Tag: Success

Your response to change makes the difference

23- Your Response to change determines makes the differenceIt is well known that change is the only constant in life and that it is imperative to adapt to change. However today we view change from a different perspective, of how it is vital for us to understand and appreciate how we respond to the challenge of change, which is forever inundating us. To begin with we need to be aware that change is a process and our response is a compulsion, a reaction or an initiative. Our response will often determine the outcome of the effect that change has on us; change either imposes itself on us or we accept it with grace or we nurture it affectionately.

When change is a compulsion it indicates that we did not anticipate it or we ignored it or that we were too stubborn to accept it. If one is able to make peace with the reality that change brings about and even reluctantly accept the change it is possible that one can survive the effects of change. The biggest change is being brought about by the technological revolution. The older generation would psyche themselves into believing that they are not capable of adapting to the technological changes and as a result often feel lonely and isolated. Similarly organizations that did not feel the winds of change often got blown away when the technology revolution gathered momentum. In a fast paced world where the pace of change is in geometric proportions, it is only the people who change at least after the change who can survive. It is imposed and is then the compulsion of the times

When change is a reaction it implies that we are attuned to the happenings around and that one is open to understand, appreciate and gracefully accept the change. The numerous initiatives of NGO’s and governmental agencies to health concerns, ecological concerns, natural disasters, child labor, educational imperatives etc are in many ways changes that a more aware society is keen to highlight. Technology be it in the form of harnessing solar and wind energy or waste disposal or harnessing nuclear power are also changes that nudges us to become more aware and encourages us to quickly adapt and adopt the inevitable. People who change with change will succeed because they quickly reacted to the change they noticed and accepted.

When change is an initiative it is a proactive response to a concern, an opportunity or the creation of something absolutely new. Look around and there are ample problems all crying out for solutions. Those who can visualize these concerns as a possible problem to be solved would take the initiative to find solutions that would ultimately lead to a change. Similarly those who can creatively scan the environment to add value by shaking up the status quo are leveraging the opportunities around. The numerous apps that are mushrooming are a clear sign of how change is becoming an initiative that unlocks value for those who respond proactively. Then there are those who disrupt the existing order with revolutionary ideas and creations. The ATM machines, the credit card revolution, the online payment gateways have turned banking and finance on its head. Similarly the concepts of laser surgery, pain management drugs, robotic manufacturing etc. are initiatives that have redefined the existing world order. Notice that all these people cause the change bringing about a revolution; the Windows, Google, Facebook , Whatsapp are leading the world because they took the initiative to change.

Try these:

  1. Look around and identify at least 5 possible areas of improvement in the world around you. It is not necessary that you have the skill or competence to proactively make those changes but idea generation itself is a proactive initiative.
  2. Scan the news papers and websites to identify opportunities for you to take some initiative and give expression to your ideas/ creativity. E.g. Currently there is a short story writing opportunity for aspiring writers being run by a leading newspaper. Similarly there is one leading airline seeking ideas to incorporate in their app.
  3. Do you have any fresh / new ideas to address the following concerns
  • Make citizens avoid the use of plastic bags
  • Encourage citizens to segregate waste into wet and dry waste
  • Ensure that electricity is not wasted because street lights are not switched off in the day time or water is not wasted because a public tap is leaking or a pipeline has burst.
  • Make citizens aware of the status of public interest projects like road widening, building over overbridges, setting up of garbage / sewage disposal plants etc.

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Sucess is all about adopting stubborn goals and flexible methods

17-5 July 15 -Stubborn Goals and Flexible methodsThe constant challenge in life, is to sift options and zoom in on what one desires. This is because change is the only constant in life and change always redefines the future. When the future is being constantly redefined, every individual is required to make course corrections. However a course correction does not mean we need to change our destination but merely the route map and mode of getting there. Of course dramatic and major changes may require one to change the goals but even then the alternative chosen would be equally important and challenging. What does not change, is the desire to reach our goal. Success and achievement in life therefore hinge on how well you choose your goal, map out your way and stick to your plans. Here is a road map to success.

