Tag: Difficulties

It is ok to be not okay…

27- Not ok so whatUnhappy, disillusioned, confused, hurt, resentful, angry, listless, tired, ignored, unlucky;. Do you experience these emotions / feelings off and on? Do you feel like the only person facing these problems? The reality is that almost every one experiences these intermittently. However, the problem arises when we frequently experience negative emotions, find it difficult to ignore these emotions and worst of all succumb to the pressures of these emotions. Most of these emotions are temporary, largely fleeting and often a byproduct of wild negative thinking. However, it is important that we do go through the feeling of not feeling okay; of being uncomfortable, disturbed and pained. When we experience a situation that disturbs our peace of mind it is essential that we accept it as a painful reality. What is not acceptable is denying it, questioning it, constantly whining over it and making it control our life. When one can make peace with the painful reality, one can appreciate the fact that such not okay feelings actually accentuate the value of the positive emotions and feelings that we are blessed with.

The challenge is to experience being not okay and managing to get back to the okay state. It is like knowing how much one can stretch a rubber band. Stretch it beyond a point and it will snap. Like that broken rubber band, if one lets the not okay feeling to overpower one’s emotions, one becomes irrational, broken in spirit and body and then surrender to mediocrity, mere sustenance and survival. Being not okay implies that we are made aware of our imperfections and limitations. It also keeps us grounded to the reality that not all our efforts can give us the fruits we desire. It also spurs us to make adjustments, re-evaluate our original plans and make a fresh start. However, the danger is that when we are not okay, at times we get demoralized, disheartened and dispirited. There is then a possibility of us giving up and not making any effort to get back on track. History teaches us that even the most successful people have always encountered challenges and it is their self belief and determination that have made them rise up again and climb the pedestal of success.

Here are 6 guiding principles to navigate the not okay state and come back to the okay state.

  1. The past cannot be changed but the lessons it provides are to be learnt well.
  2. The future exists for us to utilize it wisely without having the hangover of the past.
  3. The present is where life happens and we better not waste it brooding over the past or ring fencing the future.
  4. Learn to appreciate and value the good in every adverse situation.
  5. Be prepared to face the unexpected no matter how well you have planned for the future.
  6. Today offers you 24 hours to utilize all the lessons learned, to attain your goals; don’t squander it away.

Try these:

  • Suppose you were mistakenly locked up in prison for a crime you didn’t commit but there is no possibility of immediate release and a long term prison term of 5 years at least what would you do ?
  • You have committed a terrible mistake which you managed to cover up well. However an innocent member of your team was blamed and he/ she was sacked unceremoniously. You have always regretted your silence in the matter. 6years later you come face to face with the unfortunate victim of your misdeed. What would you do?
  • Can you recall 3 incidences / episodes / happenings / events in your life that really disturbed you when experienced it. How did you cope with each such situation? Do those events still play on your mind?

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Launching yourself

13-9- One step back 2 forward

It is that time of the year when the exam fever is at its peak and both students and parents are in a tizzy coping with the stress of doing well in the exams. The real stress actually comes a wee bit later as the day of the results draws near. While for some there could be jubilation, for a fair amount of people there could be dejection but the vast majority would be plagued by a sinking feeling that the outcome could have been or should have been better. An analysis would possibly reveal that an overwhelming majority are disappointed that the outcomes fell short of their expectations. In effect just about everyone seems to think that the academic pursuits have actually dragged them back or atleast impeded them in the race to a successful future.

The scene with the adults is no different. On one hand they seem to be dragged down by the weight of propping up their wards to excel, they also are bogged down by the pressure to attain personal success professionally, financially, personally and socially. Many a time, success seems elusive, the goals seem distant and the pressure becomes overwhelming. The collective weight of balancing personal expectations, professional growth and domestic bliss seem to be huge load to manage. Often we are tempted to throw in the towel and give up; our spirits are drooping and the rewards seem unappetizing.

