Tag: Experience

The value of experience

“One of the most important lessons that experience teaches is that, on the whole, success depends more upon character than upon either intellect or fortune”  William Edward Hartpole Lecky

Many a time, we tend to focus more on those events that have left a scar on our psyche, have given us a bitter pill to swallow or that which has hurt us immensely. Often our immediate reaction to this is to be fearful, become risk averse and make efforts to avoid the path that lead to the unfortunate experience. While the protective mechanism that we have honed comes in handy and saves us from catastrophes, far too often we miss out on grasping opportunities for we let our bitter experiences overwhelm our pragmatism and passion. Our experiences should not deter us from pursuing a path that we have chalked out for ourselves merely because we stumbled and grazed ourselves or in extreme cases it badly scarred us.

Experiences both good and bad are the pivots around which the future is built. The good experiences reinforce our beliefs and light up our path, where as the bad experiences alert us to the pitfalls ahead, allowing us time to relook, reassess and reorganize ourselves. The important learning got from our experiences is that our attitude and reactions at every stage determine how we will traverse the journey and attain success. In effect experiences are a test of our character and our ability to deal with the situations as they unfold.

Our character evolves through our formative years and continues to transform, albeit slowly, with every passing year. It is made of a combination of factors including our hereditary traits, the childhood scripting, the experiences and interactions that have percolated deep into our psyche and our own independent thinking and attitude. A happy and disciplined upbringing often has a deep and lasting influence on character building. The role of parents, teachers, classmates and neighbors is very critical in influencing the character that a person develops.  Motivation, encouragement, appreciation, acceptance, laugher, kindness, positive reinforcements are inputs that ensure a fragrance that remains always in a person’s character. On the other hand a gentle rebuke when needed, reasonable punishment if required, firm ground rules to enforce discipline  and impeccable grooming and manners ,   ensure that there is a sparkling diamond like luster in a person’s character.

Apart from analyzing our experiences ourselves, it also helps if we find the right mentor to guide, have a healthy dose of self confidence, develop our ability to be hardworking, look forward with optimism, hone our analytical and creative skills, work around our core competence and develop the art of learning something new and invaluable from every experience. We should also be able to develop the fine art of discernment to appreciate the learning from our experiences. Then every experience will become a successful test of character that becomes a new step in the ladder of success.

Remember: “There are no failures – just experiences and your reactions to them.” Tom Krause

Try this

  1. Read the well-known poem IF by Rudyard Kipling by clicking on this link http://tinyurl.com/ne7rbv.  This poem in many ways tells us how to manage our good and bad experiences and become a success.
  2. Try to list out at least one personal experience each under each of the following categories. If possible also elaborate the learning got from that experience.
  • Happy experience
  • Painful experience
  • Hurtful experience
  • Surprising experience
  • Emotional experience
  • Disgusting experience
  • Exhilarating experience
  • Embarrassing experience

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God must be both an experience and an example

Talking about God is not at all the same thing as experiencing God, or acting out God through our lives. Phillip Hewett

God has been central to the lives of human kind and religion has been the vehicle used to reinforce the belief in god amongst the believers. Religion itself has evolved over time and has acquired various hues, has been instrumental in polarizing people and continues to be the epicenter of fundamentalism, bigotry and extremism.  When objectively studied from the point of view of the metamorphosis of religion over time two facts emerge – God becomes a tool in the hands of the religious and we become slaves to our religion. In effect what we end up doing is preaching and practicing as per our convenience.

To begin with almost all religions have a predominantly ritualistic bias. This is partly a social need so as to rally in numbers and become aware of our faith. Without exception each religion fiercely protects its turf from any form of thought that even remotely questions its dogma or authorities. Followers are happy in the solace they draw from the unknown power of God and rationalize their suffering, pain and fears. They will with impunity amass wealth illegally, part with the spoils under the garb of religious donations and won’t hesitate to pay obeisance at the cost of other ordinary mortals. The outward symbol of religion becomes the focus of people, while they blissfully ignore, sidestep or blind themselves to the core of religion viz. experiencing God and being a living example of God.