Choosing the right goal Right from school days when we have to choose the optional subjects, moving on to choosing the career path and later life goals in the chosen path we are constantly having do decide our goals. Most of the time we are confused, other times we realize our goals are beyond our capability or passion and then we have to revise our goals.

Deciding on a plan of action If selecting a goal is challenging, choosing the plan of action is relatively simple since the goal is clear. What is important is to think thorough the plans, being clear about the assumptions and also outlining the alternative plan/s. Backup plans are vital for they provide a quick alternative should our original plans get derailed. However, there is a real danger that we can get dogmatic and fixated about our original plan and approach. This could create problems if one does not factor in the numerous changes that come about, because of the dynamic environment around.

Reviewing the progress A plan of action is only as good as the progress one makes using it. It is imperative therefore that one constantly reviews how one is progressing and make adjustments for the deviations if any. All plans must have milestones and timelines and wherever possible assumptions based on which the milestones and timelines have been set. These will provide the yardstick for reviewing the progress.

Revising the plans – This is extremely difficult because we have to first acknowledge that we have slipped on our plans. Secondly it could also suggest that our plans were not well thought out. Thirdly it could imply we have to relook our personal competence and commitment as also keep us wondering if our goals are too ambitious or if we have the capability to execute our plans and realize the goals. Despite these self doubts and apparent set back, we have to look at revision of plans as a necessary detour to get back on track.

Continuing the journey – Whether we continue with our original plans or move on with the revised plans, what is important is to keep moving on. Sometimes we are bogged down by frustration, the slow progress, our inability to cope with pressures and setbacks; these are times when we are tempted to give up and stop. Focused and well directed efforts are never wasted but the progress and results may not always be visible. Faith is what will sustain and help one to push ahead no matter what the constraints.

Enjoying the success Since success will eventually come to those who believe in their dreams and goals, it essential that one learns to relish and enjoy success. Many a time, even when we reach the destination we are reluctant to appreciate and recognize that we have pursued and attained out goal. This is partly because along the way, we have lost hope or because we undervalue our success by comparing it with the achievements of others or because we have reset our goals to much bigger and loftier ones. While resetting goals, especially aiming for loftier goals is commendable, not valuing achievements would be like eating bland food for mere sustenance.

Try these:

  1. Go back and review your New Year Resolutions. How far have you succeeded? It is half way through the year and have you a list of things which you have not even started work on? Is it because you didn’t write down the action plan to achieve them?
  2. Choose one of the following as your major area of concern and write down the goal you hope to achieve this year so as to minimize your concern. Also outline the road map with timelines to help you attain it. If you already have a plan review it and make changes if needed to speed up the process of attaining your goal.
  • Improving your finances / savings
  • Bringing about a better work –life balance
  • Adopting a healthier lifestyle.
  • Attaining a significant professional / academic growth
  • Improving and strengthening your current family relationships
  • Working out an overseas holiday trip with family.

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Excuses Gone… Results GOT

15-20 Jun 15-Excuses gone results gotFrom early childhood, most of us have unconsciously adopted the undesirable trait of making excuses to rationalize non performance. It begins with us making excuses for our poor handwriting, our inability to meet deadlines or stick to our schedules, not doing homework etc. Later it manifests in us having various regrets be it in our academic performance, tardy work output, out inability to meet targets and deadlines and our constant rebuttal of any criticism directed at us. Unfortunately, in a highly competitive world, all that matters is results and no excuse is ever good enough for not meeting the expectations set. So achieving results is simply a matter of eliminating excuses.

Here are some tips to overcome our tendency to create excuses to rationalize non performance.

