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Start today and have no regrets later

25- 21 Dec 14-A year from nowWhen December comes, we subconsciously review the year gone by and hope against hope that the New Year has better tidings for us. The fact is that each one of is solely responsible for the progress we make in our life, notwithstanding events and circumstances beyond one’s control that occasionally crop up and derail even the best of plans. December is also the time when many of us make resolutions for the New Year, most of it never written down. When next December comes we regret the opportunities gone by, the noble intentions never executed and keep fervently wishing we could turn the clock back. Alas, a year would have passed by then; and we continue to rue.

This is an opportune moment to make plans, commit to them and execute them so that next year around this time, you would have achieved much more than you ever expected to. However it is also important to realize that this is the best time to also move beyond the conventional listing that most people do and instead list out personal priorities related to your interests, passions, hobbies and yearnings. So this is the perfect time to get going on ensuring you attain your happiness quotient by deft planning and execution.

The most important ritual that one has to necessarily follow before outlining one’s plans for the future is to spend enough time ‘thinking’ about what one wants to achieve. Thinking must be deliberate, reasoned, clearly visualized and actionable milestones identified. The milestone’s will be critical to motivate you to act even if the results don’t seem too encouraging to begin with. E.g. those who plan to run a marathon or plan to lose weight would initially find the going very tough, but strict self discipline would definitely show results. Thinking also ensures that we don’t operate out of a whim or fancy but it is a conscious choice made. This makes us more committed to the activity we have chosen.

In preparing for the future, ensure that there is ample time allotted to personal passions, interests and yearnings. Life is not about just hard work towards a materialistic goal; rather life must be lived with panache, verve and fulfillment. These aspects are individualistic, self determined and uniquely experienced; provide for it in your plans so that you never regret not venturing into it. More than anything else, what we plan must be written down and only then can one periodically review progress made and corrective action initiated. When we are disappointed that we have not done anything substantial or failed to even begin something we have no one but ourselves to blame. As is said ‘ well begun is half done’ so begin well by writing down your resolutions and taking courage to begin and being self disciplined to keep going.

Next year this time, smile at the results; pat yourself on your back for the progress made and don’t forget to once again start anew !

Try this:

  1. Decide to give up one bad habit that you have in the coming year.
  2. Focus on 3 things you always wanted to do but never did till date. Ensure that in the coming year you do at least one of these activities that you have listed.
  3. Choose one of the following or decide on something special for yourself to be done in the coming year
  • Preparing a PPT on your life in 25 slides and using a maximum of 50 photographs
  • Volunteering for a completely off beat social service activity e.g volunteering at prisons
  • Throwing a surprise party for some one of your choice.
  • Attempting something that no one ever expected you to do e.g. keeping a pet / bungee jumping/ writing your personal blog etc.

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What is stopping you ?

Like many of you reading this post, I have had a number of dreams, aspirations and expectations, a few of which I did achieve. Unfortunately, I must also confess that I just haven’t managed to realize the vast majority of my plans and worse still, have made all sorts of convenient excuses to rationalize my inability to perform to my potential. At the end of the day no one is interested in excuses; the world recognizes only performances not promises. So then I asked myself ‘Hey dude what is stopping you?’ Here is what I found out …(Notice the point in red refers to the problem and the one in blue is the antidote for it.)

Lack of focus – Perhaps this is the one single most important reason that many of us don’t utilize our talents, stumble along life’s way and remain incognito most of our life. We have no idea of what we want to do with our life, we do not have a clear agenda for ourself and merely lurch from day to day hoping that each day will be better than the previous.

Goal setting – We have some haze idea as to what we want from life. However to be focused in life we have to make that effort to actually ask and answer the 5W’s and 1H that pertain to our own life. One has to write down one’s goals be it personal goals, academic goals, professional goals or social goals. Ask any Olympic participant and you will find one thing in common- each of them had a goal to represent their country in the Olympics

Over commitment – In our anxiety to make up for our lack of focus and experience a sense of achievement, we make the next cardinal mistake of attempting more than what we realistically can attempt successfully. We also end up being over-committed because we want to please as many people as we can and also because subconsciously we hope that we will strike it rich by having more options. What we don’t seem to realize is that all we end up doing is biting of more than what we can chew.

