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Be your own Sergeant Major

19-21- 17 Nov19-Be your own Sergeant Major

If you have never been part of the armed forces, which unfortunately most of us have never been part of, self discipline is always a challenge. This is because, we give in to temptations, make excuses, make light of authority, have no clear commitment and ignore all varieties of signals that suggest we be self disciplined, if we need to succeed. Perhaps the realization, that each of us is solely responsible for our own self discipline, is a key trigger to begin our journey of success. This means that each of us as to see ourselves as both the soldier and the sergeant major in charge of our life.

Every sergeant major uses both positive and negative energies to drive his soldiers to excellence. The negatives are the last option but unavoidable considering that the objective is excellence is the at the heart of winning any battle. To be your own personal sergeant major, the positives and negative energies that you must leverage are as under:

Visualize the positive outcomes – Visualize the end  result. As Steven covey says’ Begin with the end in mind’. Most people use the same technique when they start a diet plan or begin their gym routine. The challenge is to believe in the outcome even if there are no immediate visible changes. At the heart of it all is the need to be consistent and patient.

Be aware of the negative effects – While the positive end result can help one remain positive, the fear of the consequences of not being self disciplined can be a strong stick that drives one to be disciplined. This is largely seen in the case of academics, where even the most lethargic student makes at least a last minute effort to study for fear of failing. Being dropped from a team is not exactly what a competitive individual would want. Perhaps a fear of that could push her/ him to take practice , coaching and fitness very seriously even if they are not particularly enthused.

Find motivators – Motivators will attract your enthusiasm like a magnet. Seek out the small advantages, benefits, rewards that your actions will bring in. Let these motivators pull you towards making the efforts required even if they are boring, tiresome and painful.

Avoid excuses – While motivators can pull, the danger is the excuses that have an overbearing negative influence in propping up our lethargy, casualness and indifference. The net result is we end up succumbing to the various excuses that we imagine or those that sinfully entice us. One has to be mentally stronger than the excuses that keep popping up and prevent us from doing what needs to be done.

Embrace the process – Notice the small changes. Appreciate the positive difference that you feel when you overcome all excuses and stick to your plans. Relish the self discipline that you have consciously adopted. Be glad you chose the right way to forge ahead.

Fear is the key – When lethargy, temptation, excuses keep tugging away and entice you away from your discipline, be aware of the consequences. Let the fear of the ill effects kill your temptations. You be your own sergeant major and kick your own butt to ensure you that you do not stray.

Remember that ‘Man is both the sculptor and the sculpture of his destiny. Chipping away the bad in us, is a very painful and never ending process. The end result though, would be an individual self that one would be very proud of.’

Try these:           

  • What are your 5 bad habits that you are seeking to overcome? What plan of action do you have for overcoming it?
  • What are the 3 good habits you would like to cultivate? Any plan of action for the same?
  • What are the 2 good routines you follow? Have you influenced anyone to learn from your routines?
  • Prepare your new year resolution and ensure you have a plan of action for 5 of them. By Dec 2020 notice how you managed to achieve the plan you listed, by being your own Sergeant Major.

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Choosing the right pain

Choosing the right pain

It is often said that pain is inevitable but suffering is optional. There is much truth in this statement. Today though, we are going to look at choosing the right pain so that suffering never becomes an option. This is the pain of discipline which in the long run is an excellent antidote against physical, emotional, moral and ethical suffering. The problem with discipline is one of finding the right motivation and sustaining it over a life time. Discipline is one pain that is not excruciating but is more in the nature of a dull ache that remains lifelong. However it is also a pain that is a constant reminder that one is active, making progress and rapidly moving towards attaining some goals.

While motivation is the fulcrum around which discipline revolves, there are other factors that play an equally critical role. Here is what one needs to do to cope with the pain of discipline so that the ache is relatively easier to bear and put up with.

Set goals – The first thing each individual needs to have in front of her/ him are clear cut goals to be achieved. Very broadly one must have goals for personal, financial, professional and emotional aspects of one’s life. Goals must not be mere dreams or hopes but clearly outlined end points to reach. Use SMART goal setting to list out your goals. Your first goal is to read up on SMART goal setting and write down your goals.

Plan your day – Remember school days where there was a time table that helped ensure you did all the home work and prepared for tests. It did help that the schools and teachers were strict and enforced the discipline. Something similar like a time table existed in college too but we were largely given a choice to follow it. Except for attendance being taken off and on, no one really enforced anything. Perhaps that is the point where we lost focus in following a time table. If one has a plan or time table for the day, it enables one to focus on tasks required to attain the targets set. More importantly one can prioritize which is the key to time management which is another important aspect of being disciplined.