Yet it is at the very nadir that one must dig his /her heels in, take a deep breath and with faith and hope launch a herculean effort. Be it an arrow, a trigger or a shotput; to get results we need to take that vital pull back to get the momentum to hit the mark. Take a look at a pole vaulter and notice the sharp arch of the pole brought about by the weight of the individual before the momentum and the technique dramatically enables the pole valuter to go much higher than the pole and safely cross over the barrier. The subtle message is that one often needs to take one step back before one can take two steps forward.

Success is often like a game of snakes and ladders. There are times when we get lucky and climb up faster but many a time we get gobbled up by the snake and come right down. Do we stop playing the game every time we get gobbled by a snake? The challenge in real life is not to let the snakes, be it poor academics or a personal handicap or poor self esteem or financial setbacks or a colossal blunder, become an excuse to give up.

Try this:

  1. Go to a long jump pit and stand at the edge and jump. Have 3 tries and measure the best effort. Now walk back 10 steps and then run down and jump and measure the distance. You can be sure the latter effort where you actually walked back, away from the pit and then gave it your all gave you superlative jump.
  2. Find out the personal limitations / failures that the following overcame before they achieved success
  • Ludwig van Beethoven
  • Helen Keller
  • B. S. Chandrasekhar
  • Walt Disney
  • Tapishwar Narain Raina

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Confronting difficulties

In time of difficulties, we must not lose sight of our achievements. Mao Tse-Tung

Difficulties are found in every walk of life be it in personal life, in the work environment, in the family, in business, in sports, in social communications etc. Obviously in an ideal world, we would hate to be faced with difficulties because it impedes our progress, causes disruption and challenges us to overcome it with a real risk of failure looming large. Yet with resourcefulness, ingenuity, grit and persistence more often than not we have overcome many a difficulty and perhaps occasionally also experienced a few bruises in the process. We would also have painful recollections of failures, discouragement, frustration, shame and pain when the difficulties could not be overcome. Yet if you are still reading this, it clearly means that no obstacle or difficulty could defeat you permanently and that is a very encouraging thought.

Despite this realization, we tend to get dispirited, frustrated and are often tempted to throw in the towel when some difficulties seem unreasonable, grossly unjust and we lack the temperament to fight our way through. Here are three facts about difficulties that we must bear in mind at all times.

  • We cannot avoid difficulties
  • We can plan to mitigate the possible difficulties that we can visualize
  • Every difficulty that comes our way can be dealt with; however success is not guaranteed but if we do nothing failure is certain.

With the above reality kept in mind we can tackle every difficulty that comes our way with equanimity and hope. Since we are sure that we cannot avoid difficulties, the first thing we need to do is accept the difficulties when it comes with faith in ourselves and hope in finding a solution. The numerous successes that we have had in tackling past difficulties will give us both the faith and hope needed to sustain when things look bleak and one is desperately searching for the silver lining in the dark clouds.

We walk into a large number of difficulties simply because we do not anticipate them. The major reason for this is a lackadaisical attitude, inept planning and false bravado. Casualness in handling a task means we are leaving too many loose ends that could bring about a variety of difficulties. Inept planning can be overcome by brain storming, ideating, imagination and a structured approach to any task on hand. This involves not merely thinking about an issue but enumerating the solution in writing and then assigning responsibilities with clear directions, deadlines and goals. Such planning must also make allowances for changes and alternatives must be kept ready for implementation. The reality is that even the best of plans can be devastated by the unexpected, unforeseen and unimaginable difficulties. A sense of false bravado often results in one plunging headlong into finding solutions when the reality is that one needs expert advice, the help of experienced personnel and perhaps the courage of conviction to change the course of action when the progress is certainly doomed in the original direction planned.

