Tag: Goal

Two simple steps to make each day count

13-27- Two simple steps to make each day countPause for a moment and look back at the days gone by. Do you get the feeling that you could have a lot more if only we could re-live those days again? While regret for those days gone by wont help us now except to trigger a realization, we can make the best of today and the days to come that we will be fortunate to experience and enjoy. The trick lies in finding a way to wake up with determination and to go to bed with satisfaction.

So how does this mantra work?

A firm determination will …
Spark the desire for accomplishment
Fan the fires of enthusiasm
Light up the way ahead

When you go to bed with satisfaction you
Revel in the pleasure of achievement
Move closer to your cherished goals
Enjoy the bliss of sound sleep

ELSE

Without determination you will…
Be indecisive and anxious
You will a lot of incomplete tasks on hand
You will tend to give up at the first hint of trouble / difficulty

When you go to bed dissatisfied …
You will fret and fume over the wasted day
You will be left with too many irons on the fire and be stressed
Life will seem labored, insipid, stressed and painful every single night.

SO

To be determined
Have written down SMART goals (Specific, Measureable, Attainable, Realistic, Time bound)
Be organized and time conscious
Find a strong motivation to start and finish the task.

To ensure a satisfactory day end
Review the day before going to bed; enjoy the success of the day and work out ways to cope with the tasks left undone
Break down major tasks into smaller specific goals
Ensure your full quota of sleep and a clear conscience is said to be the best pillow.

Try this:

Make a list of the following

  • The tasks that you hate but which is unavoidable
  • The one task that is relatively easy but you constantly not doing it on time
  • The tasks that you enjoy doing the most
  • The one task that you would like to delegate to your best friend

Write down your reasons/ excuses for

  • Not doing the TRY THIS tasks in the previous post
  • Indulging in what you are constantly criticized for by family and or friends and or colleagues
  • Not making a sizeable financial contribution to your favorite charity
  • Being less successful than what you think you are capable of

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Guide post to a fuller life…

13-11-It is not...The essence of life is in living it to the full; making the best of the opportunities that are there for the taking; overcoming the inevitable challenges that one would encounter along the way with equanimity and exuding with joy when reaching various destinations along the way. Yet each one of us would have some complain or the other, feel dejected and overwhelmed at times and most of us remain clueless as to how to make each day count as a blessing.

 

The focus of today’s post is on a 4 point agenda that should serve as guideposts to living our life to the full.

 

If only is a common lament oft repeated, in which we tend to look back and moan about our ill fortune be it our economic, social, academic background which we think has given us a handicap in achieving our dreams. For sure those with better economic, social, academic backgrounds start off with an advantage there is nothing that prevents us from bettering ourselves and finding our niche in life. However this is possible only if we know what is our Goal in life. A goal gives us something to work towards, helps us focus better and provides us the motivation to achieve. Every goal achieved is a success that adds to the thrill of life.  Your background means nothing… your destination is everything.

  

Getting up each morning is relatively easier then getting going. Look back at the excitement and eagerness with which we looked forward to the early dawn when going for a picnic or an outing. Can we replicate the same enthusiasm every morning? It is the mundaneness of daily chores, the repetitive nature of what we do, the noticeable lack of excitement once we get up that zaps our energies, makes us dull and leaves us dissatisfied and frustrated over the week. We get pepped at the thought of the weekend only to lapse again into a quagmire of self inflicted moroseness and victim syndrome. The key is in discovering some sort of Passion in the tasks on hand. The job on hand is part of life… you have to bring life into that job.

 

Having a fancy job title or belonging to an elite club or having a string of academic and social accolades might help one become charged up and possibly also get a head start in what we do. However remaining on top, earning respect and becoming a role model requires taking risks, accepting challenges, exploring new frontiers and overcoming failure. The key here is Fortitude. This is born out of self belief and the ability to go that extra mile because you believe that beyond that horizon lies a wondrous discovery.  It easy to take risks with a safety net below… taking a leap of faith is a different ball game but well worth it.

