Tag: Vision

Live your dreams

Live your dreams

Parental direction, supervision by teachers and society expectations are the influences with which most of us are brought up with. As a result, the conditioning of individuals is largely focused on pleasing the expectations of these diverse set of influencers. Net result is that we surrender our individuality, create an artificial being who is meeting expectations of others but is often deeply dissatisfied within. To break out of this circle is tough because it would mean charting one’s own course with little hope of support and the possibility of not fully attaining the dreams one has. Yet the fact that we have just one life and it is better to make it ‘my own life’ rather than ‘trying to fit into someone else’s view of life’ should be incentive enough to break out and furrow one’s own path.

Dream it – The path to your personal glory begins when you can dream about what is the glory you seek for yourself. The dream need to be grandiose, it can be off beat, it must be something that ignites enthusiasm in you and above all it must be clearly visible in your inward eye. You want to be the top honcho; go for it. You want to play for your country; nothing can stop you except you. You just want to be a happy contented person; seek ways and means to realize that dream. Just ensure it is your personal dream not something you are doing to make someone else happy. The size of your dream does not matter. The quality of your dream determines how you go about attaining it.

Develop it – If the dream is clear, it is time to wake up and get about the business of achieving it. It all begins with planning. Create a blue print; develop a road map; outline the milestones. No dream is realized by pure luck. You want to win a lottery; first step is to invest in the ticket. So everything begins with having a goal, charting out the steps to realizing it, in built the strategy to overcome hurdles, be mentally prepared for a long haul and then start.

Do it – The key to shaping the world the way you want it is by beginning in earnest, continuing with passion and striving for excellence. It is possible that along the way there would be hiccups, obstacles, demotivation and frustration. Yet if the goal is clear the patch well chalked out and your confidence and self belief intact, you will ride the momentum built by your passion to reach the destination. However, action is a long drawn out and often a lonely journey. At times it makes you revisit your own decision. Other times you get energized by the thought of achieving what you have dreamt of. Many a time you will be criticized, condemned, ridiculed and roughly sidelined. That is when your intense desire to leave your own unique mark in the world will be the only thing that will fuel your spirit to create, conquer and rule your own destiny.

Try these:

  1. Try living for a month on one third your normal monthly expense.
  2. Give 4 hours of your time weekly to any social cause. Be part of a social organization or do something tangible for a cause you believe in.
  3. Work on overcoming one bad habit you know is limiting your effectiveness.

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Don’t Quit but ideally go ahead and DO IT

Don’t Quit but ideally go ahead and DO IT

In a fast paced materialistic world, quick success is what the expectation norm is. Unfortunately this also comes with a downside that people give up too fast when they do not attain what they seek in the short time frames they set for themselves. Society in general, the family unit and the community in particular are equally to blame for pushing people to achieve unrealistic expectations. Higher exam scores, high paying jobs, amassing wealth etc. have become the yardstick to judge success. Gone into the background are qualities like hard work, honest ways, morals and etiquette’s. Perhaps this explains the rising suicides, the increase in psychological/ neurotic illness, spate of violence and rampant intolerance reflected in incidence of road rage, robberies, cyber crimes and off late trolling. The average conscientious citizen then is under tremendous pressure to perform or quit. It takes tremendous courage, will power and self respect to follow ones dreams, passion, goals and to express ones thoughts freely, in the face of constant scrutiny, criticism and unrealistic expectations from others.

I am sharing an Acronym that should be a good guide to help you overcome the feeling of quitting and instead of simply saying a passive Don’t Quit and keep it for another time, become proactive and go on and DO IT  :

Develop – The focus is on finding ways and means to work and bring into fructification various dreams, aspirations, goals that you have set for yourself. Do not let criticism, negativity or failures hamper you from pursuing your ultimate aim. Developing your mind, spirit and work is essential for you to make progress however slow in the right direction. The task may seem ominous, it may begin to sprout doubts in your mind but as long as you plant the seeds of self belief, exude passion and are prepared to roll up your sleeves and work you will develop in body, mind and soul.