1 Have goals – The major difference between successful people and those who are not successful is the goal focused approach of the former set of people. When goals are set, one can direct one’s energies to focus on the goal. When the end objective is clear, we would always finds ways and means of overcoming all obstacles on the way. More importantly goals give a purpose, a direction and meaning to our life. A student who targets a certain rank or percentage in the exams knows that he/ she can attain it only if the studies are planned, prepared and diligently adhered too. Similarly, someone who has set his/ her eyes on a specific career choice would also then chart out the progress systematically, get appropriate inputs and suggestions and pursue the goal with passion.

2.Inbuilt motivation – A goal helps one to see the and aim for something specific. However, very often the goal is at a distance, the efforts required herculean, the obstacles along the way challenging and we are prone to give up and make excuses to justify our stand. Hence it is essential that we have some strong compelling motivation to keep us going even when our spirits are drooping, our physical energies failing and our mind wavering. A good motivation is the perfect antidote for our tendency to make excuses. Have you noticed that when one is eagerly looking forward to something pleasurable like going for a picnic, an holiday or even to see a movie we would find a way to overcome any obstacle that crops up for we are deeply to motivated to attain that goal.

3. Avoid giving in to temptation – Perhaps the single most common excuse comes from the fact that we succumb to the temptation to chase pleasurable alternatives rather than focus on the goal in front. Going for a friend’s birthday party or watching an interesting match on the day before a crucial exam or running errands that could have been postponed, to avoid studying are examples of giving in to temptations. A strong sense of priority, a firm resolve to remain detached from pleasurable alternatives, a deep desire to attain the goal set are essential to ensure that one doe not waver from the plans laid out. A very strong motivation like proving your mettle, surprising your critics, being with the best would surely be torch light that beams on the goal and guiding you towards it.

4. Relish achievements – Life would be both boring and stressed if we are only obsessed with attaining our goals. Every goal is actually a series of smaller goals being realized along the way. It is essential that we are aware of each of the sub goals and more importantly pause to enjoy and relish the attainment of these sub-goals. When we are able to relish the small achievements, they provide us added motivation, inspiration and energy to pursue our larger goals. If we take the case of academics, there would definitely be a subject or two that we do not enjoy as much as other subjects. The challenge then is to remain enthused to focus on those subjects so that the learning and subsequent results contribute significantly to one’s larger goal of academic excellence. It is important to enjoy the thrill of completing the set targets especially for those subjects that one finds tough or boring.

5. Don’t give up easily – Many a time, it is not the temptation of alternatives but the sheer pressure of the effort that would deflate our enthusiasm, sap our energy and depress us. Those low periods are the times when one is extremely vulnerable to throw in the towel and quit. Giving up is easy and the excuses will flow but the reality is that your goals remain unattained dreams. When the going gets tough, that is when one has look within for inspiration, motivation and positive action. Maybe a short break would help rejuvenate, perhaps the counsel of an elder or expert would bring fresh perspective or maybe you just have to change tracks and pursue the goal by traversing a different path; what is important is to continue not stop.

Remember that when excuses are gone results are got !

Try these:

Do you like the contents of this post? Whether you like it or not can you take time out to comment on this post? Remember NO EXCUSES !

Keep checking the site to see if your comments are published and how many share your views about this blog post.

Don’t forget to relish your achievement of commenting and letting others know that you did make practical use of the learning from this blog post!

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Choose well and make a difference to your life this year

26-30 Dec 14choose atleast one and make this new year even betterAs the year 2014 comes to a close, we can reflect on the past and plan for the future. Reflection will enable us to track the highpoints as well as the low points of our life in 2014. It gives us a sense of fulfilment tinged with some remorse and possibly some regret too at the wasted opportunities. The image above gives us a plethora of options to reflect upon. You must also look at other aspects of your life and recount those special moments of elation and dispassionately analyze the low points of your life too. More importantly, reflect hard on the learning derived from the low points.