Make no excuses – Excuses are the bane of discipline. Waiting for an auspicious day, date or time is one excuse that delays starting. However even more dangerous are the frivolous reasons or excuses that we use to rationalize being indisciplined. Eliminate excuses and pronto you get disciplined.

Learn to say NO – If excuses are a bane for discipline, our inability to say NO to others as well as to our own devilish mind are the super bugs that destroy any semblance of discipline in us. Saying NO to others is viewed as being rude, bad mannered and very unpleasant. However what we forget is that one needs to say NO to anyone or any situation that is potentially harming our interests. It does not mean that we are self centered but focused on the greater good for the self. We certainly refuse sugar in any form if suffering from serious diabetes but find it hard to say NO to something that will definitely disturb our discipline and in turn cause hurt or damage to us. Incidentally, even a diabetic may find it hard to say NO to a very tempting dessert and all the good work done to control his/ her diabetes is undone because of lack of self discipline.

Find MOTIVATION – Motivation comes from fear or gain. The first form of motivation is rather negative in outlook but is just as effective to be disciplined. Fear of ill health is the major reason for people adopting healthy life styles be it exercising, eating right, avoiding smoking etc. However the greater motivator is the prospect of gain. Being appreciated for the fitness, feeling energetic and looking smart are more appealing reasons for having a disciplined life style. Similarly find intrinsic motivation to be disciplined. Intrinsic motivation is  the Motivation that gives you a high from within. Intrinsic motivation is more sustaining, readily adopted and much more fulfilling in the long run; discipline is nothing but embracing motivation.

Try these:                 

  • Have you written down your goals? If not do it first.  Next write down the special actions required to be taken to achieve your goals.
  • Practice saying NO at least three times a day. Toughest is to say NO to a boss / person in authority. When was the last time you said NO to your boss?
  • Can you identify your motivation to read this post till this point? How are you going to make use of the learning’s from this post?
  • If you had time to do just three things before you die, what are the three things you would do? Can you do them NOW?

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Go on and do it

Go on and do it

It has been a while since I wrote this blog, mainly because I was out of town. However after coming back, I was not getting the zest to write and that is when I came across the above quote. Taking an immediate cue I eliminated all the frivolous reasons I had used to justify my inactivity.  The key to keep going, I discovered, was in not letting your mind to trick you into being lethargic, unproductive and indifferent. The steps to keep going are:

Have a motivation – The key to keep going when things are tough, when you are trying to keep yourself from falling down is to focus on the motivation that got you so far. A motivation provides the desire to keep going, to put up with the hardships and ensures that you get closer to your goal mentally. Sports person are a prime example of how motivation enables them to continuously and vigorously keep practicing. The end result will be seen only on the big day. Failure is a possibility but their hard work guarantees them a good performance. So come rain or sunshine, no matter if they feel fit or otherwise they keep at it relentlessly. What is your motivation that drives you?

Eliminate the excuses – A motivation is not enough; the devil is in the excuses that we conjure up to avoid the unavoidable. Perhaps a look back at school days and the numerous excuses we have had for not doing home work or for doing poorly in the exams would give a clue as to how we use a fig leaf to cover ourselves. In the real world the fig leaf would be blown away and so the only way is to be pragmatic and eliminate every excuse that pops up in the mind and prevents us from doing what we have to do. What is your favorite excuse?

Feel the difference – By starting again, you will immediately feel elated that you have crossed the chasm of indifference. As you make progress, however slow, there is a feeling of progress, the thrill of having overcome a hurdle and there is a new enthusiasm that seeps in. In experiencing these changes, one gets invigorated and journey is made lighter. Begin anew with hope. Have you noticed that your attitude and approach is now different?

Relish the accomplishment – Just as the taste of the pudding is in the eating, it is in relishing the accomplishment that one really gets to embrace the efforts put in. Visualize the end product when you begin and that gives you impetus. You make progress and that gives you confidence. Your spirit is reinforced as you notice how your efforts are bearing fruit. Finally you take in the sweetness of the fruit by joyfully taking in the accolades, congratulations and praise. Do you need anything more to be charged up to begin a new foray?

Try these:

  • List out 3 things that you know will greatly help you improve your personality but you haven’t yet got around to doing. You challenge is to adopt those practices starting now.
  • List out a few pending jobs that you have kept postponing on some pretext or the other. How about taking it up as a challenge?

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