Many a failure experienced when confronted with difficulties, is merely because a lack of self belief or the exact opposite a stubborn mule like tendency to chase the impossible. Lack of self belief comes from lack of adequate knowledge, poor self esteem, an exaggerated fear of failure and stunted thinking that limits self belief. The stubbornness that each of us has in varying degrees is primarily the result of EGO and partly the outcome of ignorance, foolhardiness and the mistaken notion that giving up is equivalent to failure. The challenge then is to master the difficulty of accepting the reality that whispers aloud to us and says go on you can do it or when it says stop killing yourself pursuing the impossible. When the former whispers loudly then take a good look at the quote below and when the latter whispers louder than ponder on the quote at the very top.

Remember:  Difficulties mastered are opportunities won. Winston Churchill

Try this:

  1. How will you tackle the following difficulties?
  • You have borrowed your friend’s costly new mobile handset and have misplaced it.
  • You have studied hard for your exams. When the question paper is handed over to you, you are shocked to see the question paper of the subject that you had not anticipated. You then realize that unfortunately due to an error in jotting down the exam schedule, you studied the subject for the examination to be held a day later.
  • You are in a new city and suddenly realize that you have been robbed of your purse and mobile. With no know person in the city and no money you are badly stuck.
  1. The challenge / difficulty in this puzzle is to link all 9 dots (shown below) using four straight lines or fewer, without lifting the pen and without tracing the same line more than once.


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The easy way to tackle challenges

It’s so hard when I have to, and so easy when I want to.  ~Annie Gottlier

The challenge we face each day is to make each day a pleasurable one, an interesting one and one devoid of irritation, boredom and  dislike. The tough part of this is facing the reality that our daily routine is by and large well set and a good part of that routine is repetitive, stressful and / or  boring. The only consolation we can take is that the pattern is true for almost all of us and so we do not feel less privileged. Yet, when we see the enthusiasm and the energy and the euphoria that some people manage to display every single day, we wonder how they do it.

A clue to this can perhaps be got by examining our student days. If we simply looked back at our student days we would realise that we always favoured some subjects over others and we would happily spend a lot of time on those subjects. As for those subjects we disliked we tackled it with disdain, defiance and disinterest. In effect, when we were forced to study what we didn’t like, the effort was too hard and painful whereas what appealed to us was welcomed whole heartedly and enthusiastically. The secret then is to get to like what we have to do.

Is it possible for us to like what we have to do? Very few of us would like to take an injection for it is painful. Yet when we are left with no option we pluck courage from our deepest recess and go through the process. Perhaps the thought of getting relief or the fear of more painful consequences of not taking the injection spurs the person to voluntarily subject himself/ herself to the pain of an injection. Similarly the urge to score excellently or the fear of failure would have egged us on to study subjects we didn’t really fancy. In both examples there is a positive end result that actually directs our actions. If we can get some of this attitude to guide us in our daily life we would find life less stressful and perhaps even discover that in fact life is very invigorating. Overcoming our fear holds the key to beginning to like what we have to do.

It is not enough just to overcome our fear or reservations about things that we do not really relish but cannot avoid. To really want to relish whatever comes ones way it is essential that we have the right spirit, add a liberal dose of creativity to make things interesting, take occasional setbacks as experiences to learn from and be energetic enough never to get bogged down. Eg. A telephone operators job is perhaps one of the most repetitive and thank less jobs that can get boring, stressful and insipid. Yet some of the best telephone operators would sound as energetic at close of day as they would at the start of the day. Their success lies in visualising themselves as key cogs in the corporate communication wheel and also believing that they are the critical touch point for their corporate. The ultimate lesson is that one finds it easy to meet daily challenges if  one can  see oneself in the right perspective, as influencers in the spheres that we have to commit to, whether we forced into or otherwise.

Remember: There is nothing so easy but that it becomes difficult when you do it reluctantly.  ~Publius Terentius Afer

 Try this:

  1. You have  met with an accident and have to be  confined to bed rest for 2 months. By nature you are an outdoor person. How will you cope with this forced home stay? What activities will you indulge in? How would ensure that you are being productive and not bored?
  2. You are basically a person who prefers the indoors. Due to a sudden crisis you are forced to accompany a group of 50 school children to 2 week outdoor activity camp. You are aware that the children are boisterous and need to be kep engaged all the time. You just dislike the whole assignment but have no choice. How will you ensure that the trip is a success?

