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Be a rainbow in someone’s cloud

Be a rainbow in someone’s cloud

Look around and you will find lots of people looking for support, encouragement, help and empathy. It need not be strangers; it could be close family members, neighbors, colleagues, acquaintances; the common thread is each of them is suffering in various degrees. While some may merely need reassurance, there could be a few others who need a hand of comfort and others just need someone to lend them their ears. On the extreme end of the spectrum, there could be others on the edge of a nervous breakdown, contemplating hurting themselves or on the verge of committing suicide. There are a lot of people around us alone, afraid, lonely and seeking acknowledgement of their existence. Each of us can play a vital role in making the world around us a more lively, engaging and happier place by just being a rainbow in the life of those around us living under the shadow of a dark cloud threatening to rain and drown them.

Like the seven colors of the rainbow VIBGYOR here are seven ways you can be a rainbow for others.

Acknowledge – Begin by wishing your family members each morning. Similarly by wishing or saying a hello to neighbors, acquaintances, friends whenever we bump into them would be the very basic courtesy one can extend to another. As social animals, every individual needs the company of others to live a meaningful life. By simply wishing and acknowledging them we are offering them our warmth which is always reciprocated and warms us too. Incidentally, using basic etiquette’s like saying please, sorry, thank you, excuse me etc. also largely do the same thing; respecting their individuality while also being courteous.

Smile – No one wants to see a grumpy, grouchy, cry booby. A smile, laughter, joy  is always welcome. Nothing can be more invigorating than a smile. A smile not only evokes a pleasant response, it actually energizes the self too. (SMILE is nothing but an acronym for See My Instant Life Energizer – click to read more about it here – http://poweract.blogspot.com/2010/01/smile.html )

Talk – Communication is the thread that binds human beings. While non verbal communication is both powerful and perhaps more widely used, it is talk that is consciously acknowledged as the principal medium of communication. An acknowledgement by way of a nod or a smile are powerful non verbal tools of communication, talking with another helps strengthen relationships. It also opens doors to better understanding and is a quick way to connect more intensely with people.

Help – Action, they say speaks louder than words. So while talk as a means of communication is powerful, it is any action that is offered in terms of helping another is the icing on the cake of relationships.  Simple acts like picking up something that some has dropped or helping someone with a heavy luggage or just spending time with the elderly or sick,  is help that would be much valued. Helping someone in trouble, be it rescuing someone or taking someone to a hospital or babysitting, putting in word to someone influential to get a problem sorted, donating blood when required  etc. are opportunities that  are relatively much more valued than monetary help. At times monetary help too is required but that is subject to our own ability to help out.

Encourage – Encouragement takes many forms. The most obvious is when a person is down an out, giving them some motivational inputs and allying their worries and fears. Encouragement could also take the form of heartily congratulating success and nudging the person to up the bar. Encouragement could also be subtle hints with appealing logic on how to do even better, suggesting course corrections and in extreme cases discouraging individual from taking a path of failure or self destruction. Appreciation is a fantastic form of encouragement. Achievements, good deeds, extraordinary performance all need to be appreciated, for that encourages individuals aim for higher glory. Since man does not live on bread alone, he needs encouragement to nourish his/ her spirit too.

Surprise them – A phone call to a long lost friend or a letter to a former teacher, a visit to an elderly friend or relative can be varied forms of surprises. Similarly sending a surprise gift on a significant occasion that you are privy to would be warmly appreciated and make a big difference to people. Volunteering help, finding solutions to problems of people who least expect it from you would always be much valued.

Share their sorrows – Happiness shared is doubled and sorrows shared are halved so the saying goes. The brightest rainbows are those that appear after a heavy shower. Be that rainbow in the life of people who are going through tough times, serious difficulties and those battling personal tragedies.

Try these:           

Try volunteering your services using any of your abilities/ talents to orphanages, hospice, prisons, old age homes, homes for the differently abled / mentally challenged.

Think back and make a list of people and events in which you were the recipient of any or all of the above support that lit up your life when you were in gloom.

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Unplug and reboot

12-Unplug and rebootA key reason we get stressed is because we continue to grapple with our problems by constantly attempting the tried and tested ways, instead of stepping back and letting the dust settle. If you have noticed muddy water that has been stirred up, it will be difficult to see through till you let the mud settle. The same happens with our problems and challenges. There is no better example than the numerous devices we use constantly, the mobile phones, the laptops and the near extinct desktops. The simplest way to get it going when it seems to have stalled is to simply switch of the power. Unplug the power and everything settles; then reboot and begin anew.

