Tag: Future

Being human…

13-5-We are human

The reality of life is something that most of us are prone to misconstrue as being unfair to us. The prime reason for this is our focus on what we crave and do not have and our envy of those who have what we crave. At times when things seem to be going our way or are in a happy frame of mind, we do appreciate the blessings we have but these periods of bliss are far few and in between. So how does one etch happiness into our psyche?

Happiness is a state of mind and the key then is to fine tune the mind to allow happiness to seep in and envelope us. This is best done as under:

Appreciate the reality:

We need to appreciate the fact that we are human. This means that we can think, we can emote and we can decide.

We need to realize that we are not perfect and as a result we have to learn to forgive ourselves, tolerate the mistakes of others and make efforts to correct the mistakes rather than give up in hopelessness.

We need to be ecstatic that we are alive for we now have limitless opportunities to leave our mark in this world and energize the environment around us.

 Focus then on thinking positively, being more forgiving and grasping opportunities.

 Realize the truth:

That as human beings we will make mistakes, we stumble, we fall and we may even get hurt. The truth is that these are like vaccination pricks that are temporarily painful but leave a long term positive effect in ensuring our well being. Seen in this light, it dawns on us that every fall makes us more humble, every mistake teaches us a new lesson and that hurt is a mechanism to alert us to impending dangers that can be avoided through caution and alertness.

Every setback, every tumble we take and every obstacle that comes our way is just a blip in the larger scheme of life; recognize this truth and you shall be free of worries.

 Clasp all possibilities  

Understand the innumerable possibilities that come with the knowledge that we can rise again, we can try again, we keep learning and we keep growing. Seen amputees participate in games and athletics or heard Beethoven’s Moonlight Sonata a classic that one finds hard to believe has been composed by a deaf composer. If these seem extreme examples, look at the physically, financially or academically challenged in and around you who have succeeded despite all odds.

So do you see the innumerable opportunities around you just waiting for you to clasp them and turn them into successes?

Embrace life

Now be thankful for the priceless opportunity of life for as long as life exists we can find happiness in the little things and big things that surround us.

Don’t forget that LIFE is Love Inside Finding Expression – start with loving yourself.

Try this:

Write down the following immediately

  • The one new learning you would like to acquire E.g. Learning a new sport or language
  • The one physical good that you desperately want to posses, which is a realistic possibility for you sometime in the next 5 years. E.g. A high end music system (name the brand of your choice)
  • The one limitation / trait that you would want to eliminate at the earliest. E.g. Being more decisive or being more organized
  • The one change you would like to bring to your life E.g. Lose weight or spend more time with family etc.

Now work on ways to realize these desires before the end of 2013

  1. Click on this link and watch this inspirational and motivational talk by Nick Vujicic a truly physically challenged but most engaging speaker http://tinyurl.com/6oqnzk
  2. Click on this link and watch the Last Lecture by Prof. Randy Pausch to appreciate the need to embrace life  http://tinyurl.com/2z3wsx

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Nurturing the spirit in the New Year

“It is inevitable that some defeat will enter even the most victorious life. The human spirit is never finished when it is defeated…it is finished when it surrenders.”Ben Stein

For me personally, the above quote is the perfect one to begin the New Year’s first post. After setting a personal target to write every day in 2010 when I began this blog, I was delighted when by December 2010, I had managed around 345 posts. After a diligent start to 2011, both reader fatigue and personal fatigue induced me to scale down my target to just around one post a week. Even this I realized was tough going and by December end 2011 I was just happy that the year had ended albeit with very little output to showcase on this blog. Then I chanced upon this quote and that injected fresh life into my blogging endeavor and here I am back with the hope of doing  much more than in 2011.

There would many like me who have enjoyed the high points of success but have also experienced the low point of drudgery that sometimes overwhelms us. This is inevitable, but surrendering meekly to it is optional. For almost every individual, life by and large is fairly routine, occasionally stressful, sporadically successful but largely very boring. At various points in this cycle of life, the temptation to give in and surrender meekly is often overwhelming, but then the spirit of survival takes over and coerces us to take charge of our life. It is this spirit that we are all blessed with which needs to be nourished so that it powers us from within to tide over the bumps, the hurdles, the pitfalls and the chasms that we need to cross in our journey called life.