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The benefits of troubles

That which does not kill me makes me stronger. Friedrich Nietzsche

Yes, troubles come in all shapes and sizes and often at the most unexpected moments. While the normal troubles of illness and niggling interpersonal problems can be relatively easily handled, we are nearly always stressed out by troubles that are of a much larger proportion.  Since none of us like any form of disturbance in an otherwise tranquil life, we also tend to exaggerate our troubles on very many occasions and make it look like a terrible cross to carry. On the other hand there are a few unfortunate people who by a strange quirk of fate, are destined to be in a vice like grip of unending troubles and one must doff our hat to these individuals who still manage to retain their sanity and embrace life with regret perhaps but not rancor.

The real trouble starts when one gives up battling the troubles that are both inevitable and unpredictable. Of course there are times when we invite trouble by our own stupidity, greed, ill temper or some similar vice or irrational behavior. In such cases, one must be ready to faces the consequences and invariably such troubles are anticipated and appropriately managed. How does one battle something like a debilitating disease, an accident that seriously impairs the person, the sudden and unexpected death of someone his/ her prime? Whilst people react in various ways to such sudden upheavals in their life, the most important aspect of the response is to accept the troubles as a reality and not to sweep it under the carpet of daily living. When one is not reconciled to the reality of the existence of the problem, one is prone to live in denial and then life becomes complicated since no proof will help mitigate the problem or resolve it.

Some people are able to quickly adjust to the reality of the changed circumstances that the troubles have unwittingly foisted on them. Such people will immediately plan to work out both short term and long term strategies with minimum emotional baggage as possible. They would also attempt to ensure that those around them particularly their loved ones are comforted and put at ease despite their own mental turmoil. Those who cannot accept the reality, have a very tough time even dwelling on their troubles. They could ascribe motives right from their cursed fate, to some terrible past life crimes or to the sins of their forefathers for their fate. Reality won’t change with these thoughts but if one cannot adjust to the reality, they are quickly engulfed by the troubles. Strangely enough most people in trouble suddenly turn more religious and spiritual irrespective of their acceptance of their troubles or not.

Like fire that toughens the steel that is tempered by it, troubles if seen in the right perspective, actually helps one to rediscover the reality of who one is and find hidden reserves and new strengths. For one, almost all of us in trouble suddenly make the painful discovery of who their real friends are. Whilst some come up with the shocking realization that those intimate friends were mere fair weather friends, others from whom we keep our distance surprisingly turned out to be more understanding and helpful. Our perceptions about our friends that were once distorted are crystal clear now. If we objectively analyze the reality post the changed reality, one can get a sense of urgency, a dose of being pragmatic and discover a fighting spirit that was never tested before but which now races to the forefront. Finally it also dawns on us that the troubles never can kill the spirit; it can sap the energy, confound the mind and kills the body but the spirit lives on: forever!

Remember: “Trouble brings experience, and experience brings wisdom

Try this:

Although these links have been given in some other posts, it is highly recommended that we visit these links once again to help us understand our troubles in the right perspective.

  1. Look at this video on the life of Nick Vujicic the man who was born with No Arms & No Legs http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6F8zK57Wa0A
  2. Read the article Airborne to Chair borne by the Paraplegic Air force Officer M.P.Anil Kumar whose life changed overnight in a tragic accident. http://pallavees.blogspot.com/2006/03/airborne-to-chairborne.html

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Joys and sorrows

No one gives joy or sorrow … We gather the consequences of our own deeds. Garuda Purana

The immediate reaction one has when reading the above is that we have so many troubles which legitimately should not be ours. In our view we have only done good and have scrupulously followed the law of the land and the beliefs of our faith and so the unbearable pain and troubles are definitely not the consequences of our bad deeds. Pause for a moment and focus on the joys that you are blessed with. Oh there are so many gifts and blessings that we may never really have deserved and yet we have been showered with them. Ask if you really did such extraordinary deeds that made you worthy of the bounty freely given to you? If you try to balance the fortunes and misfortunes, invariably we would feel that we could do with more of some fortunes; this is human nature for in our human weakness we fail to fully appreciate our good fortune be it material wealth, intellectual wealth, loads of friends, good health, good family background etc. We also tend to exaggerate our problems and troubles.