The best way to unplug from troubles is to distract your mind. This simply means forcefully directing your mind to other more pleasurable alternatives that are stress relievers. Take a walk, watch TV or read a book or get engaged in some activity that you enjoy like your hobbies. While trouble itself will not go away, your mind will become calm and you will be able to think more incisively and get more focus on how to proceed ahead.

Another way to unplug is to unburden. ‘Share your troubles and halve it’  is the principle that we leverage here.  We share our problem with people whom we trust and people who we believe would have some tangible solutions or at least make invaluable suggestions. While we share our problem we also subconsciously get greater clarity about the issue, our mind feels more relaxed that someone else is sharing our burden and the chances of getting some fresh insights from others to alleviate or tackle our burden is higher. Those listening to our problem also offer empathy, support and most of all give us some of their insights into coping with the problem.

The most common way to unplug is to sleep over a problem. This is tougher than it seems simply because a troubled mind would not easily get sleep. However, if one develops a style of setting aside the problem for a fair time, when we re-look the problem new thoughts and solutions seem possible. If one can literally sleep over a problem, the subconscious mind would often work in the background and conjure up possibilities that our conscious mind would not have generated. However one should not be like an ostrich burying its head in the sand hoping the troubles not seen would vanish.

Try these:

  1. Try some simple cross words or Sudoku. At first for those not used to solving such puzzles the challenge seems overwhelming. However, once you make an attempt and try it a few times, you get the hang of it and the challenge would not seem so daunting.
  2. Think of a time you managed to find a solution to a pressing problem by unplugging in the following ways
  • Indulging in your favorite hobby  or passion interest
  • Sharing your troubles and getting answers from another person
  • Sleeping over the problem and waking up to a very innovative solution

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Give and receive

It is more blessed to give than to receive. Acts 20:35

One of the problems that we humans constantly battle is our urge to want more and more. We crave to have more wealth, more power, more freedom and more happiness. More often than not, it is a losing battle because we are unable to overcome our cravings but then we work out a compromise to subdue our conscience that pricks us; we give charity, we donate and we even make an attempt to participate in some activity of those working for the poor, the destitute, the old and aged, the orphans, the mentally challenged etc. However our efforts are miniscule as compared to the riches we amass, hoard and fritter away when we need to make a show of pomp or piety. Often we gather ill gotten wealth and we then double our efforts to part with a sizeable chunk of it for an apparently worthy cause. The true intentions are to lighten the burden on our conscience and hopefully get some divine intercessions too in the long run.

On the other hand if we seek out the riches of those who are genuinely happy and contented we make the interesting discovery that they are far from materialistically rich but surprisingly seem to be abundantly blessed in many other ways.  To begin with they are joyful, they also seem to be contented and most of all they seem to take pleasure in giving freely and abundantly to all those who need. We are unable to comprehend how those who are apparently just about making two ends meet by our standards, can be so generous. The answer to that lies in the mental makeup of those who give in abundance. They do not worry too much about their long term own requirements, they have deep faith in being taken care of by some divine or supernatural means and most of all they feel they have a duty a mission and an obligation to those who less privileged, weaker and needier.

It is said that what goes around comes around. This is very true and we would have personally experienced that we have got some help form the most unexpected quarters at a time when we had almost lost all hope. This brings us to another point that we do not consider when we talking about giving and that is to give off our time, our efforts and our talents.  If we have the wealth and money we are generous with giving a small part of it. We may also often give away what is not useful for us or what we do not require like old clothes, toys, books etc. What is really in short supply is the human touch that our brethren seek. Human beings need human company, they require the warmth of human touch, the love spread through our voice and actions and they crave for attention and love. No amount of money can buy any of these. We need to appreciate that real giving is in giving what we value most; our time and our self.

Remember: “You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.” Kahlil Gibran

Try this:

  1. Outline a plan of action to ensure that you give at least 3 -5 hours of your time in a month with either the poor, the aged, the infirm, the orphans or the challenged.
  2. Can you initiate action to coordinate and motivate people to contribute a small mite for some charity? Ideal you should be able to also motivate the contributors to play a more active role in ensuring that their contributions are well utilized by not just donating but also participating in at least one activity of the charity.

