Tag: Strengths

The secret to your future

Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you. Frank Tyger

All of us, me included have a hundred different reasons and excuses to justify why we haven’t realized our full potential. The reality though is that nothing absolutely nothing is going to chance the past. Yet irrespective of one’s age, social status, financial status, academic background, past history and the like, there is a wonderful future that each of us can embrace whole heartedly if we are prepared to boldly accept the challenge and work purposefully towards it. There are 4 conditions that one has to fulfill in order to make the future you want for yourself.

The first is to remember the lessons of the past without holding on to the past. We fail to progress beyond our past performance simply because we live with ghost of past failures, keep brooding over the wasted opportunities that we never took advantage of and often meander into some of those rare moments of triumphs and successes we did relish occasionally. While we certainly cannot erase the past completely, we must learn to identify the key learning and keep that uppermost in mind as we proceed further so as to avoid the same pitfalls of the past. We must never let the bad past ruin a perfect present or take away from us the immense possibilities that lay ahead of us.

The second is to believe in yourself and yet be pragmatic about your strengths and weakness. Each one of us has it within us the ability to stretch ourselves to excel. Excellence is ensuring that we use our abilities to the fullest extend and must not be mistaken to mean always out performing others. It is obvious then that we need to asses ourselves dispassionately and leverage our strengths without letting our weaknesses become a stumbling block. It would also entail us having the courage of conviction to take calculated risks, the daring to fail and yet not give up and to pursue our dreams with steely resolve and self confidence.  As rightly said it is our attitude that determines our altitude.

The third is to always have a goal to focus on. What really lets us down is an indisciplined approach to the future. The prime reason for this is lack of clarity as to where we want to go and what we want to achieve. Perhaps we would be a lot happier if we could simply identify our personal, professional, financial and spiritual goals. Perhaps we have a hazy idea of our goals, but then we are tempted to change the goal posts in the hope of scoring at will. Goals helps us concentrate, enable us to channelize the resources required and helps us chart our progress and if need be take the corrective measures to ensure that we make the best of our future. It is sarcastically observed that if we do not know our destination any road will lead us there.

The fourth is to adapt, change, improve, transform yourself to ensure that you are progressing towards your goal. Simply put this means that one has to make umpteen sacrifices if one were to make the best of the future ahead. Look what happened to the dinosaurs of old who became extinct simply because they could not adapt, change, improve or transform themselves to meet the onslaught of change. While we make not suffer such an ignominy, it is very possible that the future we face by being rigid and uncompromising can be painful, frustrating and very regrettable. Only the wisest and stupidest of men never change. It is imperative that  we change else the chances are that we will fall in the second category.

Remember: “Losers live in the past. Winners learn from the past and enjoy working in the present toward the future.”  Denis Waitley

Try this:

  1. Jot down 3 lessons you learnt from any failures/ regrets that you have from your past.
  2. Ask a few close friends to name 3 of your strengths and one weakness they perceive in you. Reflect on these particularly on the weakness and work out how you can use the new knowledge about yourself to shape your future.
  3. Take a pencil and paper and do the following
  • Make a sketch of your dream house. Now put a realistic price tag to it.
  • Make a realistic assessment of what your monthly savings should be and what you think should be your monthly income after you attain the age of 60.
  • Make a plan for an overseas holiday with your spouse and the roadmap to make it happen in the next 2 years.
  • Outline your definition of a successful person. Now write down your own success statement.

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Self belief is the key

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Eleanor Roosevelt

Nothing feels worse than the bitter taste of being accused of being a fool in front of people by some megalomaniacs who go out of their way to use their power and position to humiliate, insult and trample upon your ego. We do not retaliate simply because we are helpless in the presence of authority and possibly are too frightened to face the consequences of retaliation.  While not retaliating for one’s own good is common sense it is the deep humiliation that rankles us, which is what we need to objectively analyze and get control off.

To begin with we need to understand that the sick feeling we get in the pit of our stomach when insulted and humiliated is because of our primary feeling of being made to feel inferior in front of others. If we see it objectively, there is no reason why we need to feel that way because the faux pas is committed by the other party in attempting to run us down. That in no way means that we are not competent or capable and we should never let that feeling pervade our senses or our psyche.  However we are by temperament sensitive and while deep in our hearts we know that have our solid merits, our mind plays tricks and a seed of doubt starts sprouting. For no apparent reason we being to start doubting our abilities, question the motives of those who question our abilities and mentally juggle the humiliation seeking to find proof that we are not what is insinuated.