To experience God the fundamental requirement is deep faith, undying love and crystal clear values. When these are aligned, one can experience GOD in the wonders of the beauty that abounds in this world; be it the beautiful sunrise or sunset, the lush green meadows and flowers that bloom in spring or in the dazzle of the fireflies that light up the dark evening. One can experience it in the silence of the heart or in the chanting of the prayers; in the solemnity of the rituals or the boisterousness of festivity. The peak experience is the peace and calmness that pervades our stressful life, the joy and ecstasy in the  cry of a new born and the comfort that we get in believing that a loved has gone on to eternal reward.

The ultimate experience is in being a living example. We must be able to touch other lives with empathy and love bringing peace and hope to all those who come in contact with us. We must be prepared to sacrifice so that others can benefit; be merciful just as we are merciful judged by the God we believe in and be unbiased and fair and ensure that everyone gets justice without fear or favor.  If we truly love god we must be able to spread that love to every human being that we are privileged to reach out to through our own personal, caring and loving touch be it in words, thoughts or deeds.

Remember: “What we are is God’s gift to us. What we become is our gift to God.” Eleanor Powell

Try this:

  1. Read the famous Prayer of St. Francis of Assisi by clicking the following link http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prayer_of_Saint_Francis You can also hear the audio song by clicking on http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRvtkZs7oNg
  2. If you are finding it hard to be at peace, not experiencing the joy and happiness of life, if every day is stressful then ask yourself if you truly experiencing God in your life or being an example to others.  Examine the inconsistencies in your life where you are often found doing what troubles your conscience be it telling lies, defaming people, being brash, rude and brazen or pilfering and robbing, being unfaithful etc.

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Change

Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.  George Bernard Shaw

Change is the natural progression of life. Every day is a new day with a new set of challenges, a new source of energy and a variety of trials and triumphs. As individuals too we are growing older, perhaps wiser too, growing in girth perhaps and definitely growing in experience. However, it is our passive acceptance of change that creates problems for us. We see change merely as something inevitable and not as an opportunity.

When we realize that we need to respond to change proactively by acknowledging it, adopting or adapting to it and by embracing it whole heartedly even though we do not like it, that is when change becomes our allay, our catalyst for growth. If we simply examine the changes that have occurred in the last few years, we can see the rapid influence of changing technology, changing values, changing attitudes on our social, economic and emotional fabric. We need to constantly adjust ourselves to these changes or we soon find ourselves stranded alone on an island of ignorance with crisscrossing pathways way of confusion and dimly lit experiences which shatter our pride, ego and enthusiasm.

Once we have made peace with the rapid changes around us, we can be sure that these changes will not steamroll you and flatten you on the highway to tomorrow. More importantly, you will then become an agent for change, a crusader for new systems and perhaps even the master of change. You will be faced with doubts, your abilities will be challenged and sometimes you have to traverse a lonely road but when you reach the end of the trail you would be ahead of the pack, for the rest would have opted for the old and beaten circuitous path.

What one must not change though is our good value systems, our ability to love, our large heartedness in forgiving and our zest for life! All change will then revolve around this axis and then you will easily adjust to change but never succumb to lures of change.

Remember: “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”

Try these:

  • What are the 5 changes each, that you have noticed over the past 5 years in the area of technology, health care, education, environment and politics? How does any or each of these changes impact you? How will you respond to these changes?
  • What are the personal changes in your life over the past 5 years –look at your lifestyle, education, physical fitness, social interactions, value systems when listing these changes. How many of the changes are beneficial to you. Have the changes made you compromise somewhere?
  • Try changing your route of daily travel. Experiment with exotic cuisines. Read a different genre of books or see a different genre of movies / TV serials. Try to wear some different types of clothes. Experiment with new technology like using a digital book reader/ touch screen mobiles/ using speech recognition software. What were your experiences? Did you learn from the experience. Did you give up too fast? Did you discover their utility?

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