This is my 4 A’s formula to help nourish the spirit.

Accept with grace. Good or bad, pleasant or unpleasant, bountiful or frugal these are extremes in a continuum and we need to accept that in the journey of life we would be getting our share of these. Rather than crave for more of good or whine about our troubles we should calmly and deliberately focus on acknowledging the fact that we receive these only because we are alive. Life by itself is a grace of the almighty and what comes with it needs to be accepted as it is. By accepting ourselves unconditionally we are ensuring that our spirit is fully charged up within us.

Avoid negativity. Finding fault, making comparisons, being dissatisfied are very human traits. Notice that these are never found in the animal kingdom and yet we proudly claim to be a more evolved species.  The irony is obvious and so we would be better off taking a leaf out of the book of the animal kingdom and wake up each morning with the hope of a better day.  By avoiding the negatives we would be letting our spirit shine brighter.

Appreciate gratefully. As an evolved species we have the power of communication, higher level of intelligence, the special gift of being creative and the individuality that is so unique to each one.  We need to realize that with these special gifts we are empowered to meet any challenge. Once we appreciate this power within us, we would be reinforcing our spirit.

Align harmoniously.  We need to align our life to our goals, our dreams, our expectations by soaking in the grace that we are blessed with, eliminating the negativity that we are tempted to embrace and by adding zest to our living by appreciating the blessings given in abundance to us. When we align our thoughts, hopes, aspirations, expectations to our material, spiritual, intellectual and social wealth we would realize that the spirit engulfs us from within and we radiate that spirit in our thoughts, words and deeds.

Remember: Success is not a place at which one arrives but rather the spirit with which one undertakes and continues the journey. (Quote by – Alex Noble)

Try this:

  1. Play a game of snakes and ladders with a group consisting of someone much older, another person of around your age but of the opposite sex and a child. Notice that the group is heterogeneous and there is an equal probability of each person winning.  Can you see life as this game being played by characters not too different from those playing with you. The only difference is that in the game of life, everyone is assured of a win.
  2. List out all your negative thoughts, fears, worries etc. one below the other. When you run out of ideas to include in this list, realign this list in order of your most worry some thoughts. Adjacent to this list, against each point write down all the blessings, positive points, the skill sets that you posses. Once you have listed this in the next column write down all your hopes, your aspirations, your dreams. Now study the table and put a line under the last row where each of the columns is filled in. Cut of all the items in the other two columns against which there is no item in any of the adjacent column. Put a time frame column adjacent to the dreams column and enter a time frame to achieve each of your dreams, hopes and aspirations. Make this your practical horoscope and envisage the future for yourself.

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Finding your way in life

Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.  Howard Thurman

Many of us meander through life with a sense of regret that we have neither achieved anything nor made our mark in this world. One reason for this regret is the subconscious desire to make our presence felt and be recognized, applauded and rewarded for our contributions. In this quest to make our presence felt we strive to find a niche that we can quickly usurp and hopefully make it the showcase of our achievements. As many a dope tainted athlete would have realized, there are no short cuts to success and the illusion that our achievements are the focal point of attention is a myth that lasts only as long as we continue to hog the lime light.

On the other hand if we scan our immediate environment, we would find a large number of individuals who may not be changing the world at large but are definitely influencing the world around them. With a little introspection, we could also make the profound discovery that each one of us too has a deep and lasting impact on the many people who we come in contact with. The trouble is that we tend to undermine our own role, abilities and influence and fall victim to the irrational belief that we need to be a mover and shaker if we are to qualify as achievers. The truth is that every small, purposeful and positive action by an individual stirs up the environment around and its ripples reach out far and wide.

The skeptic in us would immediately question our contribution and influence rationalizing that we are too insignificant in the scheme of things. So then how can we really appreciate our importance and role in the mundane and humdrum existence that we seem to be destined for? The clue to this lies in seeking answers to three vital questions.

