Tag: Luck

How fortunate are we…

I wept because I had no shoes, until I saw a man who had no feet. Ancient Persian saying

Look around and you will find a hundred things to be grateful for but most times we are bitterly complaining, comparing and cursing our fate simply because we do not get what we want. As human beings we have the yoke of the seven deadly sins of Lust, Anger, Pride, Sloth, Envy, Gluttony and Greed. Each of these sins provokes the human mind to visualize images of having the second best or noting at all and therein lies the bane of the human race; our envy of others, our feeling of dissatisfaction and our propensity to rave and rant about the unfairness of life.

On the other hand if we consciously look out for people who are contented with life, you will find that almost all of them sport a smile, they are simply happy to be blessed with whatever they have and they have no materialistic desires or cravings. Study them from close quarters and we also realize that their happiness stems from their contentment and joy they experience by whole heartedly embracing the bounty they are blessed with. The issue that often worries us is that many of them seem to be in far worse of position than our own and yet they seem to be in a perpetual state of bliss. We cannot comprehend how those who have far lesser than us who are always cribbing can find so much of riches in their own life. Ironically their happiness and contentment make us more frustrated that they are happy and we are not.

Instead one must seek out how and why those less fortunate than us can live in peace happiness and contentment. The secret lies in their mindset and their attitude. Anyone who is happy has first of all decided to be happy. No matter what the circumstances they make it a point to see something to cheer about, something to warm their cockles and keep their spirits up. The next thing they consciously do is be grateful for whatever they have. Even if they have an illness they are grateful that it is nothing more serious. If they have lost something, they would be grateful that the loss is limited. The one thing they don’t do is compare what others have with they own possessions. This enables them to avoid feelings of envy, jealously, frustration etc. It also enables them to understand their own requirements better and aspire only for what they really need and therefore limit their wants and desires and quite often attaining it and thereby managing to live in a perennial state of happiness.

We too can change our mindset and adopt these practices. The first step is to realize that those who are happy are stress free for they have nothing really to worry about. Being stress free automatically improves our health, self belief and attitude. This must be followed up with the practices of appreciating the many blessings we get each day. It could be the pleasure of a bright lovely morning, the aroma of a hearty breakfast, the boisterous and carefree shouts of children at play or the success of a venture or a personal agenda. Obviously the toughest test to pass is a conscious decision not to be envious or frustrated at another’s wealth, possessions or successes. We must when such temptations lure us, remember that if we succumb then it is essential that we also compare the burdens, trials and tribulations of the other person too. After all no one ever lives on a bed of roses perennially.  The happiest person too carries his own cross and personal burden and his happiness is despite these woes that he has to shoulder. Are our problems, troubles or woes as bad as what many others go through?

Remember: “Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.”

Try this:

  1. Can you make a list of 5 things that you desperately craved for in your growing up years but were denied it. Can you think of reasons why you were denied it? On hindsight did those denials affect your life in any major way?
  2. You are in the hot seat in the game ‘Who wants to be a millionaire’ / Kon Banega Crorepati. You have Rs,50 lakhs and have to attempt the question to get Rs. 1 crore with no lif lines left.  If you lose you go back with just Rs.3,20,000. However if you win, you get an additional life line for the Rs.5 crore prize which is a roll of the dice. Here for the Rs.5 crore prize, a dice with 4 numbers is rolled and the number appearing will be matched with the answer on the corresponding box. If it is the right answer you get the prize of Rs.5 crores straight away. However if it is wrong then that answer is eliminated and you have to choose from the reaming 3 answers only. Would you attempt the Rs.1 crore question with a great chance of winning the Rs.5 crore prize or take the Rs.50 lakh prize and quit the game ?

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Joys and sorrows

No one gives joy or sorrow … We gather the consequences of our own deeds. Garuda Purana

The immediate reaction one has when reading the above is that we have so many troubles which legitimately should not be ours. In our view we have only done good and have scrupulously followed the law of the land and the beliefs of our faith and so the unbearable pain and troubles are definitely not the consequences of our bad deeds. Pause for a moment and focus on the joys that you are blessed with. Oh there are so many gifts and blessings that we may never really have deserved and yet we have been showered with them. Ask if you really did such extraordinary deeds that made you worthy of the bounty freely given to you? If you try to balance the fortunes and misfortunes, invariably we would feel that we could do with more of some fortunes; this is human nature for in our human weakness we fail to fully appreciate our good fortune be it material wealth, intellectual wealth, loads of friends, good health, good family background etc. We also tend to exaggerate our problems and troubles.

