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Choosing the right pain

Choosing the right pain

It is often said that pain is inevitable but suffering is optional. There is much truth in this statement. Today though, we are going to look at choosing the right pain so that suffering never becomes an option. This is the pain of discipline which in the long run is an excellent antidote against physical, emotional, moral and ethical suffering. The problem with discipline is one of finding the right motivation and sustaining it over a life time. Discipline is one pain that is not excruciating but is more in the nature of a dull ache that remains lifelong. However it is also a pain that is a constant reminder that one is active, making progress and rapidly moving towards attaining some goals.

While motivation is the fulcrum around which discipline revolves, there are other factors that play an equally critical role. Here is what one needs to do to cope with the pain of discipline so that the ache is relatively easier to bear and put up with.

Set goals – The first thing each individual needs to have in front of her/ him are clear cut goals to be achieved. Very broadly one must have goals for personal, financial, professional and emotional aspects of one’s life. Goals must not be mere dreams or hopes but clearly outlined end points to reach. Use SMART goal setting to list out your goals. Your first goal is to read up on SMART goal setting and write down your goals.

Plan your day – Remember school days where there was a time table that helped ensure you did all the home work and prepared for tests. It did help that the schools and teachers were strict and enforced the discipline. Something similar like a time table existed in college too but we were largely given a choice to follow it. Except for attendance being taken off and on, no one really enforced anything. Perhaps that is the point where we lost focus in following a time table. If one has a plan or time table for the day, it enables one to focus on tasks required to attain the targets set. More importantly one can prioritize which is the key to time management which is another important aspect of being disciplined.

Make no excuses – Excuses are the bane of discipline. Waiting for an auspicious day, date or time is one excuse that delays starting. However even more dangerous are the frivolous reasons or excuses that we use to rationalize being indisciplined. Eliminate excuses and pronto you get disciplined.

Learn to say NO – If excuses are a bane for discipline, our inability to say NO to others as well as to our own devilish mind are the super bugs that destroy any semblance of discipline in us. Saying NO to others is viewed as being rude, bad mannered and very unpleasant. However what we forget is that one needs to say NO to anyone or any situation that is potentially harming our interests. It does not mean that we are self centered but focused on the greater good for the self. We certainly refuse sugar in any form if suffering from serious diabetes but find it hard to say NO to something that will definitely disturb our discipline and in turn cause hurt or damage to us. Incidentally, even a diabetic may find it hard to say NO to a very tempting dessert and all the good work done to control his/ her diabetes is undone because of lack of self discipline.

Find MOTIVATION – Motivation comes from fear or gain. The first form of motivation is rather negative in outlook but is just as effective to be disciplined. Fear of ill health is the major reason for people adopting healthy life styles be it exercising, eating right, avoiding smoking etc. However the greater motivator is the prospect of gain. Being appreciated for the fitness, feeling energetic and looking smart are more appealing reasons for having a disciplined life style. Similarly find intrinsic motivation to be disciplined. Intrinsic motivation is  the Motivation that gives you a high from within. Intrinsic motivation is more sustaining, readily adopted and much more fulfilling in the long run; discipline is nothing but embracing motivation.

Try these:                 

  • Have you written down your goals? If not do it first.  Next write down the special actions required to be taken to achieve your goals.
  • Practice saying NO at least three times a day. Toughest is to say NO to a boss / person in authority. When was the last time you said NO to your boss?
  • Can you identify your motivation to read this post till this point? How are you going to make use of the learning’s from this post?
  • If you had time to do just three things before you die, what are the three things you would do? Can you do them NOW?

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Go on and do it

Go on and do it

It has been a while since I wrote this blog, mainly because I was out of town. However after coming back, I was not getting the zest to write and that is when I came across the above quote. Taking an immediate cue I eliminated all the frivolous reasons I had used to justify my inactivity.  The key to keep going, I discovered, was in not letting your mind to trick you into being lethargic, unproductive and indifferent. The steps to keep going are:

Have a motivation – The key to keep going when things are tough, when you are trying to keep yourself from falling down is to focus on the motivation that got you so far. A motivation provides the desire to keep going, to put up with the hardships and ensures that you get closer to your goal mentally. Sports person are a prime example of how motivation enables them to continuously and vigorously keep practicing. The end result will be seen only on the big day. Failure is a possibility but their hard work guarantees them a good performance. So come rain or sunshine, no matter if they feel fit or otherwise they keep at it relentlessly. What is your motivation that drives you?

Eliminate the excuses – A motivation is not enough; the devil is in the excuses that we conjure up to avoid the unavoidable. Perhaps a look back at school days and the numerous excuses we have had for not doing home work or for doing poorly in the exams would give a clue as to how we use a fig leaf to cover ourselves. In the real world the fig leaf would be blown away and so the only way is to be pragmatic and eliminate every excuse that pops up in the mind and prevents us from doing what we have to do. What is your favorite excuse?

Feel the difference – By starting again, you will immediately feel elated that you have crossed the chasm of indifference. As you make progress, however slow, there is a feeling of progress, the thrill of having overcome a hurdle and there is a new enthusiasm that seeps in. In experiencing these changes, one gets invigorated and journey is made lighter. Begin anew with hope. Have you noticed that your attitude and approach is now different?

Relish the accomplishment – Just as the taste of the pudding is in the eating, it is in relishing the accomplishment that one really gets to embrace the efforts put in. Visualize the end product when you begin and that gives you impetus. You make progress and that gives you confidence. Your spirit is reinforced as you notice how your efforts are bearing fruit. Finally you take in the sweetness of the fruit by joyfully taking in the accolades, congratulations and praise. Do you need anything more to be charged up to begin a new foray?

Try these:

  • List out 3 things that you know will greatly help you improve your personality but you haven’t yet got around to doing. You challenge is to adopt those practices starting now.
  • List out a few pending jobs that you have kept postponing on some pretext or the other. How about taking it up as a challenge?

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