Tag: Fun

Making the best of holidays

A perpetual holiday is a good working definition of hell. George Bernard Shaw

For those who are wondering why this blog has not been updated, let me clarify that I was on a holiday in Mysore and Waynad (Kerala). While it was a  well planned and refreshing break, I did occasionally feel guilty that I was not updating the blogs and in rare moments of boredom, did miss the fast pace of professional life. I thought it appropriate therefore to share my views on the above quote on holidays and put matters in perspective.

With very rare exceptions, almost every human being has at some point in time yearned to take a long holiday, preferably a perennial one. The idea of a holiday is often too simplistic and is often simply interpreted as ‘doing nothing’, ‘lazing around’ just relaxing’ or ‘doing just what I want’. Some of us could possibly have undergone a forced holiday due to a job loss or having to quit a job for reasons beyond ones control or forced into taking sick leave to recoup from some major illness but the stress that accompanies such holidays makes it a psychological torture. There could also be a miniscule lot who have taken voluntary retirement with no clear plans as to what to do next. The common thread in all these holidays is that ‘Time suddenly seems to weigh heavily’ on us and the uncertainty of how to while away ones time suddenly becomes an ominous dilemma.

A good holiday therefore should be one that is discerned, earned and planned. While some holidays could be thoroughly enjoyed when they are spontaneous and sudden, the real fun of a holiday is in selecting the right time of the holiday, the type of holiday sought and in ensuring that it is something that will bring pleasure, relaxation and a lingering pleasure. This is tricky especially if it is a family holiday for each member would have different expectations and ideas about the holiday. Discernment then is all about finding the right balance and consensus. Anyone with money can afford to simply splurge on holidays and possibly have a lifelong holiday. The reality is that hardly anyone does it because the real fun of a holiday is when we are convince we truly deserve a break, a change of scene and e do not feel guilty of taking off without having complete the expected chores expected of us. Holidays should elp one unwind, enable all who are holidaying to experience a different high and most of all help one soak in the moment, the pleasure and the leisure.

The kicker in any holiday is the fun of planning it out; the thrill of exploring possibilities, fitting it all in within a time and budget constraints and ensuring that we do not miss out on anything. While the intent is right, the reality is that the planning involves a lot of stress, fortunately most of it is positive stress, and it helps us connect with our human self through varied emotions of hope, frustration, joy, regret, confusion, frustration, and ecstasy when one puts it all together. More than anything else planning provides purpose and goals which keep us focused and provides us the carrot of motivation, the pleasure of anticipation, the wonder of experience and the thrill of achievement all of which adds up to make an enjoyable holiday.

If you just take of on a holiday and if that is a long drawn one, then after the initial euphoria of being a free bird is over, the lack of goals, the absence of a sense of purpose, the monotony of trying to battle with time and frustration of not achieving anything worthwhile will make life painful, boring and tortuous; something akin to hell on earth.

Remember: Every man who possibly can, should force himself to a holiday of a full month in a year, whether he feels like taking it or not. William James

Try this:

  1. Make a list of the various types of holidays you would like to ideal take. A couple of ideas are given below for your ready reference
  • Visit the wildlife
  • Explore the mountain side/ valleys
  • Go trekking
  • Explore the wonders overseas
  • Go back packing/ cycling
  • Make a religious tour
  • Spend time with tribals
  1.  Analyze the last holiday you had and list our 3 good things and 3 things that you could have planned better. Now work on a 2 week holiday plan to be executed before the end of  May 2012.

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Laugh at yourself and grow…

You grow up the day you have your first real laugh at yourself.  Ethel Barrymore

One of the toughest tests of life is ironically handling a test set by ourselves; our ability to laugh at ourselves. All of us enjoy the spectacle of a person being ribbed or the making a fool of himself/ herself or someone unwittingly becoming the butt of jokes but if we are that person at the receiving end, do we have it in us to take the joke with a smile and a foolish grin at best. Nothing embarrasses us as much as slipping on a banana peel; the awkwardness hurts, the physical pain hurts and the unwitting tittering of onlooker’s sears us the most. Usually we get up dust ourselves and avoid any form of any eye contact and sulk away. However if we take umbrage, then most times when we are embarrassed we attempt to  stifle our anger but let our resentment at our tormentors remain unabated and we seek recourse in loud reprimands, retorts or taunts. However we usually fail in our attempts to redeem the situation and instead get sucked in the quick sand of spats.

