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43-become-a-seed-and-then-growOver the past few posts, you would perhaps have noticed that the theme has generally centered on learning from nature how to grow and evolve. This time we look at how we can dump the past behind and begin anew and the learning comes from the seed; the very heart of all growth. So you have had some bad times, some tough times, you have been pushed into the ground – just like the seed. How did the seed react? It let it come completely undone, allowed its shell to crack and from the ruins of that destruction rose again to flower, grow and bloom.

So what are the lessons for us?

When you have reached the bottom you can only grow up- give yourself a chance. – So as you close the year gone by let your attention be on the gains, the achievements, the opportunities ahead instead of the losses, the failures and regrets. This will give you a goal to focus on, a motivation to plunge ahead and the grit to keep trying till you succeed.

Even when all seems lost – keep faith; have hope.  You would definitely have faced some low and despairing times during the year gone by but the reality is that your survived it.  Perhaps the dirt through which you had been dragged helped you grow stronger, be more resilient and it was your faith in yourself that gave you the hope to wait patiently till the tide turned an d things improved.

You will grow- just ensure you grow young not old – find a rebirth in your thoughts, attitude, behavior.  At some stage the seed would have found an escape when it began to sprout. So the dark and deep abyss in which you find yourself would nourish your whole being provided you do not succumb to fear and negativity. Wait in hope, look forward in anticipation and move ahead with confidence. Align your thoughts attitude and behavior and move grow with self belief and confidence. After all, fortune favors the brave.

Grow strong roots – spread your branches – values and character will enable you to focus on your goals and success- your risk taking ability your daring to chart your own course will enable you to spread your branches. Your upbringing, your schooling, your social circle and those influencing you would play an important role in ensuring you embrace the values and character that will stand you in good stead under all circumstances. Your personal characteristics, your ambition, your hunger for growth and success would determine how wide you spread your branches.  Like the tree that offers good shade, good fruits and provides the best timber you too must grow and contribute to the world around.

Nurture yourself – like good soil, quality fertilizer and bright sunshine that sustains the seed, fill yourself with boundless energy, take affirmative action and enjoy the creative manifestations of your efforts. Growth comes from daring to emerge from the cocoon that you have to break free from. Plan, prepare and pursue your growth for that is when one can nurture the self with purpose and passion. The fruits of your labor would be definitely sweet!

Try these:

  • Write down three quotes / proverbs that you value very much.
  • What are the 3 values or qualities that you admire most in your role model?
  • What is your greatest strength and what would you consider your worst weakness?
  • What is the one criticism that you often seem to hear?
  • What is the one major achievement you would work towards in the coming year?

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40-family-treeThe Christmas season is fast approaching and that is a time when most times families, particularly in countries that celebrate Christmas get together to bond and renew ties. Equivalent festivities are definitely present in various other countries and cultures too. So what is common to all these festivities?  It is a time when we realize how each person has evolved and found his/ her own path in life and chalked out their destiny. What makes the season special is also the fact that gifts are exchanged, which means each gift is thoughtfully selected for the person to whom we gift it. It is also a time for fun and bonding, a time to reminisce and a time to realize how each one has grown and yet remained rooted.

This is a good time to have a re-look at our own family tree.

Branching out – The individuality of people, the paths they tread and the way each one evolves is reflected in the way one branches out and chalks out one’s own destiny. The beauty of this branching out is that it helps people evolve, it is the blooming of the child into maturity and it is the culmination of how one attempts to give expression to ones dreams, hopes and aspirations. Some are fortunate to have a smooth passage with encouragement and relatively easy success paving the way. However, for many, branching out is a challenge. There are parental expectations, personal weakness and conflicting alternatives that we need to overcome, before we reach stability in personal and professional life.

Remaining rooted –Branching out happens because we have our individualistic thoughts, dreams, passions and abilities that are different from the other family members.  However, what gives us identify apart from our own achievements are the family ties that bind us, the support system they represent, the commonality of emotions that draws us close to each other. We can fondly reminisce about the good old days; go through the ecstatic and most depressing moments together, feeling it as one. It is also the bond that makes us come together for a joyous celebrations like weddings in the family or a significant birthday of a loved one and it is also the same bond that enables us to be present during traumatic moments of our extended family  be it a an accident or a death. Our roots bind us together for we are all nourished by the same love that runs through our branches, leaves and fruits.