Learning to say NO – If one has a goal, life is a lot simpler for there is clarity of purpose. Yet we are often thrust with tasks that we do not want to do, are not capable of doing or which is just not your business. Refusing to do something is not looked upon kindly but if our goal is clear and the tasks not aligned to our personal goals it is best that one take courage to say a polite NO and get on with the tasks that take you closer to your end goal..

Surrendering to problems – Every excuse one makes is nothing but the articulation of a problem. Problems come in all shapes and sizes and we often end up seeing a problem as insurmountable either because we do not want to make the effort to find a solution or because we have psyched ourselves into making a mountain out of a mole hill.

Finding creative Solutions – Problems exist because someone has yet to find a solution. Why not have an attitude that the solution can be provided by ME? Get through the problem, under the problem, around the problem or over the problem but ensure the problem is suitably addressed. Also make it a habit never to give excuses and suddenly the problem is no longer a burden to be carried but a present to be unwrapped.

Sheer laziness – Ah I bet each one of us is seriously guilty of this. No amount of explanation can substitute for condoning this.

Penalize yourself – The system will penalize us for our laziness. The marks one got in academics in large measure reflected the effort one put in. Similarly the lack of success experienced can be seen as a penalty imposed by life especially when one has been tardy, casual and indifferent to the opportunities made available. Imposing an additional penalty on ourselves would be the best way to beat laziness.

Now when I reflect on the question ‘what is stopping you?’ the answer is loud and clear…NOTHINGit is simply ME not measuring up to myself.

Action Points:

  1. Play an indoor game like caroms or throw darts on a dart board to appreciate the importance of focus. Every time you miss your target, examine your response to it; are you blaming something or someone or do you refocus quickly with a better strategy?
  2. You are at a party and though playing a game of tambola or housie was planned as the last game, the housie board and tickets have been misplaced. The 50 odd revelers are badgering you to play the game. How will you come up with an innovative housie game that does not use the housie board nor the use of housie tickets. You can assume you have any other resource being at your disposal. Clue: You have sufficient stock of pen and paper

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Making the best of holidays

Just as a puppy can be more of a challenge than a gift, so too can the holidays. John Clayton

With the Divali season around the corner, a sizeable section of the people in India are already in a holiday frenzy. Soon thereafter Christmas would be around the corner and practically three fourths of the rest of the world would be experiencing the same holiday frenzy.  While everyone eagerly looks forward to the holidays, the overwhelming majority of people are confused, apprehensive and hesitant about how to make best use of the holidays. Worse still is the fact that most people are completely unprepared to welcome the holidays. As a result the holiday season can often be a stressful period unless one makes adequate preparations to make the best use of the gift of holidays.

For those wedded to customs, traditions and rituals, the initial part of the holidays are well laid out in as much as they follow the accepted customs and norms. The real challenge is thereafter. Travel is the most preferred option for many but the destination poses problems as much as the means of travel and the duration. Of course the biggest headache still remains the finances. What is not really noticed is that the real problem is ‘not paying attention to planning and preparing’ for the holidays. Any form of travel involves reasonable planning right from destination to dates and mode of travel and stay and how best to utilize the time at the chosen destination. If for whatever reason travel is ruled out then making the best use of holidays requires even more thought and deliberation for the options are rarely crystal clear mainly because we don’t pay much attention to it and prefer to work out on the spur of the moment. Net result is that we end the holidays with a sense of regret of having wasted it.

So the question that begs attention is ‘what else can one do with the holidays’?  Here are some alternatives for reflection and perusal especially for those not traveling during the holidays.