What are my values? While it may not be humanely possible to be a paradigm of every virtue, it is essential that we identify at least one virtue that we steadfastly hold on to. Most people would have a large list of virtues but it is the one critical virtue that would help one understand ones values in life.  It could be honesty/ sense of fair play/ compassion/ doggedness/ never say die spirit/ accepting challenges/ patience/ orderliness/ etc. The one central virtue is what will anchor the individual to the reality of life and inject in them the urge to proactively contribute and influence e.g. Those with a strong sense of compassion would seek out ways and means to be useful to the poor/ the destitute/ the suffering. Those who are dogged will resolutely pursue the goal they set themselves; be it bringing the guilty to justice or helping the underdog get his/her due.

How do I cope with my own personal weakness and failures? As human beings we are susceptible to a multitude of weakness and have to carry the cross of many a failure. The manner in which we cope with these limitations in us would have a profound bearing on our personality and life. .  E.g. those who are unable to cope with failure could be academically brilliant but completely risk averse. Yet the weakness by itself should be seen as an indictment of the individual for almost everyone has ample alternative strengths just waiting to be tapped. E.g. some of those who are prey to addictions would when sober be the most effective and efficient people to have around. The secret is to discover the potential and to harness that power.

What should I be doing? Nothing is more confusing than the answer to this question. How does a professional sportsman know when to retire? How much money would make a person happy? Should I give up a steady job to purse my passion and dreams? Should I be single or get married because that is the way of the world? When my conscience rebels do I succumb to the pressures of protecting my friends and companions or would I at the risk of losing everything stand up for the truth no matter how damaging it may be?  Once we are able to honestly and consistently answer this question of what should I be doing; then we would be doing what needs to be done voluntarily, proactively and confidently.

Answer the questions above in the silence of your hearts and they will open the doors to self awareness.  Life would then be more meaningful and fulfilling.

Remember: “I think self-awareness is probably the most important thing towards being a champion.” Billie Jean King

Try these:

How will you cope with this hypothetical situation?

You have attended a week long leadership training program. On the last day each participant in the program was asked to give one negative feedback for every participant. You come home with the sealed cover containing the negative feedback you have received. You open the cover and find 7 slips each outlining a different negative feedback as under. How many of these allegations are true about yourself. Can you think of one person whom you know for whom the allegation fits? Can you think of a specific incident that leads you to this conclusion about that person?

Slip 1 – In my view you are very lazy

Slip 2 – Why are you such a loud mouth

Slip 3 – I wouldn’t trust you with my purse.

Slip 4 – Your arrogant way of interaction annoyed me a lot.

Slip 5 – You are an unreliable person

Slip 6 – Wish you weren’t so negative and critical

Slip 7 – My impression is that you are too cunning

Write down the following goals for yourself.

1 personal goal

1 financial goal

1 relationship related goal

1 social commitment goal

1 goal related to a passion you have.

Now  jot down at least 3 steps (for each goal) that you will take to attain the goal.

(e.g. My Passion related goal to read at least one book a month.

 Step 1 – Identify at least 50 books by February 2012 end .

Step 2 – Buy at least 3 books before December 2011 end.

Step 3 –  I will read every Sunday between 4 and 6 pm)

Take a look at this poster that perhaps captures the gist of this post succinctly.

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Shaping your future

When did the future switch from being a promise to a threat? Chuck Palahniuk

The average person is always fearful of the future and unfortunately almost everyone who is reading this identifies with this. Part of our fear stems from a subconscious reality called death which we know will overtake us in the future and that is an extremely unsettling emotion. Part of the problem comes to fore because we tend to focus on the obstacles that we visualize will impede a smooth future. Some part of the threat we see in the future is due to our own lack of self belief, our inability to commit ourselves and the worst is an abject surrender to an uncontrollable variable labeled destiny. How ironic that in the process we fail to appreciate the glorious opportunity that the future places before us, we do not grasp the immense possibilities that are ours for the asking and miss out on the joy, delight and thrill of making new discoveries, harnessing our personal abilities and unleashing our full potential.

Now that you know that the future is really not so demonic or uncontrollable you need to reorient your mindset to embrace it with both arms. Here are three ways to create the future you want.

Vanquish the demons in the mind: The first step is to have a relook at all the negatives that stress you out when you attempt to peep into the future. This could begin with letting go the past ills / failures / hurt that touch a raw nerve and create that phantom pain when you have to traverse a similar path mentally into the future. Typically it could be things like changing jobs and landing in a bigger soup or experiencing failure in some ventures that you have attempted. The next is to snip of the negative thoughts that seep into the mind and rust away the iron will that you originally had. These could include self doubts about your own competence, worries about finances, fears about ill health and the tendency to surrender to fate or destiny.

