Ever thought of maintaining a happiness jar? Perhaps this year you should focus on just maintaining a happiness jar. If you have already made your list of New Year resolutions, just make this the first one on the list. If you haven’t don’t worry; just make this the only resolution for yourself. Just see the positives that you have been blessed with week after week and you would be surprised to note how blessed you have been round the year. To make it more exciting, perhaps you could also add for yourself one or more of the following in each week’s list
- A time when I made someone else happy.
- A situation where I acted assertively.
- A risk that I took that was worth it.
- A time I said No and am happy about that decision.
- A situation in which I failed, but learnt an important lesson.
- A risk I took of trusting someone and he/ she turned out to be worthy of my trust.
- You could also perhaps drop in a few coins or notes that could add to the contents of the jar and make it even more appealing when you open it.
- As and when you get a bright idea jot it down and also drop it into the happiness jar.
- Perhaps you could cut out a cartoon from the local newspaper or a quote you found interesting and drop that too into your happiness jar.
- Source a jar and some colored paper to get going. Ideally have a slit on the lid of the jar and ensure you tape the lid so that you are not tempted to open it off and on.
- You should make an effort to send a letter of appreciation or thanks to an old classmate/ teacher/ colleague during the course of the year and surprise them.
- Think of 2- 3 changes that you can make to your home/ your wardrobe / your personal style / your habits so feel a difference and enjoy the change.
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Real unselfishness consists in sharing the interests of others. George Santayana
In our daily interactions we are bound to meet a large cross section of people some of whom we forge friendships and with others we maintain a purely professional relationship. What is common to both types of interactions is that there is some common ground for dialogue, discussion and decision making. When the area of common ground expands professional associations migrate into friendships and we forge stronger bonds and ties. The undercurrent that is flowing all the while is in the interchange of ideas, thoughts and interests that the interested parties have in common. If there is no commonality of interest the possibility of that relationship sustaining is very minimal.
The big trouble of communication in any relationship is that we cannot always find common ground that interests all parties. There is always at least one topic which one party loves and the other party finds it hard to appreciate. If a person is passionate about something he/ she will always be gung-ho about it and would love to find an ardent listener, alas if we do not like the topic we would make all attempts to indicate so. The reason for this is that we are selfish by nature and find it painful to put up with what does not interest us. If we are prepared to see things from the other person’s point of view and be patient we would make the profound discovery that we can forge wonderful relationships.
Do we fake interest in others interests? Good salesmen are quite adept at doing this, for they have with experience learned to initially fake attention, pretend to show interest and try to pry into the passions of the buyer. They are well aware that if one can pander to the interest of the buyer, it won’t be long before they can get the potential buyer to be interested in what they have to sell. Notice that the salesman has a long term motive that drives him/her to start off by faking interest but then quickly reorient their mindset to actually participate in the potential buyer’s interest. Each one of us must make this effort when we are clear that we have to be interested in the other party. Mark McCormack in his bestselling book What they don’t teach you at Harvard Business School gives an example of how he paid attention to the secretary in the office of a potential sponsor, who was cutting stamps from the inward mail envelopes, for the bosses son who was an avid stamp collector. The next time Mark visited the sponsoror, he carried with him a huge collection of stamps for the potential sponsor’s son. This little gesture of paying attention to an innocuous activity paid rich dividends for Mark who bagged the huge sponsorship deal.
One can really benefit by paying attention and taking interest in others because, we establish common ground, draw people to ourselves and forge new alliances. In the long run, it is to these relationships that we can safely turn to and leverage whenever we need to. This is because we have unselfishly made the effort to draw people to ourselves and by taking in interest in them we have reinforced the bonds of friendship. In being unselfish we have not laid any conditions nor kept any expectations and so the relationship is spontaneous, genuine and endearing.
Remember: “A person with a hundred interests is twice as alive as one with only fifty and four times as alive as the man who has only twenty-five” Norman Vincent Peale
- Try to learn a new sport/ card game./ card trick/ skill. How easy was it to pick up the new activity? What contributed to the speed of picking up? Did you get frustrated initially and how did you motivate yourself when frustrated?
- Identify 3 boring people who you prefer to avoid. Analyze why you find them a bore? Make an attempt to meet one of these persons and spend at least an hour with this person. Have you made any new observations about the person? Identify 3 strengths of the person that you never knew.
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The very first step towards success in any occupation is to become interested in it. Sir William Osler
We are curious by nature, but very often our curiosity is peripheral and we are unable to sustain our interest. This means that while we know a little about many things, we do not know much about any particular thing. In this day of competitions and specialization, to have an edge and be successful, one needs to leverage ones competitive advantage in the market place. This means that we need to have a deep and specialized knowledge, which can be gained only if we take an active and passionate interest in it.
It was Dale Carnegie who made an interesting observation when he said ‘If you take interest in people, people will take interest in you’. The importance of taking interest is equally true about everything in life. It is when you take interest in studies that one prepares better for exams, if music is your passion, it is logical that you have deep and abiding interest in it and if you are a food lover it naturally follows that you know the best eating joints in town or have access to the recipes of some exotic dishes, simply because you take interest and collate that information. Extend the logic a little further and you will notice that almost all successful professionals are passionate about their profession mainly because they have taken an extraordinary interest in the same. The same holds true for all successful people; be they in business, the performing arts, those with a scientific bent of mind or even those doing a mundane job extraordinarily well like the pizza delivery boy or the waiter in the restaurant.
It is not as simple as it looks to identify and get interested in something that in the long run gives you excellent results and brings success to you. This is because, many things interest us but when we get into the nitty gritty of each, we soon discover that there are certain unavoidable activities associated with it that challenge us, are repetitive and boring and tax us mentally and physically. Often we are lured by interest in passive activities like listening to music, watching TV and partying around, but to make a success of it means that we have to be active and leverage our interest with some learning, hard work and risk taking.
Remember: The whole secret of life is to be interested in one thing profoundly and in a thousand things well.”- Horace Walpole
- If you are a student ask which subject in your current course interests you the most? If you are a professional or a homemaker ask a similar question about what interests you the most in your current role. Next ask if you are taking any special efforts to leverage your interest and gaining more proficiency or adding value to your area of interest. Eg As a home maker, your interest is in the studies of your children. Are you reading up on new techniques that will facilitate better learning? Do you know if there are resource people around who can help your children with some of their weaker subjects? Do you think you can have a data bank of such similar inputs related to students and studies that you can leverage and make into a profession as an educational consultant or offer education relate services?
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