Tag: Visualization

Growing by overcoming our weakness

Growth begins when we start to accept our own weakness.  Jean Vanier

As long as we are blind to the reality of where we can improve, our growth will remain stunted. It is only when we know where we are weak that we can begin to make a focused effort to overcome that weakness. It is tough to easily identify our real weakness because often we focus only on the symptoms rather than attempting to diagnose the real problem. It is even more difficult to accept criticism and so we often ignore negative comments, take a casual approach to feedback we get and prefer to rationalize all criticism with frivolous arguments. The net result is that we continue to struggle with our weakness.

A sportsman for example would find it extremely tough to realize why despite his hard work and practice sessions he is unable to reach the first place in various tournaments. A good coach will constantly monitor his performance and correctly identify if the problem is psychological, or if it is in the technique or it is result of poor strategy. Once the player accepts the coaches diagnoses and is prepared to make the changes recommended it is possible that he would be able to see better results. One reason we do not easily accept our weakness is because our ego comes in the way. The ego is vital to make us more competitive, aggressive and helps us focus on victory. The trouble starts when the ego assumes itself to be more powerful than the sum total of a persons abilities. Such ego refuses to accept that there are any flaws in us and we tend to ignore, underplay and / or brazenly refute any criticism that confronts us.

The second reason we are unable to confront our weakness is our inability to visualize. There are many intangibles in our life that prove to be the millstone that drags us down. Poor attitude, fear of failure, inability to think tactically, being lazy etc. are realities that are difficult to pointedly demonstrate. Any such comment is hard for many people to accept simply because they cannot visualize how it applies to them. Finally our reluctance to change will always be a stumbling block to accepting a weakness. If we accept a weakness, we will have to work hard to change it but many of us are so set in our ways that we dread the thought of making a change. Under such circumstances we prefer to stoutly deny any suggestion of weakness that would perpetrate the need to change and make adjustments. If we are told we are overweight we will make statements that it is temporary because we partied during a wedding in the family or that it is just the clothes that make us look fat or that we can still walk 5 kms without getting tired and so we are perfectly fit.

If we finally let better sense prevail and acknowledge our weakness we can at least make a beginning by trying to improve. However the process of improvement is challenging and painful. Challenging because we might have to unlearn and or double our efforts; painful because the results of our efforts would be time consuming, unpredictable and may not produce the results expected.  However the growth that remains unseen and unappreciated is in the fact that by accepting our weakness we have reduced our ego, improved our visualization and we are prepared to change our thoughts , actions and beliefs.

Remember: “If we’re growing, we’re always going to be out of our comfort zone.” John Maxwell

Try this:

  1. Take a pen and paper and attempt to write with the hand that you normally don’t use to write with. Keep up the effort for at least 3 spells of 10 mins. each for one week. Notice the progress from day 1 to day 7. How did it feel? Do you think you would have progressed faster if you had some motivation?
  2. List out 3 bad habits that you are constantly being reminded of. Chalk out a plan to reduce the bad habits that you have?  Have a time frame and clear milestones to ensure that you progress. Eg. If you bite your nails then you can buy a pair of gloves and wear it as often as possible or tell your partner to tell you when you indulge in the habit and collect a rupee from you each time.

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The future is almost here

I never think of the future.  It comes soon enough. Albert Einstein

The reason many of us never live up to our full potential is because we are constantly focusing on either the past that we cannot change or the future that is yet to arrive. While we can learn from our experiences of the past, it is pointless brooding on it and making regular ‘if only’ statements to placate our conscience. Unfortunately we spend a fair amount of time regretting the missed opportunities, hurting because we believe our approach or strategy was misguided and rue the fact that we never got a second chance. However the really bigger crime we are guilty of is fearing the future and day dreaming about it when one must actually be working to create it.

There is no doubt that planning for the future is essential for everyone but this is an exercise any prudent person will undertake in moderation. The tough part is accepting the reality called the future. What many of us visualize as the future seems light years away whereas the reality is that the future is charging towards us with every passing moment. What we really need to pay attention to is the task on hand. If we have one eye on the future we will be able to ensure that what we do is what really is the most important job, which will in the long term, align itself to our immediate and future goals.

