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The secret to happiness

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The essential condition for being happy is enjoying the moment. The problem is that our mind tends to wander around and seeks to find real and imaginary problems to dwell upon and fret and fume over. The human tendency to scan around for problems is possibly a defense mechanism to protect our future for we are the only species that uses the higher intelligence to embrace progress. In effect this means that each day we want to get ahead of the previous day and this creates in us a fear of tomorrow for it has to be better than today and yesterday. Protecting our future and planning for it is important but it must never be at the cost of failing to enjoy the better part of our life. Stress is primarily an outcome or result of our obsession with the future and is a predominantly found in the human race.

To reduce our stress it is essential that we find a way to like each moment of our life and love our life. This means we need to create/ find/ invent / be happy. The challenge is to remain happy for as long as possible and that is possible only and only when we learn to enjoy whatever we have.  Here are some ways that we can continue to be happy moment to moment.

Appreciate what you have. We tend to take for granted whatever we are blessed with and on the rare times we are deprived of some of these blessings we notice the absence and react with alarm, fear, worry and exasperation. Look back at the time you sprained your ankle or suffered from flu or the time you misplaced a valuable thing. Your attitude and behavior is symptomatic of our tendency to take the good fro granted and the unwanted as a calamity. Remember the phrase; I complained because I had not shoes until I saw a man who had no feet.

Don’t compare. Nothing disturbs our peace of mind as much as our tendency to compare whatever we have with that of others who we perceive as having something better than what we have. In many ways our inability to appreciate what we have often has its roots in our weakness to focus on what others have. Pause for a moment and think about the possibility that ‘perhaps we are blessed with just the right mix leaving us enough opportunities to aspire, perspire and inspire us to achieve and attain more’ giving us the elation of achievement and success.

Be optimistic. Problems, hindrances, failures, fears and frustrations are part of everyday life. We are given the grace to be optimistic; to be hopeful, to visualize possibilities and to find creative ways to overcome and slay the demons of our negative imagination. It is when we are optimistic that we confront our fears and stop ourselves from running away from the problems we encounter.

Seek positives. When in difficulties, pain or trouble our reaction is to alleviate the suffering. The challenge thereafter is to be calm, have a clear head and to think logically so that we not only overcome our difficulties but come out unscathed. Almost all the prisoner of war (POW) escapes can be attributed to seeking out the positives even in the most inescapable circumstances. Ask yourself if you are a POW of your making; your defeatist attitude, your weak will and/ or your inability to confront reality.

Have fun. Have you seen people in casts displaying a variety of messages written on the cast by friends and well wishers? Have you seen people with a big smile hobble on crutches to a party or come on a wheel chair to the party? Ever notice that the best jokes are the ones people tell about themselves and the embarrassing situations they found themselves in?  The ability to laugh, to have fun, to find a reason to smile is perhaps the greatest gift you can bestow yourself.

Try this:

  • Prepare a funny paragraph containing the words. Each paragraph must have 5 sentences at least and must contain 7 -10 words from the list given below. The paragraphs need not be logical but must be coherent and humorous.

Man, socks, dog, green, TV, nail, Egg, elephant, hook, water, clock, TV, bucket, Adam, Ram, Flag, blue, wheel, cycle, eat, run, scream.

  • Prepare a list (laughs that you can have) of at least 5 each of the following
  1. Jokes
  2. Limericks
  3. Comedy Movies
  4. You tube clips
  5. Cartoons
  6. Sayings / Phrases

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Life is a romance…

Life is a romantic business, but you have to make the romance. Oliver Wendell Holmes

Romance is all about adoring the flowers, gazing at the sunrise in the early morning, walking the seashore, soaking in the sunset and being one with the moonlight and twinkling stars, all the while skipping a heat beat in ecstasy and enjoying life to the fullest. Most times these emotions overwhelm a person particularly when in love, or in the company of  a beloved or at a very significant occasion as in winning a prize / an award/ recognition, possibly when thrilled to bits with some momentous news or when in the wondrous lap of nature. When one looks at life in general from a similar angle it suddenly dawns on us that life despite its ups and downs, despite the problems, the tears, the worries and the tragedies has plenty of laughter, cheer, victories, successes and happy moments that merit us romancing life every living moment.

One has to decide if life is to be enjoyed for what it offers or if one wants to bemoan the absence of what we would ideally covet. When we decide to see our life in the right perspective, we discover that there is so much that life has given us which we have often taken for granted. A good family, good health, a fair amount of monetary cushion, the blessing of education and learning abilities, scope for ample personal growth etc are invaluable gifts of life to each one of us. Some of us have in larger measure and some others may be challenged in some areas but compensated in other areas. It is the perspective that we take that will determine how we embrace life and endear it to ourselves.

It is important to be aware that we can dance only when we get up and move and similarly life can be romanced only if we are prepare to caress it gently, hold it lightly and sway to the rhythm that is being played. We must resist all temptation of forcing life to keep time to our beat, for life is dispassionate. It neither takes pleasure in our joys nor feels the pain of our hurt but like a referee in a match remains neutral to the teams at play but controls the game with help of the rule book. We may not really agree with the interpretation of the rules and may feel let down too but when the game is over, we shake hands and if victorious exude but otherwise, take pleasure in the joy of having played a great game. The best way to romance life therefore is to embrace it with open arms and try and keep in step with the beat that is on. While most times it will be the wedding march or the waltz, there are time when the funeral march is the one that echoes loud.

Every romance has its share of saying sorry, shedding tears and having to be magnanimous lovers.  So it is with life too. We need to be flexible, large hearted, humble and generous with our emotions, our communication and our spirit if we are to truly savor the romance of life. There are times when one has to open out and express our pain, grief and disappointments and there are times when we have to listen to the same woes of life. Ultimately, we may even have to take those ginger steps that could be an antithesis to our ego, our pride and our temperament but it is when we bend and blend with life that we can experience the joy of love, the tenderness of affection and the romance of LIFE which coos into our ears every waking hour.

Remember: “One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure its worth watching.”

Try this:

  1. Recollect the 3 happiest moments of your life. Ask yourself what made it so special. Did any of those events preceded by self doubt, pain, sorrow or fear which made the moment even more special? Eg. You messed up one question which you knew very well in one of the papers yet you stood first in your exam.
  2. Poetry provides us the perfect spirit of romance. You are invited to read the following poems to experience the romance of life as penned by the poets.

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