Once the reflection is done with, concentrate on the wonderful future ahead of you. There is so much that one can aspire for, strive to achieve and make dreams come true. True success however will still be the peace, calm and contentment that you derive every single day. However for the vast majority of us who cannot lead a mendicant’s life but has to earn a living and provide for the family, it is our work life and family life that we need to pay attention too. Obviously there would be periods of stress, issues of moral and ethical dilemmas, complicated decision making and challenges of balancing personal and professional life. Despite these myriad of unpleasant challenges bringing life on even keel is possible if you were to focus on some of the positive affirmations enumerated above.

Use atleast one of the affirmations enumerated above as the pivot around which to base your life and daily living in the coming year. It might be a simple affirmation but when you try to put it in practice throughout the year, it could suddenly loom large as insurmountable mountain. Yet with awareness, determination and focus one can stick to the affirmation and soon it would become a life changing habit. Give it a try and see yourself change into an even more happier, contented and successful person this year. Let this be your first resolution for 2015.

My best wishes to you for the New Year 2015 !

Try this:

  • Write down 3 of your favourite proverbs / sayings. Reflect on how or why the sayings/ proverbs appeal to you. Can you find an affirmation that comes close to the saying or proverb you like?
  • Draft a letter to an intimate friend outlining the year gone by and your plans for the coming year. End the letter with 3 requests to your friend asking him/ her to do something specific for you to help you achieve the plans set for the New Year.

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Enthusiasm holds the key to success

23-24Nov 14- Success seen differentlyIn life, as in cricket no one hits a six of every ball or gets a wicket of every ball. However a cricketer continues his quest with enthusiasm and hope. Yet the same person would often feel dejected, disheartened and disappointed when his/ her life is not smooth sailing. The difference lies in how one perceives his / her involvement in whatever one undertakes. When one is passionate and involved in one’s pursuits, we would be enthusiastic about it. Maintaining this enthusiasm holds the key to one being persistent, passionate and purposeful no matter what the situation, obstacles or failures we may have to surmount. Here are some ways to enthuse yourself at all times.

Acceptance – This is the first step to getting enthusiastic about what you are engaged in. Most of the time we find fault with the job we have on hand or we focus on what we do not like about the task on hand. As a result it becomes very difficult for us to appreciate the opportunities we have to make a good impression. Those who are successful make the effort to accept the opportunity presented to them and then make best use of that opportunity by enthusiastically doing their task.

Temperance – This refers to one’s ability to bring a sense of proportion or balance to whatever one has to do. Many people get over enthusiastic when they have a new task. While this does help them start enthusiastically, the moment they encounter a problem or a hiccup in their progress, they get quickly disheartened and dispirited. On the other hand there are many who approach a new task with great apprehension and trepidation. They are cautious and circumspect and would be slow to get going and constantly seek reassurance that they are on the right track. This would result on them in displaying lack of confidence, become touchy about criticism and they would find it hard to generate sustained enthusiasm. Having a healthy balance between wild enthusiasm and extreme caution would ensure that a person is confident, motivated and pragmatic about delivering the results.

Perseverance – When one is enthusiastic one would persevere till one succeeds. Ironically perseverance results in progress which in turn becomes the fuel that keeps the fire of enthusiasm burning. Perseverance is not a virtue many are gifted with, yet it is a virtue that the successful people have carefully cultivated. Perseverance is energy sapping because one has to have self belief even in the toughest times; it demands commitment to the cause; it often asks more questions than one can correctly answer and most of all it has to overcome criticism, negative self talk and pessimism. Yet, when one perseveres it produces outcomes, not necessarily successful ones but certainly helps us know where one is going wrong but more importantly it enthuses us as we know we are getting closer to our achieving our goals.