Opinions – Form your own opinions and also seek the opinion of those who matter. Consult elders, experts, mentors and those in your circle of positive influence. Each of them will be able to contribute even if it is by way of constructive criticism or pragmatic wisdom or by simple encouragement. Remember they have your welfare in mind. However, also remember that they may not be able to see your vision or feel your passion and so they could be conservative in their thinking and opinions. Ultimately you have to assimilate and then decide the course of action or the corrective course of action to be taken. Focus on Doing it.

Ideas  – You mind might be spinning with ideas. You see opportunity in various forms. At the same time you could also be seeing problems in every opportunity. Remember that the problems are there to make you grounded and realistic but not put to make you pessimistic and faint hearted. At times some ideas seem to be exceptional and you are just itching to get it going. All ideas need to be vetted thoroughly and mulled over and planned. Only then can you begin. Follow the process and Do It.

Thoughts – The crux of success lies in your ability to think positively. Your thoughts must be focused on achieving your plans and goals. Your thoughts must be on finding solutions, overcoming obstacles and managing constraints. This will enable you to come up with alternatives, bring about clarity on how to proceed further and will also reinforce your belief in your plans. Never let the mind falter when you face a crisis. Instead, use the power of you mind it to think differently, to be innovative and to be goal focused. Solutions will present itself . All you need to do then is DO IT.

 Try these:

What are the three things you have kept on hold and not attempted yet. How about drawing up an action plan to DO IT?  Then instead of just saying Don’t Quit but I shall keep it on the back burner now say DO IT and get cracking.

How about attempting something new that you never ever thought of doing?  Maybe learn some new skill or be a wee bit more adventurous with your choice of picnics/ parties / get together. Go on ensure that you DO IT differently the very next opportunity that comes.

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My vision for the New Year

18- 01 - 01 Jan 18 -Your visionA New Year; a new perspective for the year is the aim of this post. Rephrased – it is MY New Year and therefore it is MY Vision for the year that I will lay out.

It is obvious that each person reading this post will have to identify and enumerate his/ her own vision for the year.  What is common though, is the following reality that is applicable to each individual :

You need to see your vision –  This is perhaps the toughest aspect of the  process of visioning. It requires that the individual spend time thinking about what he/ she wants from life, the goals to be set, the process of attaining the goals, the dreams and aspirations one has, seeing a larger picture of the personal future that one hopes to attain. The process is constantly evolving through out one’s life time. What is critical is the individual being able to regularly nourish the dreams/ vision with hope, faith, effort and passion.

You need to trust your vision – The trouble with visioning is that we start questioning ourselves and our abilities to attain what we deeply cherish. If the individual cannot trust his dreams, it will be extremely difficult for him/ her to convince others, to personally put in the best and to work with passion towards the vision. The biggest problem comes from naysayers, critics, well meaning but vision-less family, friends and mentors. Your vision is something you have set for yourself and so it is almost impossible for others to appreciate and understand its significance for you. When the vision is clear, the passion strong and the effort ceaseless, nothing can stop you from attaining your vision.

You need to work for your vision – You and you alone have to take responsibility for realizing your vision. You cannot blame circumstances, fate, detractors for your failure to realize your dreams. Hard work, smart work and focused effort will be the bed rock on which any vision gets realized. No one but you can do it. Of course, one needs to evolve the vision to suit the times. One needs to be pragmatic yet optimistic, passionate without being obstinate, learn to adopt and adapt current trends and plan with purpose and execute with diligence.

Try these:

  1. Just list out 5 goals you seek to achieve in the next six months. Ensure you have an inbuilt measure to determine your progress each month.
  2. Write down what you will do with a one million ( ten lakhs) rupees lottery that you win?
  3. Outline your vision with respect to the following
  • Increasing your knowledge
  • Enhancing your financial well being
  • Contributing to social causes
  • Making your family life even more fun filled

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Knowing is not enough

15-11 Apr 17-Steps to takeThe lessons of life are not learned by reading text books or self help books or by observation alone. The real learning happens when we apply the knowledge and get a firsthand experience. Imagining the outcomes won’t help. It is in doing that we appreciate the nuances of the learning, the pitfalls that we never visualized, discover our own strengths and resilience and occasionally realize our own inadequacies. The best part of applying our learning is that we know instantly how capable we are of fulfilling our potential and how much more capable we are of doing a task even better. There is of course the risk of failure, of the realization that perhaps we are not cut out for something or painfully discovering that our potential is not good enough to be the best. However, there is also the possibility of discovering some unknown strengths, talents and potential that come to the fore only when we apply our knowledge. The Try This activities listed in the end of each post are a simple method for each reader to apply the learning from each post and get to appreciate your own strengths and potential.