However if we attempt to examine our joys and sorrows that pepper each day of our life, then we would perhaps observe a more identifiable pattern. It takes a little effort to understand the pattern and we must be objective about it without attempting to rationalize our joys and/ or sorrows. Almost all of our joys, one would notice, have come about because we prepared ourselves for it by working for it, hoping for it, by doing our duty without any expectations or by praying for it. On the contrary our sorrows in most cases came about chiefly because we were casual, negligent, irresponsible, indifferent and / or undisciplined in our ways. Our exams marks is a good reflection of how we prepared and succeeded or failed. No doubt there could be exceptions where we did everything possible yet did not triumph or by a quirk of fate did very well in exams for which we barely prepared.  On the work front too our growth and promotions or monetary returns is directly correlated to our efforts and hard work.

There is another angle to the whole business of being rewarded with joys or burdened with our sorrows and that is the short term view we take as opposed to the long term effects. On hindsight many of our joys and troubles seem to have been bestowed on us at the opportune time. Our joys have helped us strengthen our self belief and shaped our positive attitude while the sorrows have helped us better appreciate the riches we have. Sometimes the sorrows have been opportune for it has paved the way forward to a more rewarding path. Eg. Not scoring enough to get into medicine or engineering may have pushed us to change tracks and thereby enter a more rewarding and satisfying career. There is comfort in the knowledge that we are never ever burdened with more than what we can handle and always rewarded with more than what we deserve. It is for us to be able to cope with the pressures and handle our joys with equanimity and humility.

Remember: “Focus on making yourself happy and you’ll soon be miserable. Focus on bringing joy to others and your own happiness will quickly follow.”  Roy H. Williams

Try this:

  1. Think of a time when you felt terrible because you were deeply disappointed. Ask yourself if that particular incident had a major bearing on your attitude, confidence, psyche.  Now also recollect a couple of very special happy moments in your life. How did impact your future? Have you ever been falsely accused and punished in your life? How did it feel?
  2. Are you one of those people who feel that you will never win a lottery/ bingo/ lucky dip? Have you stopped enjoying playing such games because you feel you will never win?  Don’t you think it is better to enjoy playing and have a chance of winning than not playing and always believing you will not win for you can win only if you play.

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Lucky miss…

Sometimes the best deals are the ones you don’t make.  Bill Veeck

Many a time we bitterly regret missed opportunities and lapse into bouts of despondency and curse our own fate. Fortunately these bouts are not too frequent or disastrous. In fact if one were to reflect later, many of these missed opportunities actually seem like god send for it is possible that they were defining moments that changed the course of your life for the better. Look around and you will see people who are all chasing their own dreams and looking for that one lucky break which they believe will change the course of their destiny towards the utopia of their dreams. Perhaps if you introspect, you too are part of that crowd waiting hopefully for a bolt of good fortune and opportunity. What we often fail to see is that some of the best opportunities come in the garb of failure, bad luck and hopelessness whilst we kept our eyes open for fancier chances.

Some of us must have missed out on getting admission to a prized course or college by a whisker and it rankles us that fate was so cruel. Yet we might be doing exceptionally well in the new area of study. On hindsight perhaps it was best that you didn’t admission in the area of your choice. There must be times when you were forced to submit to your strong value systems and hence missed out on lucrative deals. Yet the clear conscience that lets you sleep peacefully is worth much more than the monetary rewards that you sacrificed. Perhaps some of you are doing exceptionally well professionally but there is strange emptiness within you. Maybe you would prefer to change tracks and pursue your passions for art, theater or teaching none of which stand up to much in a fiercely competitive and materialistic world. Ask yourself then if the deal you made to pursue the current profession was worth it?

If you participate in a bidding process you will realize that you must be well prepared to know when to back of lest your ego push you to a doomed bid.  Many a time we back off from a deal because we don’t feel it right and later regret letting our emotions overrule us. However if we follow up on the fate of that deal , more often than not our hunch would be proved right for the deal may have fallen through later. Doing a property deal for example is a very complex task for there are too many emotional variables that have to be considered apart from the practical aspects of the deal. Many a time we keep looking back wistfully at some of those property deals that we didn’t pursue and rationalize that maybe we were right. The truth is we also need to get a bit lucky in some deals.

The best deals are often the ones which we enter into with our eyes open and our hearts in place. When both are in sync then the probability of the deal really working out are very very bright. Ironically when our mind and heart are not in sync that is when we also let many a deal pass by and in the long run the probability of that being a good deal is much higher for the best deals are ones  which make you feel right in mind and heart.

Remember: “Always be closing…That doesn’t mean you’re always closing the deal, but it does mean that you need to be always closing on the next step in the process.” Shane Gibson

Try these:

  1. Pause for a moment and look at the various times we have failed or missed out on chances that came our way. Did life stop? Have you overcome the hurt and bitterness of failure? Have you taken a fresh guard to face the new innings, post failure? If your answer to these are yes then seek out the benefits of  what new opportunities that have come your way because of your failure.
  2. Play a game of poker to understand what the whole business of what a good deal is. More often than not we are passing the play because you don’t have a good hand and while you don’t have a chance of winning that game then, you certainly ensured you didn’t lose in it.

