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25-14 JuI 17-I am me1At times we try to analyze ourselves and realize that while we have much to cheer about, we also have much more to rue.  We do not like our limitations, our burdens and resent our shortcomings that are accentuated when compared to others. Rarely do we enjoy our own company or luxuriate in the knowledge that each individual is a very unique person; so very different from his/ her own peers, friends and even siblings.

It is MY individuality that I need to appreciate, embrace and celebrate.

Appreciate my individuality It is reflected in diverse aspects of my personality

My physical dimension

My mental make up

My emotional

My value system

Embrace my individualityIt is acceptance of who I am

Learn to love my whole being

Learn to make peace with my short comings

Learn to utilize my life

Learn to value my dignity and self respect

Celebrate my individuality The art of cheering for myself

I will stand up for my rights

I am ready to defend my point of view

If different I shall be different; no apologies for who I am.

I will smile often, laugh heartily, live it up passionately.

Try these

Today I will write down the following:

5 things that I am proud of

5 aspects of my life that I will try and improve

5 people who I am most blessed to have in my life

5 embarrassing moments of my life

5 dreams that I have yet to achieve

2 most glorious moments of my life

2 most painful moments of my life

My favorite color/ animal / book/ movie

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24- 8 Jul 17- Create your own rainbowWith the monsoons already arriving, most days seem like Monday’s; dull, gloomy and too tempting to laze around in bed. Yet, it is time to get up and get going and the process is just a tad too boring and uninspiring. Just as the wonders of the rainbow appear in the monsoon, await the rainbow each day and there would perhaps also be a pot of gold at the end of it to lure you to energetically look forward to each day.

Look for things that brighten the day – it could be the chirping of the birds, the sunlight that is streaming in, the laughter of children playing, the pealing of the temple and/or church bells. The key is to look for things that make you happy, contented and peaceful. It is a proactive responsibility that you must take on in order to change your own world.

See the variety of positives that you are blessed with – Make a conscious effort to over look  the hurt, the pain, the sadness of the past and instead focus on the blessings you have been bestowed. Good health tops the list, financial security, a loving world of family and friends, the comfort of a blessed home perhaps and a secure job too maybe.

Smile, forgive, listen, appreciate, thank – This is such an easy formula to memorize; a tough one to put in practice but the easiest to embrace once you have consciously adopted it. Each of it helps you exhale the toxic within and inhale the pure clean emotions.

Embrace love, laughter, hope and faith – Just as a good diet and exercise is a choice you make, add a heap full of love, a ton of laughter, perennial hope and unwavering faith to your daily mantra. You will find yourself empowered, optimistic and energetic to make your presence felt in the world and to make a positive difference around you.

Spend time with family, nature, self – Since we are social animals, we need to connect with other,  the world around and with ourselves. Spend time with family and friends. Spread good cheer and goodwill amongst them. They would seek to spend more time with you. Nature helps us embrace the spectrum of life; the flora and fauna, the sheer variety of wildlife and the beauty of the hills and valleys, the rivers and the seas, the changing seasons. Spend time thinking, reflecting and connecting to inner self. Never forget you are world yourself; filled with emotions, thoughts, feelings and passion.

Find silence despite the noise, find order despite the chaos and discover peace within despite the turbulence around –  Life is full of noise, chaos and turbulence. In our journey through life, we must be able to filter out and choose everything that would make our journey more pleasant, comfortable and enjoyable. Learn to enjoy silence; then you will master the art of finding it despite the noise around. Like getting through a maze, look hard at the chaos around; anger, frustration, hurt are some  feelings that you need to get past before you get out of the maze and reach peace, tranquility and bliss.

Look back with fondness, look forward with hope and be awake in the present Every day there must be something pleasant to reminiscence about, a goal set to give meaning and purpose to each day and one must make each moment count by being mentally and physically alert and active.