The best way to get yourself going is by getting started by following the steps listed:

Have a personal vision – This is the key to every activity a person undertakes. Without a vision there is no goal, no motivation and no sense of accomplishment. Never do anything to fulfill an obligation. Instead do it because it challenges you, it motivates you, it interests you and because you want to do it. See yourself playing a vital role in huge process and suddenly you realize your own worth and contribution to the larger goal. This will stimulate and motivate you not just to begin the task but also to do an excellent job of whatever you undertake.

Barricade yourself from negativity – There would be well meaning critics who often would not be able to see your vision in the same light as you do. Listen to them but let not their criticism be a dampener to your vision. Failure could be another de-motivator but the challenge for you is to overcome it. The slow pace of progress, unexpected obstacles, the pressure to deliver results, self doubts etc. are all negative forces that could distract and distress you occasionally. Keep your eyes on your vision and proceed with faith.

View every experience as learning – Once you master the art of treating every experience as a step forward towards learning, you will treat success and failure with equanimity. Your motivator is the learning that you gain. Success and failure are simply milestones along the way of progress that indicates to you how far you have come and how far more you have to go.

Embrace success – While humility is an essential requirement to remain grounded, it is equally important that one learns to embrace and enjoy success. Enjoy the accolades, the recognition, the applause, the thrill of achievement. It is in embracing success that you fulfill your vision. For sure you can set up a new vision after that and proceed ahead. Occasionally there would be times when success comes at a price. At other times success is elusive despite your best efforts. Be realistic and focus on the progress made; that is success. Discovering your own inadequacies reflected in not being successful is also a learning and in a convoluted way, a learning success.

Try these:

  • Make a list of unfulfilled potential that people have often spoken to you about. Alternatively, list out some of your childhood dreams that you never pursued. Prepare a plan of action to get going on realizing at least one of those dreams.
  • From a personal growth / learning point of view, list out the activities that you do daily. Is there something more you can do to keep you physically and mentally upbeat.
  • Take the daily newspaper and go the leisure page and attempt some of those activities listed. E.g. Sudoku, cross words, wordplay, spot the difference etc.

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It is easy to be rich…

3- 17 Jan 16 It is easy to be richMonetary riches are tangible, easy to identify and hence envied by many. It also has tremendous value, influence and power for it is a common denominator for transactions. As a result, monetary riches assume importance, play a significant role in daily life and amassing it is a prime objective of human beings. However, money has its severe limitations; it cannot be traded for happiness, peace and bliss. On the other hand, if we looked around and identified our friends almost of all them would are your friends not because they are rich but because you find happiness, peace and bliss when with them. Your friends are perhaps the best riches you can ever possess.

However, you can also be rich in words, deeds and spirit by focusing on very personal and intangible riches that you can cultivate and personalize. 

Adopt good habits – We humans are creatures of habit. We tend to repeat, retrace and respond to daily happenings in almost identical fashion. Our attitudes, our beliefs and our behavior is largely influenced by the habits we have adopted and cultivated. If we cultivate the right habits we would be rich beyond measure because our responses would be exquisitely carved out, our manners and etiquettes would be prim and proper and above all we would be affable to others. Your habits enrich your interaction with others and in turn they value you.

Embrace lofty values – Your values would determine and influence your habits as also how you evolve. Your values would also determine the type of influence you exert over others for leadership is often an outcome of being steadfast to core values that are exhibited in thought word and deed. Values are like a compass that points you the right direction. Your value system determines your convictions, ability to hold your own even in the face of stiff opposition and your determination to keep going even when the odds are stacked against you. In embracing your values you enrich your spirit and your ideals.