On the other hand with experience and wisdom of hind sight, when we temper ourselves to see the funny side of our own vulnerability, we join in the hearty laughter and bohemia even if we are at the receiving end of the joke. The ability to laugh at ourselves is not something that we are inborn with but something one cultivates. Human beings have a natural ego, which is what gets triggered if we see ourselves as the butt of the jokes. Obviously it also triggers other emotions like anger, resentment, frustration etc. and the cumulative effect of all these is our propensity to run amuck against our tormentors. This is a futile exercise partly because we are very often outnumbered but mainly because we have lost control of ourselves and whatever our reactions the reality remains unchanged. When we have experienced this painful reality, it dawns on us that since we can’t fight them we might as well join them. Once we reconcile to this reality, we enjoy the joke as much as the others and often the matter is settled in laughter and gaiety.

When we are able to laugh at ourselves we grow up simply because we allow others the luxury of a hearty laugh by taking a dig at our own imperfections. In that moment we also hone our funny bone, learn to tickle ourselves and allow others to get tickled because of us. We grow more when we reconcile to the fact that our imperfections may be a laughing matter for others and in our magnanimity allow them that luxury. We really peak when we are able to control our irritation, annoyance and negative feelings and channelize the energies towards ourselves in a positive way.  Finally, in being able to laugh at ourselves, we reach the pinnacle of self growth when we have a large set of people lapping up our dose of humor most of it self depreciating but in reality holding a mirror to our audience without them realizing it.

Remember: A well-developed sense of humor is the pole that adds balance to your steps as you walk the tightrope of life. William Arthur Ward

Try this:

  1. Visit a fair where there is a stall that has the mirrors that distort your image. Have loads of fun seeing yourself in the most unusual and ungainly manner. Some of those images may remain etched in your memory simply because you can’t imagine yourself in that distorted image.
  2. Enthusiastically participate in a fancy fete/ outlandish carnival dress competition/ a theme party/ dress up for a Halloween party. Alternatively experiment with clothes you have never ever tried and wear it to a party or gathering ( ensure the clothes are appropriate to the occasion although the style may be something u have never tried on before.)

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Humor negates fear

Humor acts to relieve fear.  Dr. William F. Fry, Jr.

One of the best antidotes for fear is humor. A good laugh always tends to lighten the environment; takes one’s mind of the worries even if it is for a few minutes and above all helps us see life in a lighter vein. The wonder of humor is that it is unique to the human race and there are varieties of humor that one can appreciate. Good clean humor is often contrasted by crass humor, there could be slapstick humor that is contrasted by the more restrained tongue in cheek variety. There could be play with puns, a twist in the tale type humor, sarcsism a dangerous type of humor and simple jokes that play on images and vivid distortions of real life.

It takes a lot of courage to be able to see the lighter side of life when life poses life threatening challenges. What we really fail to appreciate is the reality that the good times and the bad times are both just temporary and that soon it will pass too. In fact, whatever our problems, once we have the right attitude to see things in a positive way, we would soon see the bright side of life. This means we can even joke about catastrophe and death without the fear or guilt. The wonder of life is in the reality that even a pauper can see the humorous moments in life and laugh forgetting all his/ her worries and cares.  It shines in the gags of a comedian when taking on the glum business of death and it peaks when a  person on death bed can wipe away the tears of his/ her loved ones with a witty one liner.