  • Catch up on reading / movies / hobbies/ some quirks that were left on the back burner (eg. Experimenting with or understanding alternate therapy’s, learning magic / card tricks, go bird watching with a professional)
  • Reorganizing the house and bring about some much needed change including rummaging through piled up / hoarded knick knacks and disposing of the unwanted stuff.
  • Entertaining people who you could not otherwise invite due to, either their preoccupation or your own hectic life style.
  • Detailed planning, (especially if a surprise party is planned) for some important events coming up like the golden jubilee of your parents wedding anniversary or a milestone birthday of a close relative.
  • You can indulge the spouse / children/ family members with some surprises like a swim and dinner or day long picnic to a completely new locale.
  • Use the holidays to sensitize the family to the needs of others and the reality of life by visiting an orphanage/ old age home/ shelter for challenged children or invite a couple of challenged children home to spend a day.

Many of you reading this post would suddenly get wary and wonder if the alternatives listed are practical and more importantly would the end result be a real holiday. It is all a matter of attitude. If you can plan and prepare, the efforts will never be wasted even if the end result is not what is hoped for.  Unless you try you never know. In any case by experimenting it will just be one holiday season that could be wasted but by never planning most holidays would end up being a challenge rather than a pleasure.

Remember: Holidays in general breed unrealistic expectations. The minute you start wondering, ‘is it going to be wonderful enough?, it never will be.  Pepper Schwartz

Try this:

  1. Assuming that finance is not a constraint make a list of alternates that you will have lined up if you get a 4 day holiday suddenly.
  2. Recollect the best holiday you ever had. Now also recount the  worst holiday season that you went through when you felt your holidays were wasted ( if you fell sick or a tragedy occurred then do not count them as worst holidays). Can you identify the reasons that made the first holiday so much fun and the other one a rather indifferent or miserable one?

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Shaping your future

When did the future switch from being a promise to a threat? Chuck Palahniuk

The average person is always fearful of the future and unfortunately almost everyone who is reading this identifies with this. Part of our fear stems from a subconscious reality called death which we know will overtake us in the future and that is an extremely unsettling emotion. Part of the problem comes to fore because we tend to focus on the obstacles that we visualize will impede a smooth future. Some part of the threat we see in the future is due to our own lack of self belief, our inability to commit ourselves and the worst is an abject surrender to an uncontrollable variable labeled destiny. How ironic that in the process we fail to appreciate the glorious opportunity that the future places before us, we do not grasp the immense possibilities that are ours for the asking and miss out on the joy, delight and thrill of making new discoveries, harnessing our personal abilities and unleashing our full potential.

Now that you know that the future is really not so demonic or uncontrollable you need to reorient your mindset to embrace it with both arms. Here are three ways to create the future you want.

Vanquish the demons in the mind: The first step is to have a relook at all the negatives that stress you out when you attempt to peep into the future. This could begin with letting go the past ills / failures / hurt that touch a raw nerve and create that phantom pain when you have to traverse a similar path mentally into the future. Typically it could be things like changing jobs and landing in a bigger soup or experiencing failure in some ventures that you have attempted. The next is to snip of the negative thoughts that seep into the mind and rust away the iron will that you originally had. These could include self doubts about your own competence, worries about finances, fears about ill health and the tendency to surrender to fate or destiny.

Visualize the future you crave: Once you can vanquish the demons in the mind, your mind is at peace, your confidence is restored and there is a fresh energy that revitalizes you to think hard and deep about the future you want. Of prime importance is planning the future. This involves a great deal of effort in working out the blue prints, clarifying the goals, assembling the resources and then diving into the ocean called the future. Sometimes you may fantasize, occasionally you may think big, perhaps there are times when you can almost touch the future but the real test is when you cannot stop thinking about it. When the urge becomes irresistible that is when the future is within handshaking distance and we need to make the move to cajole the future into reality.

Venture into the future with confidence: For many of us identifying the moment when we can roll out our plans and get the momentum going is a tough challenge. This is because we try to connect all the dots and have the perfect future in place so that we do not experience failure. The reality though is that a large part of the future evolves only once we begin the journey. So the key to getting the future you want is in taking the plunge. There cannot be any half measures about it or else you would at the first signs of trouble turn tail and attempt to get back into your cozy nest. The future will then remain just a blueprint. On the other hand you must  when ready be like the eaglet that makes its first flight from the lofty perch with no parachute to rely on except its natural instincts and the craving to be a real eagle. If you want to kiss the skies bring out the eagle in you and stop twittering like the sparrows. A film director is a living example of how a person carves out the future that he/she visualizes. The success or failure thereafter of the movie or play is incidental.