 

Each moment we are bombarded with a million different ideas, thoughts, and possibilities. Yet except when we are forced to by circumstances, we stick to the tried and the tested path. Often we carry the impression that exploiting and experimenting with offbeat thoughts and ideas is largely the prerogative of Artistes, thinkers, scientists and the line. Having a Vision is every individuals prerogative and subconsciously we do give expression in our dressing, in the way we do up our homes, in our expression of likes and dislikes and in making our choices. However what we fail to realize is that we suppress our vision with the hammer of pragmaticsm thus vetoing our thoughts idea and possibilities even before they get a chance to bloom. Knowledge gives us the theory… vision is the seeing the theory work in the mind, believing in it and then making it happen.

 

To live a full life, begin by visioning your goal, discovering your passion and then tightly hug each moment with a zealous fortitude born out of self belief. Now feel the difference and discover a new you!

 

Try this:

  • List out 5 exotic holiday destinations ( 1 in the mountain, 1 near the sea/ beach, 1 in the Jungle, 1 Overseas and 1 within 200 kms of your current place of stay, none of which you have been to before ) and then plan out your holiday to any one of them in the coming year.  
  • Irrespective of the occasion, for the next 3 functions / occasions where you have to carry a gift, try to give a completely offbeat gift. ( Hint : it could be as varied as a potted plant, a cute pet, a handy man tool kit etc.)

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Look at your success…now don’t give up

Perhaps the only time in life one has to look backwards in order to proceed forward, is when one needs to appreciate the progress made and then resolve to better it. Nothing amplifies this better than our constant need to evaluate the progress made by regular exercise and diet, be it to reduce weight or to tone one’s body. Alas in our anxiety to get quick results we expect miracles and we fail to notice the small but significant changes that are milestones towards our goal. If the overwhelming majority of people give up their exercise routine it is not because of their inability to cope with the demands of the routine as much as it is because one fails to find the motivation to keep going.

Look closely at a toddler making its first steps. There is first a very tentative and unsteady attempt which could after a step or two end up in a fall. Yet, natures mysterious ways and the innate desire to replicate the initial success gravitates itself to spur the toddler to attempt his/ her walk again. Falling down is merely a unavoidable hazard but the freedom brought about by being able to walk is what drives the child to master it. The child also had one huge advantage; it has no concept of fear or failure or logic. These three stumbling blocks combine in varying proportion to scare, demotivate and silence adults from realizing their full potential.

The best antidote for fear, failure and illogical thoughts is rational goal setting, proactive response and reviewing progress. If we have no goals we are never sure of what we want nor do we know that we have received what we want. People who are bored, those who are listless and those who are constantly complaining are generally people who have no clue about their goals. Without goals they are like rudderless ships being tossed about in the ocean called life with no particular direction or port of destination.  Proactive response is possible only if once has something to work towards. Equally importantly one has to be motivated to get that momentum to respond.  Character and upbringing too have a huge bearing on how proactive a person is. Self belief and self worth would provide the fuel that enables one to zealously respond proactively and progress in life.

The ultimate driver of success though is the thrust got from a sense of achievement. To begin with this would have to be visualized; seeing one achieve the ultimate goal. When proactive response is initiated, then the vision is translated into the reality of the progress made. By reviewing the progress regularly, no matter how daunting the task, there is realization of having begun, progressed and nearing the goal. Perhaps it is this formula that has spurred legions of mountaineers to scale the Himalayas, the adventurers to attempt risky expeditions be it to the North Pole or South Pole or in the pursuit of discovering continents.

Ever wonder what motivates sailors to attempt solo round the world expeditions? The answer lies in the clarity of their goal, the proactive preparation towards achieving that goal and with every passing day they rejoice in the progress made and feel motivated that they are homing into steadily towards their ultimate goal. They are never daunted by what could happen, how much more is yet to be done nor do they ever question their own skill or ability to achieve what they set out to do.

Try this:

  1. Choose one social service activity that you are passionate about. Outline 3-5 goals you believe you must set out to achieve by your personal involvement. Get going and track your progress. Review your initial plans but keep going without abandoning the project no matter what the impediments.
  2. Jot down ways and means to achieve the following
  • Reduce your current monthly expenses by 10% or more
  • Increase your monthly income by 5% or more
  • Ensure you manage an annual savings of at least 20%  of your annual income.

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Dare to do … lest you regret it later

Before you read the next sentence, take a pen and paper and write down 10 things you want to do before you die. If you have difficulty in making that list try and list them under these 4 heads some things you are passionate about, some things that you wish you could, some things that you would love to do for society or for a social cause and some things for your personal and / or professional growth. Now you are ready to appreciate the above quote.

