Tag: Lessons

Life lessons

Here is your assignement for the year

  1. You will receive a body. Quickly peek at yourself in the mirror. Better still admire your pictures preferably starting with the ones from your childhood, school days , college days, wedding time…. Have you noticed how you have grown? If you need to improve on you physical self, what is stopping you? Learn to love your body and you will take care of it better.
  1. You will learn lessons. Each day brings about new learning. It is a mixed bag; exciting, boring, painful, fun filled. How you learn from the lessons of life will make a qualitative difference to your daily living and your attitude and your circle of influence. Let the bitter lessons make you better and the exciting lessons motivate you.
  1. There are no Mistakes; only lessons.Mistakes are what we label those efforts that are not channelized right. In life no effort goes waste for it is the fount of all learning and so there are no mistakes only lessons from which we learn. If you stub your toe, is it a mistake? If you choose to attempt something dangerous and fail is that a mistake? If you decide to be a silent spectator instead of an active participant is that a mistake?
  1. A lesson is repeated until it is learned.This is the reason we keep repeating our mistakes for the lesson is not fully imbibed by us. If failure is a bitter lesson, success is a lesson in seeing hard work and effort pay off. Along the way there are lessons learnt from frustrations, irritation, patience, annoyance, disappointments and the like.
  1. Learning lessons does not end.Just when you think you have mastered something, you are faced with a new test. It could be handling people, coping with personal and professional challenges, sudden changes in social, professional or personal environment.
  1. ‘There’ is no better than ‘Here’An old adage that states that the ‘grass is greener on the other side’ sums it up all. No matter what we strive for or attain, when we look back each moment of our life has its own significance. While our riches and successes add luster to our life, we often lapse into the recess of our ‘good old days’ too. Don’t we all nostalgically look back to the days gone by?
  1. Others are merely mirrors of you.While your individuality is unique, the reality is that we have much more in common with each other than what we can imagine. Each one of us shares the same emotions and express ourselves in ways much like others. In liking or disliking others we are merely mirroring an image that we consciously or unconsciously have imbibed. The same is true of everyone else. Isn’t it time we made and effort to imbibe the best and thereby reflect the best in us and simultaneously learn to see the good in others?
  1. What you make of your life is up to you.People, circumstances and luck are labels we give to justify our success or failures in life. The truth is that it is up to us to gravitate towards the right people, chance upon the right circumstances and make the best of every opportunity that comes our way. As Longfellow says ‘We are the captain of our ship, the master of our fate’
  1. The answers lie inside you.Far too often we ask the wrong questions and alas we end up with frustrating answers.  We crave for what we do not have, pine for what we do not deserve and can conjure up a million excuses to justify ourselves. Ask yourself ‘what is it that I am seeking’ and presto you will see the way forward, grasp the truth and suddenly your life will light up too.
  1. Whether you think you can or can’t, in either case you will be right.To sum it all up, it is all in your mind. Think right, feel right, live right is the message.

So there is no better time than now to grasp the truth, face the reality and rework on your life and make it a journey of happiness and fulfillment.

Try this:

  • Have a relook at your New Year Resolution and if you don’t have one, get down to writing it down. For reference look up the immediate preceding post.
  • If not in one sentence, at least in 3- 5 sentences can you write down your personal ‘mission’ statement.
  • Out of the above 10 truths, pick the one truth that appeals the most to you and make it your ‘statement of purpose’ for the coming year.

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The past has relevance

The past is a work of art, free of irrelevancies and loose ends. Max Beerbohm

At first glance, the quote seems confusing and illogical, but a careful relook would bring to the fore a wide variety of insights. The best way to understand it is to isolate the three key thoughts and study each of it independently.  When one talks of the past as a work of art, the idea that is reinforced is that of a finished canvas that is on display. Most times it will be filled with colors of various hues, sometimes it would be interplay between shades of the same color and occasionally it would be simply black and white colors that are skillfully used. The images could be sceneries, portraits, freehand drawings, nudes or modern art each of which has it’s own admirers and critics. What is to be noted is that no matter what colors are used or what style is depicted, the canvas is complete and the art lovers have to accept it as it is.  Our past is like that finished canvas; it is on display, it has its own individuality and above all it can’t be changed.

To see the past as free of irrelevancies simply means that the reality of the past cannot be lumped and dumped as irrelevant. Ask any psychologist and they will tell you that the past holds the key to many of our current and future behavior. It is rightly said that history repeats itself for history is nothing but a compilation of the past human behavior and sooner or later the same behavior will repeat itself albeit in a different context or setting. Furthermore one cannot brush aside the past because if we study it, we can see a pattern emerging which will be crucial for us to predict the future and even anticipate the future. Every incident of the past would have been triggered by some event or thought and hence that event and thought becomes very relevant for us to analyze he past. While the past cannot be changed, the relevance of the lessons learned could be extremely useful in planning our future.

Since the past is a reality gone by, there are no loose ends to be tied up. On the contrary the lessons of  the past must be viewed as offering clarity about both the reasons for successes and failures. The past offers a fair measure of objectivity for study and analysis because the reality is well woven into the fabric of life that has been lived. With the passage of time and the wisdom of hindsight, the past offers  a concrete beginning and end that can be traced back from start to finish, with little room for speculation. Speculation is nothing but tying up the loose ends and since the past is over and done with one has only to accept the reality as it appears.

Remember: “What you need to know about the past is that no matter what has happened, it has all worked together to bring you to this very moment. And this is the moment you can choose to make everything new, right now.

Try this:

  1. Jot down 3 major successes and 3 failures from your past. How did the events impact your thought process, your performance thereafter  and your dreams?
  2. Name 3 things of the past that given a chance you would have liked to correct. Now is it possible to apply this learning for your future. Eg. You could say I wish I studied harder in school. Can you make more efforts on your job now instead of brooding over the past?

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