However if we attempt to examine our joys and sorrows that pepper each day of our life, then we would perhaps observe a more identifiable pattern. It takes a little effort to understand the pattern and we must be objective about it without attempting to rationalize our joys and/ or sorrows. Almost all of our joys, one would notice, have come about because we prepared ourselves for it by working for it, hoping for it, by doing our duty without any expectations or by praying for it. On the contrary our sorrows in most cases came about chiefly because we were casual, negligent, irresponsible, indifferent and / or undisciplined in our ways. Our exams marks is a good reflection of how we prepared and succeeded or failed. No doubt there could be exceptions where we did everything possible yet did not triumph or by a quirk of fate did very well in exams for which we barely prepared.  On the work front too our growth and promotions or monetary returns is directly correlated to our efforts and hard work.

There is another angle to the whole business of being rewarded with joys or burdened with our sorrows and that is the short term view we take as opposed to the long term effects. On hindsight many of our joys and troubles seem to have been bestowed on us at the opportune time. Our joys have helped us strengthen our self belief and shaped our positive attitude while the sorrows have helped us better appreciate the riches we have. Sometimes the sorrows have been opportune for it has paved the way forward to a more rewarding path. Eg. Not scoring enough to get into medicine or engineering may have pushed us to change tracks and thereby enter a more rewarding and satisfying career. There is comfort in the knowledge that we are never ever burdened with more than what we can handle and always rewarded with more than what we deserve. It is for us to be able to cope with the pressures and handle our joys with equanimity and humility.

Remember: “Focus on making yourself happy and you’ll soon be miserable. Focus on bringing joy to others and your own happiness will quickly follow.”  Roy H. Williams

Try this:

  1. Think of a time when you felt terrible because you were deeply disappointed. Ask yourself if that particular incident had a major bearing on your attitude, confidence, psyche.  Now also recollect a couple of very special happy moments in your life. How did impact your future? Have you ever been falsely accused and punished in your life? How did it feel?
  2. Are you one of those people who feel that you will never win a lottery/ bingo/ lucky dip? Have you stopped enjoying playing such games because you feel you will never win?  Don’t you think it is better to enjoy playing and have a chance of winning than not playing and always believing you will not win for you can win only if you play.

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The gain from pain

One cannot get through life without pain … What we can do is choose how to use the pain life presents to us.  Bernie S. Siegel, M.D.

Broadly speaking one will experience 3 types of pain. The physical pain is what we are most familiar with like breaking our bones or getting grazed when one falls. The emotional pain is one we experience when our emotions are put to test like in case of a broken relationship be it with parents, spouse, siblings or children. The psychological pain is one we may be subject to but not acutely conscious off as will be the case if we are the butt of jokes amongst classmates or if one is constantly being belittled or humiliated. Almost all of us would have suffered from one or more of such pain but in most cases we have overcome it and gone on to forget it too.

Yet when we are asked to look back and recollect some of the more painful memories it is the emotional and psychological pain that often comes immediately to mind. Painful experiences leave a deep and sordid aftermath which can be life altering whichever way one takes it. For those who are deeply scarred by the event will always walk in the shadow of that pain and will attribute all their failures and miseries to that pain. On the other hand those who are more resilient and positive will use that painful learning to fire up their spirit and conquer their fears and hurt brought about by the pain. Herein lies the test of the true spirit of life – will you conquer pain or will you let the pain imprison you? For every Helen Keller and Douglas Bader there are a thousand others who give in to their pain and commit suicide. Here is the extraordinary story of a man cheated by fate once but one of those bravehearts who never let fate rob him of his freedom of expression; click here to read on about M.P.Anil Kumar http://sojish.com/topics-mainmenu-31/63-notes-a-articles/196-airborne-to-chairborne.html