Notice how you have created a beautiful rainbow for yourself. The success, satisfaction, happiness, contentment and the peace that you get is the pot full of gold at the end of your rainbow.

Try these

  • List out 3- 5 colors that you like.  Look around you and for each color you chose, write down at least 2 objects having that color. Did you notice the color of those objects earlier. Do you notice the rainbow of colors around you?
  • Sit with your eyes closed for 5 minutes. Identify the various noises around you. Also imagine the aroma of your favorite food. Can you feel the rainbow of myriad sounds and aroma that you normally take for granted.

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9-28-feb-17-who-is-the-hero-of-your-storyThe beauty of life is in its variety, its surprises, its plot twists, its challenges and opportunities but most of all life’s wonder lies in its uniqueness for each one of us. The divergence that seems to pervade each one’s life is also the one that flavors each one’s life to make it special and unique. It poses us a challenge; make it your own story; script it the way you want it and always bear in mind you are the hero/ heroine of that blockbuster. The challenge is best met by being aware of the following:

Embrace life warmly – No one is perfect. No one has everything one wants. All the riches cannot buy happiness. Life is a blessing gifted to you. Embrace it warmly for no one else can live your life. Stop cribbing; seek opportunities; let failures not limit your movement forward and learn to appreciate your blessings.

Be the change – If you want to enhance the quality of your life don’t wait for luck or fate to make it happen. You will have to tempt fate by changing yourself and attempting to tread the path of your dreams. You may be discouraged at times, you may have to retrace your steps occasionally, sometimes you are on a roller coaster ride but land with a thud; get back on the ride.  Let nothing stop you from progressing.

Do something – Sometimes life sucks as the young people like to say. It happens to the best of us. The mantra is when ‘when life sucks don’t get stuck’ ; do something to keep the momentum going so that your heaving yourself out of the pit that you landed in. Be creative, be bold, be different, think out of the box, act upon your instincts and inspirations; don’t just give in- do something.

Live,laugh,leap – A lot of people merely exist; they don’t live. Do not let life sap your energy. Instead find a way to make your life the solar panel from which draw on from, when there is darkness setting in. Laughter is the oil of life that lubricates the tough times that befall us. After all a smile is curve that sets everything straight. Don’t just let life meander along but take a giant leap to discover how far you can jump or test how high you can rise. The view would be different too. The fun is a huge bonus.

Stop,pause,breathe – Do not become part of the rat race. You have to race only against yourself. The race is measured not in terms of distance traversed as much as experiences embraced, number of times you have got after stumbling or falling, discovering latent potential that you possessed and surprising yourself daily. Enjoy the process, the progress and the possibilities that you discover. Stop to stand and stare, pause to catch your breath and breathe deep and recharge yourself with the elixir called life.

Try these:

  1. Read the following inspiring story that largely embraces all that is suggested above https://chairbornewarrior.wordpress.com/2011/06/12/anils-inspirational-note-airborne-to-chairborne/
  2. List out the following
  • Your dream for the future
  • Your passion
  • Your role model
  • Your favorite proverb

Is there anything that binds all the above? What is stopping you from following your passion? How can you imitate your role model ( assuming that your focus will be on the role model’s qualities that are worth emulating) . Are you adopting the proverb in your daily life and making it work for you?

Are you scripting your story with YOU as the hero/ heroine?

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Happiness is that state of mind where negativity is banished, optimism exudes and one easily finds a reason no matter what, to remain cheerful. A simple test to the relative happiness quotient is truthfully answering the question ‘Do I suffer from Monday morning blues?’  If you can be as cheerful on a Monday morning as you are on a weekend, be sure you are blessed with abundant happiness.

However the vast majority reading this would say ‘I ain’t so lucky; so what is the secret to being happy?’  So here goes…

See the positives   No matter what the situation, there is a positive and a negative side to it. Focus on the positives. Unfortunately most of us are inclined to see the negatives partly due to force of habit, sometimes due to our jealous nature and occasionally because we limit our imagination. E.g. A student getting 99/100 can either enjoy his/ her success or can keep brooding over how/where/why that 1 mark was lost. There are positives even in extreme situations like failure/ death/ illness etc. but we have to imaginatively identify those positives and then happiness won’t be far behind.