For most of us our teenage and adult life often passes us by in the pursuit of a rat race called life. First we hope to do well academically and then we are feverishly chasing a good job. Along the way we begin family life and then before we know it we have kids, debts and bills. Our entire focus is now on earning more, keeping pace with the lifestyle of our peers and in living life as we would others to expect us to. In short we let the expectations of the future drive our present and relegate our past to a distant dream.

Pause a moment now and look to the past. Do you recollect the childhood dreams that you have had? The images conjured by some compelling stories you read of heroes in text books be it a historical figure, a scientist, an explorer or a mythological character would have ignited visions of similar achievements. Perhaps your parents or grandparents may have sowed the seed of some long term goals in your mind. There could be encouraging remarks by teachers that have had a deep influence in your life. The question is did you earnestly pursue it or did the dictates of prudence and the weight of parental expectations make you abandon your cherished ideals?

Cut to the present and ask yourself ‘what are those dreams and passions that still gnaw at my heart?’ Now is the time to plan and execute a strategy to give your passions, dreams and aspirations a chance to flower and bloom. You may have to sacrifice much, have enormous self belief, be bold and take risks. In the long run it will be worth it. Finally you will sing that song that was seeking a voice, paint the picture that was seeking a canvas and build that edifice that till now you merely visualized.

Go back and read the first paragraph again. There is so much you can do for yourself. There is so much of excitement, happiness and contentment waiting to be experienced. So what are you waiting for? Go on break free; indulge, experiment, experience and exult. If you don’t do it now, it could be too little too late and 20 years from today you would be wondering how you could let that opportunity slip by.

Action Points:

Here are 10 options for you to choose from and attempt

  1. Learn a new dance form
  2. Make your own Acronyms (see www.poweract.blogspot.com for clues)
  3. Get a new pet
  4. Learn a new computer game/ card game
  5. Experience the notes formed by filling 6 identical cups with progressively more water in each cup and tapping on each with two thin sticks. (The first cup should have the least amount of water and the last cup must be full)
  6. Surprise someone different for a week.
  7. Make an attempt to enjoy something that you hate. Eg. Classical music or reading philosophy or solve a mathematical equation
  8. Visit a nearby ghetto / slum or hospice
  9. Make 3 completely new friends of a different ethnic race/ country/ religion.
  10. Participate in a competition

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Get set go go go …

Each and every one who reads this post can identify with the above quote. Each of us can easily recount the numerous new resolutions, birthday resolutions and wonderful intentions that have been listed out and pondered over but alas remain mere resolutions.  It is not that we do not want to execute and put into practice those numerous tasks, deeds and desires but we find it hard to be both the starter of the race and the participant in the race. For far too long we have been directed, led, coached, disciplined, motivated and cajoled by parents, teachers, family and well wishers that we have lost the zest to be self directed and self starters.

With the Olympics just a few days away, it is just the right time to share some tips on how to be a self starter and get set go…

Put it in writing.  It is said that if you can dream it you can achieve it. The same holds true for jotting down all what one wants to achieve. One has to take time out to think, reflect and then write down dreams, hopes, aspirations, passions, goals and personal challenges. On a day to day basis one also needs to jot down the repetitive, the mundane, the unavoidable and the inevitable tasks be it paying bills, discharging one’s social obligations or mere record keeping and filing.

Prioritize When having a multitude of tasks listed out, the biggest obstacle to overcome is deciding priorities. Fixing routines for the frequent and regular activity would help prune the list of tasks dramatically. What is left is often the challenging, the daunting and the inevitable tasks on the postponement agenda. Putting start dates and milestone achievements dates would make the tasks look less daunting, more achievable and certainly more tempting to begin.

Begin with faith and continue with hope. Whether challenging or routine, tasks will be well begun only when we start it. The trick is to begin earnestly, movie decisively and continue relentlessly. Your achievement will never be measured with that of another individual; it will merely be a series of progress at varying pace perhaps, but nevertheless progress that gives rise to the hope of ending in success.