Remember: Each man should frame life so that at some future hour fact and his dreaming meet. Victor Hugo

Try this:

  1. Jot down your most passionate social concern (corruption/ child labor/ environmental concerns/ clean energy/ etc .are some pointers for your ready reference). Now outline how you will get actively involved (candle light marches/ email forwarding/ plain discussions with friends etc. do not count as active involvement) in it and how much time you can spare for it each week. Can you begin to get involved by the first of next month?
  2. Write down 3 goals each for the following facets of your life. Make sure they are not wish lists but practical and time bound goals. Also outline 5 steps that you would have to take for at least one goal in each list.
  • Your professional life
  • Your family life
  • Your personal passion
  • Your spiritual/ social service aspect

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Making the best of holidays

A perpetual holiday is a good working definition of hell. George Bernard Shaw

For those who are wondering why this blog has not been updated, let me clarify that I was on a holiday in Mysore and Waynad (Kerala). While it was a  well planned and refreshing break, I did occasionally feel guilty that I was not updating the blogs and in rare moments of boredom, did miss the fast pace of professional life. I thought it appropriate therefore to share my views on the above quote on holidays and put matters in perspective.

With very rare exceptions, almost every human being has at some point in time yearned to take a long holiday, preferably a perennial one. The idea of a holiday is often too simplistic and is often simply interpreted as ‘doing nothing’, ‘lazing around’ just relaxing’ or ‘doing just what I want’. Some of us could possibly have undergone a forced holiday due to a job loss or having to quit a job for reasons beyond ones control or forced into taking sick leave to recoup from some major illness but the stress that accompanies such holidays makes it a psychological torture. There could also be a miniscule lot who have taken voluntary retirement with no clear plans as to what to do next. The common thread in all these holidays is that ‘Time suddenly seems to weigh heavily’ on us and the uncertainty of how to while away ones time suddenly becomes an ominous dilemma.

A good holiday therefore should be one that is discerned, earned and planned. While some holidays could be thoroughly enjoyed when they are spontaneous and sudden, the real fun of a holiday is in selecting the right time of the holiday, the type of holiday sought and in ensuring that it is something that will bring pleasure, relaxation and a lingering pleasure. This is tricky especially if it is a family holiday for each member would have different expectations and ideas about the holiday. Discernment then is all about finding the right balance and consensus. Anyone with money can afford to simply splurge on holidays and possibly have a lifelong holiday. The reality is that hardly anyone does it because the real fun of a holiday is when we are convince we truly deserve a break, a change of scene and e do not feel guilty of taking off without having complete the expected chores expected of us. Holidays should elp one unwind, enable all who are holidaying to experience a different high and most of all help one soak in the moment, the pleasure and the leisure.

The kicker in any holiday is the fun of planning it out; the thrill of exploring possibilities, fitting it all in within a time and budget constraints and ensuring that we do not miss out on anything. While the intent is right, the reality is that the planning involves a lot of stress, fortunately most of it is positive stress, and it helps us connect with our human self through varied emotions of hope, frustration, joy, regret, confusion, frustration, and ecstasy when one puts it all together. More than anything else planning provides purpose and goals which keep us focused and provides us the carrot of motivation, the pleasure of anticipation, the wonder of experience and the thrill of achievement all of which adds up to make an enjoyable holiday.

If you just take of on a holiday and if that is a long drawn one, then after the initial euphoria of being a free bird is over, the lack of goals, the absence of a sense of purpose, the monotony of trying to battle with time and frustration of not achieving anything worthwhile will make life painful, boring and tortuous; something akin to hell on earth.

Remember: Every man who possibly can, should force himself to a holiday of a full month in a year, whether he feels like taking it or not. William James

Try this:

  1. Make a list of the various types of holidays you would like to ideal take. A couple of ideas are given below for your ready reference
  • Visit the wildlife
  • Explore the mountain side/ valleys
  • Go trekking
  • Explore the wonders overseas
  • Go back packing/ cycling
  • Make a religious tour
  • Spend time with tribals
  1.  Analyze the last holiday you had and list our 3 good things and 3 things that you could have planned better. Now work on a 2 week holiday plan to be executed before the end of  May 2012.