Deliverance – They say nothing succeeds like success; which simply emphasizes the fact that one needs to deliver on ones promises. Deliverance does not refer only to the final result but also refers to successfully completing the intervening steps that leads to success. When one gets positive results, it peps one up and enthuses one to put in more positive energies so as to attain success. Occasionally one progresses well for a while before one comes across a huge challenge but the fact that one could deliver successfully and progress provides the enthusiasm to marshal all our resources to overcome the challenges faced.

Try this:

  • Are you enthusiastic enough to give your feedback about this post?
  • Assume you are given charge of organizing one minute games to be played at a party. Make a list of 10 one minute games that you are sure will keep participants enthused and eager to play
  • Choose anyone of the following activity that you have never attempted before and try to gain a level of expertise in it.
  1. Learning 2 new card tricks
  2. Learning a new sport like bowling / bridge/ snooker
  3. Learning a new style of dancing
  4. Writing a poem /limerick/ haiku
  5. Attempting a new art form like pottery / bonsai / origami

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Let your dreams lead you

ImageFor a rather long stretch of time for a variety of reasons my blog posts were not being regularly updated. While the issues that confronted me were varied, on hindsight none of them were serious enough to qualify as valid excuse for not keeping up with my target of writing at least once a week. It was therefore very fortuitous that I came upon the above quote, which kick started me to get back to my writing.

It is said that one cannot be pushed from behind or pulled from the front but has to be driven from within, to achieve and attain success. It is in this context that a dream is a must for every individual so that it becomes a goal and a reason for us to aspire, perspire and acquire success. With a dream comes the waking up to reality; with the dream comes the desire to act; with the dream comes the possibility of achievement.

Waking up to reality: Dr.Abdul Kalam famously said that ‘A dream is not what you see in your sleep; it is something that does not let you sleep’. Translate your interests, passion and dreams into a tangible, vivid and positive goal. With this goal as the focus, outline the logical steps to be taken to move towards the goal. Obviously there would be obstacles that loom large, difficulties that seem insurmountable, self-doubt about your own capabilities all of which nudge you to realize that you have to be prepared to accept the reality that your dreams are attainable provided you are ready to pursue your dream with pragmatism, optimism and enthusiasm.

Dreams evoke the desire to act: While the reality would be challenging and terrifying at times the dream itself would be alluring, exciting and exceptionally rewarding. It is these enticement that help you take proactive steps to pursue your dreams by taking your first steps that you have already visualized and outlined. Even when there are setbacks or frustrations the effort taken will never be in vain for you would have traversed quite a distance, made significant commitments by way of various resources and turning back or giving up would be not an option at all, Perhaps you would pause to review, re strategize and or rework your plans but the dream would be your goal.

Strong possibility of achievement. It is the compelling and tantalizing lure of the dream that will always provide the pull and magnet for effort to bear fruit. You can always make your dreams come true once you have begun in faith, proceeded with gusto and believed in yourself. Watch out and avoid falling prey to criticism, setbacks, resource limitations and fear. A worthwhile dream will always fuel your spirit, nourish your desire and propel you to take the leap of faith that bridges the chasm between giving up and getting up.

I just did it… you can do it too…dream big…stay cool…receive in abundance.

Try this:
Prioritize these
Achievement
Money
Relationships
Recognition
Satisfaction
Challenge
Learning
Frugality
Position
Power

Take the first 3 top priority and jot down a couple of dreams that can seamlessly incorporate our priorities and at the same time give you the impetus to follow your dream.

What is the one Problem and one Dream that you have in connection with the following
The Government
Environment
Social Change
Youth
Education
Animal Welfare
Health care

So what are you doing to achieve your DREAM for each of the above despite the problems that you have indicated?

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Launching yourself

13-9- One step back 2 forward

It is that time of the year when the exam fever is at its peak and both students and parents are in a tizzy coping with the stress of doing well in the exams. The real stress actually comes a wee bit later as the day of the results draws near. While for some there could be jubilation, for a fair amount of people there could be dejection but the vast majority would be plagued by a sinking feeling that the outcome could have been or should have been better. An analysis would possibly reveal that an overwhelming majority are disappointed that the outcomes fell short of their expectations. In effect just about everyone seems to think that the academic pursuits have actually dragged them back or atleast impeded them in the race to a successful future.