Resolve with unwavering intent by finding motivators. If one can visualize the motivators even as one is writing down the tasks, getting of the blocks would be very spontaneous and simple. It is equally important that one continues to seek and find motivators to keep going for many a time, things get disheartening, one gets dispirited and disenchantment would tempt one to give up. The antidote to this is find the right motivators. Some motivators that are easy to identify with are progress made, positive feedback got, applause and support. The best motivators though are more subtle and very personal e.g. the feeling of having done a good job; the satisfaction of seeing the efforts translate into outstanding performance; the great high that we get when we can see our talent being fully utilized; the knowledge that we have influenced others positively etc.

Take in the aroma of achievement and share the joy. While a winner will always experience elation that none of the others can, in harnessing our potential, we are in competition only with ourselves. We can therefore experience a new high and elation every single time we meet our expectations. It could be simply attempting something for the first time or discovering a new facet/ talent/ ability in yourself. It is equally important that one shares ones big and small successes with others, for the energy that they will inject back in you through their acknowledgement, appreciation, suggestions and encouragement  will inspire and motivate you to become a self starter and quickly move on to other tasks listed.

Remember that you should see yourself as an athlete participating in the decathlon or triathlon and not merely the sprints or the marathon, for you will always have a variety of challenges all the way; in some you will excel, some would be exasperating but in the end you have achieved most if not all of what you set out to do if you Get Set Go… and begin.

Action Points:

  1. Read the post on FAITH (Finding Answers In The Heart) by clicking on the following link http://www.poweract.blogspot.in/2010/01/faith.html
  2. Quickly jot down the following
  • A dance form you would like to learn
  • A musical instrument you would like to learn
  • A passion that you would like to indulge in
  • A social service initiative you would love to be involved in
  • A fear you would love to overcome
  • A bad habit you desperately want to eliminate
  • An April fools prank that you would attempt on your best friend

You now have a big list of things to do… get set go… Best Wishes

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The power of thoughts

Man, alone, has the power to transform his thoughts into physical reality; man, alone, can dream and make his dreams come true.  Napoleon Hill

Each and every one who is reading this post is bombarded with a million thoughts every single day. We dismiss most thoughts as irrational, impossible, incongruent and impractical to deal with. The stray thoughts that remain after our initial filtration can be broadly classified as positive thoughts or negative thoughts. We sometimes proactively work on some of those thoughts or let circumstances force us into acting on a few other thoughts. What we fail to appreciate is that we as human beings have the rare privilege of being blessed with thoughts that act as stimulus to achieve extraordinary success if we simply engage more of these thoughts with self belief, purpose and positivity.

To reign in our thoughts so as to leverage its potent possibilities to our advantage we need to focus on the following

Listen proactively: Since we are deluged with innumerable thoughts, we are never short of possibilities. However, we are often inattentive, prone to be dismissive of many ideas and nip them in the bud or we fall in love with a thought only to forget it shortly thereafter. The trick is to listen to ideas proactively; believe that each thought has a valuable insight, juggle various thoughts consciously, look at problems as opportunities to exercise the grey cells and always carry pen and paper in the fond hope of getting a great idea. Do try to jot of some of the new thoughts so that when you read them again, they will trigger multiple ideas.

Explore creatively: All progress is the result of a ‘creative exploration’ done by individuals with the zeal, passion and self belief that they can leverage their ideas. The trick is to juggle various possibilities and select one that suits ones personal likings has a good fit with one’s personal, business or social objectives and surmount the obstacles that loom in front when the idea dice is rolled. Fear of failure is often the most common reason why people give up on ideas without much thought. To be creative one has to occasionally connect the dots, at other times fill in the gaps and far too often come up with out of the box solutions. The best of creativity comes when a person is passionate and he/ she is desperate. The urge to succeed must overcome the fear of failure if one has to become successful and creative.

Plan purposefully: Many an idea never sees the light of day simply because one is lazy, indifferent, casual, fearful, lacks self belief etc. but most of the time it is because one does not plan with a purpose. A plan starts with a clear goal and road map chalked out. This is not the result of a sudden flash in the pan event but the outcome of study, research, analysis and determination. A good plan must incorporate time frames, have inbuilt flexibility, have a proper resource allocation strategy and must be capable of being revised smoothly should the need arise.

Act decisively: A plan on paper is simply a redundant document. The plan comes alive when one begins by committing to the plan and decisively acting on the course of action outlined. Being bold and being committed are the two pillars on which decisive action rests. Acting decisively should not be mistaken to mean that one has to prod on even if the writing on the wall is clearly not in favor of it. There are times when being decisive means cutting one’s losses and quitting. Being decisive is like driving a car, merely sitting on the driver’s seat and turning the steering is not enough; one has to start the engine, engage the gears and move ahead balancing the accelerator and the brake pedal.

