Tag: Pleasure

Be yourself and discover…

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Like a dog chasing its tail in the fond hope of finding happiness there, the human race seeks to find happiness in the world around us. Unlike a dog that only has one tail to chase, we end up pursuing every strand of perceived happiness  largely materialistic, quite often competitively , at times egoistically and  when stressed spiritually. The trouble though is that, we seek happiness by being selfish, self centered and for self gratification. Interestingly when we are pursuing happiness focused largely on our self centered needs, unwittingly we are using what we perceive as the happiness of others as the benchmark for our own gratification and happiness. In short we covet what others have and when on the rare occasion we do manage to posses it, after a brief spell of ecstasy we look for something else for our self gratification and resultant happiness.

Now pause for a moment and try and recollect those moments of bliss that you experienced. Was it the time you received a praise for having done a good deed or was it the time you learned to balance a bicycle without falling off or was it the time you found a valuable that was lost or was it the time you scored the highest ever marks in your career or was it all of the above? Notice that in each of these moments of happiness, you were central to the moment. The thrill was in experiencing and cherishing the moments that belonged to you and you alone. There was no benchmark to measure it with, no competition that prodded you on, no ego that had to be satisfied; it was simply a personal wow moment.

The challenge is then to make the best of every moment that is yours. Worrying is perhaps the biggest thief of those moments. Instead the focus must be on getting on with what has to be done. Criticism if any that comes your way must be accepted with grace if it is justified else ignored when it is misdirected. The occasional failures must be seen as an opportunity to learn and better yourself.  The pain that comes with having to deal with tough tasks must be seen as a small price to pay in the larger scheme of things. Every small success that comes along must be embraced with warmth, cherished with delight and treasured as priceless. That is true happiness deservingly and exclusively yours.

Happiness is not just what comes from getting something or achieving something. The nectar of happiness is sweetest when we give. A smile is the simplest thing that we can freely give and receive manifold in return. A smile is an outer expression of an inner radiance. A word of praise or comfort, the warmth of a hug, an apology for a mistake, pardon to another for an indiscretion and thanks to anyone who deserves it are triggers of happiness. Similarly exercising control over our negative emotions be it anger, envy, jealousy, pride etc. help us realize our inner strength and translates into happiness in realizing the power of our own self control.

Happiness comes from knowing that by your thoughts and deeds YOU have left the world a better place.

Try this:

  1. List out the names of 5 individuals who you dislike immensely. Now try and outline 3 positive qualities that each of these individuals posses. Do you experience a lessening of your dislike because you have got a more objective understanding of these individuals? Now outline the one quality in the person that irritates you the most. Can you see this irritant as a minor one and ignore it? Do you feel happier for having excused the person for his/ her irritating ways?
  2. Make a list of 5 for each of the following
  • Your favorite jokes
  • Your favorite pictures
  • Your favorite songs
  • Your favorite movies
  • Your favorite teachers
  • Your favorite moments in life

How did you feel after having made the list? Did it bring back some fond memories?

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Life must be fun

It is in his pleasure that a man really lives. Agnes Repplier

No matter what your background or circumstances, it is your attitude that determines your altitude. In any case we only live once, so it best that we make the most of the wonderful life we have been blessed with. To do that one has to step back and appreciate the gifts that you have been blessed with; possibly a good and loving family and/ or emotional and financial well being and /or extraordinary talent and/ or the ability to get along well with everyone and / or being blessed with lots of friends etc. The point is that each of us abundantly blessed but at the same time we all have our crosses to bear. Despite the crosses we have to bear, the crux of making your life count is to live life to the fullest or as they say Live Life Kingsize !

The most wonderful people you can recollect will invariably be people who have a warm heart and a cheery countenance. They are jolly people, full of life and seek pleasure even in the most trivial things. They have very little inhibitions, give of themselves completely and ensure that there is laughter and joy spread all over. We too unconsciously get lulled into their cheery spirit and even before we realize it are not just enjoying their company but actually feeling that we have known them all our lives. When we enjoy the simple pleasures of life like the company we are in, the rustic food that we may be offered, partaking in rituals and customs that maybe alien to us but thoroughly enjoyable in their company ;that is when we can say ahh life is a breeze.

We are often wonderstruck by the optimism and vivaciousness of terminally ill people. While we are prone to feel sorry for them knowing that they are running out of time, they seem to be keen on making every moment count. Let alone our help, they would firmly spurn our sympathy and instead offer us their spirit of self belief, equanimity and calmness in accepting their fate and show us how to live life to the fullest. Notice that when we hear a requiem for the deceased, it is invariably the fullness of their life that is harped upon and perhaps a passing reference is made to their hardships and troubles borne. Invariably each of us would like to remember a person’s laughter, warmth and expressiveness and it therefore makes enormous sense that we too should live spreading joy, hope and laughter if we want to make our life count.

When we enjoy the pleasures of the moment, we forget everything negative, our hearts are full with happiness and our Life shines brightly. We radiate our true self and like a candle dispelling the darkness we light up the moment, the people and the canvas of our inner self.

Remember: “One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure it’s worth watching.”

Try these:

  1. Keep a stock of good jokes and share it when you have company. Ensure that the jokes are not crass or sexist and more importantly convey a meaning or a message or is apt for the occasion. You can be sure you will trigger others into telling jokes and sharing humor and there will loud laughter and cheer.
  2. Give surprise gifts to people and see the happiness you spread. One way is to keep track of the 1st Wedding anniversary of those whose weddings you attend and send them a gift on their anniversary. Throw an impromptu party to celebrate some personally significant success/ achievement/ occasion.

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