Visualize the future you crave: Once you can vanquish the demons in the mind, your mind is at peace, your confidence is restored and there is a fresh energy that revitalizes you to think hard and deep about the future you want. Of prime importance is planning the future. This involves a great deal of effort in working out the blue prints, clarifying the goals, assembling the resources and then diving into the ocean called the future. Sometimes you may fantasize, occasionally you may think big, perhaps there are times when you can almost touch the future but the real test is when you cannot stop thinking about it. When the urge becomes irresistible that is when the future is within handshaking distance and we need to make the move to cajole the future into reality.

Venture into the future with confidence: For many of us identifying the moment when we can roll out our plans and get the momentum going is a tough challenge. This is because we try to connect all the dots and have the perfect future in place so that we do not experience failure. The reality though is that a large part of the future evolves only once we begin the journey. So the key to getting the future you want is in taking the plunge. There cannot be any half measures about it or else you would at the first signs of trouble turn tail and attempt to get back into your cozy nest. The future will then remain just a blueprint. On the other hand you must  when ready be like the eaglet that makes its first flight from the lofty perch with no parachute to rely on except its natural instincts and the craving to be a real eagle. If you want to kiss the skies bring out the eagle in you and stop twittering like the sparrows. A film director is a living example of how a person carves out the future that he/she visualizes. The success or failure thereafter of the movie or play is incidental.

Remember: Each man should frame life so that at some future hour fact and his dreaming meet. Victor Hugo

Try this:

  1. Jot down your most passionate social concern (corruption/ child labor/ environmental concerns/ clean energy/ etc .are some pointers for your ready reference). Now outline how you will get actively involved (candle light marches/ email forwarding/ plain discussions with friends etc. do not count as active involvement) in it and how much time you can spare for it each week. Can you begin to get involved by the first of next month?
  2. Write down 3 goals each for the following facets of your life. Make sure they are not wish lists but practical and time bound goals. Also outline 5 steps that you would have to take for at least one goal in each list.
  • Your professional life
  • Your family life
  • Your personal passion
  • Your spiritual/ social service aspect

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Destiny is NOT a matter of chance…

Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice. William Jennings Bryant

If you are one of those who tend to lapse into bemoaning the ill luck that seems to constantly shadow you, now is the time to pause and have a relook at events that apparently seem to have spiraled out of control and derailed all your grandiose plans.  Here are a few  questions for you to objectively ask yourself and judge for yourself if your destiny could have been altered by you by being more proactive and responsive to events as they unfolded.

Could I have anticipated better? No matter what the event or consequence that seems to have unexpectedly altered your plans, chances are that barring extremely rare happenings like life threatening illness or life altering accidents, every other event could have been anticipated by you. Perhaps out of fear of the eventuality or due to callousness and indifference or because of our foolhardy bravado we chose to ignore the writing on the wall and when it became inescapable we have conveniently blamed our destiny for it. E.g. Failing in an exam because you didn’t study cannot be equated to missing an exam because of serious illness. The former cannot be even remotely connected with destiny whereas the latter can largely blamed on it.

Could I have planned, prepared and preempted the subsequent events that mauled me? By and large the consequence of actions can be visualized by us. Obviously this means that one can work on planning, preparing and preempting the negative consequences with a positive, proactive and purposeful approach. E.g. The dates of paying the mandatory dues be it property tax, income tax or insurance premium are known to us. We also know the consequences of not paying up on time. Destiny has not role to play if your IT return comes up in scrutiny or you meet with an accident and your dues are not paid making you liable to face the consequences.

Could I have coped with the events that took place in a better way? If events have overtaken us unexpectedly, the remedy is not to sit and rue it but to take stock of the situation and then work on minimizing the damage. Throwing in the towel, passing the buck and disowning responsibility are classic traits demonstrated by weaklings when the chips are down. Do we tend to do this? The remedy is in picking up the threads and working on salvaging the situation and possibly working on long term solutions to avoid facing such a situation. E.g. You have parked your car and gone shopping and when you return you discover that your laptop and briefcase have been stolen by someone. While raising and alarm, lodging police complaint and attempting to trace the culprits would be the short term logical steps, the real control over your destiny begins when you decide never to leave your belongings in the car in full visual range of potential thieves.