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Everyday cheer up someone

When you rise in the morning, form a resolution to make the day a happy one for a fellow creature. Sydney Smith

It is but natural for each of us to want to have a lovely day full of happiness and joy. We yearn for some good news, some happy happenings and if possible some lucky breaks all of which we hope will brighten up our day and our life. Unfortunately almost all these wishes are uncontrollable and unpredictable thus making each day filled with suspense and curiosity. It is also possible that most days we end up feeling disappointed, sad and depressed because our yearnings were never remotely met or because there were troubles, turmoil and tensions that overwhelmed us.  At such desperate times we fervently seek a  magic wand to make our woes disappear and instead make our dreams come true.  What we are not aware is that we actually have a magic wand to simply ensure happiness each day.

There is nothing very magical about the magic wand we have.  In fact we use it unconsciously very often and consciously too in quite a number of instances but we do not really appreciate the power of this magic wand. The magic lies in the power we have to help another fellow being in any which way we are capable of. Whenever we help another, we are bound to get a sense of satisfaction that invigorates us, boosts our morale and elevates our spirit. Our act need not be something grandiose or spectacular. In fact it is the simple acts of listening, empathy and appreciation, extended to another human being, that never fails to make us so happy to have been of some service to another. We are often sorely tempted to limit our help to doling out some financial aid  be it as a donation, be it a charitable contribution or sponsorships. The act of financial support while being very welcome will not be as effective for the giver for it has a tinge of impersonality to it. The giver gives because he can afford to and not because he really cares for the cause.

To ensure that we are happy everyday we must begin first by aligning our attitude, our behavior and our actions to be positive. If we are constantly worried and yet spare some alms to get rid of a beggar, we end up making ourselves more miserable for we feel that our alms were wasted, lie hasn’t changed and the worry just keeps increasing. On the other hand if we begin a day with a smile, some pleasant thoughts, some affirmative action and concrete plans to help everyone whom we meet, our mind is already at peace and we simply enhance that peace through extending a hand to a fellow human being.  Simply being friendly and polite to all is a wonderful way to ensure that we experience joy in our heart.  With time and imagination, we will seek out new opportunities to contribute more meaningfully to all those around us and we will then never have to worry about finding peace and solace in our lives.

Remember: “Happiness comes of the capacity to feel deeply, to enjoy simply, to think freely, to risk life, to be needed.”  Storm Jameson

Try this:

  1. One excellent way to contribute is to become a blood donor. Donate it twice a year at least once on your birthday and then six months later. Alternatively do social service in an institution on fixed days and taking on jobs that others are reluctant to do.
  2. Communicate with people warmly; listen to them with great interest; give out a warm smile; use the magic words please and thank you. These simple actions if sincerely out in practice will reduce your stress, bring tranquility to your life and keep you happy every single day.

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Spread happiness

The greatest happiness in the world is to make others happy. Luther Burbank

Laugh, and the world laughs with you:  Weep, and you weep alone; are the famous lines which sets the tone of the poem Solitude by Ella Wheeler Wilcox which captures the essence of today’s quote. Just visualize the times you have laughed the most and it will occur to you that it is when you are with friends that you really have a great time. Obviously it means someone triggers the fun and frolic and the cheer is infectious that soon everyone is enjoying and gregarious.

Happiness is feeling that elates, elevates and enthuses and so is the cure for most problems. A person who can spread happiness is like a savior for many. Take the case of the old and the destitute living in abject misery and loneliness. They pine for company and if it is someone who is cheerful and extrovert the misery and loneliness are soon forgotten and they are transported to a different world where they forget themselves. Similar is the case with the sick and invalid. They seek someone to bring some happiness in their lives so that their miseries are put on the back burner. Go to an orphanage or a prison and once you get over your own inhibitions you will soon realize that the inmates there are just as normal as you and me and they have the same need to be happy and cheerful as any other person.

Happiness has no boundaries; no age limits, educational or social barriers, nor gender barriers either. In fact happiness has no barriers at all; neither of living and dead; human, animal or vegetation; past present or future. The sweet memories of people long dead and gone bring back a warmth in our hearts and we still laugh at the comedies of Charlie Chaplin or a Laurel and Hardy. See the joy and happiness that pets bring into our lives and the crazy antics and behavior displayed by animals warms our cockles. Happiness can be spread using all means of communication be it physical, visual or audio. A warm hug, a big smile, a love letter, a wedding video or just memories trigger in us the happy feeling that spreads within us and spills over to those around and the environment around too.