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The secret to your future

Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you. Frank Tyger

All of us, me included have a hundred different reasons and excuses to justify why we haven’t realized our full potential. The reality though is that nothing absolutely nothing is going to chance the past. Yet irrespective of one’s age, social status, financial status, academic background, past history and the like, there is a wonderful future that each of us can embrace whole heartedly if we are prepared to boldly accept the challenge and work purposefully towards it. There are 4 conditions that one has to fulfill in order to make the future you want for yourself.

The first is to remember the lessons of the past without holding on to the past. We fail to progress beyond our past performance simply because we live with ghost of past failures, keep brooding over the wasted opportunities that we never took advantage of and often meander into some of those rare moments of triumphs and successes we did relish occasionally. While we certainly cannot erase the past completely, we must learn to identify the key learning and keep that uppermost in mind as we proceed further so as to avoid the same pitfalls of the past. We must never let the bad past ruin a perfect present or take away from us the immense possibilities that lay ahead of us.

The second is to believe in yourself and yet be pragmatic about your strengths and weakness. Each one of us has it within us the ability to stretch ourselves to excel. Excellence is ensuring that we use our abilities to the fullest extend and must not be mistaken to mean always out performing others. It is obvious then that we need to asses ourselves dispassionately and leverage our strengths without letting our weaknesses become a stumbling block. It would also entail us having the courage of conviction to take calculated risks, the daring to fail and yet not give up and to pursue our dreams with steely resolve and self confidence.  As rightly said it is our attitude that determines our altitude.

The third is to always have a goal to focus on. What really lets us down is an indisciplined approach to the future. The prime reason for this is lack of clarity as to where we want to go and what we want to achieve. Perhaps we would be a lot happier if we could simply identify our personal, professional, financial and spiritual goals. Perhaps we have a hazy idea of our goals, but then we are tempted to change the goal posts in the hope of scoring at will. Goals helps us concentrate, enable us to channelize the resources required and helps us chart our progress and if need be take the corrective measures to ensure that we make the best of our future. It is sarcastically observed that if we do not know our destination any road will lead us there.

The fourth is to adapt, change, improve, transform yourself to ensure that you are progressing towards your goal. Simply put this means that one has to make umpteen sacrifices if one were to make the best of the future ahead. Look what happened to the dinosaurs of old who became extinct simply because they could not adapt, change, improve or transform themselves to meet the onslaught of change. While we make not suffer such an ignominy, it is very possible that the future we face by being rigid and uncompromising can be painful, frustrating and very regrettable. Only the wisest and stupidest of men never change. It is imperative that  we change else the chances are that we will fall in the second category.

Remember: “Losers live in the past. Winners learn from the past and enjoy working in the present toward the future.”  Denis Waitley

Try this:

  1. Jot down 3 lessons you learnt from any failures/ regrets that you have from your past.
  2. Ask a few close friends to name 3 of your strengths and one weakness they perceive in you. Reflect on these particularly on the weakness and work out how you can use the new knowledge about yourself to shape your future.
  3. Take a pencil and paper and do the following
  • Make a sketch of your dream house. Now put a realistic price tag to it.
  • Make a realistic assessment of what your monthly savings should be and what you think should be your monthly income after you attain the age of 60.
  • Make a plan for an overseas holiday with your spouse and the roadmap to make it happen in the next 2 years.
  • Outline your definition of a successful person. Now write down your own success statement.

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Dont let tomorrow mess up today

If you are afraid for your future, you don’t have a present. James Petersen

There are times, when each one of us has got this sudden unexplainable feeling of fear, panic and helplessness when thinking about the future. Such fear when it comes occasionally is useful for us to be aware of our own mortality, the reality of an unpredictable future, the need to plan and be prepared and it helps us actually realize the value of today and make the best use of our today. The trouble starts when we are so obsessed about the future that we end up constantly wailing and moaning about it, keep worrying about it, spend more time making plans to handle imaginary crisis and fail to enjoy today and the blessings that we are fortunate to have. The truth is we cannot completely hedge against the future nor can we let the future steamroll us and so we need to ensure that we have some insurance to manage the future. It is this insurance that begins with us first of all enjoying our daily living so that we have no regrets later. At the same time by being pragmatic and rational about the future we can intelligently and objectively attempt to protect our future and insure it financially, emotionally and dynamically.

