Tag: Communicate

Do more with less

26- do more with lessOne of the problems facing the world is the indiscriminate use of limited resources. As individuals, each of us must examine how individually each of us can limit our own use of the resources available to us so that we can make our own little contribution to saving our resources. That apart, we must also be aware, of how we are influenced by advertisements, social pressure and our own ego, in consuming more than what we need to. Once we become aware of our blissful ignorance, we will be more vigilant and possibly more conscious about doing more with less.

Reuse & Recycle – Most people in developing nations have mastered this art but as the economic well being goes up, we indulge freely because we can now afford to. So convenience becomes the new mantra and reuse & recycling remain footnotes in the daily grind. Think before you dispose; can you find alternative uses for what you want to dispose? Don’t worry about being called a cheapskate; your objective is to do more with less.

Utilize recyclable stuff – Primarily this means minimize your use of plastics and instead utilize reusable options like paper / cloth bags.  Can you have your own minimal crockery at your work place so that you can wash and reuse your coffee mug / spoon/ fork and plate? Do not be overly worried about what people will think about you. You will be setting an example and perhaps influence others to imitate you.

Limit our usage – It is an extension of the above; wherein you go prepared so that you avoid the use of stuff (like plastic bags )/ do not print flex boards indiscriminately simply because it is cheap / buy stuff simply because it looks nice/ cute  or is on discount but which you may never use after buying. How about working on not wasting electricity and switching off all the unnecessary lights and power supply switches? Ask yourself if you are wasting running water and how you can limit the use of it. Notice how tooth paste advertisements always show the paste being spread on the entire bristles.  Do we really have to use so much of toothpaste or is it a psychological ploy to ensure you consume more? Notice also that the large toothpaste packs have a much wider mouth so that you tend to squeeze out a much larger volume; a good marketing method to increase consumption and sales; do you need to fall prey to it?

Do not overstock – Overstocking would only lead to possibilities of having expired stuff that you have to trash. Particularly true of medicines and edible stuff. So you pay good money (even if there are bargain offers) only to end up losing all that money to trash.

Find alternatives – How about buying refill packs instead of a bottled / fully packaged stuff where the packing becomes thrash no sooner you bring it home. How about having a sturdy bag that accompanies you whenever you go shopping so that you eliminate all the plastic bags that your stuff is put into?

Say No where possible – Even if the shopkeeper offers you a plastic buy and you just have a couple of items to take away can you avoid taking that plastic bag? Can you resist the temptation to buy stuff just because of a discount / sale offer if you do not think you are going to use the stuff in the near future? Can you say no to ordering food online simply because you are too lazy?

Be creative – When going window shopping don’t carry money/ wallet. This will ensure that you don’t indulge in impulsive buying. Sure, if there is something you really want, you will take that effort of going again and buying it. Remove all the shopping apps on your electronic devises. Retain only the essential ones. Can you limit home delivery so that the amount of plastics and cartons can be done away with? Can you shop from those outlets which you know are eco friendly?

Spread the word – Your actions speak louder than your words. So let others notice your pro environment behavior.  You can also share with others your concerns and suggestions on how they too can become environmentally conscious and take practical steps.

Notice that in the above process, you are actually ending up doing a lot more by using less. When action speaks louder than words; that too is actually getting a lot more done by less pontification.

Apologies for using more words and sentences than needed for getting the message across.

Try these:

  • Make a list of environmental friendly initiatives that you will immediately implement.
  • What are steps you will take to ensure you get more money’s worth from all what you have?

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Keeping friendships alive

Friendship is like money, easier made than kept. Samuel Butler

Ever notice how our income barely seems to help us keep our expenses covered even if we are earning more and more each year. The reason for this is very simple; we really don’t pay attention to our money matters as much as we should. Now if we substitute the word money with the word friends, we notice that we have made so many friends but find it hard to really maintain the relationship. The reason is the same; our inability to take care of our friendships.