Spreading happiness is as simple as giving a pat on the back or genuine praise or a heartfelt thank you. It costs nothing but it requires us to be observant, large hearted and genuine. There are times when one would need to see the bright side of things especially when things are going wrong; a good coach/ mentor / superior/ elder can play a vital role in cheering up a despondent environment and restoring confidence when it is low. In today’s day and age the email and SMS provide ample scope to spread happiness; the problem though is that we confuse risqué jokes/ crass humor and vulgar messages to mean instant happiness pills. Real happiness should elevate the mind and spirit without the hangover of a cheap feeling. A hearty laugh, a joyous heart and a lingering positivity equals pure concentrated happiness.

Remember: “Happiness is like a kiss…you must share it to enjoy it.

Try this:

  1. Since we started with the first lines of the poem Solitude by Ella Wheeler Wilcox, you must read the poem. Pay attention to the first and 5th line of each verse and notice how each of those lines represent a shade of happiness.  Click on the link to read the poem http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/solitude/
  2. Make lists as under, each of which reflects ‘your happiness stimulant’
  • A list of people who make you happy
  • A list of things that make you happy
  • A list of events that make you happy
  • A list of your favorite jokes / TV programs / movies/ books that make you happy

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Live for others

What do we live for if not to make life less difficult for each other? George Eliot

This is a dramatic new way to look at life. Most times we are self centered, selfish and perhaps very possessive, all in the name of making our life count. Just pause for a moment and think of all who have majorly influenced your life in a positive way. Beginning with our parents who would have definitely sacrificed lot for us, we move on to our siblings and maybe extended family too. Our teachers, friends, colleagues too would have a significant share in shaping our life. They too could have been more self centered and selfish, but they chose to sacrifice for our well being. Notice that you too would have played a similar role for others and most times you have been very self satisfied and occasionally very proud of your contribution in shaping another’s life.

At this point maybe we are thinking of dramatic sacrifices we have done for others or seeking to find the extraordinary things others have done for us. In reality, what others do for you or vice versa is actually the sum total of a million small things that are done. Yes it is the small things that add up to much more than the occasional big sacrifices. Encouragement, sharing, consolation, appreciation, confidence are various virtues that come to mind. When we lost a close race or failed for the first time was it not the consolation offered that provided the balm for the hurt? When we were hoping against hope to be selected was it not the encouragement given that made the difference in our attitude and the final selection? Our first efforts at drawing/ singing/ dancing etc. must have been very amateurish, yet it was the warm appreciation and confidence in our ability that inspired us to pursue these art forms further.

It is also obvious that most times what goes around comes around. In effect it means when we help others, we too get to enjoy the fruits of the help given by others. Unfortunately we might not always be thankful and grateful for what the others do for us and this is something we must not miss out on. On the other hand we are also guilty of keeping track of the favors we do for others and even more guilty of waiting anxiously for a word of thanks and perhaps expecting the others to feel obliged. It is vital for us to realize that whatever we do for others which is done voluntarily and with good grace and with no expectations is really what is truly LOVE in action. When we spread love, that is what makes the world a much happier place for all of us and that includes YOU too.

There is an apocryphal story told about people in Heaven and Hell, which truly explains today’s quote.  It is said that both in heaven and in hell there is ample food served in a giant bowl and the inmates are seated around it with very long spoons tied to their hands. They can eat only what they can collect in the spoon. It is believed that in hell everyone tries to fill their spoons and in attempting to eat the contents, clash with the spoons of the others and there is total chaos, infighting and perennial hunger. Whereas in heaven the inmates have calmly resorted to trying to feed the person whose mouth is closest to the end of the long spoon. In this way each one helps the other. Hence there is harmony, order and peace in heaven.   The challenge for us is to make a Heaven on Earth !

Remember: “The doors we open and close each day decide the lives we live.”Flora Whittemore

Try these:

  1. Make a list of the things that annoy / irritate/ upset people around you be it family/ friends/ colleagues etc. Here is a sample list for you to begin. Being short tempered / Using foul language / Being self centered in all interactions/ Being sarcastic all the time/ Boorish Behavior when having company/ Compulsive urge to make snide comments / etc. Once you have made the list, focus on a couple of areas that you will work on to ensure that others feel more relaxed in your company.
  2. Spend 1 hour a week on some social service activity. Your physical effort is what counts not just the monetary contribution.

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