Can I still change, challenge and emerge a champion? The ultimate learning from the experiences that have been painful, frustrating and unexpected is in working on changing your destiny by challenging yourself to cope with the reality and relentlessly pursuing a loftier goal happily, eagerly and confidently. E.g. don’t follow traffic signals only because you are afraid of getting fined but obey them because you believe you are a conscientious citizen of this country.

You conquer destiny not when you win the lottery (which is a matter of chance)but when you buy the lottery ticket  ( which is a matter of choice) for without that prize winning ticket in hand no one can win that lottery.

Remember : My interest is in the future, because I’m going to spend the rest of my life there. Charles Kettering

Try this:

  1. Pick up 5 words from the above post that you had never heard of before and find the meanings, synonyms and anonyms of it. If possible make it a regular habit and your well set to improve your vocabulary, improve your language skills and definitely become a better communicator.
  2. Out of the following options choose a couple of those that you believe apply to you and which are destiny’s unfortunate bane on you. Outline 3 points for each option you choose whereby you will ensure that these banes are turned to boons in your life. E.g. If you have a physical handicap (bane) plan to focus on leveraging your mental faculties (education)/skill sets (e.g. Talents like painting/ music) / leadership skills etc.
  • Lack of adequate finances
  • Poor academic ability
  • Poor communication skills
  • Overwhelmed by negative thoughts
  • Ill health
  • A violent temper
  • Lack of parental understanding
  • Not finding a good job
  • Inability to pursue your own passion

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The secret to your future

Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you. Frank Tyger

All of us, me included have a hundred different reasons and excuses to justify why we haven’t realized our full potential. The reality though is that nothing absolutely nothing is going to chance the past. Yet irrespective of one’s age, social status, financial status, academic background, past history and the like, there is a wonderful future that each of us can embrace whole heartedly if we are prepared to boldly accept the challenge and work purposefully towards it. There are 4 conditions that one has to fulfill in order to make the future you want for yourself.

The first is to remember the lessons of the past without holding on to the past. We fail to progress beyond our past performance simply because we live with ghost of past failures, keep brooding over the wasted opportunities that we never took advantage of and often meander into some of those rare moments of triumphs and successes we did relish occasionally. While we certainly cannot erase the past completely, we must learn to identify the key learning and keep that uppermost in mind as we proceed further so as to avoid the same pitfalls of the past. We must never let the bad past ruin a perfect present or take away from us the immense possibilities that lay ahead of us.

The second is to believe in yourself and yet be pragmatic about your strengths and weakness. Each one of us has it within us the ability to stretch ourselves to excel. Excellence is ensuring that we use our abilities to the fullest extend and must not be mistaken to mean always out performing others. It is obvious then that we need to asses ourselves dispassionately and leverage our strengths without letting our weaknesses become a stumbling block. It would also entail us having the courage of conviction to take calculated risks, the daring to fail and yet not give up and to pursue our dreams with steely resolve and self confidence.  As rightly said it is our attitude that determines our altitude.

The third is to always have a goal to focus on. What really lets us down is an indisciplined approach to the future. The prime reason for this is lack of clarity as to where we want to go and what we want to achieve. Perhaps we would be a lot happier if we could simply identify our personal, professional, financial and spiritual goals. Perhaps we have a hazy idea of our goals, but then we are tempted to change the goal posts in the hope of scoring at will. Goals helps us concentrate, enable us to channelize the resources required and helps us chart our progress and if need be take the corrective measures to ensure that we make the best of our future. It is sarcastically observed that if we do not know our destination any road will lead us there.

The fourth is to adapt, change, improve, transform yourself to ensure that you are progressing towards your goal. Simply put this means that one has to make umpteen sacrifices if one were to make the best of the future ahead. Look what happened to the dinosaurs of old who became extinct simply because they could not adapt, change, improve or transform themselves to meet the onslaught of change. While we make not suffer such an ignominy, it is very possible that the future we face by being rigid and uncompromising can be painful, frustrating and very regrettable. Only the wisest and stupidest of men never change. It is imperative that  we change else the chances are that we will fall in the second category.

