the need to give it all we have no matter what or who the opponent or challenge is. The difficulty in being fully committed is that we have to overcome the motions of going through the rigours simply to meet the requirements of the rules. It is equally tough to be committed when battling a losing cause or when there is no real motivation that spurs commitment. Yet there are times when the commitment of one single individual even if he/ she is on the losing side wins accolades for the grit and determination to take on a much stronger opponent.

Character is the ability to put the set backs behind, grab the opportunities that come and explore, experiment and exploit the slimiest chance that one can create. Our character is put to the test when we suddenly encounter a loss of form, an unexpected resilience from opponents, when we find the going very tough and when every nerve in us wants to give up but our spirit keeps nudging us on. The upsets caused by the so called minnows can demoralise and weaken the resolve of the higher rated team or players and they are then prone to give up. However those with the real character are the ones who thrive on challenges, can push themselves to the limit and display amazing self belief. Manchester United Football team is one of those football clubs that is considered a tough competitor particularly because of the self belief they thrive on which makes them come up with extraordinary performance during the fag end of the game especially if they are a goal or two behind. It is their character that opponents fear most.

Remember: Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength. Arnold Schwarzenegger

Try this:

  1. Ask yourself if you have some goals or New Year resolutions that demand your consistency, commitment and character to be of the highest order. E.g. if you have a target to lose weight or if you have decide to get some additional qualifications. If you your goals or targets are not so challenging then add a couple of challenging goals/ resolutions so that you can actually achieve a lot during the coming year.
  2. If you are assailed by self doubts and tied in knots with a number of ‘not’s that hold you back from giving of your best have a look at this prayer:

 

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Commitment makes the difference

Nothing of worth or weight can be achieved with half a mind, with a faint heart, and with a lame endeavor. Isaac Barrow

To really understand this saying, look back at your school days and reflect on those subjects that you disliked, found it hard to study, got relatively poor marks and those that you desperately wished could be done away with. For many students mathematics was their bugbear, for some it was science, for others it was either languages or the social sciences. Of course there could be some who hated the art and music class and those not liking physical activities the PT classes were dreaded.  What is uniformly true for all students who hated any subject was their half hearted attempts at studying, their inherent dislike and fear of the subject and the very low priority they gave to the subject.

Now look at those areas in your life which you excelled in or indulged in. At this precise moment, there is a feeling of euphoria in you, a sense of self worth and a rising passion merely thinking about those activities that you really relish. Notice that it is these very feelings and approach that have made you both successful and committed to those activities. In effect, this means that once we make up our minds to be involved in something because we like it, we normally give it our best shot and even if we don’t get the expected results we still enjoy the effort and resolve to commit to it again.

We can distill these feelings and learning into 3 broad requirements; passion, motivation and commitment.

Passion is what makes a person become deeply interested, focused and determined to make a success of his/her interest. This means that he/she will be constantly seeking out ways and means to be involved in those activities that are very fond of.  They will also try to improve themselves so that they are the best in what they do because they are passionate. When a person is passionate, the person automatically gets motivated. Motivation ensures that the person will accept any challenge, work extra hard and will sacrifice a lot to get success in their passion. Motivation also ensures that people have the drive and energy to wait for success and they do not get discouraged easily. It also provides the energy to people to keep pegging away patiently in faith and hope. Commitment is ability to continue to traverse the path chosen even if it is paved with thorns. This means overcoming many obstacles, being steadfast in ones resolve and being thick skinned enough to shun criticism, negative thoughts and occasional failures.

The life story of the rich and the famous would reveal that without exception each one of them exhibited strength of character, had clear vision and focus and above all believed in themselves and worked to attain their goals no matter what the cost.  Ironically the valor and sacrifices of our freedom fighters, our soldiers and our martyrs reveal the same sterling qualities. To cap it all the great sporting icons of those nation, the superheroes and heroines who have a large fan following and our well respected seniors and colleagues in the workplace also are testimony to the success story that they have scripted through dint of hard work, vision, self belief and commitment.

Remember: “There’s a difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstance permit. When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results.”