Manage your thoughts Some of us are extremely imaginative in seeing the worst case scenario.  These people can spot a problem in every opportunity; they can rattle of a dozen reasons why something positive can’t happen and they can use their vivid imagination to make a mountain out of a molehill. E.g. You suddenly discover that your mobile phone is missing. Even as you frantically search, your mind has conjured up visions of never finding it, the possibility that someone has robbed it, the probability that anyone who finds it will not return it and quite often extreme frustration at ones on carelessness. Assuming that you find that mobile, instead of being really happy, a new set of questions would pop up. How did it fall of? Did it fall off or did someone try to pinch it unsuccessfully? If I didn’t find it all my contacts would have been lost; I would have to buy a new phone if I didn’t find it etc would be added thoughts that would puncture the happiness of having located the missing mobile phone.

Invest in relationships A good incubator of happiness is the society around you, the people you interact with and you being accessible, social and helpful. Relationships offer support, comfort and motivation essential ingredients to foster a happy environment. E.g. when there is a tragedy in the form of illness or death or failure happiness is hard to come by. Yet with the outpouring of concern, care and consolation, happiness is ignited much faster even if the grief takes a while to be overcome.

Live don’t merely exist Don’t just be creatures of habits. The vast majority of salaried employees follow the dictum 2 punches (attendance) and one lunch. Quiz these people on how life is and invariably the reply will be tinged with boredom, frustration, exasperation, irritation and indifference. Those who do not value their lives and make it count would always find life too tough, very hard to bear and extremely boring. The trick is making life interesting by being more open to ideas, attempting the challenging, taking calculated risks and doing things differently. E.g. Give in to your inner craving and just do it. My blog is an outcome of such a whim and if you have read so far it is proof that I haven’t wasted my time. My happiness is in having so many of you engrossed and engaged in my writing.  So when are you going to find the happiness in your passion?

Enjoy the moment The London Olympics 2012 are just a few months away. Some athletes and sportsmen have made the cut. Others have fallen by the way. The more unlucky ones have been waylaid by injury. Yet even the ones who do not make it to the Olympics will still actively engage in their sport for they have learnt to enjoy every moment of their lives. E.g. Even as I am writing this I am acutely aware that I haven’t written for over 2 weeks. This long hiatus has also dulled my enthusiasm, dried up my creative juices and has made writing this post a tad more tough. Yet, I am reveling in the reality that I have not lost my touch and I have put behind all the difficulties that impeded my regular output. Hopefully the happiness at being able to indulge in my passion is evident in this post.

Action Points:

  1. Can you find something unique in the way the title/ heading  of each paragraph was developed? The big secret to happiness is hidden in the way the paragraph headings were developed.
  2. List out 3 situations where you would be most happy. Have you experienced any of these situations?
  3. Name an object, thing, place, animal and person that immediately conjures up a happy image for you. Why do you think the said name evokes such happiness for you?
  4. Write in to actspot@gmail.com and share with us the joke / anecdote that thrills you to bits. If there are sufficient responses I could compile the best ones and share it with the readers through this blog and you can take pride in the fact that you did your bit to spread happiness too.

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The therapeutic value of laughter is perhaps the most undervalued commodity in the world. This is because laughter has no price and yet it is ‘priceless’. In fact we do not value this invaluable resource for we take it for granted just like the wonders that are given free by nature; sunshine, air and water. What is unique about a good laugh is that it is very personal, positively contagious (except when one is laughing mockingly) and it is the ‘all in one’ antidote for physical, mental, personal and professional problems.