Remember: “Losers live in the past. Winners learn from the past and enjoy working in the present toward the future.”  Denis Waitley

Try this:

  1. Jot down 3 lessons you learnt from any failures/ regrets that you have from your past.
  2. Ask a few close friends to name 3 of your strengths and one weakness they perceive in you. Reflect on these particularly on the weakness and work out how you can use the new knowledge about yourself to shape your future.
  3. Take a pencil and paper and do the following
  • Make a sketch of your dream house. Now put a realistic price tag to it.
  • Make a realistic assessment of what your monthly savings should be and what you think should be your monthly income after you attain the age of 60.
  • Make a plan for an overseas holiday with your spouse and the roadmap to make it happen in the next 2 years.
  • Outline your definition of a successful person. Now write down your own success statement.

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Dont let tomorrow mess up today

If you are afraid for your future, you don’t have a present. James Petersen

There are times, when each one of us has got this sudden unexplainable feeling of fear, panic and helplessness when thinking about the future. Such fear when it comes occasionally is useful for us to be aware of our own mortality, the reality of an unpredictable future, the need to plan and be prepared and it helps us actually realize the value of today and make the best use of our today. The trouble starts when we are so obsessed about the future that we end up constantly wailing and moaning about it, keep worrying about it, spend more time making plans to handle imaginary crisis and fail to enjoy today and the blessings that we are fortunate to have. The truth is we cannot completely hedge against the future nor can we let the future steamroll us and so we need to ensure that we have some insurance to manage the future. It is this insurance that begins with us first of all enjoying our daily living so that we have no regrets later. At the same time by being pragmatic and rational about the future we can intelligently and objectively attempt to protect our future and insure it financially, emotionally and dynamically.

Our worries about the future come in so many shades. We worry about our jobs, our finances, our relationships, our hopes and aspirations. We also worry through our jealousies, envy, expectations, irrational thoughts and far too often through thoughts about death be it our own or that of a loved one. What is pertinent to note is that we when we worry the first casualty is our happiness. No one who worries will ever be able to enjoy the present. No sooner we feel happy a fearful thought will suddenly creep in and prick the bubble of happiness. In extreme cases we even start worrying about being happy and fear that our happiness is short lived for a calamity is lurking around the corner.  See the people around who have dour expression, those who are always complaining, people who are extremely critical or frequently sarcastic, the people who cannot accept compliments and those who are always negative in their words, thoughts and behavior; they rarely exude happiness.

The second and logical casualty is our present; the moment that is for us to enjoy, the gift of today and the spirit of life.  Instead of appreciating the beauty of the day we start counting the hours to darkness; our laughter is always tinged with regret or sadness; we are morose and snappy most times; we see the shadows not the sunshine and we live in fear of being besieged by calamity. More than anything else we live in the belief that we are the unlucky ones, the cursed ones and the only ones who have this fate befallen on. The third and most unfortunate of all repercussion is our conscious and unconscious negative impact on those around us. Many a time because we are dour and negative, we hate it when those around are happy, cheerful and enjoy with gay abandon. We make efforts to spoil their mood by berating them, being loud and uncouth or simply denying them the pleasures that they depend on you to give e.g. refusing a birthday party or finding fault with a gift they give you. Other times our demeanor and behavior are enough to make others avoid us, move away from us or simply ignore us . The cycle of unhappiness is then complete; we are unhappy we make others unhappy and in turn we remain unhappy.

Remember: “Your past is important but it is not nearly as important to your present as the way you see your future”  Tony Campolo

Try this:

  1. Read the post on FUTURE (Foresee Unusual Trends Usually Rapidly Emerging) in our weekly blog http://poweract.blogspot.com/2010/11/future.html
  2. Read the post on Why Worry https://actspot.wordpress.com/2010/12/31/why-worry-2/
  3. To minimize your future worries make a list of your New Year Resolutions, if you haven’t done it already. Now  get working on it right away so that by this time next year a large number of items on that list is deleted and you enjoy each day this year because you have slowly inched closer to achieving the resolutions on that list.

