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I don’t quit

I don’t quit

Everyone faces problems. Each one has to confront his/ her fears regularly. Worry and stress are as much part of our lives as are happiness and contentment.  However, there is one danger that worry and stress triggers; the danger of giving up; of surrendering; of quitting. At times it is possible that giving up chasing an unrealistic and improbable craze is the right solution. Most times though, we give up simply because we let our stress cloud our judgment, our rational and weaken our ability to stay strong.

Taking deep breathes both figuratively and practically always helps calm nerves. Figuratively, as long as we can breathe, you are alive to make a change/ a difference to your life. Practically speaking, deep breathes help calm nerves, enables one to postpone drastic judgment and gives one time to contemplate the next wise move. The focus must be on finding a solution rather than getting overwhelmed by the challenge on hand. To find a solution, it is important to mull the problem from the prism of possibility and not view it from an imaginary kaleidoscope of despair, hopelessness and impossibility. The possibilities may not be visible immediately and anxiety can be coming in waves that threaten to drown you. Instead you must become like a duck that appears calm on the water but is furiously paddling below. Explore possibilities, take help if required, keep trying and suddenly you will have unraveled the knot that seemed to have tied you up forever.

Coping with stress requires mental toughness. Self belief is the key. Self belief breeds courage, it opens doors to possibilities and unlocks hidden potential. Deep breathing as a technique is a quick and effective way to cope with stress.  With every breath you take the oxygen going in energizes you and with each breathe we expel, the toxicity within gets thrown out. It lays the foundation for one to de-stress. Self belief is the outcome of fine tuning the mind to soak in and absorb all your talents, your capabilities and your deep resolve to confront your troubles and overcome it. Not giving up is the cusp of self belief. It is also the trigger that helps one convert challenges into success.

Try these:

  1. List out three things that you started enthusiastically but then gave up or something you are keen to attempt but have not yet got around to doing it. Your challenge is to pick up at least one of these tasks and get going within the next one week.
  2. Pick up the leisure page of any daily newspaper and attempt any of the activities like puzzles or crosswords and set yourself a deadline to complete it. Repeat daily till you gain a better proficiency.
  3. Read the poem Don’t Quit by clicking on this link http://www.appleseeds.org/dont_quit.htm

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The challenge is to turn around and…

11- 27 April 15- The challengeSo what are your fears; your apprehensions; your worries; your concerns? Are there issues you keep running away from, in the fond hope that those issues will sort themselves out over time? At times do you suddenly feel panicky, anxious, agitated, terrified, merely thinking about certain matters? If you answer Yes to any of the questions above, the good news is that you are not alone in trying to face your concerns; alas the bad news is that you have to face up to your fears all alone. True you have family and friends who will be supportive and encouraging but your fears are unique to you and it is a challenge to square up to it. Yet if a Helen Keller could lead a happy and productive life despite being born without the faculties of hearing and more critically sight, for most of us, our concerns would never be of that magnitude unless you let your mind imagine it to be of a much more serious nature.

Here is how you can stop running away from your worries and instead turn around and face your anxieties squarely and actually wrestle it down.

Take a fresh look at your problems. This is the toughest part of most problems because when we are fearful we lose focus, lack objectivity and tend to club different issues to imagine a huge problem. This is particularly true with our rocky relationships with others as it is regarding our monetary troubles as also with our work related concerns. Then again when we let our problems overwhelm us we are too terrified to pause and analyze our problem for it is a painful experience and one from which we would rather run away. Most problems exist because we let it remain in our mind and keep rerunning the tape to feel sorry for ourselves rather than to analyze what went wrong and what can be done to undo the damage or make a fresh start.

Work on finding a solution. Most problems are a result of our own casualness, negligence, inability to nip issues in the bud. Of course there are problems that happen suddenly like an accident or a mugging. In both cases, finding a solution should be our priority. However the normal tendency is to apportion blame, rationalize how the problem was not of your making and wallow in self pity. What is broken needs to be fixed, that which is an impediment has to be circumvented and what cannot be changed has to be accepted with grace and with the dignity to walk with your head held high.

