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When one looks back on the days gone by, there will be some people and some incidents that you will recall with great fondness. Focus on these people whose memories always bring a smile to the lips and warmth in the heart and you will be transported to a world of nostalgia. If you correlate some of your successes with the influence these people have had on your life, you would be amazed at the volume of positive inputs they have given you. These inputs could be as varied as having full faith in you, encouraging you,  guiding in you, comforting you, giving you tips, empathizing with you, allowing you the freedom to pursue your passion, supporting you when you falter etc.

Here are a set of people who would be ideal people to associate with and benefit from.

Those close to you.  Beginning with parents and siblings, the list includes friends, colleagues, teachers and seniors. Of course it is possible that some of those close to you would find it hard to empathize with your thoughts and views but it is in your interest to give their counter point of view a hearing. The best part of their support is their response is always keeping your best interest in mind.

Those who have a natural flair to be cheerful and positive. Some of these people could be from the above list but it is equally possible that you do meet others who radiate positive energy. It could be trainers, motivational speakers, superiors from other departments, neighbors etc.

Those who you find knowledgeable, fair, impartial and open. These could include people in positions of authority like the principal of an institution or a senior academician, senior executives in your organization, experienced professionals, a friend’s parents etc.

Those who are good listeners.  Anyone who is willing to lend you an ear, pay attention to you and express interest in your thoughts, views, hopes and aspirations. They may counter question, raise objections, have a different point of view but as long as they pay a lot of attention to you, you can be sure their patience and genuine interest will accelerate your progress.

Those who display appreciation, give proactive encouragement and offer creative solutions. You often meet people from varied backgrounds, experiences and views at seminars, conferences, meetings etc. It is possible that they have some insights that are congruent to your line of thinking. If they display interest in your views, ask relevant questions and give encouraging feedback you can be sure you can profitably tap into their vast repository of knowledge, experience and wisdom.

Action Points:

  1. Make a list of 5 people at least 2 of whom are senior citizens and one of whom is younger than you who you believe would be excellent people to associate with and who would appreciate, understand and encourage you.
  2. Can you list out 3 of the best advice that you ever received. How did advice have a major bearing in your life?
  3. Who was the one person who offered you the best solace when you were very low or depressed? How and what did the person do or say to reassure you?

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Charity begins at home, and usually stays there. Elbert Hubbard

Strictly speaking we must ensure that what we preach is practiced first in our own immediate set up be it our house, society, workplace or social circle. In this context it is obvious that we must make a start by identifying those areas which need out immediate attention and plan out a course of action to bring about the changes that we envisage and implement those plans. Unfortunately we are often tempted to make suggestions and forcefully impose our ideas, plans and beliefs on others where as when we attempt it in own backyards we end up facing stiff opposition.

Let us assume that we passionately believe that we need to go green and so we participate in go green rallies, marches and similar events creating awareness and hopefully getting converts to our cause. However most times when we attempt to implement the same in our immediate family and social circle we meet with stiff resistance for the then the reality is quite different. It would mean things like carry a cloth bag, not getting any plastic bags for any purchases, using products made of natural fiber which have a very short life as compared to a plastic alternative etc.

On the rare times that we are able to get going on a plan that we believe is best for all we attempt it with great gusto. If all are taken into confidence and the plans executed meticulously the immediate success will spur and motivate all those involved and perhaps also influence the onlookers too. While we will be elated by our success it is possible that fatigue sets in and then we lose our zeal and enthusiasm and so we make a pedestrian effort at translating our good intent into concrete action in a larger sphere. The bane of many a good welfare project is that once we taste success at home we are quite content to sit on the laurels and reap the harvest rather than go and sow the seeds of the same all over.

Consider a situation where we are part of a group that is seriously concerned about the quality of water being received and the acute shortage of potable water. We will align with liked minded forces to pursue our common interests. Assume that by a quirk of fate you have been given access to all that you sought and so logically one must support the cause of the rest who are still battling the system. The normal tendency is to rationalize that since your demands are met, it is pointless wasting time, money and energy on supporting the rest. It is this kind of myopic viewpoint that is at the root of labored progress and lopsided growth.

While charity must begin at home, that is not where it must rest; help yourself too but we are duty bound and morally obliged to extend charity well beyond the confines of our own limited homes!

Remember: “Charity sees the need, not the cause”  German Proverb

Ty this:

  1. Identify 2-4 causes very dear to you. How will you first implement it in your own house? Make a plan to ensure that you can later replicate it in your immediate neighborhood.
  2. Make a list of 4-6 personal traits that are often criticized by your family and friends eg. Using foul language when excited/  Making your feeling of disgust apparent when you meet people whom you dislike etc. Can you make a conscious effort to tone down these traits at home? Will you also make the realization and be on better behavior when in public?

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God doesn’t make orange juice, God makes oranges. Jesse Jackson

One of our human failings is our penchant to pass on our responsibilities to others be it a sibling, a neighbor, a co-worker, a friend or as we do in most case pass on our work to God. Most times when in trouble we exclaim loudly Oh God! fervently praying and imploring God to intervene and set things right. Without exception almost all of us have indulged in this before, during and after our exams. Seeking divine interventions is perfectly acceptable but we doing our part and making all efforts is a prerequisite too.

Man of us have strong belief in the almighty but  we have an irrational belief that in a worst case scenario God will take care of our troubles if we earnestly implore him even if we have taken little or no efforts to mitigate the problem. It is important for us to realize that we are given the gift of life and with it so many talents and abilities which we are expected to utilize fully. Unfortunately what makes us human is our inherent abhorrence for hard work, our tendency to find short cuts and worst of all our tendency to cut corners and skate on thin ice just in order to make a farcical appearance of going through the motions.

Ironically it is man being blessed with intelligence that has made the human race more lazy, less patient and completely dependent on extraneous factors be it technology or human intervention to simplify his life. With every labor saving device we have made our life machine controlled, with the growing economic divide we have made a human class separation and with our unabashed  greed we have made life a rat race. Our life therefore is centered around results by fair or foul means, amassing wealth by legal or illegal means and subsisting with minimum effort and maximum relaxation. Obviously life then becomes challenging only for the have not’s and those who are fortunate to be educated, economically well off and street smart life is a breeze. Yet many a time money cannot solve all problems and that is when we are prepared to even bargain with the almighty and make promises of sharing our earthly wealth in return for divine blessings in earthly form be it winning a lottery or curing one from a debilitating disease.

For the human race it is important to realize that we are responsible for our actions and our inactions. We can only reasonably expect to relish the fruits of our efforts, toil and diligence. However we are also fortunate to be showered by the blessings of the almighty especially when he gives us an unexpected bounty, ignores our frequent ungratefulness and waywardness and never ever lets us down for even when we feel he hasn’t answered our prayers he has kept us in the palm of his hands and cupped us in protecting us from bigger pain and suffering.

Remember: If the only prayer you ever say in your whole life is ‘thank you’, that would suffice. Meister Eckhart

Try this:

  1. Make a list of very special blessing you received even when you did not deserve it. Did you express your thanks to God for it?
  2. How do you respond when someone asks you for help? Assume that you see a stalled car and the driver is an elderly gentleman. Will you stop to help the old man? How will you help out?

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