Tag: Ignorance

Take time out to do nothing

13-18-Take time to do nothing

Do nothing is often equated with wasting time and consequentially being labeled a lazy, good for nothing, wastrel. Yet today’s post exhorts the reader to make a conscious effort to do nothing and reap rich dividends in ways least thought of or expected. The objective of doing nothing is equivalent to sleeping after a hard day’s work; to be rejuvenated, relaxed and refreshed. The difference is that doing nothing must not be a daily ritual like sleeping but a self motivated break availed of perhaps a couple of times a year. While one can afford the luxury of doing nothing whilst on a holiday it is essential that our mind is calm, the locale is idyllic and there is no pressure of any sort.

Skeptics must already be wondering if this is some sort of crude joke on unsuspecting victims for our culture, our upbringing and societal norms do not allow for the luxury of doing nothing. However if you were to see yourself as a sponge that has soaked itself fully with all the knowledge, the experiences and the pressures of daily life, it is apparent that you need to let out the intake and become dry. Weekends and holidays are designed to allow you the luxury of drying out systematically. Doing nothing however is not in the mould of being squeezed or spin dried but is the equivalent of hanging in the sun to luxuriate and take in the sunlight whilst drying at one’s own pace. Take a look at the forced dried clothes (often crumbled) or barely dried clothes during the monsoons ( still a wee bit moist and smelly)to know the difference.

So how does doing nothing benefit us?

  • It has a calming effect since it is self induced and a conscious choice made to allow the mind to idle ( like a car engine) without any movement or activity.
  • It gives one a myriad of possibilities none of them of serious enough to be fretted over but sufficient to trigger possibilities for the future (ever tried making objects with Lego pieces)
  • Doing nothing will let you avoid the guilt of feeling that you are wasting your time and yet it will give a balance and anchor to your otherwise tempest life. ( if you accept the reality  that following traffic signals regulate your travel experience better, then waiting for a signal change will never stress you)
  • In doing nothing you allow your subconscious to freely roam around and they will form patterns that you never knew existed. Suddenly you see that your life has a new meaning and fresh perspective and suddenly you realize your own worth and importance in the schema called life.

Try this:

Take a blank sheet of paper and randomly sprinkle some drops of paint or ink. Now visualize a work of art / pencil sketch in which all those dots will be connected. Using a pencil or pen outline your sketch.

Those who would like to explore the concept further are welcome to attend a Vipassana Course.

Read this very interesting article by Mr. Arthur GordonTurn of the tide. The article originally appeared in Reader’s Digest and is being shared in 3 parts. Click the following links to read each of the three parts

Part – I – http://tinyurl.com/q62hpo4

Part – II – http://tinyurl.com/ps7t6tc

Part – III – http://tinyurl.com/puo3pn6

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They may not follow but…

13-16-They may not follow

This pearl of wisdom is first meant for parents, especially those parents who have already chalked out the course their children should traverse.  It would also boost the confidence of youngsters who are yearning to follow their dreams/ passions which are far removed from those expectations others have from them.

It is essential to acknowledge that each person is an individual who would have his/ her parents DNA but thereafter grows up to be an independent thinker and would have to walk a self chalked out path all on his/her own. Most parents believe that having their DNA gives them a right to mould and control a child to meet their pre determined standards and fulfill their ideal desires. Other well meaning friends, family members and elders would also similarly express themselves in an overbearing manner with good intent but with precious little appreciation for the individuality of those they are addressing.

Elders in general, including teachers, grandparents, uncles and aunts and parents in particular usurp the right to profusely spiel out advice believing that their age and experience give them an upper hand in dealing with the challenges of life. While their age and experience do have immense value, what they fail to appreciate in others is that the others particularly the youngsters have matured a lot faster, are exposed to a more compact world where information flows easily and they also believe they have the right to be heard loud and clear. This clash of values, expectations, hopes and ambitions is a major cause of discord within families particularly parents and children.