Remember: First comes thought; then organization of that thought, into ideas and plans; then transformation of those plans into reality. The beginning, as you will observe, is in your imagination. Napoleon Hill

Action Points:

  1. Assume you want to start your own business venture. What are the three possible options you would consider and why. List out three impediments to your business plan.
  2. If you win a lottery of US1,000 what would you do with it?
  3. What are the possible themes you will explore for your next birthday party?

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The secret to your future

Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you. Frank Tyger

All of us, me included have a hundred different reasons and excuses to justify why we haven’t realized our full potential. The reality though is that nothing absolutely nothing is going to chance the past. Yet irrespective of one’s age, social status, financial status, academic background, past history and the like, there is a wonderful future that each of us can embrace whole heartedly if we are prepared to boldly accept the challenge and work purposefully towards it. There are 4 conditions that one has to fulfill in order to make the future you want for yourself.

The first is to remember the lessons of the past without holding on to the past. We fail to progress beyond our past performance simply because we live with ghost of past failures, keep brooding over the wasted opportunities that we never took advantage of and often meander into some of those rare moments of triumphs and successes we did relish occasionally. While we certainly cannot erase the past completely, we must learn to identify the key learning and keep that uppermost in mind as we proceed further so as to avoid the same pitfalls of the past. We must never let the bad past ruin a perfect present or take away from us the immense possibilities that lay ahead of us.

The second is to believe in yourself and yet be pragmatic about your strengths and weakness. Each one of us has it within us the ability to stretch ourselves to excel. Excellence is ensuring that we use our abilities to the fullest extend and must not be mistaken to mean always out performing others. It is obvious then that we need to asses ourselves dispassionately and leverage our strengths without letting our weaknesses become a stumbling block. It would also entail us having the courage of conviction to take calculated risks, the daring to fail and yet not give up and to pursue our dreams with steely resolve and self confidence.  As rightly said it is our attitude that determines our altitude.

The third is to always have a goal to focus on. What really lets us down is an indisciplined approach to the future. The prime reason for this is lack of clarity as to where we want to go and what we want to achieve. Perhaps we would be a lot happier if we could simply identify our personal, professional, financial and spiritual goals. Perhaps we have a hazy idea of our goals, but then we are tempted to change the goal posts in the hope of scoring at will. Goals helps us concentrate, enable us to channelize the resources required and helps us chart our progress and if need be take the corrective measures to ensure that we make the best of our future. It is sarcastically observed that if we do not know our destination any road will lead us there.

The fourth is to adapt, change, improve, transform yourself to ensure that you are progressing towards your goal. Simply put this means that one has to make umpteen sacrifices if one were to make the best of the future ahead. Look what happened to the dinosaurs of old who became extinct simply because they could not adapt, change, improve or transform themselves to meet the onslaught of change. While we make not suffer such an ignominy, it is very possible that the future we face by being rigid and uncompromising can be painful, frustrating and very regrettable. Only the wisest and stupidest of men never change. It is imperative that  we change else the chances are that we will fall in the second category.

Remember: “Losers live in the past. Winners learn from the past and enjoy working in the present toward the future.”  Denis Waitley

Try this:

  1. Jot down 3 lessons you learnt from any failures/ regrets that you have from your past.
  2. Ask a few close friends to name 3 of your strengths and one weakness they perceive in you. Reflect on these particularly on the weakness and work out how you can use the new knowledge about yourself to shape your future.
  3. Take a pencil and paper and do the following
  • Make a sketch of your dream house. Now put a realistic price tag to it.
  • Make a realistic assessment of what your monthly savings should be and what you think should be your monthly income after you attain the age of 60.
  • Make a plan for an overseas holiday with your spouse and the roadmap to make it happen in the next 2 years.
  • Outline your definition of a successful person. Now write down your own success statement.

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Being the best

Once you say you’re going to settle for second, that’s what happens to you. John F. Kennedy

Life is a series of races from cradle to grave; beginning from cradle to school, from school to college, from college to job, job to family and the list goes on. At times we seem to be running a couple of races simultaneously. What is common to this whole business of races is that the races seem to put us under pressure most times and we are not too sure why that happens. Worse is the uncomfortable feeling that we haven’t done our best and that we should have done even better. If we end up evaluating our lives, most times we have a sense of regret and the ire is directed inwards at ourselves because in our view we never lived up to our own abilities.