Growing – For a tree to become a tree, it is essential that both its roots and its branches grow healthy and strong. The same holds true for a family. So while the individuality will help one find his/ her own future and destiny, it is the bond with the family and extended family that provides one with values, culture and nourishment through support in testing times. If the roots are strong, the tree will always grow and flourish and a family that is grounded in good values, culture and close bonds would be the same too. Give space to individuals to bloom and flower and keep them close so that they continue to be nourished by the bonds that tie one another.

Try these:

  • Make a family tree and share it with the extended family.
  • Hold family reunions to ensure there are more meetings and interactions especially between the younger members of the family.
  • Share interesting tidbits of family members who have some remarkable achievements/ talents / success so that others can be proud of them and also benefit from their success.
  • Surprise a family member with a surprise gift on a significant occasion for the person.

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13- Accept then act

We find ourselves ineffective, fearful, tardy and complaining whenever we have to engage in an activity that we dislike, loathe or despise. Most times, the same feelings also preoccupy us when we have to do repetitive, boring and menial jobs. The reality is that every individual would have to necessarily put up with a variety of tasks, that fall into one or more of the above activities that are  disenchanting and boring. Take any job; repetition and boredom are inbuilt into it because that is the very nature of life. Even in the animal kingdom, preying, hunting, procreation, protecting the young ones and survival is the cycle that is ordained for every specie.  However the human race alone, sees their life cycle as a herculean task and a challenge. Ironically, this is because we are blessed with a very high degree of imagination, thinking powers and creativity which unfortunately we do not utilize well. Instead we prefer to distort the reality imaginatively enough to merely wallow in self pity. Life would be much more engaging, interesting and fun filled if we were to first accept the reality and then proactively engage with it.

To ensure that every day is a new day filled with opportunities and hope, look at life differently. Here is how one does it

Feel blessed to be alive to enjoy the day – Every living moment is a blessing. Once you make this realization you would value each moment. Your fears and frustrations will disappear once you realize that you are here for a purpose and that you are given the opportunity to contribute and succeed by being alive. So many die young never fulfilling their promise nor experiencing the joy of fulfillment.  Others die old, yet without having made a difference in their lives or in the life of others. Each day you are alive is a blessing; each moment an opportunity and every action you take can be made meaningful.

Be happy that you have something concrete to do – Even the jobless have a task of finding a suitable employment. Those having a job have something to look forward to every day. It is possible that the vast majority of us are often disillusioned with their jobs, they are striving to do something more meaningful and rewarding. Yet the fact that there is something to engage you, is itself a blessing denied to many. Once we this realization is made, the present situation looks a lot more promising, fulfilling and rewarding. Many of those looking for a job fail to land one largely because of their own limited vision, partly because of their inability to identify and discern alternative opportunities and partly because of their inability to accept their reality that they are often striving for something  they don’t deserve. If they accept their reality they would alter their thinking and redirect their efforts to more realistic alternatives.

Be aware that no task is menial; visualize yourself as an important cog – In most work places, the clerical staff are missed most when absent. They are also the most lowly paid, Does this not look abnormal. The reality is that the clerical staff may not be doing a job that significantly influences the business but they certainly are critical to the daily functioning at the work place. However, although their influence is significant, their presence is not recognized till they are absent. Their role is  vital for smooth functioning on a day to day basis even though they do not have any long term strategically critical influence. When we analyze our own role there are times when we too will feel insignificant. Does it in anyway reduce or marginalize our role? In any committee there would be limited number of people holding office bearers position but it is the rest of the committee that gives direction and legitimacy to the office bearers. In any team there can be just one captain but each member is equally important to ensure the team does well.

Focus on doing the job well enough to make you proud – One reason we see ourselves as insignificant and unimportant is because we do not visualize ourselves as playing any significant role in life. It is important that we realize that every role that we play be it as a child, a parent, an employee or a retired individual has its own importance in influencing the world around. You set an example, you show the way, you guide by using your experience, you motivate with encouragement and you certainly are a glue to family and social ties. Once you perceive the importance of the role you play, you will accept it with open arms and then act decisively to ensure you play your part well.

