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Cross the bridge of insecurities…

18 -03-26 Jan 18- Cross that bridgeIntent is not enough, one needs to start and progress if one wants to get positive outcomes. However, for many, beginning is in itself a humongous challenge and it is largely to do with escaping from one’s insecurities both imagined and real. Talent, abilities, passion goes abegging because individual’s were too mortified to take chances. For most people the chance to explore other possibilities gets shut off because of his / her insecurities. They do not dare to explore alternatives for fear of failure, discomfort, embarrassment. Overcoming these is the key to discovering yourself and the immense possibilities that lie before you.

Failure – This is the most common reason that chains people from exploring beyond their comfort zone. One would imagine every possible reason that could potentially result in failure and thereby rationalize that the status quo is best suited. However if one were to closely examine one’s personal growth from childhood, the word failure was never known to you or understood by you. Hence you attempted to turn over in bed as a child, you crawled, you fell of the bed, you tried to stand up on wobbly legs, you walked daintily at first, you ran and fell, you fell of a cycle, you almost drowned when learning swimming etc. Is it not a pity that once we learned the word failure, understood its meaning and accepted it as a reality, we misinterpreted it as something to loathe, fear and avoid. One needs to appreciate the word failure to mean, a possibility of not succeeding till we try again and again. Perhaps now, you would be reassured that failure is temporary; progress is forever, provided one tries again and again.

Discomfort – When one dares to be different, it implies that one is taking chances, calculated risks and moving out of one’s comfort zone. There is a very real possibility of facing a lot of difficulty, risks that could waylay you because you did not anticipate it and having little alternative to turn back. In effect it implies that  once a path is chosen that is different, unique and daring, there is a very high probability that one would have discomfort as a constant companion for a fairly long time. A simple example that illustrates this is a person trying to change his/ her physical personality by going to a gym and exercising. It is awkward at first because you believe you are out of shape, you get drained off by the routine, you cannot change overnight and you need to keep at it till you observe the change. Most people therefore avoid taking this route. In fact they live with their regret for the rest of their life only because they do not want to experience discomfort.

Embarrassment – No one wants to be embarrassed; yet one would necessarily have to go through that process if one is not adept. Learning anything new is always a challenge because in the beginning you will be awkward, you will imitate but fall flat, you could be taunted, your self-belief will take a nose dive and worst of all, each day you crave improvement but feel that you are simply not able to or are not capable off it. Learning, unless one is extraordinarily gifted, is a slow and steady process. So it will take a while to get facile with the rigors and discipline that could enable you to see results. The mere thought of having to put up with displaying one’s limitations or ineptness is too daunting a prospect for many and hence to avoid what they perceive as embarrassment, they prefer the security of their insecurities and never discover the diamond within themselves.

If one can dare to sail alone on uncharted waters, move out of one’s comfort zone and remain motivated because you have the self belief, there are undiscovered lands to be conquered. There are immense possibilities within to be discovered. There is an image makeover that will transform you to attract success and be successful. All these possibilities exist; can you overcome your insecurities and embrace these possibilities?

Dare to cross the bridge of insecurities and walk the land of possibilities.

Try these:

List out some of your strongest passions/ desires that you have never dared to explore. Give two reasons why you never dared to explore it. Write down five ways in which you will go about exploring it.

What are the three uncertainties / fears in your life that prevent you from trying out something new that you crave.

Click on the following link and read the poem IF by Rudyard Kipling https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/46473/if—

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