Try this:

  1. List out 3 of your passions. Now for each of them identify 2 icons in that field, 2 new areas of opportunity to be explored by you and find out 2 new websites that will help you develop your passion even more.
  2. How will you be able to motivate yourself in your current field of study / current job/ current profession? If you are struggling and not able to break free of the shackles that weigh you down how will you find the energy and resources to be committed and be positive. If your current activities does not enthuse you how will you motivate yourself for a change?

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The little things add up

Everyone is trying to accomplish something big, not realizing that life is made up of little things. – Frank A. Clark

As you read this post, notice that it is actually alphabets put together to form words which are placed logically to form sentences. The sentences in turn are arranged sequentially to ensure that a whole thought is expressed and the paragraph contains about one or two ideas. The paragraphs taken to gather will form the sum total of the major subject being elucidated. The key learning is that to translate ideas into tangible offerings, one has to traverse the humble and often painfully slow paths without excluding even the most lowly process. The big accomplishments are actually the fruits of the labor that one puts in with faith, hope and competence.

A close study of the lives of the well know personalities in history be it politicians, philosophers, artistes, musicians, sportsmen etc. would bring out some interesting facts. Without exception each one of them has had to begin in humility, pursue in earnest, work unceasingly and constantly cope with the pain of failure and yet retain their determination, drive and discipline even when standing on the slippery mount of success. A sportsperson provides the perfect example of how the little things in life actually add up to reflect the major accomplishments in their lives. Kenya and Ethiopia throw up the maximum  number of world class middle distance and long distance runners. Also most all of them come from impoverished backgrounds and credit their success to the long distance they travelled as children particularly while going to school. The high altitude and harsh climatic and topographical conditions just helped them become more resilient and sturdy.

It is also important to appreciate that big accomplishments are also relative. For a person coming from an uneducated background, going through school and college would qualify as a major achievement. For an athlete representing his school, college, state and country would be the natural progression of achievement. For a management trainee achievement could begin with getting confirmation as an employee and then climbing the corporate ladder possibly to become the top honcho. On the other hand the parents of new born’s will look out for the baby’s smile and the first tender steps he/she takes and the first words the child says as major accomplishments of the child. While a child’s achievements while growing up would be the result of biological evolution, each of those achievements signals a healthy development and the accomplishment of small but critical stages of growth. The similar feeling of small accomplishments translating into big achievements is experienced by the uneducated when they learnt to read and write and the sportsman when he gets his first and subsequent selections.

Remember: “My mother taught me very early to believe I could achieve any accomplishment I wanted to. The first was to walk without braces.”  Wilma Rudolph quotes (First American woman Runner to win three gold medals at a single Olympics. 1940-1994)

Try this:

  1. Read up on Wilma Rudolph ( she was suffered from polio before she became an Olympic winner) http://tinyurl.com/47duhb6 and on http://tinyurl.com/cm3el3
  2. Outline your major accomplishments in the following categories and also think of 3 reasons why  / how you achieved that success.
  • Academics
  • Sports
  • Honesty
  • Friendship
  • Positive Thinking
  • Overcoming some fear

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When do we really live?

Unless you give yourself to some great cause, you haven’t even begun to live. William P. Merrill

From the time we are born our primitive urge is self preservation and this means that we tend to compete/ fight to live for ourselves. Beginning with our need for food, we seek shelter and security for ourselves and our loved ones because it is the herd instinct. As we grow and become adults we become independent but then we tend to become more and more selfish and self centered. While the animal kingdom exhibits similar tendencies, they never have the human weakness of greed. Thus animals that kill and live of the carcass kill only when they are hungry and even the herbivorous animals too eat just for their survival. Man alone tends to hoard, to gorge and to deny a fellow human being.  It is against this background that one needs to understand the need for the human race to consciously make amends for this selfish tendency and the one way to really do it is to give ourselves completely to a cause where the beneficiary is anyone but us.