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Getting lucky

You don’t just luck into things … You build step by step, whether it’s friendships or opportunities. Barbara Bush

You prepare to be favored by luck. Just examine all the lucky breaks you got in life and you will realize that you did something effectively prior to you running into that luck. It could be simply doing the monotonous task diligently and you were noticed for promotion or doing your studies regularly and you were lucky to get some questions that most others left in option for lack of time. Many a time the luck you get is not so obvious and it is much later that you realize the break you got was due to the seeds you planted many years ago. A classic example is the friendships formed in school days. These were mostly on account of common interests, comfort level and compatibility. Sometimes, much later in life you come to value those friendships for they back you up when no one else will.

Look at those who are involved in research. There is no guarantee that their efforts will bear the fruits they hope to get. Yet their self belief, dedication and unwavering focus often leads them to achieve success simply because they didn’t quit nor change tracks when the going got tough. Look at the numerous aspiring singers. Very few of them will get that big lucky break, but it is imperative that each of them continue their study of music and practice regularly to ensure that they are prepared to grasp the lucky break with both hands. Take people in the creative field be it movies, art, advertising etc. They have to constantly churn out ideas but not all of them will click. Yet they continue to pursue their art and are assured of the right breaks.

Many a time luck is all about taking the right chances at the right time. Look at the numerous success stories of people who gave up a high paying corporate life to pursue their own dreams. Not just their fortunes but event their own quality of life might have changed for the better because he/ she took that bold step of quitting their jobs and risking it for their own venture. There are others who never gave up when told they would never amount to anything. Walt Disney and the Beatles are prime examples of those who flirted with their self belief and ran into luck. Luck is always there around the corner but you have to walk that little bit and lo and behold you will encounter her there.

Remember: Chance favors the prepared man!

Try these:

  1. Think of the two most cherished things you desire the most. It could be getting a good job, settling abroad, making a million bucks in the next year etc. Now ask yourself if you have done enough on your own to entice luck to pay you a visit? If not start doing your bit in right earnest and you can be sure luck will come calling soon.
  2. Check out your own attitude when someone gets a lucky break. Do we get jealous? Do we envy them? Do we stop to think that they deserved the lucky break? Can you visualize the price that they pay for their luck? E.g. Successful movie actors have to compromise on their privacy because of their fan following or a Award winning author is under pressure to become equally successful next time too.

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Luck

The one who is intent on making the most of his opportunities is too busy to bother about luck. B.C. Forbes

It is common for us to make an observation that a successful person has been very lucky. While the fact may be partially true, we miss the big picture that any one who is successful has worked for it and by sheer dint of hard work, perseverance and acumen has achieved success. Quite often if you delve into the life of the successful person, you would discover that failure has been the stepping stone on which he / she has climbed the ladder of success.

As you would have observed in our post on “Opportunity” dated 9th Feb2010, every one of us is blessed with ample opportunities. Many of us fail recognize  it, most of us see it as an obstacle and the large majority of us are waiting for the lucky break in the form of a financial windfall, an inherited business, a sudden promotion at the work place, the abrupt departure of superior etc. The question we need to ask is, when the lucky break comes are you prepared to make the best of it?

Note a very insightful observation of the legendry golfer Gary Player, when he said “The harder I work, the luckier I get”. He simply stated the key to success; Hardwork. Hardwork is not simply ploding along; then a mule would be very successful, it isn’t just being faithful and diligient; then a dog would do a better job nor is it just blood, toil, tears and sweat; the Churchill mantra. Hardwork is all these and more; a focused approach to work, a thoughtful application of mind and physique to the tasks on hand, an insightful scanning of work environment  and adding value to all you do. The lucky breaks will pop up at the right moment, which is actually all the time; are you observant, opportunistic and dynamic enough to grab them, even when they often appear masquerading as problems to be solved, obstacles to be overcome and challenges that cannot be sidestepped. Go beyond the obvious- and for once you will find the elusive pot of gold at the end of the rainbow!

Remember: “Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.”

Try these:

  1. Name three personalities who you think are very lucky. Can you list out the luck they have had or was it just your intuition that they were lucky? When these people got their lucky breaks was it by accident or was it in the course of their daily work / profession that they were blessed with luck?
  2. Visit the following website http://www.lifewithoutlimbs.org/ and can you outline what were the lucky breaks the hero Nick Vujicic got in life? Do also visit the video links
to get more inspired and to realize how LUCKY YOU are!
  1. In what way do you want to get lucky? If it is money you want, have you purchased a lottery ticket? Objectively ask yourself if you are ready to take the lucky break when it comes; have you the confidence, the expertise, the knowledge, the skills, the leadership qualities, the decision making ability, the man management skills, etc

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