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Playing second fiddle

We cannot all be masters. William Shakespeare

The reality that we can aspire to be someone we crave to be does not lessen the pain of realizing that we may not realistically achieve it. The human ego, human temperament and human thinking often conspire to fool us into believing that we have it in us to be natural leaders and masters of our chosen field, vocation or team. To be a master, it is not just intelligence, pure expertise nor mere leadership skills that count; rather it is often a bit of everything and something sizeable in some key areas that counts. Just look at the ensemble of musicians who are giving a live performance and you will realize that the conductor is the master and though he does not play a single musical instrument during the performance, yet with his baton he has the entire entourage literally playing to his tunes.

In corporate world, seniority often is linked with leadership roles and yet, more often than not, we see young yuppies usurping leadership roles from the more experienced hands. The reason is simple, leadership requires not just experience and expertise but also vision and updated technological grasp. How do the more experienced hands cope with this reality that they may have missed the bus? Very often they are pragmatic and see the writing on the wall and take a cue and move out of the way either accepting the reality with dignity and playing along as a senior team member or they find another niche in the market place. The also ran’s in the political race to presidencies who may have lost their leadership aspirations typify those who nearly became masters but didn’t.  It may very little to do with their abilities or competencies but more to do with the political climate of the time, the perception of the electorate and occasionally blind luck.

Being a master is fraught with risks; risk of acceptance, risk of performance pressure and risk of failure. They also need to take critical decisions, often make unpopular choices, be ready to defend their actions especially when the going is tough and be prepared to take the flak of collective failure. Often becoming a master is not something that one aspires for but is delivered providentially. As would happened when a predecessor dies or moves out suddenly and the crown is passed on by virtue of being second in command. Here the pressure to perform and deliver becomes even more tricky for expectations are high, the circumstances perhaps not too favorable and personal confidence might not be at its peak.

Ironically each one of us is a master of our own life and we have to guide our own future, destiny and our successes. Thus even if we play just the second fiddle in an orchestra, we need to play it like a master second fiddle and then alone will we synchronize and harmonize the performance and win the applause. It is when we can master our own self that we can perhaps lay claim to greater leadership roles and when the honor is bestowed, one can lead with aplomb and leave a mark on the world.

Remember: “Performance is your reality. Forget everything else.” Harold S. Geneen

Try this:

  1. Honestly ask yourself as to what aspect in your life you have a good mastery. Eg. Some might be excellent cooks, others good at teaching or others are meticulous and orderly. If you find that you really are not a maser in anything attempt to choose and aspect of life that you would like to master. Work on it immediately and stick to it till you master it.
  2. Ask yourself if you shy away from leadership roles. If yes ask yourself why you do it? Is it lack of knowledge, inability to commit, poor leadership skills, fear of failure etc. that makes you refuse leadership positions? Now work on a method to work on those chinks that have let you down from taking on a master’s position.

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Nothing permanent

Nothing in this world is permanent. German proverb

This is both a sobering thought and an alluring one for it encapsulates life itself.  History is witness to the rise and fall of not just the Roman empire but many a kingdom and dynasty and therein lies a tale of both grandiose successes and devastating defeats and catastrophy.  The evolution of man itself, going by Darwin’s theory is another splendid testimony that nothing is permanent. The rapid changes that take the world of science and technology by storm reinforce the reality that the past will be obliterated by the present only to be dazzle like a shooting star for a brief period before the future overtakes it rapidly. So what are the lessons in it for us?

There are 4 important lessons that we can effectively learn from the reality that there is nothing permanent.  The first is that we can have hope; the second that we should be prepared; the third that we must be ready to adapt and the fourth is that we must proactively ensure that we drive change and ensure a fresh breath of air and sustain progress. We can look out in hope when things are at its worst simply because we know that sooner or later the reality will change because nothing in this world is permanent. When we have hope life becomes easier to put up with, troubles seem more bearable and the future seems inviting. Words like retirement, death, transfer, promotion, resignation indicate that there is a forthcoming change that will happen and for sure things will never be the same thereafter. While some changes could be detrimental, most changes signify a possibility of betterment, a move towards positivity and chances of improvement.

Being prepared would help us set our sails to catch the winds of change that signify that the old order will give way to the new.  We need to anticipate the future trends, look out for signs of the old order getting dismantled and broken down and jump on to the right bandwagon at the right time. Technology is ruthless in demanding that we be prepared to change. The concept of communication has been completely revolutionized by the technological advances and it is those who are prepared who are laughing all the way to the bank for they set their sails right.