Since our natural tendency is to live for ourselves, it is only a conscious decision that will really enable us to identify a worthwhile cause and help us spare our time, resources and energies on promoting the cause. The joy and thrill of giving out without any expectations is the real moment that we enjoy our life and appreciate the blessings that life has showered on us. The cause one stands for need not be related only to the human race but should be for the good of mankind. This means that causes as diverse as animal welfare and environmental concerns would be on the same pedestal as working for the handicapped, the aged and the sick. Whatever be the cause, the key is selfless service, total commitment and active participation.

Self less service involves the ready and free desire to be involved in the cause. If the involvement is conditional or it is taken upon reluctantly because of social pressure then the soul of the activity is missing. It is when one seeks out a cause to give selflessly that the cause becomes an integral part of one’s life else it will remain just a duty , a chore and an obligation. Total commitment means the whole hearted and absolute devotion to the cause. No matter what it takes, be it financial resources, networking, seeking out activists to propound the cause no requirement is ignored or side stepped. This is possible when we are wedded to the cause and then we become absolutely committed. The essence of real living is experienced when we give ourselves to the cause by being active participants and be physically involved in all that is required to be done. This involves giving of our time the most precious of our resources, getting our hands dirtied, something that we may not be really used to in daily life and then we experience both he pain of the other and the joy they get from our intimacy and companionship and service.

Remember: “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”  Mahatma Gandhi

Ty this:

  1. One of the toughest religious orders to join in is the Mother Theresa’s  Sister’s of Charity. Yet they have one of the largest numbers of volunteers and applications to join the congregation. What do you think is the reason for it. If there is a home for the children/ aged/ sick or orphans run by them in your city visit them and spend a day to understand how they work and what they do.
  2. Outline a plan of action to identify a cause, to commit yourself and to actively be involved in it. Don’t fall to the temptation of trying to be involved in all your interests. Chose one and give it your all. Ensure that you even slot a time of the day for the activity and to give of your time and personal efforts. Experience the joy that comes with the commitment.

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Insincerity is exhausting

The most exhausting thing in life is being insincere. Anne Morrow Lindbergh

Insincerity could take many forms; be it succumbing to laziness, being unfaithful, remaining ungrateful, lacking earnestness or simply being tardy and casual in what we do. Simply put insincerity is being disloyal. When objectively analyzed, the act of being insincere takes a lot of effort simply because it goes against the natural mindset and nature of the average human behavior.  All human beings are born with the seeds of goodness in them and it is only those influences and circumstances that we are exposed to that occasionally negative influence our thoughts and makes us deviant in our ways. Insincerity is one such deviant way in which the human being traverses during his earthly life.

Laziness is the one ill that plagues each one of us in varying degrees. Given a choice we would be happier to sit and do nothing provided we get all the comforts and luxuries of life. To avoid any kind of hard work, we attempt to automate it, delegate it or find short cuts in doing it.  Automation will work for repetitive and mechanical jobs but at a high cost. It is delegation and short cuts that could prove to be the bigger stumbling block and make us pay for our insincerity to our tasks for it could be inefficiently executed by others or the short cuts could give us disastrous results. In either case we could end up exhausted attempting to redo the task under severe time constraints and supervisory pressures.

Being unfaithful to a commitment, a task or a relationship is just as stressful partly because it means that we have to wrestle with our conscience and mainly because we still have to deliver the goods. In effect what this means is that we would have to fulfill our commitments, ensure that the tasks on hand are executed to the highest possible standards and maintain a healthy and balanced relationship. If we are not aligned to these goals, our insincerity will create stress because we have to keep balancing between the reality and the optimum.  Similarly, when we are fortunate to have the benefit of family friends and strangers who may have supported us in various ways, courtesy and decency demand that we are grateful for all they do and if possible at least return them the favor. Either because of our embarrassment or because of our preoccupation or simply because we do not want to acknowledge their support it is possible that we avoid, evade or ignore those to whom we owe a debt. The unfortunate part is that then we will have to wrestle with our conscience and sense of decency all the time and this can be extremely exhausting.

For the vast majority of us, work that we do not like, tasks that we do not enjoy, assignments thrust upon us against our will all generate a sense of antipathy and we rebel by being tardy, disinterested, casual and uncommitted to it. The result is shoddy work, incomplete work, plenty of excuses and the underlying fear that our lack of effort or lack of interest will be very visible and possibly be a point of disagreement and reprimand. This creates anxiety within us and there is both physical and mental exhaustion.