Our worries about the future come in so many shades. We worry about our jobs, our finances, our relationships, our hopes and aspirations. We also worry through our jealousies, envy, expectations, irrational thoughts and far too often through thoughts about death be it our own or that of a loved one. What is pertinent to note is that we when we worry the first casualty is our happiness. No one who worries will ever be able to enjoy the present. No sooner we feel happy a fearful thought will suddenly creep in and prick the bubble of happiness. In extreme cases we even start worrying about being happy and fear that our happiness is short lived for a calamity is lurking around the corner.  See the people around who have dour expression, those who are always complaining, people who are extremely critical or frequently sarcastic, the people who cannot accept compliments and those who are always negative in their words, thoughts and behavior; they rarely exude happiness.

The second and logical casualty is our present; the moment that is for us to enjoy, the gift of today and the spirit of life.  Instead of appreciating the beauty of the day we start counting the hours to darkness; our laughter is always tinged with regret or sadness; we are morose and snappy most times; we see the shadows not the sunshine and we live in fear of being besieged by calamity. More than anything else we live in the belief that we are the unlucky ones, the cursed ones and the only ones who have this fate befallen on. The third and most unfortunate of all repercussion is our conscious and unconscious negative impact on those around us. Many a time because we are dour and negative, we hate it when those around are happy, cheerful and enjoy with gay abandon. We make efforts to spoil their mood by berating them, being loud and uncouth or simply denying them the pleasures that they depend on you to give e.g. refusing a birthday party or finding fault with a gift they give you. Other times our demeanor and behavior are enough to make others avoid us, move away from us or simply ignore us . The cycle of unhappiness is then complete; we are unhappy we make others unhappy and in turn we remain unhappy.

Remember: “Your past is important but it is not nearly as important to your present as the way you see your future”  Tony Campolo

Try this:

  1. Read the post on FUTURE (Foresee Unusual Trends Usually Rapidly Emerging) in our weekly blog http://poweract.blogspot.com/2010/11/future.html
  2. Read the post on Why Worry https://actspot.wordpress.com/2010/12/31/why-worry-2/
  3. To minimize your future worries make a list of your New Year Resolutions, if you haven’t done it already. Now  get working on it right away so that by this time next year a large number of items on that list is deleted and you enjoy each day this year because you have slowly inched closer to achieving the resolutions on that list.

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Make the most of today

Make the most of today.  Translate your good intentions to actual deeds. Grenville Kleiser

Every one is born good and so for the vast part of our early life at least, each one of us gets up with a feeling that the day will be wonderful and that there is a lot of joy for us to partake off. However when we begin to face some blips in our lives, begin to fear things, experience the pain of sorrow, failure, rejection and loneliness that is when we slowly adjust to the real world and become more circumspect and wary of each new day. Over time, depending on our circumstances and our experiences, we are either more positive or less enthusiastic when we get up each day. Yet what we do not realize is that we have the rare blessing of being able to experience HAPPINESS every single day if we can begin our day with good intentions and get going on translating those wonderful intentions into concrete actions.

The simplest thing that we all can do is SMILE…it costs nothing and as they say a SMILE is a curve that can set a lot of things straight. Look around and identify how many people you know who are around you right now who frown more than they smile. Ask yourself if you are guilty of the same and walking around as if all the cares of the world are on your shoulders? No matter what our problems are, there is nothing that stops us from smiling and spreading a little joy in our every waking hour. When we learn to smile, no matter what, we would have developed the fine art of nurturing Positive Thinking and displaying a Positive Attitude. With positivity within us we can take on the most mundane or the most challenging tasks and do a great job of executing it. No day is ever wasted then for we actively seek out opportunities to participate in.