Despite these obvious merits, the world at large seems to be more inclined to ignore the myriad effects of a good laugh. They prefer to wallow in a self deceptive cauldron of negative stew made up of negative emotions like anger, hurt, frustration, revenge and the like. This is because it is easier to lapse into a negative mind set and feel like a martyr by saying ‘poor me’ than to scan the horizon and find a reason to laugh when troubles seem to engulf us. Notice that the former behaviour is succumbing to the situation where as the latter involves grappling with an uncomfortable situation.

How and where does find a positive mindset and the ability to laugh no matter what the circumstance?

Look within – change your attitude. Inculcate a positive mindset. Be an optimist.

Scan around – seek out the hidden gems within a problem; be sure there are alternatives just waiting for be discovered.  Share a problem. Ask for help.

Focus away – take a break from the problem. Do something you enjoy; be it a TV serial, a movie, read a book, paint, sing or dance. Ensure that the activity is pleasurable.

Break free – from your self-imposed inhibitions. Stop being superstitious. Don’t be a conformist. Tread a new path. Believe in yourself.

Now you have created an environment and mindset that nurtures happiness. A good laugh is what blooms and the fragrance is enjoyed by not just the person who laughs but by all who laugh along.

Try this:

  1. Read the post on SMILE  – See My Instant Life Energizer by clicking on the link. http://www.poweract.blogspot.in/2010/01/smile.html
  2. Create a scrap book containing some of your favorite jokes, limericks, cartoons, list of humorous books, movies, serials etc. Also jot down some silly things that you did, the bloopers that embarrassed you, incidents that trigger a lusty laugh when you recount them.

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You grow up the day you have your first real laugh at yourself.  Ethel Barrymore

One of the toughest tests of life is ironically handling a test set by ourselves; our ability to laugh at ourselves. All of us enjoy the spectacle of a person being ribbed or the making a fool of himself/ herself or someone unwittingly becoming the butt of jokes but if we are that person at the receiving end, do we have it in us to take the joke with a smile and a foolish grin at best. Nothing embarrasses us as much as slipping on a banana peel; the awkwardness hurts, the physical pain hurts and the unwitting tittering of onlooker’s sears us the most. Usually we get up dust ourselves and avoid any form of any eye contact and sulk away. However if we take umbrage, then most times when we are embarrassed we attempt to  stifle our anger but let our resentment at our tormentors remain unabated and we seek recourse in loud reprimands, retorts or taunts. However we usually fail in our attempts to redeem the situation and instead get sucked in the quick sand of spats.

On the other hand with experience and wisdom of hind sight, when we temper ourselves to see the funny side of our own vulnerability, we join in the hearty laughter and bohemia even if we are at the receiving end of the joke. The ability to laugh at ourselves is not something that we are inborn with but something one cultivates. Human beings have a natural ego, which is what gets triggered if we see ourselves as the butt of the jokes. Obviously it also triggers other emotions like anger, resentment, frustration etc. and the cumulative effect of all these is our propensity to run amuck against our tormentors. This is a futile exercise partly because we are very often outnumbered but mainly because we have lost control of ourselves and whatever our reactions the reality remains unchanged. When we have experienced this painful reality, it dawns on us that since we can’t fight them we might as well join them. Once we reconcile to this reality, we enjoy the joke as much as the others and often the matter is settled in laughter and gaiety.

When we are able to laugh at ourselves we grow up simply because we allow others the luxury of a hearty laugh by taking a dig at our own imperfections. In that moment we also hone our funny bone, learn to tickle ourselves and allow others to get tickled because of us. We grow more when we reconcile to the fact that our imperfections may be a laughing matter for others and in our magnanimity allow them that luxury. We really peak when we are able to control our irritation, annoyance and negative feelings and channelize the energies towards ourselves in a positive way.  Finally, in being able to laugh at ourselves, we reach the pinnacle of self growth when we have a large set of people lapping up our dose of humor most of it self depreciating but in reality holding a mirror to our audience without them realizing it.