Have a big vision Most of us meander through life simply because we do not have a big enough vision for ourselves. We work because we have to earn a living. We then end up hating our job, our routine and work becomes a drudgery. On the other hand those who progress in life, envision themselves doing work for a larger purpose. They do not see themselves as a mere cog in the wheel but aim to be the most important cog in the wheel that keeps the whole machinery going. Their big vision enables them to work with zeal, put in more effort and grow in their jobs and their life. With a big vision one can display enterprise, creativity, commitment and tangible worth. They enrich their own future and life by thinking big and widening their vision.

Stand by your commitments There is nothing as valuable as your word. A person who cannot stand by his commitment loses respect, is viewed as unreliable and is largely shunned by those who have had a bitter taste of his/ her false promises. A person who can stand by his/ her commitment gets endorsed, is respected and is trusted. Being trusted is a richness that no amount of money can buy.

Be disciplined – Our failures are not because we are not competent but because we lack the ability to be disciplined. Our ability to stick to our plans, our ability to keep going even when we do not seem to be succeeding, our ability to adopt a tough path so as to get closer to our goals require us to be disciplined. Discipline is the only way to align our values, our vision, our habits and our commitments so as to succeed in life. When we are disciplined we have an extra ordinary control over our own life. Discipline is not a virtue we can ever buy and yet it is a richness that each of us can nurture and cultivate within us.

Try this:

It is now midway through the first month of the year. You can still write down your resolutions, modify the resolutions written, write down an action plan to succeed in fulfilling your resolutions. Keep the above points in mind when doing this exercise.

What is your vision for a better city that you live in? What commitment can you make to ensure you contribute to that vision? What habits will you adopt to ensure you make significant strides towards contributing to your vision? What is the one discipline you will follow diligently to ensure that your habits and commitments are synced with your vision and values so that you can make a difference to the city you live in.

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Guide post to a fuller life…

13-11-It is not...The essence of life is in living it to the full; making the best of the opportunities that are there for the taking; overcoming the inevitable challenges that one would encounter along the way with equanimity and exuding with joy when reaching various destinations along the way. Yet each one of us would have some complain or the other, feel dejected and overwhelmed at times and most of us remain clueless as to how to make each day count as a blessing.

 

The focus of today’s post is on a 4 point agenda that should serve as guideposts to living our life to the full.

 

If only is a common lament oft repeated, in which we tend to look back and moan about our ill fortune be it our economic, social, academic background which we think has given us a handicap in achieving our dreams. For sure those with better economic, social, academic backgrounds start off with an advantage there is nothing that prevents us from bettering ourselves and finding our niche in life. However this is possible only if we know what is our Goal in life. A goal gives us something to work towards, helps us focus better and provides us the motivation to achieve. Every goal achieved is a success that adds to the thrill of life.  Your background means nothing… your destination is everything.

  

Getting up each morning is relatively easier then getting going. Look back at the excitement and eagerness with which we looked forward to the early dawn when going for a picnic or an outing. Can we replicate the same enthusiasm every morning? It is the mundaneness of daily chores, the repetitive nature of what we do, the noticeable lack of excitement once we get up that zaps our energies, makes us dull and leaves us dissatisfied and frustrated over the week. We get pepped at the thought of the weekend only to lapse again into a quagmire of self inflicted moroseness and victim syndrome. The key is in discovering some sort of Passion in the tasks on hand. The job on hand is part of life… you have to bring life into that job.

 

Having a fancy job title or belonging to an elite club or having a string of academic and social accolades might help one become charged up and possibly also get a head start in what we do. However remaining on top, earning respect and becoming a role model requires taking risks, accepting challenges, exploring new frontiers and overcoming failure. The key here is Fortitude. This is born out of self belief and the ability to go that extra mile because you believe that beyond that horizon lies a wondrous discovery.  It easy to take risks with a safety net below… taking a leap of faith is a different ball game but well worth it.