While it might be pretty easy to pontificate about pain ( as I am doing right now) it is the person in the line of fire who has to experience the agony of the pain. One never knows but tomorrow it could be either mine or your turn to be part of that painful experience.  Death of a loved one is a pain that each of us would have experienced at some point. In all probability we would have soon taken the rational bypass  that death is a reality and consoled ourselves that we have to face the reality. However if the person who died is in the prime of youth or a child the inevitable question that haunts us is ‘Why?’.  More traumatic to deal with is the pain brought on by  a drastic physical change the like losing a limb or being a paraplegic, for these are life altering not just for the person but also for the family. Not far behind is the pain of seeing a loved one suffer from dementia, Alzheimer’s, motor neuron disease etc. all of which have no cure as on date and yet slowly wastes the body away causing deep anguish to both the patient and to the family. Can we realistically handle such pain?

Yes one can minimize the impact of such pain through a mixture of pragmatism, counseling, prayer and positive thinking. Pragmatism will help one comprehend the reality with fortitude. Counseling will alleviate the  panic and help channelize ones energy into acceptance of the reality. Prayer is the one channel that will send a person tons of hope to cope. Positive thinking will provide the oxygen that nourishes body and mind, strengthen ones resolve and provide us a shield to guard against depression and a feeling of hopelessness.

Remember: Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional.

Try this:

  1. As and when you can, try walking barefoot on a tar road or on cobble stone walkway for at least 5 – 10 minutes. What are your feelings? Do you give up even before you have walked a  100 meters? Do you get irritated saying ‘ Why am I doing such a stupid thing?’ To experience the pain brought about by fear you can visit a nearby zoo or snake park and try  (with permission of course) handle a non poisonous snake.
  2. Plan a visit to a local old age home/ a hospice / home for the mentally challenged and spend a day with the inmates. How do you think the staff of these places motivate themselves to work for those who are in pain and suffering?

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Troubles that treble your life

Never complain about your troubles; they are responsible for more than half of your income. Robert R. Updegraff

Stop to think about this profound observation once again before you read on. Now quickly calculate your bank balance and estimate what the source of income is and simultaneously ask yourself if you love everything about your source of income. You can be sure if you had a choice you would definitely like to trim a few unpleasant chores that are part of your current job profile or maybe you want to change your current income source /profile altogether. Yet, the lure of the income more than compensates for the pain of putting up with a nagging boss, indisciplined co workers, long hours of work, the constant stress at work, the repetitive and boring nature of your work etc.

Troubles have a way of sneaking in and as much as you try to side step it, they have the uncanny knack of sticking like a leech. No sooner that you overcome one set of troubles another set is ready for the onslaught and the repercussions tyrannical. The fillip side is that most troubles eventually subside and occasionally go off and more importantly these troubles are the reason you get rewarded. Some troubles if borne with a grin and pleasant demeanor give instant income as is the case of all those who get tipped; be it waiters at a restaurant, the bell hop or the  cab driver.  For many others like insurance brokers, real estate agents, salesmen and the like the rewards are directly linked to the quantum of sale and this involves not just persuasion but even persistence, self belief and tremendous patience.

For most mortals who are employed the job profile is always a mixed bag with little choice left to us. Not only does the job get boring and repetitive but the lack of appreciation, the invariable berating of superiors and the fine tightrope walking at the work place balancing equations with colleagues are troubles that weigh heavily on you. Yet the monthly/ fortnightly/ weekly paycheck more than outweighs the troubles that you have to put up with. For the self employed and the business tycoons they love their independence but when the economy is down and the creditors keep knocking at the door and the liabilities are piling up, the troubles suddenly seem to be multiplying. With no one to blame, no escape route and not alternatives the only recourse is to squarely face the troubles even if it means having to beg or borrow. Yet when the going is good, the tax man plays spoil sport, the employees behave like unruly children and the household budgets leap frog and ensure that your troubles are far from over.