If nothing is permanent then it implies that there would be drastic changes and this means we must despite our worst fears and inhibitions be prepared to change. Those who cannot accept or adapt to change will soon find themselves overrun by the crumbling old order that is systematically being dismantled and the speedy new order that is being erected simultaneously. The systematic disappearance of dinosaurs is attributed to their inability to adapt but the disappearance of the ink pen and the typewriters are but small footnotes in the modern history of evolution.

Since nothing will be permanent, the real winners are those who can proactively go and replace those structures by newer and more efficient ones. The key lies in seeking changes, making discoveries, thinking differently, being visionary and daring to take risks. When the past is replaced there could be resentment, opposition, anger and resistance and it those who can weather these storms and remain resilient  and rock steady who can overcome and force the old order to give way to the new. Technology proves the point that no one can take his place under the sun for granted. Microsoft seemed invincible, then cam Google who seemed monolithic yet now it is time for Facebook to take its place under the sun. Notice the pace of how what seemed permanent changed and life will just get more fast paced, action oriented and dynamic.

Remember: “Any change, even a change for the better, is always accompanied by drawbacks and discomforts.”  Arnold Bennett

Try this:

  1. Those of you knowing Hindi / Urdu will be strongly advised to enjoy Aziz Naza’s  well known Qawwali ‘ Chadta Suraj dheere dheere http://tinyurl.com/38v4fv3 or go though the lyrics of it http://tinyurl.com/373wfy2 . Notice how powerful the message of permanency being overrun at every turn is emphasized.
  2. Attempt to imagine changes in the following spheres of life
  • Efficient transportation
  • Population control
  • Environment protection
  • Health care
  • Human Relations

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Be aware of the truth

Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future. Oscar Wilde

There is a natural tendency of most of us to form opinions about people and come to some conclusions. We are rudely shocked or pleasantly surprised when contrary to our assumptions there are exactly opposite views expressed by others about the same person. It isn’t that we are completely wrong or the other completely right but the reality is that each one of us has shades of Jekyll and Hyde in us and we tend to display one of the two personalities more dominantly.

What we can observe in ourselves is the mood swings, change in behavior and the alternating negative and positive energies that seem to constantly shadow us. This does not make us either good or bad people but is merely indicative of the constantly changing personal display of emotions and characteristics. When we are tempted to take a holier than thou attitude we may be rudely awakened to the reality that we have had a none to enviable past.  On the other hand when we are prone to wallow in self pity and desperation it is a timely reminder to seek help for every weakling has hope of salvation.

Since we are certain that there is no such concept of a perfect person in this universe, logically each one of us falls in the continuum between good and bad. Depending on the day and time we plot ourselves on that continuum we could go into either extremes but the saving grace is that there is hope for sinners and the apparently virtuous  can be more tempered in their ego massaging. In effect we realize that being good or bad does not make us exceptional or despicable for there is a past that can be a burden to carry and a future that absolve us and reward us for our repentance. This gives us both hope on one hand and a word of caution on the other hand that enables us to see ourselves as balance individuals.

We therefore come to a conclusion that we cannot really form opinions unless we have closely interacted with the person and more interestingly that the conclusions we draw are limited to the time we spend with them. We also need to realize that our opinions of people should not be so rigid that we alienate people because we are not willing to study the facts or acknowledge our mistakes at a later stage. The bigger lesson though is for us as individuals to be aware that we have our own limitations and strengths and that what was strength at a point in time could vanish and we could end up as victims. Similarly for those innocent who stand as accused in the docks of human morality there is hope that redemption is possible if one is determined to work for it and seek repentance.

Remember: Tomorrow is another day.

Try this:

  1. Jot down 3 positive changes that you have noticed in you that have come over since the last 5-10 years. Also list out 3 bad traits that you have adopted that you never accused of before.
  2. If possible read the book The Cross and the Switchblade a book written in 1963 by pastor David Wilkerson with John and Elizabeth Sherrill. It tells the true story of Wilkerson’s first five years in New York City, where he ministered to disillusioned youth, encouraging them to turn away from the drugs and gang violence they were involved with.

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