The scene with the adults is no different. On one hand they seem to be dragged down by the weight of propping up their wards to excel, they also are bogged down by the pressure to attain personal success professionally, financially, personally and socially. Many a time, success seems elusive, the goals seem distant and the pressure becomes overwhelming. The collective weight of balancing personal expectations, professional growth and domestic bliss seem to be huge load to manage. Often we are tempted to throw in the towel and give up; our spirits are drooping and the rewards seem unappetizing.

Yet it is at the very nadir that one must dig his /her heels in, take a deep breath and with faith and hope launch a herculean effort. Be it an arrow, a trigger or a shotput; to get results we need to take that vital pull back to get the momentum to hit the mark. Take a look at a pole vaulter and notice the sharp arch of the pole brought about by the weight of the individual before the momentum and the technique dramatically enables the pole valuter to go much higher than the pole and safely cross over the barrier. The subtle message is that one often needs to take one step back before one can take two steps forward.

Success is often like a game of snakes and ladders. There are times when we get lucky and climb up faster but many a time we get gobbled up by the snake and come right down. Do we stop playing the game every time we get gobbled by a snake? The challenge in real life is not to let the snakes, be it poor academics or a personal handicap or poor self esteem or financial setbacks or a colossal blunder, become an excuse to give up.

Try this:

  1. Go to a long jump pit and stand at the edge and jump. Have 3 tries and measure the best effort. Now walk back 10 steps and then run down and jump and measure the distance. You can be sure the latter effort where you actually walked back, away from the pit and then gave it your all gave you superlative jump.
  2. Find out the personal limitations / failures that the following overcame before they achieved success
  • Ludwig van Beethoven
  • Helen Keller
  • B. S. Chandrasekhar
  • Walt Disney
  • Tapishwar Narain Raina

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Look at your success…now don’t give up

Perhaps the only time in life one has to look backwards in order to proceed forward, is when one needs to appreciate the progress made and then resolve to better it. Nothing amplifies this better than our constant need to evaluate the progress made by regular exercise and diet, be it to reduce weight or to tone one’s body. Alas in our anxiety to get quick results we expect miracles and we fail to notice the small but significant changes that are milestones towards our goal. If the overwhelming majority of people give up their exercise routine it is not because of their inability to cope with the demands of the routine as much as it is because one fails to find the motivation to keep going.

Look closely at a toddler making its first steps. There is first a very tentative and unsteady attempt which could after a step or two end up in a fall. Yet, natures mysterious ways and the innate desire to replicate the initial success gravitates itself to spur the toddler to attempt his/ her walk again. Falling down is merely a unavoidable hazard but the freedom brought about by being able to walk is what drives the child to master it. The child also had one huge advantage; it has no concept of fear or failure or logic. These three stumbling blocks combine in varying proportion to scare, demotivate and silence adults from realizing their full potential.

The best antidote for fear, failure and illogical thoughts is rational goal setting, proactive response and reviewing progress. If we have no goals we are never sure of what we want nor do we know that we have received what we want. People who are bored, those who are listless and those who are constantly complaining are generally people who have no clue about their goals. Without goals they are like rudderless ships being tossed about in the ocean called life with no particular direction or port of destination.  Proactive response is possible only if once has something to work towards. Equally importantly one has to be motivated to get that momentum to respond.  Character and upbringing too have a huge bearing on how proactive a person is. Self belief and self worth would provide the fuel that enables one to zealously respond proactively and progress in life.