Aim to improve, grow and rise in whatever your calling – Time takes a toll on every individual; it slows down reflexes, there could be health issues or it could be merely confusion about what to do next. Yet time does not take away your ability to contribute in whatever manner one can. With every passing day, we are enriched by our interactions, our experiences, our failures and our successes. We also learn each day and we can also share each day the knowledge we posses, utilize the experience we have gained and actively participate in a calling of our choice. This gets momentum once we accept the reality that we may not be as effective as we once were but there is nothing to stop us gamely contributing.

Experience the joy of a task well done – The motivation that drives individuals to contribute despite the boredom, the humdrum of everyday monotony and the repetitive nature of the work is the elation we get that we have done a good job. It is essential that we experience this joy, soak in the pleasure of doing an excellent job and seek motivation in continuing to script success daily. So age will not be a bar, health would not be an impediment, the extent of your contribution would not be a dampener for you have accepted the reality and have chosen to act to the best of your abilities. You derive pleasure from participation, contribution and

Try these:

Make a list of at least 3-5 things you want to do because you are passionate about it. It is possible that some of the items on the list seem farfetched to achieve because of your current  physical, financial or academic limitations. Perhaps they seem farfetched because you have not really sat down to think and study it at length. Pick one activity out of that list and begin earnestly to get some tangible outcome. E.g. You want to be a magician. Find out about magic schools in your city teaching the art. Go to a library and find out books that teach you magic tricks. Ask friends and relatives about magicians who could teach you the art. Begin by mastering card tricks. Look up other resources on the net to get more inputs. Practice and master a few tricks and try it on your friends and family. Learn from the feedback.

Take inspiration from the following video’s of people who Accepted their reality and then acted to make the best use of their abilities. Click on the links to view.

http://tinyurl.com/hsueztl – Inspiration from Nick Vujicic

http://tinyurl.com/bpesfbf – Last Lecture by Randy Pausch

Read the inspirational article by paraplegic M.P.Anil Kumar by clicking on the following link

http://tinyurl.com/gmr2maq   

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24-30 Nov 14 Magic MantraThe magic in the mantra is because it gives you the answers to the questions that have invariably troubled you at some point in time and even possibly trouble you even today. For all those who have a doubt and ask themselves ‘ Can I?’ or those who are resigned to their fate saying ‘ I can’t’ this magic mantra simply says ‘YES YOU CAN’. However the mantra puts the onus on YOU to get what you want.

If you want growth – it could be in diverse aspects of your life like in physique / health / wealth /spirit / maturity you would be limited only by your inhibitions about reaching it. Assume you want to attempt a marathon successfully. The thought that it may be impossible stops you from even exploring the possibility. You could begin by aiming for smaller targets and slowly increase the distance till one day you achieve your aim of completing the marathon. If you don’t reach for it you will never grow enough to achieve it. Similar you mature more from the critical feedback you receive which most times we are prone to refute. Yet, if one were to reach out in a non judgmental way and listen to the others, we could get invaluable pointers that would make us more balanced, less emotional and act in a mature way. Be aware that YOU are the person limiting your growth by not reaching.

If you seek – it could be a variety of things like happiness/ enlightenment / understanding / knowledge / peace you will attain it only when you are prepared to be open minded, take risks and explore all avenues. An open mind and heart is a precondition to allow new thoughts and insights percolate into your being and transform you. A beautiful work of art could give immense joy or a coming across an insightful phrase can suddenly enlighten you or the wonders of technology when we experience it give us new knowledge. However all this is possible only when one is open to seeking it. This means that we need to look out for your destination even as you traverse diverse paths and before you know it you will attain it. Seek and you shall find says the Bible.