Another blunder that we are guilty of, is our belief that the future is beyond our control. It is obvious that we can’t predict what the future really brings, but that doesn’t mean we cannot anticipate with reasonable accuracy what the future is likey to be.  By throwing ones hands up and letting the future pan out is taking a very fatalistic approach and the consequences can be disastrous. On the other hand if one were to imaginatively visualize the future trends, it is possible that we are reasonably prepared to meet it with more daring and preparation. There could be some very eventful happenings that catch us completely off guard and yet anyone who is prepared can overcome the initial shock or surprise and bring his / her life back to even keel soon enough and use the future winds to steer their course.

The best insurance for the future is good planning and a focus on today’s jobs.  The biggest advantage is that we are both busy and productive with little time to brood over what will happen. This means that we channelize our energies into activities that give us returns both monetarily and mentally thereby uplifting our self esteem and confidence. That apart, we slowly but surely are tackling the future as it unfolds without being too conscious about it and without knee jerk reactions or panic or euphoria.  We are able to adapt to the changes and adopt the new practices that swoop in on us and engulf us in its fury. While the future could make us technologically disadvantaged, it also brings us the fruits of the technological advances and at the end of the day the pros and cons even out.

We can surely spare a thought for the future now and ask ourselves what would be our response since the future is around the corner?  You must fight the ill effects of future trends and embrace the revolutions that the future brings. Ecological imbalances, depleting water resources, disposal of nuclear waste, disposal of electronic waste, hacking, phishing  etc are definite identifiable problems that the future will be staring at and we need to be proactive and take a firm stand to reduce and if possible eliminate these millstones of the future. The communication revolution, the health care and new drug therapies, the computing and data base management expertise etc are game changers of the future and it will be best that we accept it and adapt to its onslaught.

Remember: “I am not afraid of tomorrow, for I have seen yesterday and I love today.” William Allen White

Try this:

  1. List out 3 changes that you are finding hard to grapple with. Can you pinpoint the reason for not being able to adjust to these changes? Is it your fear that holds you back? Do you believe those changes wont really matter to you ?
  2. What are the 3 changes that you hope the future will bring that will benefit you a lot. Eg. A cure for diabetes or a method of reducing the insulin shots.
  3. What are the 3 changes that you are most pleased with? Eg. ATM cash dispensation or the proliferation of TV channels that enables one to keep busy in old age

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Realizing dreams

You have to have a dream so you can get up in the morning.  Billy Wilder

Unless one has a dream one cannot realize it. That is why is imperative that each of us have a dream so that when we get up each day there is something exciting and challenging for us to achieve and focus on. Most of us don’t even sleep well, and that is perhaps the reason we cannot have a dream. Many of us have nightmares during the day so we do not sleep well at night. Reality is that everyone has his/ her share of difficulties and his / her share of hopes aspirations and dreams.  What matters most is to first recognize our dreams for only then can we pursue it.

The problem many of us have is we chase too many dreams. We constantly shift our dreams and in the process do not focus our attention on what is really essential and immediate. Many of us have a very hazy idea of our dreams more money, more comforts, more happiness and more of everything that is material is the mantra we often live by. We cannot define how much is more and therein lies the problem of outlining what we want. E.g At this point make a rough sketch of the dream house that you would like to have. It is just a sketch so give vent to your imagination and don’t limit yourself by any form of budget constraints. Notice how hard it is for you to  decide the layout, the style, the number of rooms etc.

How can I know what my dream is? This is a question that troubles nearly all of us.  A simple way to identify your dream is to pause and reflect on what is it that constantly disturbs you. Focus on that and perhaps your dream will exist there. Eg. You always dream of owning your own business but you are an employee in a company.  Now starting your business may be the dream you have to realize. So begin by planning out the type of business that you think will suit your background. Work on the finer aspects of location, budget, competition, funding etc. All this will require hard work and extensive study. Notice though that because you have a dream you prepare to realize it and everyday your are excited , charged up and closer to realizing your dream.

It is also imperative to recognize that no one can realize a dream all by ones self. It requires the support and collaboration of many people. That is why we need to share our dream with others and be able to enlist their support. This automatically helps us focus and clarify on what our dream is and how we plan to realize it. Many times we get a boost from our potential collaborators who will encourage us and also give us valuable advice that can give better shape to our plans. To realize ones dream we need to have a dream and then get up each morning enthused and invigorated that soon we shall make our dream a reality.