The ultimate driver of success though is the thrust got from a sense of achievement. To begin with this would have to be visualized; seeing one achieve the ultimate goal. When proactive response is initiated, then the vision is translated into the reality of the progress made. By reviewing the progress regularly, no matter how daunting the task, there is realization of having begun, progressed and nearing the goal. Perhaps it is this formula that has spurred legions of mountaineers to scale the Himalayas, the adventurers to attempt risky expeditions be it to the North Pole or South Pole or in the pursuit of discovering continents.

Ever wonder what motivates sailors to attempt solo round the world expeditions? The answer lies in the clarity of their goal, the proactive preparation towards achieving that goal and with every passing day they rejoice in the progress made and feel motivated that they are homing into steadily towards their ultimate goal. They are never daunted by what could happen, how much more is yet to be done nor do they ever question their own skill or ability to achieve what they set out to do.

Try this:

  1. Choose one social service activity that you are passionate about. Outline 3-5 goals you believe you must set out to achieve by your personal involvement. Get going and track your progress. Review your initial plans but keep going without abandoning the project no matter what the impediments.
  2. Jot down ways and means to achieve the following
  • Reduce your current monthly expenses by 10% or more
  • Increase your monthly income by 5% or more
  • Ensure you manage an annual savings of at least 20%  of your annual income.

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It is OK to make mistakes.

Assert your right to make a few mistakes. If people can’t accept your imperfections, that’s their fault.  Dr. David M. Burns

Perfection is what is ideally expected from each one of us; our parents want us to excel in academics and sports and the extracurricular activities. The expectations from teachers, friends and extended family are almost equally demanding. Subconsciously then, we have imbibed the need to be fiercely competitive, strive to be perfectionist and despise mistakes of any sort. There are broadly 3 long term negative consequences of these subconsciously imbibed thoughts .

Our fierce determination to succeed no matter what the means used. With high expectations prodding one along, the pressure to succeed and the terrible fear of failure invariably leads one to find ways and means to succeed. We may find some ingenuous loop holes, interpret the rules to suit our needs and in rare cases even resort to dubious means to succeed. The most common example is the invariably temptation to copy, be it in exams or in assignments. Bribing, cheating, swindling are the invariable scale up of this mentality that pressurizes us to seek success at any cost.

Our reluctance to accept or understand our imperfections When criticized our immediate reaction is to rationalize and often we accept the criticism with poor grace. With rare exceptions almost every time a criticism is leveled against us there is fair bit of truth in it, but alas our mind has been conditioned to accept only praise and acceptance and criticism is taboo. Our imperfections become more accentuated when we face more competition, are exposed to people having superior skills and we face challenges that daunt us. Excuses are the most favored means of deflecting criticism. Fault finding, rebuttal, counter criticism, backbiting are other common means of expressing our reluctance to accept the reality of our imperfections.

Our reduced risk taking ability. The fear of not succeeding, the lack of confidence that comes from the intense pressure of expectations and the inability to accept failure as an acceptable option, forces a person to avoid taking any risks. In life taking a calculated risk is the norm but when our calculations are mentally skewed to ensuring only success then more often than not we prefer not to participate if given the option. Other times we put on a facade of participation giving up too quickly under some pretext, make excuses to prepare others not to expect too much and line up a litany of reasons to rationalize or justify failure or non participation.

All this adds to up to one leading a life filled with numerous negative emotions including remorse, regret, fear, jealousy, doubt and a feeling of inadequacy.  To overcome this one has to do the following 3 things.

Learn to accept the reality. Be pragmatic about ones strengths and weakness. In every race on the tracks there can be only one winner, yet there will be numerous participants who despite their reservations about being the best believe they have a chance for they are one of the best. There are many who participate to gain experience and learn from it.

Be less critical both of self and others. We are often harsh on ourselves especially when we make silly mistakes. In the same vein we can be extremely harsh with others who we perceive to have made silly mistakes. This attitude minimizes our ability to trust ourselves, makes us habitually see the pitfalls and does not infuse enthusiasm to attempt. By being less critical, more tolerant and heartily embracing the outcome of our efforts and that of other irrespective of the results, we can emerge from our self imposed hiatus.