To ensure that we can translate good intention into action, the most important thing is to have a whole list of good intentions. This means that one has to actually think up and list out varied tasks that you can take up and contribute too meaningfully. It could be personal tasks, social tasks, voluntary work, It is equally important that we put deadlines to the tasks or we would succumb to the common malady of procrastination. It is also vital that we realize that we need to take on those tasks that we are capable of and not bite of more than what we can chew. Our ego is often a stumbling block that will hide this reality from us. Equally essential to be aware of is our tendency to simply do tasks that are easy, oft repeated, non challenging and tasks that can be easily delegated. Learn to delegate or we would do a lot of tasks and not get any satisfaction because we have not grown in the process.

Perhaps a large number of us can now identify with the reality as to why at end of day many of us are not really enthusiastic or happy about the day gone by. The answer lies in the realization that the enormous potential of the day that was available to us to execute our good thoughts and deeds were not utilized by us. In most cases because of lack of planning, lethargy, inept handling or sheer casualness we have botched up the opportunities. In extreme cases, let alone utilize the opportunities we may have actually gone on an ego trip and fouled up things in sheer spite, desperation or anger. When we have wasted our day instead of just regretting it, ask if you flashed enough smiles around to charge yourself up. If not, focus on that first and soon you will be energized enough to proactively get involved in the opportunities that come your way.

Remember: The three hardest tasks in the world are neither physical feats nor intellectual achievements, but moral acts: to return love for hate, to include the excluded, and to say, “I was wrong”.”Sydney J. Harris

Try this:

  1. With Christmas around the corner, list out the gifts you need to buy and the greetings you need to send, With the new year around the coroner there is no better time than now to making your new year resolution list. By this time next year, check out how effectively you implemented your New Year Resolutions
  2. Form the habit of jotting down your to do list and update the work done regularly. Practice taking on challenging tasks, delegating mundane tasks and learn the art of clubbing tasks so that you can be even more productive and make the best use of each day by translating your good intentions into fruitful action.

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Value of time

A man who dares to waste one hour of life has not discovered the value of life. Charles Darwin

The challenge for us with respect to utilizing our time effectively is to define what waste of time is. For a person who enjoys his/ her sleep, sleeping more than the norm of8 hours is never a waste of time. On the other hand a workaholic would find sleep to be a necessary evil, ideally avoided or kept to the bare minimum and using that yardstick, anyone who enjoys his/ her sleep is wasting time. Similarly parents of students will bitterly complaint that the children waste time in front of the TV while the children believe it is a good stress buster. The question that now comes to the forefront is how to find a good yardstick or definition of waste of time.

Obviously from the examples given earlier, the concept of waste of time differs from person to person and situation to situation. With this clarity in mind, we can state that waste of time is experienced when we are not doing what we are supposed to be doing. This presupposes that we know what we are supposed to be doing but this is a reasonable supposition since by and large each of us knows our responsibilities. When one digresses from the job on hand and abdicates his/ her responsibilities, the time spend on the alternative is clearly a waste of time. This needs elaboration with a suitable example. A student studying for his final exam sacrifices his TV viewing to fully focus on his studies. However if there is a dramatic moment on TV like the landing of man on moon or closing moments of a historic win for his national team in a prestigious tournament, then he is utilizing his time well by watching those epoch moments live and sacrificing his studies for that brief period. In fact by missing out on those historic moments under the garb of studies, would be a folly and a waste of both time and a slice of history.

There are many activities that would seem like a waste of time but which are a social necessity. It is also important to realize that rest, leisure and play are an essential part of life and time utilized for the same is not a waste of time. Similarly time spend on our social obligations, religious activities and in the pursuit of our passions are also time well spent, provided of course we are not so obsessed with it that we neglect our true vocation.  Taking time out to recharge by going on a vacation, spending time in thinking and reflecting and taking an unexpected break or an occasional unplanned indulgence is perfect use of time. We might be tempted to see all these activities as using up a fair amount of our time, but we need to keep in mind that we are human beings with feelings, emotions and affections all of which are beyond the purview of being compartmentalized in strict time slots.