 

Each moment we are bombarded with a million different ideas, thoughts, and possibilities. Yet except when we are forced to by circumstances, we stick to the tried and the tested path. Often we carry the impression that exploiting and experimenting with offbeat thoughts and ideas is largely the prerogative of Artistes, thinkers, scientists and the line. Having a Vision is every individuals prerogative and subconsciously we do give expression in our dressing, in the way we do up our homes, in our expression of likes and dislikes and in making our choices. However what we fail to realize is that we suppress our vision with the hammer of pragmaticsm thus vetoing our thoughts idea and possibilities even before they get a chance to bloom. Knowledge gives us the theory… vision is the seeing the theory work in the mind, believing in it and then making it happen.

 

To live a full life, begin by visioning your goal, discovering your passion and then tightly hug each moment with a zealous fortitude born out of self belief. Now feel the difference and discover a new you!

 

Try this:

  • List out 5 exotic holiday destinations ( 1 in the mountain, 1 near the sea/ beach, 1 in the Jungle, 1 Overseas and 1 within 200 kms of your current place of stay, none of which you have been to before ) and then plan out your holiday to any one of them in the coming year.  
  • Irrespective of the occasion, for the next 3 functions / occasions where you have to carry a gift, try to give a completely offbeat gift. ( Hint : it could be as varied as a potted plant, a cute pet, a handy man tool kit etc.)

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Playing second fiddle

We cannot all be masters. William Shakespeare

The reality that we can aspire to be someone we crave to be does not lessen the pain of realizing that we may not realistically achieve it. The human ego, human temperament and human thinking often conspire to fool us into believing that we have it in us to be natural leaders and masters of our chosen field, vocation or team. To be a master, it is not just intelligence, pure expertise nor mere leadership skills that count; rather it is often a bit of everything and something sizeable in some key areas that counts. Just look at the ensemble of musicians who are giving a live performance and you will realize that the conductor is the master and though he does not play a single musical instrument during the performance, yet with his baton he has the entire entourage literally playing to his tunes.

In corporate world, seniority often is linked with leadership roles and yet, more often than not, we see young yuppies usurping leadership roles from the more experienced hands. The reason is simple, leadership requires not just experience and expertise but also vision and updated technological grasp. How do the more experienced hands cope with this reality that they may have missed the bus? Very often they are pragmatic and see the writing on the wall and take a cue and move out of the way either accepting the reality with dignity and playing along as a senior team member or they find another niche in the market place. The also ran’s in the political race to presidencies who may have lost their leadership aspirations typify those who nearly became masters but didn’t.  It may very little to do with their abilities or competencies but more to do with the political climate of the time, the perception of the electorate and occasionally blind luck.

Being a master is fraught with risks; risk of acceptance, risk of performance pressure and risk of failure. They also need to take critical decisions, often make unpopular choices, be ready to defend their actions especially when the going is tough and be prepared to take the flak of collective failure. Often becoming a master is not something that one aspires for but is delivered providentially. As would happened when a predecessor dies or moves out suddenly and the crown is passed on by virtue of being second in command. Here the pressure to perform and deliver becomes even more tricky for expectations are high, the circumstances perhaps not too favorable and personal confidence might not be at its peak.

Ironically each one of us is a master of our own life and we have to guide our own future, destiny and our successes. Thus even if we play just the second fiddle in an orchestra, we need to play it like a master second fiddle and then alone will we synchronize and harmonize the performance and win the applause. It is when we can master our own self that we can perhaps lay claim to greater leadership roles and when the honor is bestowed, one can lead with aplomb and leave a mark on the world.

Remember: “Performance is your reality. Forget everything else.” Harold S. Geneen

Try this:

  1. Honestly ask yourself as to what aspect in your life you have a good mastery. Eg. Some might be excellent cooks, others good at teaching or others are meticulous and orderly. If you find that you really are not a maser in anything attempt to choose and aspect of life that you would like to master. Work on it immediately and stick to it till you master it.
  2. Ask yourself if you shy away from leadership roles. If yes ask yourself why you do it? Is it lack of knowledge, inability to commit, poor leadership skills, fear of failure etc. that makes you refuse leadership positions? Now work on a method to work on those chinks that have let you down from taking on a master’s position.

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