Look at the beggars on the street who have to bear the brunt of dirt and squalor not to mention the inhuman treatment meted out by passerbyers , the harassment of the law enforcers  and the ignominy of never knowing what they get at the end of the day. Yet, for all their troubles, they earn and survive and for them their whole earnings is based on the troubles they put up with. Maybe our troubles pale in comparison; but we definitely earn an income completely disproportionate to our troubles. Amen

Remember: “The secret of happiness is to count your blessings while others are adding up their troubles”

Try these:

  1. Draw up a balance sheet of all the troubles and rewards of your job. The troubles to be put on the liability side and the rewards on the income side. Don’t forget that having a job / work/ business is the biggest fixed asset. Perhaps now you can see why your balance sheet is asset heavy !
  2. Pick out 3- 5 of your troubles and ask how much (in % age) of your income are you willing to part with for someone else to take over that trouble. This will give you another perspective about how the troubles are nothing compared to the income that they generate.

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Every path has its puddle. English proverb

For the world at large the lovely pathways are not just tempting and alluring but are an invitation to explore the yonder. Amidst this tranquility most unexpectedly we come across a puddle and we are in a quandary as to how to get across without wetting our footwear or getting splashed upon.  If we are just taking a leisurely walk, the puddle might be insignificant but if the path is the one we are taking for a serious business appointment the puddle can mess up more than just ones shoes.

If you look back at your childhood, the thought of the rainy season will bring us fond memories of the numerous puddles that we delighted in jumping in without a care in the world. No doubt there were times when the fear of parental reprimand would cross our minds but in the child like exuberance we just let the puddle absorb our attention and blanked our mind of the consequences. While dad would be furious at the soggy shoes and socks and mud splattered books and bags, mum would be focused on whether we would fall sick and get fever. The scolding and stern warnings rarely deterred us from jumping in headlong into the next puddle simply because the thrill of playing in the water, splashing around and enjoying the mess was too alluring to avoid.

With childhood gone in a jiffy and adulthood suddenly overtaking us responsibility weighs heavily on us. The carefree days are long past, we are acutely aware of the business of life and the rains are now more of a nuisance than pure unadulterated fun. Now the pathways suddenly seem to stretch, the cool shades of the trees lining it seem to be more somber and dull and the unexpected puddle now seem like a chasm too wide and threatening. The change is not in the environment but in us; the mindset that one never feared is no longer carefree and the onus of the future seems to weigh us down. The puddles are obstacles, they are messy and we hate the thought of finding a way to sidestep it.

If we just let the child in us take over our lives occasionally, we would enjoy not just the puddles but life itself. We would suddenly realize that life is actually a lovely pathway, lined with wonderful flowers, leading us on to the most amazing scenery where surprises await us with open arms and the occasional puddles are best enjoyed by jumping in and not gingerly side stepping it. Go on and tread the paths you have never used and look around and enjoy the scenery, smell the flowers, step on to some bird droppings and fall down for then you will get to smell the mud and the puddles will help you clean up.

Remember: “It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it is because we do not dare that things are difficult.” Seneca

Try these:

  1. Read any of the numerous books on the life of the great American educationist George Washington Carver. It is an inspiring story about the hurdles that he overcame right from his birth to his adulthood and old age. It will provide you inspiration and motivation to realize that hurdles are simply to be overcome and no one can stop you from attaining your goals.
  2. Make a firm resolve that from today onwards you will attempt to tackle at least one of your pet peeves  or disliked tasks first thing before you begin your day. E.g. Tackling paperwork which you dislike or replying to emails / correspondence conveying negative or bad news or spending time on planning the day etc. The trick is to focus on those tasks that you postpone for the last and attempt it first so that your mind is more relaxed and your attention is fully on the other tasks on hand.

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