The major reason for out troubles is that the vast majority of us are too modest and fail to really appreciate our own potential and abilities.  You can do a self check to know our own response when we are praised for any thing. E.g. If someone compliments you on your new hairstyle or new dress , how do you react to it will be symptomatic of our attitudes and beliefs about our self. While modesty by itself is a virtue, it is when we let modesty overwhelm us that it becomes a millstone. Then we always tend to undervalue our self and convince ourselves that we have limited ability and limited success probability. In effect we are not aiming for gold but in most cases just hoping to breast the tape. When we run a race with that mindset invariably the outcome would be just about what we aim for.

Quite a number of us shy away from competition and hard work and as a result, we try to believe that coming in second or lower is still a great achievement. It is said that when the going gets tough the tough get going; alas many of us wear T –shirts proclaiming this but in real we are a disgrace to such T-shirts. For those who do not have the competitive spirit or those who never really faced stiff competition, a real competition makes us nervous and scared. More problematic is the thought that when there is competition we need to work that much more harder and that takes time and effort. As a result we compromise and satisfy ourselves that participation is more important than the real victory. To test this hypothesis look back at the quality of project work you did in school/ college or a competitions in which u were forced to participate. More often than not, we just did enough to show that we too participated and got some marks.

We win when we set our sights on it and passionately work to win. Look back at the times when you were shamed into improving your grades, asked to play in the starting lineup despite warming the benches for a few seasons or became  a hero when you participated and won  after competing and beating stiff competition and your own apprehensions. On hindsight you will realize that three factors contributed to your victory; your self belief, your hard work and preparation and your focus on winning.

Remember: “Regardless of how you feel inside, always try to look like a winner. Even if you are behind, a sustained look of control and confidence can give you a mental edge that results in victory.” Arthur Ashe

Try this:

  1. Never accept a position of responsibility without first knowing what is expected of you. Once you have accepted that office, it is incumbent on you to discharge your duties diligently no matter what the odds are against you.  Also ask yourself if you have refused responsibility. Examine the reasons for it? Work out a plan to overcome your limitations and to take on that responsibility in future.
  2. You are good player but you are aware that you have been appointed captain of the team because of your excellent academic performance. You feel that your teammates will resent your appointment. How will you tackle the problem? How will you convince yourself that you deserve to be the captain? How will you get the other team members to respect you as captain?

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The courage to dare

To accept whatever comes, regardless of the consequences, is to be unafraid. John Cage

Nowhere is this quote more applicable on than on the battle field. Fortunately most of us do not have to go through this life and death situation and hence we assume that this may not be very significant in our lives. The truth is unfortunately very different. We may not realize it but most of our waking hours is spend in reconciling to our fears both imaginary and real and mustering up courage to face the consequences boldly. Look at the variety of challenges that continuously and relentlessly pursue us; parental wrath, teachers wrath, academic pressures, pressures on relationships, lure of monetary gains, balancing our conscience, standing up for our rights, pain in various forms, depression and suicidal thoughts etc. The list is endless and our capacity to bear up theoretically unlimited but practically nonexistent.

To understand why we find it hard to be unafraid, it is essential to understand that each one of us attempts to have an utopian concept of life. This life we visualize as  idyllic, stress free, well chartered and planned, remains well within our control and does not contain even a wee bit of pain or danger. When this notion is rudely disturbed then we are not really prepared for the unpleasant and often stressful happenings that spring up on us. It could be a rather stern teacher or a strict parent who jolts us first. It could be the betrayal by a friend or some close to us that can hurt us deeply. Illness, death of a loved one, inability to cope with the pressures of daily living etc. can stress us out and pressurize our peace of mind. It is at this point that we actually learn to cope with the stress and built up our own defense mechanisms to manage life. Yet we do not confront our problems but most time side step it.