Be grateful for your blessings. It is natural for us to magnify our problems and play down our blessings since we take our blessings for granted. Problems get magnified because we get obsessed by it. Our blessings become microscopic because when the going is good we take it as our right and never pay attention to it. It is only when we can put both our problems and our blessings on even keel that we can truly appreciate the enormity of our blessings and then realize that our problems are relatively insignificant in comparison. Ask yourself if your take your abundance of health, wealth and happiness for granted. Look around and see the humongous population around us who are relatively less blessed than us. In comparison to their problems are your problems relatively minor. Do you see them continue to laugh, love and live with hope. So what stops you from doing the same with the same energy and enthusiasm?

Think again. Stop running away and you will come face to face with the demons in your mind and for sure you can stare them down, trample over them, confront them with daring and make them slink away. Don’t let them chase you forever.

Try these:

Imagine yourself to be a perfectly normal human being with one exception; you have no limbs. How terrible would that be? Is that the worst thing that can happen to you and destroy your zest for life? Click on the link to discover how life is what you make it to be. http://tinyurl.com/knu95gl

What will you do if you are told that the rest of your life is just less than a year away? Would you start asking why me? Would you go into depression? Click on this link to realize how one can be appreciative and grateful for all one has been given. http://tinyurl.com/bpesfbf 

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You are …

8-26 Jun14-See who you areWhat do you do when you are confused, disheartened and / or feeling listless? Who do you go to when you need to pep yourself up, solve problems or make life interesting? How would you go about feeling energized, overcoming obstacles and churning out creative ideas? While there may be many alternatives to choose from, the first step would be to delve within yourself and discover that you hold almost all the answers to all your worries, queries, difficulties and happiness.

It is all in your mind; unlock it and you will be a changed person. Focus on merely 3 things

Emotions. All of us become victims of our emotions especially negative emotions. Positive emotions like happiness, confidence, joy and optimism would enable one to overcome tough situations and challenges with flair and panache. However negative emotions like fear, anger, helplessness and pessimism would often muddle your thinking, cloud your judgment and push you to avoiding taking chances or becoming daring. Keeping our emotions in check would help us take balanced decisions, act proactively and temper our actions.

Thinking .Our thinking is largely influenced by our emotions. Our feelings have a major role to play in directing our thoughts and helping is focus on the moment. Apart from our emotions, our experiences, our knowledge and our personality have a major bearing on our thinking and subsequent action. Most times we are logical because as human beings we tend to rationalize and structure our thoughts within a framework we are aware of. However, when confronted with new challenges and problems our creative thinking would enable us to see new patterns, connect dots differently and help us discover or invent new solutions.

Attitude. Our attitude is shaped both by our emotions as well as our thinking. Apart from these two factors, our attitude is also shaped by our environment, the situation, our experiences and our personality. While we commonly talk about positive attitude and negative attitude, we must not forget our dimensions like attitude of gratitude, solutions oriented attitude, flexible and inflexible attitude as demonstrated by our stubbornness or indecisiveness.

It is evident that by focusing on our emotions, thinking and attitude we would be able to control our reactions, channelize our actions, influence the outcomes and even align the end result to be in tandem with our desire. This is being achieved simply because you are now directing your inner self to provide you with the necessary inspiration to overcome any obstacle that hinders your pursuit of your objectives. Your mind also harnesses your abilities to find solutions no matter how grave a situation or problem. Your relentless pursuit of your goals happens only when you are sufficiently motivated to keep going and that too is self generated by your ability to reign in or let loose your emotions, thinking and attitude.

Do you now realize that you are your own inspiration, solution and motivation?

Try this

  • Assume for a moment that you are marooned on an island with no hope of being rescued for a year at least. How would you go about surviving?
  • Identify a character in history who has inspired you? Can you specify the qualities / abilities/ achievements of that person that specifically appealed to you?
  • Every work / job entails repletion and unpleasant but unavoidable tasks. List out 3 such tasks that you have to cope with daily and find out ways to keep yourself motivated and inspired to do those tasks with enthusiasm.

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