When we traverse through life there are so many experiences and events that we come across. Yet, it is only when we decide to consciously pay close attention to these happenings around us that we get to see the humane side of people/ the darker side of human nature/ the pain of others/ affection of people / sacrifices of others / blessings you possess. It is natural for us to take so many things for granted. Yet there are times when we are pleasantly surprised or rudely shocked because of events or happenings that did not fit into the set pattern. The sudden death of young colleague could be the trigger to be aware of one’s own health or the bravery of an ordinary citizen could awaken us to our own lethargic and casual approach to life. Perhaps this explains why beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. While on the subject of beauty, think deeply about this too; some say that love fades when beauty fades but think again; isn’t it when love fades that beauty fades

Dreams are nature’s way of giving wings to your imagination / your fantasies /your creativity / your individuality. The real you is the person who can translate those dreams into reality. Unless you dream big you cannot build on those dreams. Dreams are the blueprint that nature provides you with. They can also take the form of fantasies, creativity and individuality. Let your blueprint be elaborate, detailed, ostentatious for it is only then can you attempt to translate that into reality. If Edison did not imagine an alternative for the candle we would still be groping in the dark. You can be your own Edison if you just allow yourself the luxury of dreaming big, thinking differently, stretching your imagination and attempting something that you have never tried before.

Try this:

Grow – buy a potted plant or plant a seed in a pot. Nurture it well and see it grow. At the same time find a way to increase your savings and some good ways to invest it so that the savings grow more than the current inflation.

Go – Visit an old age home and an orphanage. Note down the different needs of the inmates there. Did you anticipate most of those needs by merely imagining them. How did the visit profoundly impact you?

See – a foreign language / regional language ( a language you do not understand )movie. Try writing a script for a 2 minute movie on a social cause and try to get it shot.

Be – aware of the noises around you when seated blind folded for half an hour. What thoughts crossed your mind when you sat blind folded. Did any wild ideas cross your mind? Did you imagine any fears? What do you plan to do about those ideas or fears?

 

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Growth begins when we start to accept our own weakness.  Jean Vanier

As long as we are blind to the reality of where we can improve, our growth will remain stunted. It is only when we know where we are weak that we can begin to make a focused effort to overcome that weakness. It is tough to easily identify our real weakness because often we focus only on the symptoms rather than attempting to diagnose the real problem. It is even more difficult to accept criticism and so we often ignore negative comments, take a casual approach to feedback we get and prefer to rationalize all criticism with frivolous arguments. The net result is that we continue to struggle with our weakness.

A sportsman for example would find it extremely tough to realize why despite his hard work and practice sessions he is unable to reach the first place in various tournaments. A good coach will constantly monitor his performance and correctly identify if the problem is psychological, or if it is in the technique or it is result of poor strategy. Once the player accepts the coaches diagnoses and is prepared to make the changes recommended it is possible that he would be able to see better results. One reason we do not easily accept our weakness is because our ego comes in the way. The ego is vital to make us more competitive, aggressive and helps us focus on victory. The trouble starts when the ego assumes itself to be more powerful than the sum total of a persons abilities. Such ego refuses to accept that there are any flaws in us and we tend to ignore, underplay and / or brazenly refute any criticism that confronts us.

The second reason we are unable to confront our weakness is our inability to visualize. There are many intangibles in our life that prove to be the millstone that drags us down. Poor attitude, fear of failure, inability to think tactically, being lazy etc. are realities that are difficult to pointedly demonstrate. Any such comment is hard for many people to accept simply because they cannot visualize how it applies to them. Finally our reluctance to change will always be a stumbling block to accepting a weakness. If we accept a weakness, we will have to work hard to change it but many of us are so set in our ways that we dread the thought of making a change. Under such circumstances we prefer to stoutly deny any suggestion of weakness that would perpetrate the need to change and make adjustments. If we are told we are overweight we will make statements that it is temporary because we partied during a wedding in the family or that it is just the clothes that make us look fat or that we can still walk 5 kms without getting tired and so we are perfectly fit.

If we finally let better sense prevail and acknowledge our weakness we can at least make a beginning by trying to improve. However the process of improvement is challenging and painful. Challenging because we might have to unlearn and or double our efforts; painful because the results of our efforts would be time consuming, unpredictable and may not produce the results expected.  However the growth that remains unseen and unappreciated is in the fact that by accepting our weakness we have reduced our ego, improved our visualization and we are prepared to change our thoughts , actions and beliefs.