There are times when we fall into the trap of self depreciation and undermine our own strengths and abilities. When our mindset itself is skewed to doubts and failure, the slightest suggestion that we are in some way not meeting the standards makes feel inferior and worthless. We tend to harp psychologically on the minor mistakes we may have committed and then blow it out of proportion and conclude that we are not capable. Ironically when we have major achievements to our credit, we underplay it as something that is expected of us and so not of special significance. On the other hand if we believed in ourselves we may be subdued in our successes but definitely we would at least seek to clarify mattes if we our credentials or abilities are questioned or challenged.

What is common to the two reactions viz. the feeling of being made to feel inferior and the undermining of our own abilities is that we are responsible for both situations. If we had the self belief in ourselves and the courage of conviction to stand up to showcase our achievements we would never have to ever feel hurt, insulted or humiliated. Obviously then there is no feeling of being inferior to anyone and we actually have the daring to side step any false insinuations with dignity and self confidence.  It is when we give our consent to let people get away with false propaganda against us and when we do not take a proactive step to correct wrong impressions that is when we let ourselves feel inferior. The antidote is to think positive, have a winner’s mindset and project our true strengths to the world at large.

Remember: “While one person hesitates because he feels inferior, another is busy making mistakes and becoming superior.”  Henry C. Link

Try this:

  1. Make a list of the 5 most challenging achievements you have managed to date.  Outline the key factors that helped you succeed. Was your own self belief a major reason for your success?
  2. Ask yourself how often other peoples negative comments about your work or contribution have made you feel insecure, hurt and worthless?  Were those comments of the others really justified? How could you have responded differently and corrected the false impression they have about you?

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The Awakening

When a man begins to understand himself, he begins to live. Norvin G. McGranahan

Unlike animals who are disturbed only when their primal instincts are aroused, man is that odd creature who is more often than not disturbed, distracted and downcast. While food, survival, shelter and procreation are the stress areas of the rest of the animal kingdom, man adds to these worries by seeking recognition, craving for material wealth, ego massaging and fearing the future. Instead of working with his/ her strengths, man is more determined to stave off the competition even if it means focusing on bringing down the others rather than pushing themselves up.

When one begins to introspect, that is when there is a glimmer of awakening. With some effort one can begin to understand himself/ herself. This understanding could mean appreciating that competition is good for benchmarking, fear is a survival tool and not a motivator, change is permanent and needs to be befriended and that life is journey not a destination. When wisdom dawns it also exposes us to the layers of prejudices, perceptional anomalies that have made us myopic and the ill effects of short term vision that have blinded us from seeing the wider canvas that life has to offer.

It is only when man begins to understand himself that he sees the big picture and suddenly like sunlight that dispels the darkness, there is a new awakening within. We then no longer see ourselves as a small cog in a big wheel but rather as vital components in critical machinery. Our size/ role may look small, but like the fragile filament in a light bulb, we hold the power to light up or disrupt the scene. While we suddenly realize our own individual power, we also realize that it is only when we cooperate with similar likeminded individuals and collectively and unitedly act that we can make a substantial difference to our own fate our environment and the community at large.

The realization that he/ she wields much more power than what was originally visualized, is an inflection point that triggers a proactive revolution. We now seek to master our fate, overcome our self imposed limitations and attempt to be influential change agents.

Remember: “The awakening of potentialities of human beings is the most important thing in life”

Try these:

  1. Visualize yourself as the President of your country. Outline the 5 major change you will focus upon. Don’t just write clichés like Poverty Eradication or Free Education instead focus on one local level problem, one regional problem, one state level problem and one national problem that you are deeply concerned about.
  2. It is imperative we appreciative our strengths. Our biggest strength is the blessing of having our senses intact. To realize its value do the following. Blindfold yourself and potter around for an hour in your house. Do not sleep during this period but be constantly on the move. Next tie both your hands together with a piece of string and attempt to do your normal tasks for a day. This must be ideally tried in the morning when you get up so that right from brushing your teeth to making breakfast becomes a challenge. Do you have a better appreciation of your strengths? How will you use it better.

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