In today’s technology facilitated world, making friends across the globe is passé. Yet while we may see many of them online for example, either we do not converse with them or they are too busy. Over time we delete these contacts with no remorse. Technology allows us that liberty without any pangs of conscience but in real life, we rarely delete but we rarely connect either. When we look back at the close friendships we have made in school, college, our neighborhood, at work etc. we find that we are open to most people when making friends. However when we interact more closely we could be changing our opinion and then the friendship starts to fizzle.

To begin with any friendship to be called one needs to be developed and this is a time consuming process. There has to be some commonality of interests for a friendship to begin and flourish. More importantly the wave length of friends should match so that there is understanding, tolerance, mutual respect and a strong bonding. These are traits that are discovered slowly as one nurtures a friendship. There are three pillars of friendship Communication , Trust and Openness. All friendships are built up on this foundation and so it is important that one is not only aware of this but also makes an effort to strengthen each of these qualities in our interactions with friends.

Communication is of course a two way process and unless both parties interact and share thoughts ideas fears hopes expectations and very often discuss on mutually interested topics and also indulge in talking shop, the friendship will not really flower. Of course we must be careful that we are not too blunt or insensitive while communicating or else we would be making a very counter productive move. Trust is the soil in which the seeds of bonding are sown and it is here that friendships take roots and sprout into a life long bonding. We have to be careful that we never betray anyone’s rust in us for there is no second chance when trust is betrayed. Openness is the fertilizer that nourishes the friendships and ensures that the growth is healthy, robust and invaluable. Openness is tough because we expose ourselves and we hope that our open communication is accepted with out bias and the underlying trust is never shaken.

Remember: Truly great friends are hard to find, difficult to leave, and impossible to forget.”

Try this:

  1. Take a fresh look at the names appearing in your friends list in your email contacts, chat lists, social networking sites etc. Are there some people who you should delete to make the list more manageable? Are there others who you realise have been unfairly ignored but need to be communicated with. Go ahead and do just that.
  2. Ask yourself if you prefer an email greeting or an old fashioned snail mail greeting card / letter. Make a list of people whom you feel will much appreciate a and written letter and personalized card. Ensure you write the note and get a card and if possible go and deliver it personally to such people. The recipients need not be friends of your age but could be teachers, friends of your parents or neighbours who have moved away.

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Nurturing friendship

We secure our friends not by accepting favors but by doing them. Thucydides

If we reflect on the numerous friends who have become part of our lives we would observe a common trait in many cases… either they did you a favor and then your cemented the friendship or you helped them out and then the friendship was cemented by them. The favors might be something so simple that you might not even recollect it but that was the corner stone around which the edifice of your friendship was built. It is also possible that over the years some friendships have broken off and a close study of the reasons could throw up a disturbing fact that someone’s expectations out of the friendship might have been misplaced.

The word favor often conjures up images of substantial monetary help or some life and death episode in which someone played a critical part. Surprisingly most favors consist of simple acts that happened at the right time.  Remember the time that you were accused of playing some mischief by the class teacher but the class monitor vouched for your innocence perhaps at the cost of incurring the teachers wrath.  Maybe it was a class mate who lend you his / her books during exam time because your books were lost or misplaced. Simple acts of kindness often lead to strong bonding and lifelong friendships. The pat on the back or a spontaneous gesture of appreciation by a colleague for a job well done  can be the beginning of a wonderful friendship.

It is just as important to forget that you did someone a favor and it is equally vital that you remember the favors done by others. What it means is that one must never expect favors to be returned but one must endeavor to return a favor at the first opportune moment. I remember a class mate who readily agreed to arrange for blood for the operation of a close family member. Almost three decades later he contacted me when we had a class reunion and I was delighted to host him at my home since he had moved out of town. He never remembered the favor he had done me even when I reminded him about it and he was profusely thankful for the hospitality I extended him. Reunion times are the best occasion to recall the fun times and the strong bonds that were forged which unfortunately got untangled as people moved away due to work and professional commitments. Fortunately the communication revolution has provided us the perfect platform to remain in touch even when we are miles away.

