Tag: Logic

Using head and heart

To handle yourself, use your head; to handle others, use your heart.  – Donald Laird

As social animals, we human beings have no choice but to live in society which implies that we need to interact with others, adjust to the demands of societal norms and yet maintain our own identity and independence.  This poses a problem simply because the individuality that we pride on wants to break free of any shackles imposed on us while the social instinct in us forces us to toe the line that is determined by society and culture. It is reconciling this dichotomy that unconsciously poses a big dilemma for most of us.  Our quote today, provides a glimpse of the option available to us to effectively maintain our personal identity while also ensuring we do justice to our social and neighborly role.

To begin with, we need to asses our own approach to our personal values, beliefs and actions. Being pragmatic would perhaps gives us the smoothest passage forward and that is possible when we don’t get overtly emotional and become a tinge more practical thinking out solutions, selecting logical options and making choices that suit our individuality. Eg. When we lose a loved one, grief would be obviously what overcomes us. Yet in that moment of grief too we need to get control of our emotions and if we always believed in organ donation should initiate steps for that. On the other hand if we are more traditional then there is no need to take on the guilt of pandering to the demands of those urging you to donate the organs for it is a very personal and private decision.

On the other hand when we play our role as social animals and discharge our obligations as neighbors, friends, relatives or as another human being, we need to listen to our heart and less to our wisdom which is often based on reasoning, logic and taken without any emotions attached to it. Eg. If we are firm believers in organ donation, we cannot impose our will on others who may not share our sentiments because of their personal reasons. We must respect the sentiments of the parties involved and try to empathize with their emotions rather than quarrel or wrestle with their flawed logic as we would be tempted to think.  Take another scenario which is more prevalent the constant battle between parents who want their children to study and the children who are more keen to focus on their own interests be it games or computers or TV. Most parents use a hackneyed logic of equating studies with success in life which the children view as a bitter pill the parents are trying to push down their throat. On the other hand if the parents encouraged the children to pursue their own interests while setting some discipline to ensure that studies were also regularly  done, it could be a win win situation since the children would perhaps see the parents as allies in their efforts to excel.

Criticism offers perhaps the best opportunity for us to put the above maxim to full use. When we are criticized we should suspend our emotional discomfort and attempt to see if there is any truth in the points raise by our critics. If the criticism is untrue simply ignore it. However if it is true then we need to be grateful that out attention has been drawn to something that impedes our effectiveness and we should work on overcoming those flaws.  On the other hand when we have to be critical of others, then we must consider the emotional ramifications of our feedback on the other party and hence we must not be unduly harsh or hurtful. Instead we must handle their fragile emotions carefully and encourage them to overcome their flaws whilst also drawing attention to their strengths.  This will help them maintain their dignity, reinforce confidence in themselves and at the same time give them the self belief that they can improve with effort and persistence.

Remember: The heart has its reasons of which reason knows nothing. Blaise Pascal

Try this:

  1. Can you recollect the last 5 criticisms that came your way. Do you recollect who told them? Were the criticisms justified? What efforts did you do to learn and improve from those criticisms?
  2. Write down 3 strengths and 1 criticism you have concerning the following people.
  • Your favorite high school teacher
  • Your best friend
  • Your neighbor
  • Your own family members (list them out and write for each person)

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Let your passion guide you

The conclusions of passion are the only reliable ones. Soren Kierkegaard

Unless one feels strongly about an issue, action is not spontaneous and in all probability the effort if any will be lackadaisical.  This in effect is at the heart of today’s post. Pause for a moment and evaluate all the things that you are passionate about; food, movies, books, travel etc. You will definitely ensure that despite your busy schedule there is a slot available to ensure that you can indulge in your passion. While it is true that we can be more effective if we are organized, we can be exceptionally effective if we identify our passions and organize things around our passions for then what has to be done is not a chore but a pleasure.

Most of unfortunately are text bookish in our approach to life, thereby using logic and reasoning as pivots around which we build our future. There is nothing wrong with this approach since we must be practical and realistic in embracing the future as much as in harnessing the present. However the reality is that we would be even better of if we simply let our heart choose the path ahead and then let logic and reasoning take over to ensure that we have control over what we set out to do. Stop and ask yourself if you are really doing what you always wanted to do? Did you choose your career path or did people influence your choice and are you happy you listened to them? If you answer NO to any of the two questions, it definitely means that there could perhaps have been a better alternative if you just listened to your inner passion.

Is it too late to change tracks? That depends on how strongly you feel about your current state of affairs. However, it is never too late to start indulging in your passion and incorporating that if possible in your current work life, personal life and social life. Assume you are an accountant but you would have loved to be a musician. It is possible that you didn’t peruse your passion because when you did a reality check you realized that you were not top draw in your field. So it is a good thing that you chose a good profession of being an accountant. Yet, you can still moonlight with your musical inclinations. Play for a local band, record and upload your music on the net, teach music to people, play for the local choir etc. You will suddenly experience a thrill that is hard to describe and I can bet you will be reinvigorated too.

The message is simple, it is never too late to indulge in your passion and you can bet that life will be even more fun. Don’t let reasoning, logic and excessive analysis clip your wings; spread out your wings and reach for the skies riding the wind of passion that will help you soar every single day.

Remember: “If there is no passion in your life, then have you really lived? Find your passion, whatever it may be. Become it, and let it become you and you will find great things happen FOR you, TO you and BECAUSE of you.” T. Alan Armstrong

Try this:

  1. Did  you ever wish you could do magic? Have you ever attempted it? Perhaps it is time you did something about it. How about asking someone to teach you some card tricks? Practice makes perfect so practice the tricks till you can do it almost blindfolded and then perform. Soon you may find it fascinating and perhaps you may develop a passion for it.
  2. Name the three alternatives that you would have chosen if you were given an option to choose a new profession. Ask yourself if any of these were childhood dreams? Do you realistically think you can change tracks now? If yes ask what is holding you back. If it is not possible to change tracks now, is there some way you can ensure that you can leverage your passion even today? Go and attempt to indulge in your passion!

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