Remember: A dream is not what you see when you sleep…It’s the thing which does not let you sleep” Dr. A.P.J Abdul Kalam

Try this:

  1. Make a list of 5 things you want to achieve before you die. Now break down each of those into 5 steps that you will need to do to achieve it and put a time frame against each step. Tape this list in a place that you can see it every day and start work on the dreams immediately.
  2. Form the habit of daily listing out things to do tomorrow before going to bed or better still before leaving your office. Start your day by going through that list and doing the work listed and evaluating your success each evening before you draw up the to do list for the next day.

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Your future is in your hands

Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you. Frank Tyger

There are many people who blame fate for their inability to realize their full potential. The gamut of fate could range from unfortunate hereditary, to plain bad luck in endeavors and could also involve the plea that they have involuntarily invoked the wrath of the gods for sins of past life. The sum and substance of their argument nay rationalization, is that fate has conspired against them for their lack of achievement.

It is true that the dice of fate could be loaded against you, but then that is true for every single one of us. Even the rich and the famous could wish for something better but for all the various variables that constitute fate. If you step back and objectively look at your achievements and visualize your future goals, it will dawn on you that quite often we are neither objective about the past nor realistic about the future. Worse still is our inability to clearly identify or define our future goals. If the goal itself is unclear how can you progress towards it?

If you want to define your future, no one else but you can do it. Beginning with identifying your goals, you must do a reality check about your aptitude and align you attitude to a winner’s mindset. Then, with a blue print of how you hope to map your way to your goal, proceed with confidence in your self and put in your best efforts. You will also soon recognize that you cannot achieve anything all by yourself so acknowledge and use the support you get along the way and after savoring the success when you attain the goal, chalk out higher goals.

Nothing puts the above quote in better light than that inspirational poem * Invictus by William E Henley. 

* click to read the poem

 Remember: The last two lines of the Poem Invictus by William E Henely ‘  

  •                                   I am the master of my fate: 
  •                                  I am the captain of my soul.

Try these:

  1. Take a pen and paper or if you prefer open a text file and start listing out your goals. One way to go about it is to list out all your passions and then regrouping them in to some logical order eg. Career, Sport, Social Service etc. Now work out the details of how you propose to achieve each goal. You can even classify them into immediate, short term (2-5 year time span) , long term goals. Put milestone and time frames for intermediate goals that will ensure that you are on track to achieve your major goals.
  2. See  https://actspot.wordpress.com/2010/01/28/visualization/dated January 28, 2010 on Visualization in this blog. Also attempt the Try these in the same post.

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Visualization

We all live under the same sky, but we don’t all have the same horizon. •Konrad Adenauer

There is a popular misconception that only artists, poets and writers are really creative and have extraordinary powers of visualization. In reality, every human being is blessed with these powers and this is one power that no one can take away from you. Look at the varied dreams that you have, which in many ways reflect the expanse of the mind in going beyond time, space and reality. Visualization is seeing beyond the obvious, thinking with the eye on the future, giving flight to imagination and stimulating passion to scale newer heights that can be translated into action.

While all of us have the ability to visualize, the extent, depth and scope of visualization would vary from individual to individual. Visualization helps one to see the big picture, the grandiose scheme of things and the success of ones mission. Perhaps that accounts for the fact that Visualization is one of the essential qualities for any leader. The exploits of Alexander the Great or East India Company or the Google Team have all one thing in common a large vision set by the leader.

Some may argue that day dreaming too  is a form of visualization which is but an exercise in futility. Day dreaming is for the fools, Visualization is for the enlightened. Daydreaming is merely a lazy way to live in a make believe world, visualization is the proactive way to chalk out the road map to building edifices that give expression to our yearnings, our talents and our efforts. While some look up and see just the tree tops or high rise buildings, others see the stars; those with vision see the patterns in the stars and follow them. Do you remember the three kings in the bible who went in search of the new born king by following the odd star.

Remember : See things as you would have them be instead of as they are. Robert Collier

Try these:

  • Do you have a personal list of all the things you would have loved to do in life if you ha the time and money? If not, write down that list NOW. Don’t worry if the list is having 25 items, more items means better visualization. Don’t limit your list for any reason; if it is something you wanted to, do just jot it down.
  • Do you visualize computers being able to help you smell, feel touch, read your mind? If you say yes, even if you are a non scientific person, write down what or how would you go about achieving this? Use layman’s language for your description.
  • If you have written down your list.. only then click on the link and see Mr.John Goddard’s list of 127 things he planned to do. http://www.johngoddard.info/life_list.htm Is your list as long? Do you have any item as challenging as some of those on his list? Do you think you need to visualize bigger, better, braver!

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