Here are 3 suggestions for elders and 3 for youngsters reading this, to ensure that they appreciate this post better

Elders

  1. Just guide them don’t goad them
  2. Respect the individuality of others no matter what they age or gender
  3. Acknowledge the efforts and if you find merit encourage them

Youngsters

  1. Respect everyone and then earn the respect of others – disagree without being disagreeable
  2. Share your ideas/ thoughts with elders who would be more open to your sharing
  3. Be committed to your goals. This means writing it down and working towards achieving it.

Try this:

Visit www.johngoddard.info and find the various goals that he set for himself and how he achieved most of it. What if his elders dissuaded him? What if he did not commit himself to it?

Elders think of your parents expectations from you and your siblings. How far did they fulfill it. Now examine the growth of the 3 best students ( your classmates) in school/ college and the three so called failures in school/ college. How have they fared? Did they do something extraordinary or did some of them fail your expectations?

Youngsters don’t just have plans. Write down your plans and put it down as SMART goals. If you do not know what are smart goals, you first task is to take the effort to find out what it is. Next learn to challenge yourself. To do this write down the following first

–       The animal / creature/ reptile that is found in your vicinity that you fear the most

–       The activity  or task that you fear /dislike the most

–       The situation or occasions that you dislike immensely

–       The food or cuisine that you simply don’t want to eat

–       The one addiction or habit that you cannot do away with

You have to confront either all or at least 2 of the above till you reduce your aversion / kick the habit by at least 50% Self discipline is the key and overcoming your fears is the learning that is crucial for you to chart your won course.

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Knowledge and Ignorance

Painting is easy when you don’t know how, but very difficult when you do. Edgar Degas

Look at the handiwork of children when they are given crayons and a drawing book. They will gleefully paint the most audacious colors for the objects in the pictures and the parents will praise their efforts as a masterpiece.. The effort of the child is simple in form, often shabby in appearance and lavishly praised. All concerned are happy simply because we give due allowance for the child’s age and understanding. As we grow up we suddenly realize that painting is an art form of a very high order requiring expertise, flair and a sound knowledge. The effect of style, medium, light and shades can elevate the art form to a near mystique status. All of a sudden the whole business of art takes on a new dimension and the nuances of the same suddenly come to haunt us.

The same is so true of life too. We go through life, just making demands of our elders particularly parents and grandparents. We cringe when they have expectations from us on the academic front. Soon when we get to competitive exams we realize that the world is a much bigger place, the contestants formidable and the challenge intense. This realization brings on a sense of urgency and propels us into taking proactive measures to ensure that we have a realistic chance to finish the rat race. Knowledge makes us painfully aware of our own limitations, the width of the canvas suddenly looks ominous and the masterpiece in our mind now looks well neigh impossible to capture on canvas.

When in love we only see the romantic moon but shortly after marriage when the mirage of honeymooning is over, we see stars twinkling in the distance but the moon seems to have disappeared behind a cloud. Falling in love is easy for the commitment is limited, the challenges ahead distant and the rational mind is clouded by love. Marriage changes this status and we get enlightened about the real world, the real challenges and the real cost of love. Life then is a reality to be lived, a spouse becomes a human being with independent thoughts and behavior and we find ourselves adrift together with the challenge to swim or sink together. Deciding on the direction of the shore itself becomes a bone of contention and rowing in sync looks more difficult with each passing day; we wistfully wonder if those carefree days of just being in love will return to us again. This is crunch time when we need to put our learning to the test, dunk our egos, find common ground for progress and relish the togetherness now and for eternity.  Within your HeART lies the ART of painting a colorful life of togetherness.

Remember: Ignorance is bliss; till knowledge knocks open your senses to reality.

Try these:

  1. Go around asking people for a feedback about yourself. Encourage them to give you negative feedback too. It will be a challenging process, for you may not agree with the negative feedback and may be tempted to make an enemy of those who gave you such feedback Resist all such temptation but make sure you reflect on the feedback and try to improve your areas of weakness.
  2. List out your strengths. Compare this list with the feedback list. If there are contradictions pay close attention to them and try to reconcile your actions and behavior to ensure the feedback is not wasted. Ask yourself if you have fully utilized your strengths. Find ways and means of using your strengths more often.

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