Prepare and participate enthusiastically, embrace failure with grace and try again with fortitude and self belief. Unless one has taken efforts to succeed mere participation won’t result in success. Just as studying is a prerequisite even for the most brilliant to succeed it is essential that one prepares before enthusiastically participating. Thereafter the outcome should not be seen as indication of either a comprehensive success or a decisive failure but merely as a fair outcome. Let not failure impede your will to try again nor let a fluke victory be seen as the pinnacle of success. What is important is to try to exceed the benchmarks attained.

Remember: The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one. Elbert Hubbard

Action Points:

  1. Choose the one or two aspects of your life that you are most criticized for and try to resolve the issue by trying consistently for a month. Eg. Reducing your weight/  girth or a bad habit of being critical of everything / your tendency to overuse certain words like you know, ummm., hmm, you see  etc.
  2. Try the following simple activities and see if you can overcome your own inhibitions.
  • Thread a needle
  • Learn 3 new words every week and use it in your communication
  • Find something positive everyday in someone you dislike
  • Experiment with something goofy eg. Wearing mismatched clothes/ wearing a hat to work (if that is not part of the attire)/ surprising your friends/ colleagues with some goodies for no particular reason.

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Dear Friends,

Today’s post is very different from the normal posts. I am taking this opportunity to share with some salient features of this blog and to update you about how it has shaped up over the last year and a half. For me, the very thought that I have managed to last so long in my quest to share with you some Inspirational and Motivational content is both  an exhilarating feeling and a humbling thought. Exhilarating because this blog has achieved a milestone of over 70,000 views and 500 followers in this realtively short span of time.  A BIG THANK YOU to EACH of you who visit the blog and especially for the 500 odd ardent followers of this blog. I am humbled by the realization that but for your encouragement, this blog would never have reached these milestones.  A special thank you to the many followers, who have given their comments, rated the blog and passed on the links to friends and contacts.

In January 2010 when this blog began, I kept an ambitious target of writing every single day. The first few days were heady for in the initial enthusiasm I was able to keep writing daily. Reality soon hit me hard, when within a few weeks, the effort became laborious, the ideas stopped flowing and the rather forlorn thought that no one was reading my blog became a big dampener. Fortunately for me a few colleagues, some friends and surprisingly a number of strangers soon signed on as followers and then overnight I felt responsible to ensure that they were given their daily fix of Inspirational and Motivational inputs. I am proud that in the first 365 days I managed to write for a good 340 days or so and some of the days I didn’t post was simply because I was overseas then.

This year 2011, I have cut down my posts drastically. The strain of writing everyday was a wee bit too much and once I had proved to myself that I could write every single day, the challenge was missing too. More importantly, there have been other commitments that have taken centre stage and so the blog has had to bear the brunt of it. I am not too disappointed though primarily because I also got some feedback that there was reader fatigue since the daily posts saturated their ability to imbibe the contents, attempt the Try This and experience the learning. I also noticed a steady drop in feedback and rating which to my mind also signaled an overdose of the blog. However there have been a few ardent fans who have kept inquiring why I have cut down on the blog posts and they have reinforced the belief that my work is not in vain. The sudden spurt in followers over the last couple of months has also been very encouraging. I shall definitely be writing the blogs, perhaps twice a week.

I would welcome FEEDBACK from each one of you about the blogs, my sharing today and would welcome both bouquets and brickbats if any. I would urge you to continue to patronize the blog, spread word about it to those who you feel will benefit from the contents and be assured that I shall continue to pontificate as before.

I take this opportunity to Thank Each One of YOU once again for your support, patronage and appreciation  of both www.actspot.wordpress.com and www.poweract.blogspot.com

Wishing each of you success in your endeavors and in having a fulfilling life filled with love, happiness and contentment.

Warm regards

B.Jacob

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