When we side step problems, we are simply acting as cowards and not really being brave. Being brave means to be unafraid and that means we need to be more proactive and confront our fears. We do not really confront our fears because we are more focused on the consequences than on solving our immediate problem. This is like having a brain tumor and the surgeon refuses to operate because the patient can be incapacitated in the process but by leaving the tumor unattended death is more certain. On a personal level look back at school days and recollect the time when you skipped homework because of a wedding in the family where you had a swell time but knew you may be punished for your indiscretion of not doing the homework. Yet you braved the punishment because the fun was more alluring and a once in a life time opportunity. While I certainly don’t recommend not doing homework for trivial reasons, I would be even more strongly condemn not enjoying a once in a life time opportunity for fear of not so serious consequences.

Daring is all about taking calculated risks and occasionally going for broke because the stakes are worth it.  One must be motivated, bold and focused when developing courage and being unafraid. One also needs to be able to distinguish between being foolhardy and being daring, being a hero and being a fool and being a coward and displaying courage. If the goal is clear, if we are passionate enough to reach it, then we get bold and brave enough to dare to reach out for the stars.

Remember: “He who is brave is free.”

Try this:

  1. Read the poem the The Charge of the Light Brigade by Alfred Lord Tennyson  http://www.nationalcenter.org/ChargeoftheLightBrigade.html
  2. Thing of 3 daring things you have done in your life and the consequences of it. Also think of those daring things that you didn’t dare do be it making a job change, standing up for your rights or ticking off a nasty colleague and ask your self why you didn’t do it.

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Our mindset…

A champion is afraid of losing.  Everyone else is afraid of winning. Billie Jean King

It is rightly said that winning and losing are primarily mind games which are eventually executed on the arena be it a battle field, a sports ground or on the personal and professional spheres. Long term winners are those who are able to synchronize their strength, skills and subliminal thoughts proactively, positively and purposefully to drive themselves to their desired goals. This is not as easy at it sounds mainly because we have less control on our thoughts whereas our strengths and skills are more readily manageable through practice, supervision, coaching and  sheer hard work. Our thoughts though require us to make much greater efforts to channelize, control and conquer.

Any champion would obviously have gone through the grind of playing and losing before maturing into strong winners. It is in those periods of winning some and losing a lot that a person develops the mindset that will decide if they are champions or end up as merely top rated with potential. A true winner would always go back after a loss to rework strategies with the single minded focus of winning. This is because they have developed their mindset to visualize themselves as winners. They simply hate to lose and it is this reluctance to lose that injects in them a renewed vigor, energy and killer instinct. When they have focused on the goal of winning, they are even prepared to take some calculated risks and that in many cases is the margin between defeat and victory. Winners also develop  a high sense of instinct which enables them to anticipate and respond with lightening speed which again gives them the winners edge.

The problem with those who are on the cusp of winning but do not really end up as consistent winners is the fact that they primarily lack the self belief of a winner. Far too often they rationalize their defeat instead of analyzing it threadbare and going back to the drawing board to iron out their flaws. Even more problematic is their inability to visualize themselves as worthy winners and true champions. They lack the killer instinct that winners have embedded in their mind, body and spirit. The swagger, confidence and authority of a winner is rarely seen in the body language, words or attitude of a person who does not fit the bill. When a person does not think like a winner, the fear is that of having to keep up the winning streak and so victory becomes just a desire and not a passionate want. Psychologically therefore anyone who is not fully focused on a win is actually setting themselves up to reconcile to not winning. They seem content with having participated and having reached standards which often do not reflect their true potential.

The best victories though are the ones where we keep upping our expectations from ourselves every single day of our life.  If we have progressed much beyond yesterday, if we have overcome challenges that would have normally kept us down, if we have leveraged our potential and gained superlative victories, if we have overcome our own shortcomings be it addictions, personal disabilities or unfortunate quirks of fate and if each day brings us renewed joy, happiness and peace, we can then be sure we have become champions of our destiny .

Remember: “Champions aren´t made in the gyms. Champions are made from something they have deep inside them – a desire, a dream, a vision.” Muhammad Ali

Try this:

  1. The next time you are playing a game, preferably an individual sport even if it is whilst on a holiday check your own attitude and the results. Assume you are playing against someone much younger do you feel a sudden surge of energy if you are losing the game and the urge to win suddenly overpowering?
  2. When attempting to play a new sport, be aware of your own attitude to learning it. Do you mentally say, it is a new sport so it is ok if I cannot learn it or do you say here is something that I have to master? Notice the attitude you have will reflect in the commitment you make to learning and the speed and progress you make in the learning process.

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