There is a danger in humor too. Humor when misunderstood could create a big wedge in a wonderful relationship. In fact, a joke gone too far and too wrong can create a wedge in the deepest of friendships and unless both parties sober down and pardon one another and clear the air, humor can actually trigger fear of more misunderstandings. Sarcasm is an extremely dangerous type of humor. If not handled carefully it can hurt deeply and create wedge that could be near impossible to patch up again. The problem with sarcsism is that it cuts through sharply and deeply because the joke is on an individual and the world a laughs loudly and heartily at the poor individuals expense.

Your life is really enriched if you have a sense of humor and can lighten the air around no matter what the situation. If not, the next best thing is to ensure you have at least one good friend with a good sense of humor who will their wit and repartee, never let the bitterness of the moment or the misery of the occasion overwhelm those present. Actually if one were to study the acronym FEAR, the irony of it won’t be lost on us for it reads False Evidence Appearing Real….can things get funnier than that?

Remember: “A person without a sense of humor is like a wagon without springs. It’s jolted by every pebble on the road.”  Henry Ward Beecher

Try this:

  1. Pick up some of the good humorous books and enjoy the laughs. If you like animals and love humor do try the book My Family and other Animals by Gerard Durell. You can also try any of the books by James Herriot like All Creatures Great and Small etc. You can also try some of Mark Twain’s books or some of the P.G.Woodhouse books. You have to find your own brand of humor and the books that fit into it.
  2. The Readers Digest is a wonderful source for a wide variety of humor. You can pick up any copy old or new and enjoy the wonderful humor that is clean, entertaining and often very real life.

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Life must be fun

It is in his pleasure that a man really lives. Agnes Repplier

No matter what your background or circumstances, it is your attitude that determines your altitude. In any case we only live once, so it best that we make the most of the wonderful life we have been blessed with. To do that one has to step back and appreciate the gifts that you have been blessed with; possibly a good and loving family and/ or emotional and financial well being and /or extraordinary talent and/ or the ability to get along well with everyone and / or being blessed with lots of friends etc. The point is that each of us abundantly blessed but at the same time we all have our crosses to bear. Despite the crosses we have to bear, the crux of making your life count is to live life to the fullest or as they say Live Life Kingsize !

The most wonderful people you can recollect will invariably be people who have a warm heart and a cheery countenance. They are jolly people, full of life and seek pleasure even in the most trivial things. They have very little inhibitions, give of themselves completely and ensure that there is laughter and joy spread all over. We too unconsciously get lulled into their cheery spirit and even before we realize it are not just enjoying their company but actually feeling that we have known them all our lives. When we enjoy the simple pleasures of life like the company we are in, the rustic food that we may be offered, partaking in rituals and customs that maybe alien to us but thoroughly enjoyable in their company ;that is when we can say ahh life is a breeze.

We are often wonderstruck by the optimism and vivaciousness of terminally ill people. While we are prone to feel sorry for them knowing that they are running out of time, they seem to be keen on making every moment count. Let alone our help, they would firmly spurn our sympathy and instead offer us their spirit of self belief, equanimity and calmness in accepting their fate and show us how to live life to the fullest. Notice that when we hear a requiem for the deceased, it is invariably the fullness of their life that is harped upon and perhaps a passing reference is made to their hardships and troubles borne. Invariably each of us would like to remember a person’s laughter, warmth and expressiveness and it therefore makes enormous sense that we too should live spreading joy, hope and laughter if we want to make our life count.

When we enjoy the pleasures of the moment, we forget everything negative, our hearts are full with happiness and our Life shines brightly. We radiate our true self and like a candle dispelling the darkness we light up the moment, the people and the canvas of our inner self.

Remember: “One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure it’s worth watching.”

Try these:

  1. Keep a stock of good jokes and share it when you have company. Ensure that the jokes are not crass or sexist and more importantly convey a meaning or a message or is apt for the occasion. You can be sure you will trigger others into telling jokes and sharing humor and there will loud laughter and cheer.
  2. Give surprise gifts to people and see the happiness you spread. One way is to keep track of the 1st Wedding anniversary of those whose weddings you attend and send them a gift on their anniversary. Throw an impromptu party to celebrate some personally significant success/ achievement/ occasion.

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