Where we would really be wasting time is in frivolous pursuits like politicking, gossiping, fault finding, bickering and scuttling matters. Making too many mistakes or errors, doing a shoddy or tardy job, nitpicking merely to get ones way, duplicating work and indulging in tasks that are best delegated, are classic cases of wasting time. Having a broad overview of the work and ensuring reasonable time allocation for each task will ensure that we are very clear about our responsibilities, are well prepared for it and efficiently execute it.  The joy of a task well done comes not merely from the joy of completing it but also from the unseen, unappreciated and ubiquitous joy of having used ones time very well.

Remember: Today, be aware of how you are spending your 1,440 beautiful moments, and spend them wisely

Try this:

Read the Weekly post on PRESENT Prime Resource Emerging Silently Evolving Now Today by clicking on the following link http://poweract.blogspot.com/2010/11/present.html

List out 5 pending jobs that you have postponed for many days. Now detail the work involved in each and then estimate the time for you to complete the task. Get cracking and ensure that you do the task by the personal deadline set by you. Then experience the joy of having done the task and the joy of having used your time well.

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See the silver lining

Too many people miss the silver lining because they’re expecting gold.  Maurice Setter

For almost all of us, counting our blessings is tough because our focus is on what we covet and we take for granted what we have. In such a scenario each day brings more frustrations than good cheer because when one of our wants is fulfilled we have a list of 10 more about which we are disappointed that they are not fulfilled. In the process our outlook towards life is tinted by the dark shades of yearning, the blurred hues of wanting and the mist of greed and temptations. What we then see is a big cloud of woes that seem endless, perennial and ominous. Even the silver lining around that cloud seems to be illusionary for we are now seeking miracles and magic to shower us with our coveted bliss.

All of us would want a stress free, happy and contended life which we are equally certain is unrealistic to be really true. In our naïve way though, we seek out those who laugh more, have more riches and those who seem carefree and then spend the rest of our lives wondering why we cannot be the same. What we fail to see is the positive attitude of these people, the struggles and trails they have overcome and the self belief that propels them to achieve whatever they have achieved. It is possible that these peoples life story would reveal much more than what meets our eyes. Many have snatched victory from the jaws of defeat whilst others just kept pegging away and slowly inched towards their goals. The bottom line is that every one of them has had to weather the storm and dark clouds that threatened them sometime but they were able to see the sliver lining and pursued that relentlessly.

Every difficulty is actually an opportunity for us to grasp but we end up seeing every opportunity as a difficulty we need to avoid. On the other and when we get opportunities we are forever seeing the negatives, the problems, the costs and the short term payoffs and then let go the opportunity as not suitable to us. It is like not buying a lottery ticket because the possibility of winning is very low and yet we pray that we win a lottery.  What we have not grasped is that the probability of winning  the jackpot is extremely low but there are chances of getting smaller rewards which we do not visualize because we are focused only on the jackpot. For less tangible opportunities  like changing jobs, identifying a person to get married to or quitting a job to go to college the cloud of doubts are so ominous that vacillate between options and may miss the bus.

The solution lies in being more realistic about our expectations, more pragmatic about the reality and being bold enough to take decisions without getting the consequences weigh us down. Golden opportunities are far, few and in between and it is foolhardy to spend lifetime in search of it. On the other hand, when we see a glint of sliver in the horizon we must aim to grasp that with both arms and when we have hoarded sufficient silver we can always trade it for the gold that we aspire for. The notion that we can wait to make a killing in one swoop is tempting but we may waste a lifetime fruitlessly pursuing this dream.

Remember: “We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as impossible situations.” Charles R. Swindoll

Try this:

  1. Prepare a plan for your retirement. Can you outline what is the type of monthly income you would need after retirement and the quantum and type of investments you would have to make in order to achieve this objective. How easy or difficult was it for you to quantify the plan? What made the decision making difficult?
  2. Choose from one of these objectives that is pertinent to you and outline how you would go about attempting it.
  • Changing your job/ profession/ diversifying your business
  • Outline the requirements that your ideal life partner should fulfill
  • Selecting a new hobby/ passion
  • Your tangible contribution to encouraging green cover/ eco friendliness

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