Remember: “No man can produce great things who is not thoroughly sincere in dealing with himself”  James Russell Lowell

Try this:

  1. In your current work profile outline 3 tasks that you would ideally not like to do but are forced to do since it forms part of your work profile. Ask yourself how sincerely you do that task. What are your ways of coping with these tasks that you would if possible avoid. Do these tasks exhaust you more as compared to your regular routine job?
  2. All of us are guilty of one or more of the forms of insincerity. Identify the ones you are most prone to and honestly evaluate how taxing it is. Are there alternatives to cope with it? Why have you not resorted to those alternatives?

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Light up your life

To keep a lamp burning, we have to keep putting oil in it. Mother Teresa

Sometimes we have no choice but to cheerfully keep doing what seems boring, insipid and repetitive. The fact is that these are small inconveniences that we have to put up with in order to ensure that we can keep going forward and attain our goals. In the winter, when we are cozy in bed enjoying our sweet dreams, the alarm rudely jolts you and signals the beginning of another day. You then reluctantly get out of bed. What is worse is that this goes on for a couple of months and yet you wouldn’t dare to shut of the alarm much as you hate it. Similarly most of our life goes in doing repetitive tasks be it ironing our clothes, polishing our shoes or brushing our teeth and taking a shower and we do it cheerfully sometimes, reluctantly occasionally but most times we are indifferent.

On the larger canvas of life, there are many other tougher challenges that irritate and disturb us but we might be left with no choice but to go through it. Perhaps it is the daily commute, the nasty boss whom you despise but have to meet daily or it could be the insufferable canteen food that challenges you daily.  The real issue is not the repetitive action but the attitude to it. If one were to look at these tasks as chores to be done, it would be painful, never ending and accepted in bad grace. On the other hand if one were to see it as an opportunity to contribute, learn from, influence others etc. we would eagerly await the chance.  When in love for example, we never seem to tire of meeting the same person daily and spend hours with him/ her. When we keep solving mathematics problems because we want to score well we visualize the success and cope with the strain and stress of solving as many problems as we can.

To ensure that we not only cope up with the daily grind, what we need to do is change our attitude. Looking at the resultant benefits is a sure shot way to make peace with ourselves and enjoy the work on hand. E.g. If we are overweight, the thought of losing weight and looking handsome/ pretty will  spur us on to hit the gym and do the workouts with vigor and enthusiasm. If we can see the big picture it helps us better appreciate our contribution to the whole structure and we also realize what an important role we play in scripting the success story. E.g. Instead of merely seeing our job as that of a brick layer if we realize that we are contributing to building a palace, we realize our contribution and strategic utility and then even the most mundane job becomes interesting and important to us.  Be motivated by the opportunity to learn and grow. Then if one has to chase ones dream then no job is too tough or too demeaning. E.g. Most students pursuing their studies in the west are acutely conscious of the steep fee structure and so they pick up part time jobs well below their educational level, status  and dignity but see it as contributing to their long term goals and so they are motivated and charged up.

To brighten our future, our life and the present moment we need to constantly fuel our desires, plans and our efforts, all of which may be very repetitive and monotonous in nature but critical and unavoidable. We need to seek out a reason to like these tasks just as one constantly refills the lamp with oil in order to dispel darkness and provide light.

Remember: It is better to light a lamp than curse the darkness.

Try this:

  1. If you are a habitual procrastinator identify 3 reasons for your behavior. ( If you do not know what is procrastination check the meaning right now or you are guilty of procrastinating.) List out 5 jobs that are still pending and begin attempting to complete the tasks.
  2. If you are guilty of any two of the following, it could signal your aversion to doing mundane / repetitive tasks.
  • Not filing your papers regularly
  • Polishing your shoes only occasionally
  • Delaying paying your bills even if you have sufficient bank balance to pay off your outstanding
  • Not doing some task requested by a family member / friend simply because you can take them for granted.
  • Not keeping appointments because you find there are more pleasurable alternatives

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