Remember: A well-developed sense of humor is the pole that adds balance to your steps as you walk the tightrope of life. William Arthur Ward

Try this:

  1. Visit a fair where there is a stall that has the mirrors that distort your image. Have loads of fun seeing yourself in the most unusual and ungainly manner. Some of those images may remain etched in your memory simply because you can’t imagine yourself in that distorted image.
  2. Enthusiastically participate in a fancy fete/ outlandish carnival dress competition/ a theme party/ dress up for a Halloween party. Alternatively experiment with clothes you have never ever tried and wear it to a party or gathering ( ensure the clothes are appropriate to the occasion although the style may be something u have never tried on before.)

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Laugh, and the world laughs with you; weep and you weep alone. Ella Wheeler Wilcox

Have you ever noticed that some people seem to be very popular whilst there are some others who seem to be whiners and losers? Observe both sets of people closely and you will make out the simple difference that sets both types of people apart. The former are always self assured, confident and gregarious while the later are forever complaining, perennially highlighting their problems and constantly seeking sympathy. Obviously people are drawn towards those who spread good cheer. Most people will give a wide berth to those who are weepy, bitter and dissatisfied with life for they would only be spreading negative vibes all the time.

If you have been to a circus you would have your eyes peeled on the circus clowns who seem to bumble their way through their act and keep the audience in splits. They get the maximum applause, have long stints in the act and they easily fit into any act. They actually act as the glue that puts the entire 3 hour act together. Go to a shopping mall and you will find a number of cartoon characters entertaining the visitors to the mall. Notice that they are constantly moving around and interacting with the people for their strength lies in ensuring that the crowd is drawn to them. Look at a more somber scene; a funeral. Here every one has a long face, there are a few who are weeping bitterly and everyone just wants the ceremony to be over and done with. Something similar is again enacted in a hospital most times. These two contrasting scenes draw attention to the reality that people are drawn to laughs and dislike melancholy immensely.

Of late the latest fad is to forward SMS jokes and humorous email forwards. While an overload of the same can be extremely irritating and annoying, more often than not we read the message before deleting. It would also naturally follow that you laugh loudly or at least chuckle a bit and perhaps you forward it in turn.  Rarely do you ask the sender to take you of the forward list. Unconsciously we are being partial towards anything that can make us smile and laugh. When we contrast this with our relationships with those who are sad and in pain, we do sympathize with them but find it hard to spend a good part of valuable time just being around and trying to assuage their feelings of hurt and pain. The net result is that those who cannot get over their grief, their complaints, their nagging soon find themselves alone, lonely and wallowing in self pity.

Many of us feel that we don’t have the gift of the gab, cannot recount jokes, cannot be the centre of attention and that makes us introverts. The reality is that to laugh and have fun, there is no compulsion that you need to be the initiator of it all. All it requires is the ability to enthusiastically participate, heartily encourage and remain genuinely interested in the proceedings. Of course it helps if we are more demonstrative and articulate too. It would be very useful to read a lot, in particular focus on having a stock of good jokes and practice telling jokes so that it flows easily. Coming up with good repartees and one liners too would boost both your self confidence and your fan following.  However be careful not to sound sarcastic or get too personal when cracking jokes at another’s expense.  Never sit around with a frown on the face or be snappy and ill mannered or you will soon find yourself all alone.

Remember: A smile is a curve that sets everything straight.

Try this:

  1. Prepare a list of your favorite jokes and attempt to say it without telling it by rote.  If you can, memorize a few humorous limericks, one liners and puns and use it whenever possible. Do not be disheartened if you are not appreciated at first. (Avoid vulgar jokes in public, biased or sexist comments or anything that could be offensive to anyone.)
  2. Whenever possible take the initiative; be it to organize some event, preparing games for a party, giving a speech etc.  Notice that leaders are always looked up to and invariably they are a motivating force. This ability to motivate and lead is equivalent to the ability to raise a good laugh for one is never lonely as a leader (unless you misuse your power).

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