Tag: Set Example

Our purpose in life could be unique

Our purpose in life could be unique

Often friends and acquaintances have asked me what motivates me to write this blog. The quote today in many ways, aptly sums up the key motivation for me to write. I think, my writing and sharing matters to those who read it, especially those who have chosen to follow my blog and get the blog feed in their inbox. It is my belief, that I do make a difference, to many of those who read my blog. I am sure the same feeling is what drives others, be they artists, caregivers, teachers or volunteers to spend time pursuing what they do. For most a job is a job but for those driven to make a difference the value of their effort is never measured in numbers.

While engaging in what you do is at the core of how we inspire, ignite and spark the flame, what really makes the difference are the following:

Being passionate – Your passion and zeal are what generates the energy and motivation in those around you. Notice how a passionate teacher, a enthusiastic co-worker or a diligent boss energizes you do achieve the impossible. Go about your activities with enthusiasm, excitement and energy- you can be sure you will transmit it to those around. They will draw inspiration from you and that will ignite the spirit of enthusiasm in others.

Setting an example – Walking the talk is what sets the example for others to believe in and follow. It could be simple actions like carrying your own cloth bag or helping a challenged person cross the street or acknowledging someone who has done you a small favor. Being attentive to people who are talking to you, smiling when meeting a stranger on the subway or hotel lobby, being respectful to the waiter serving you are simple ways of setting an example especially to those who look up to you for the right values.

Encouraging – Everyone who falters on the first attempt tends to get discouraged. When they continuously slip they become despondent. They require encouragement. A clap, a word of encouragement, a wave of the hand in appreciation, a thumbs up, a pat on the back are little ways to fire up an individual. Next time you notice a first time speaker floundering, give him/ her a nod and a smile to indicate that they are doing good and just need to keep at it. It will make a difference to their performance. Have you realized how we encourage babies taking their first steps? We are more excited to see them making their first walk of faith. Yet, later we are the same people who do not share their passion for things they find amazing but those that do not meet our standards of sensibilities.

Listening – Have you ever noticed people, especially young kids talking in excitement? All they need is someone to listen to. Unfortunately most adults give them a casual hearing and often react with suggestions far removed from the tale the youngster is sharing. The simple act of listening and then responding with words of appreciation, encouragement and enthusiasm is what sparks and ignites the spirit of excellence in them.

Being non judgmental Many a time what others do may my complexly out of sync with our own tastes or sensibilities. However, we must suspend judgment and never react with our own views and thoughts. At times it takes time for us to understand the other person, many a time we cannot visualize what they can see and far too often we are too conservative to appreciate the risks others take. The best way to ensure the others are pepped up and given a nudge is by being non judgmental and being open minded to ideas, views, actions that may faze us temporarily. You may not really encourage because you cannot understand but do not discourage because you fail to understand the other person.

Try these:         

  • List out the three qualities of those people who have inspired you. Ensure one of them is a former teacher and if you have work experience, identify a former boss or colleague.
  • What is the one quality in you that others appreciate? Do you utilize that enough to inspire and enthuse those around you? What more can you do to fire the spark in people, especially children and youngsters?
  • Think of two instances where it was the example or encouragement of someone else that helped you reinvent yourself and achieve whatever you are proud of.

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Pardon is a test of character

Any man can seek revenge; it takes a king or prince to grant a pardon. Arthur J. Rehrat

When we are wronged or we perceive ourselves to have been wronged, our immediate reaction is one of anger and possibly we also harbor intentions of paying back in the same coins. When the urge to get even and if possible inflict punishment on those who wronged us becomes obsessive, we are actually actively contemplating revenge. Revenge in simple terms is an eye for an eye policy and we are all guilty of at least fleetingly entertaining the idea o revenge at some point in our life. That we may have rarely or never got our revenge could partly be attributed to us not having the courage for it or because with time our original hurt was healed.

With age and maturity all of us slowly realize the futility of extracting revenge but we fail to forget the hurt caused to us. In our psyche we do not really excuse the preparatory of the hurt and we make all attempts to possibly avoid, shun or ignore him or her. In effect what we are doing is neither forgetting nor forgiving the person who has hurt us. This attitude actually affects us more because we are constantly resurrecting unpleasant memoires, subtly carrying the hurt and pretending to be in a state of happiness and bliss. The most horrible part of this behavior is that we are in denial about our metal state, overburdened and stressed with the excess baggage of past memories and move around like the walking wounded.

If we had the character and temperament to be both rational and pragmatic we would not only forget the hurt but also forgive the culprit. Not very many can take a high moral ground and let bygones be bygones. One needs to develop the imposing and powerful personality of a King or prince if one has to really be both magnanimous and dignified and take that significant step of pardoning a person who we believe has hurt us. When one pardons we actually forgive the person and ideally we must also forget the hurt caused. Those who we accused of hurting us now stand exonerated of their crimes and we accept them our own with no remote threat of any form of retribution. This requires a large heart, the courage of conviction and the power over our emotions; qualities that are found only in people who have a kingly stature.

When we pardon another we actually set our mind free. Free from the burden of harboring negative emotions of revenge; free from the element of self doubt about our character and free from the possibility that we have a fragile temperament.  We also elevate ourselves in our own eyes for we have acted with restrain, maintained our dignity and will have no regrets for our actions. More than anything else we have successfully put to rest any possibilities of misadventures in the form of revenge thus leaving us with a peace of mind that was disturbed from the day we were hurt or felt hurt.

Remember: “Be good, be kind, be humane, and charitable; love your fellows; console the afflicted; pardon those who have done you wrong.”  Maxim Gorky

Try this:

  1. Make a list of people whom you find hard to forgive. If there are none then make a list of people who you dislike. For people on both lists write down 2 positive qualities that you can appreciate in them.
  2. Read the well know story from the Bible called The Prodigal Son and see the commentary at the end to see how message of the story is relevant to each one of us. http://christianity.about.com/od/biblestorysummaries/p/prodigalson.htm

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