Today we are in a position to maintain our friendships over time and space and we must leverage that benefit. A word of encouragement, appreciation, apology, sympathy or simply a line in acknowledgment would spur relationships and forge friendships. Leveraging the power of networking provides us a fabulous platform to do favors. Similarly one can share his/ her expertise to do favors and occasionally even use ones clout and influence to favor a friend provided it is done with the right spirit and intention. In the final analysis we need to give to others and you will be repaid by more than just another favor; you will have made a friend for life!

Remember: “true friendship isn’t about being there when it’s convenient; it’s about being there when it’s not.”

Try this:

  1. Read up on other dimensions of friendship in the following blog http://poweract.blogspot.com/2010/05/friend.html .
  2. Try and locate 3 long lost friends and begin communicating with them. How about attempting to make 1 new friend a month or at least trying to get to know 1 new person a week?

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A cheerful friend is…

When good cheer is lacking, our friends will be packing. Anon

A strong friendship is forged not just based on common interests and like mindness but on our ability to enjoy  the company of those around. It is obvious that if one were to enjoy one another’s company good cheer is central to making the atmosphere light and pleasant. Good cheer is not about cracking vulgar jokes or making lewd comments and of late sharing obnoxious SMS, though there could be a few friendships that revolve around that. Good cheer is all about laughing, smiling, having a sense of humor and being able to take light hearted rib tickling when it is directed at you.

If we look back we will realize that over the years there were many friendships that have for no apparent reason just disappeared but there will be many new friendships that have been forged over time too. Strangely enough many friendships die off because people have moved away and or we have just not kept in touch. Yet if we make the effort and make an attempt to touch base with theses friends, we discover that time had just stopped briefly and we can reconnect with aplomb and intensity of the old days. Class reunions particularly silver jubilee reunions provide and ideal setting for such occasions. The coon thread is that we make the connect primarily because we have a commonality of enjoying each other’s company and good cheer when together is the cementing bond.

If we observe the more lonely and often withdrawn people we notice that they have very few friends and their nature would invariably be dour and negative.  No sooner one becomes sullen and temperamental, the first casualty invariably is friendship. Logically no one wants to be around a person who has a defeatist attitude, walks around with a poor me syndrome and oozes negativity. No doubt when we go through some rather sad and unfortunate circumstances in our life, it is our friends who will be there to support and uplift our spirits. However they expect us to overcome the temporary setbacks over time and that we regain our normal behavior that endear us to our friends.  It is when we slip into a defeatist mode that we soon discover that our attitude has deprived us of our friends for it is human nature to gravitate towards those who spread joy and happiness.

Technology has provided us astounding means of creating new friendships, re discovering old friends and maintain friendship across continents. Yet this very same technology if not used right will sour friendships and possibly ruin good relationships. The social networking sites, the chat sites, the emails and messengers are diverse means to the same end of keeping people connected. The mobile phone has further redefined the meaning of connectivity. Yet, the spam’s, the forwards and the boorish net behavior have resulted in us having to block people from connecting to us. A careful look at this emerging trend will again reveal the truth that it is only those who spread good cheer any which way is  blessed with enduring and endearing friendship.

Remember: “There are three types of friends: those like food, without which you can’t live; those like medicine, which you need occasionally; and those like an illness, which you never want.”

Try this:

  1. Try and track down at least 3 of your school friends whom you have been out of touch with for at least 5 years or more. How does the person react when you touch base after so long. What are your feelings when you communicate with that friend?
  2. Are there friends who you would like to keep your distance from? Can you identify the reasons for feeling like that. How will you react if a close friend tells you not to forward SMS messages or email forwards because he / she is inundated with such material? Will you be able to convey a similar feeling to a close friend?

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