Remember: “If we’re growing, we’re always going to be out of our comfort zone.” John Maxwell

Try this:

  1. Take a pen and paper and attempt to write with the hand that you normally don’t use to write with. Keep up the effort for at least 3 spells of 10 mins. each for one week. Notice the progress from day 1 to day 7. How did it feel? Do you think you would have progressed faster if you had some motivation?
  2. List out 3 bad habits that you are constantly being reminded of. Chalk out a plan to reduce the bad habits that you have?  Have a time frame and clear milestones to ensure that you progress. Eg. If you bite your nails then you can buy a pair of gloves and wear it as often as possible or tell your partner to tell you when you indulge in the habit and collect a rupee from you each time.

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Growth begins when we start to accept our own weakness.  Jean Vanier

It is when we appreciate our weakness that we begin to focus on strengthening it. It is easy to build up on our strengths for it comes naturally to a person but it is the person who has the vision and the commitment who can accept his/ her limitations and strategize to succeed despite those limitations. Take the case of a tennis player who has a relatively weaker service as compared to the peers. When the person acknowledges that weakness, only then can that person adopt a tactic that will ensure that the serve is efficient first time around and learn to anticipate the returns correctly. Thereafter they can leverage their strengths of regular play to outplay the opponent.

Success camouflages a lot of weakness and that is why when we study the corporate space we make a startling discovery that many a successful company 50 years ago has vanished half a century later.  It is extremely tough to introspect objectively when the going is good, for we are delirious with excitement over our successes and we almost seem invincible.  However every passing day brings changes and one weakness that many fail to see is the repercussions of CHANGE. How many anticipated the technology driven changes that have almost made the globe a level playing field? Even if one anticipated it how many could foresee how things would pan out and how one could ensure that the technology is leveraged in order to keep abreast of the competition?

There are times when lack of self belief is the weakness. This is even more catastrophic for one can give up just when on the cusp of success. The antidote is self belief and persistence. Each one of us is capable of generating new ideas but to believe in the success of the idea and having the tenacity to execute it are issues that one needs to examine carefully. There would be many critics and perhaps a motley set of ardent supporters. The challenge is to objectively understand the pros and cons propounded and examine it in the light of one’s personal abilities and then proceed ahead.  Fear of failure is closely associated with the lack of self belief. In real life the successful people are the ones who have weathered failure of many hues before they could actually rectify their weakness and leverage their strengths to succeed. Failure by itself is not a weakness but not learning from failure is the weakness.

Can we identify weakness easily? It is possible simply because it triggers many tell tale signs. To begin with most things we are uncomfortable with or don’t enjoy doing indicate a possible area of weakness. E.g. We may love to teach but end up working in an office and you just don’t enjoy that work. Here the weakness is you inability to change tracks and / or  your inability to enjoy the current job or it could be your lack of self belief that you can be a successful teacher. Many a time we confuse our passion with ability and it is here that objective analysis of performance and feedback will give us clarity on how strong or weak we are in that area. Lack of encouragement or appreciation often leads to a situation where your strengths remain underdeveloped whilst we try to cope with activities that cater to parental/ societal expectations. E.g.  There might be an artist in you yearning to showcase your talent but ultimately you sideline it and pursue other academic pursuits as dictated by convention. The key here is in listening to you inner voice and developing your self- belief.

If you don’t realize you weakness, it is well neigh impossible to even appreciate your strengths and the net effect is disenchantment, disheartened and disappointment. Once you realize your weakness you will make attempts to either cope with it or overcome it. That is when growth begins and you begin to experience happiness, confidence and sense of achievement.

Remember: “There’s a basic human weakness inherent in all people which tempts them to want what they can’t have and not want what is readily available to them.”M. Kathleen Casey

Try this:

  1. Make an elaborate list of your strengths. It should have not less then 10 strengths listed. Now consult close family members and friends and ask them to rank your strengths from strongest to weakest. Tabulate the results and identify those strengths that others have ranked as weak. Work on those strengths and soon you would have improved on your effectiveness.
  2. Honestly ask yourself if you are guilty of any of the following weakness:
  • Being too talkative thereby making you a poor listener
  • Being too critical and sarcastic thereby find it hard to appreciate others
  • Being quick tempered and rude thereby alienating too many people
  • Being fastidious and finicky thereby irritating others unnecessarily
  • Being timid and quite thereby tactically giving your consent on matters that you really oppose

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